쉐도잉 연습: Let people be wrong about you - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기

Let people be wrong about you.

Let them.

Letting people be wrong about you without you feeling the need to explain yourself, to prove yourself is really one of the most freeing and healing things you can do for yourself.

Trust me.

And in this video I'm going to teach you how you can do it, how you can become that person who doesn't care what anyone else thinks of you

and who is okay with not being liked by everyone.

Because you know what?

You can't be liked by everyone.

Even the best person on this planet is the bad guy

in someone's story okay there's nothing you can do about it

and still you waste

so much of your precious time trying to prove yourself trying to prove to other people

that you are the good person so

if you want to stop wasting your precious time then keep on watching this video

and don't forget to subscribe to my channel

and i would say let's start with the first thing you

cannot control someone else's perception of you you need to understand

that people don't see you as you are people see you through their lens through their lens

that means they see you through their experiences through their triggers

and through their insecurities okay

and this is also why five different people can have five different versions of you in their head

and if you always try to make everyone like you

and to control everyone's perception of you that's it's going to

be a full -time job it's going to be a full -time job

and a full -time job that doesn't get you anywhere

because it's impossible it's impossible okay you really need to understand

that just because someone has an opinion of you it doesn't make it the truth someone might think

that you are selfish because you did something

and the person interpreted what you did as being selfish okay

does it make it true no it doesn't make it true this person has

that interpretation of you but that doesn't make it true

and you really need to let go of

that need to control everyone else's perception of you really this is such a waste of time

because your job in this life is not to make everyone

like you to make everyone understand you your job is to

be true to yourself your job is to be your authentic self

and not to change yourself just

so you can be liked by everyone the next thing is

not everyone wants to like you okay you really need to realize

that not everyone wants to like you

so first of all you can't control their perception

and second of all there will be people who simply don't

want to like you no matter what you do some people

already decided who you are they created a version of you in their head

and they refuse to see anything else they refuse to see anything else

because they don't want to they simply don't want to

and those are also the people who only wait for you

to make a mistake to say something dumb to say something hurtful

because everyone makes mistakes okay but some people are only waiting for you to make mistakes

so they can justify why they don't like you

so you really need to make peace with not being liked by everyone

and also with the fact

that not everyone wants to like you no matter how good

you are the next thing is you need to stop defending

yourself okay you don't always have to prove your point you don't always have to prove

that you're a good person and to explain

when you're like in a fight with someone

and explain to them why they are wrong why you are right why you are a good person

and why they are unfair to you you don't have to do

that you can choose your piece and just let it go

and move on okay i recently had a situation where i

had a relationship with a person a friendship not a relation not a romantic relationship

and this person had very strict expectations of where our relationship is supposed to go okay

and i'm a person i'm like a go with the flow

kind of person i don't have expectations of where where a

relationship should go i just go with the flow okay

and i am also a person i don't open up very fast

and if i don't feel comfortable around you i won't open up

and this person got so hurt by me

because i did not put the same effort in this friendship as she did even though i always told her

that i need my time and

that i can't force anything okay i always told her

that i never lied to her and still just

because she expected something else she got so mad at me

that she said things to me that are very hurtful they didn't hurt me

because i know who i am okay but she said

so many mean things to me just because i didn't fulfill her expectations okay

and in the past i was a person

that always felt the need to explain myself i couldn't live with the fact

that people thought that i was a bad person

because i i'm not okay i'm not a bad person i'm a very good person

and i always felt the need to prove that to everyone okay

and you know what never not once in my life where

i got into an argument trying to prove my point trying to prove

that my intentions were good not once in my life i could change the other person's mind okay

never when someone as i said when someone has a version of you in their head

they don't want to change it

and you can't do anything about it you proving yourself

and you explaining yourself the whole time won't get you anywhere

so you really need to start being okay with people seeing you through their own eyes

and not feeling the need to um defend yourself okay well i don't mean not feeling the need okay

because i also felt the need to defend myself

but i didn't do it okay you need to have a little self -control

and if you notice that a person doesn't want to understand you

that you just let it be okay you just let it be

so i really learned to just protect my peace

and to not go into an argument to an argument with

someone who already created their version of me in their head okay

and to do that to just let it go and not argue

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and not prove yourself you really need to develop a strong

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sense of self you need to develop you need to have such a strong sense of self

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that no matter what someone tells you you don't care you don't care okay

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because you know who you are

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when you know who you are other people's opinions lose power as i said this person said

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so many mean things to me you're this you're dead you're not honest you're bullshit whatever

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and it didn't get to me at all because i know

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that it's not true she can say about me whatever she

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wants it doesn't make it true it doesn't make it true

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okay your character is not defined by the opinions other people have of you okay

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and i don't mean don't ever listen to anyone

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and everyone always wants bad for you that's not what i'm

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saying you need to have some kind of self -reflection okay

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and you need to be able to think about what someone says

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when someone criticizes you in a good way you can think about it is

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that person right and then you can if you need and

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if you want to you can change it but

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if someone just throws things at you

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and wants to tell you who you are blah blah blah blah blah

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and you know

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that those things aren't true you don't have to make them your identity okay you need to be

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so confident and so sure about yourself

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that no matter what anyone else says it doesn't change anything

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and the same goes with compliments actually when you know who you are

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and when you're confident in yourself

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and someone makes you a compliment it's nice it's a nice to have

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but that compliment doesn't define you what you also need to understand is

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that when you grow when you become a new version of yourself

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when you outgrow your old self not everyone will like it okay that's very sad

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but not everyone will like the new version of you

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because they're not comfortable with you growing okay even

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if those are your friends some people are just not comfortable

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with you growing i know that's not easy to accept

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but it is the truth that's how life goes

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when you grow people might tell you you've changed

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so much you're not the same anymore you think you're better than us now

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and you know what this is the time you notice

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that you have outgrown someone and that and

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that this person is not meant to be in your life forever okay

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because people who are actually meant for you will support you with anything okay even

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if you change even if you're not the same anymore they know

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that this doesn't have to be a bad thing okay the right people know

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that you changing does not have to be a bad thing

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and then they don't feel threatened by you changing many people

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who say things like you're not the same anymore you think

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you're better than me now blah blah blah they feel threatened by you

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because you have become a new version you have become a better version of yourself

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and they are just staying the same they're not getting anywhere

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and this is why they feel threatened by you

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when someone tells me you have changed

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so much you're not the same anymore I see

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that as a compliment okay I say thank you thank you

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because I don't want to be the same I was five

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years ago five years ago I was 20 I'm 25 now

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I don't want to be the same person with 25 I

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was at 20 that's not what I want out of this life

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and if you feel threatened by me growing out and be

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and becoming a better version of myself then you're just not the right person for me

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and as I said I actually think this is a very sad thing

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because I want people I like to grow with me okay I want them to grow with me

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and that we grow together and even

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if a friend of mine grows in a different direction than me I support them I support them

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because I love them and I want them to be happy okay

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and I don't feel threatened by someone choosing a different life path than I have chosen okay

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so you need to understand even people

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that were in your life for a very long time and

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that you really like will not always want to see you grow

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but on the other hand there will be right people who

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are meant to be in your life who will support you with anything okay

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and this is the beautiful part about it you will lose people

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when you stop shrinking yourself just to be liked by everyone

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and when you finally grow but you will also get to know new people

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or you will realize who are the real people

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that are already in your life and realizing this is actually

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so beautiful because knowing that you have people in your life

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that support you no matter what you do and no matter in

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which direction you want to go and they don't judge you.

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Those are the people you should really spend your time with.

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You should really not spend your time trying to control people's perception of you, trying to be liked by everyone because what does it get you

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when you try to change yourself just to be liked by people who don't even want to like you?

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There's no benefit for you.

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It's such a waste of time.

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Instead, focus on the people who actually like you and who support you.

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So that's it for today's video.

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I really hope it was helpful and I would say I'll see you in my next one.

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일상에서 자주 겪는 "남의 시선에 휘둘리지 않는 자세"에 관한 주제로, 자연스러운 미국식 발음과 생활밀착형 표현이 풍부합니다. 특히 shadowspeak이나 영어 쉐도잉 연습에 적합한데, 이유는 화자가 느낌을 담아 말하는 템포와 억양이 실제 대화와 흡사하기 때문입니다. 자신의 생각을 확고히 하는 태도를 표현하는 구문을 배우면서, 동시에 "남의 인식을 통제할 수 없다"는 심리적인 메시지도 흡수할 수 있어 일석이조입니다.

문맥 속 문법과 표현

"Let people be wrong about you." - "Let + 명사 + 동사 원형" 구조는 "~하게 내버려 두다"는 의미로, 자주 사용되지만 정확히 활용하기 어려운 표현입니다. 이 문장에서 화자는 "남이 너에 대해 틀리게 생각하게 내버려 두어라"고 권고하며, 부드러운 명령형의 느낌을 줍니다.
"You can't be liked by everyone." - 수동태 구조로 "모두에게 좋아받을 수 없다"는 뜻입니다. 일상 회화에서 자신의 한계를 표현할 때 자주 쓰이며, "be + 과거분사" 형태가 중요합니다.
"They see you through their lens." - "through their lens"는 "그들의 시선을 통해"라는 비유적 표현입니다. 영어에서는 시각적인 비유를 자주 사용하므로, 이런 구문을 익히면 표현이 풍부해집니다.

발음의 함정 주의하기

이 비디오의 발음에서는 몇 가지 주의할 점이 있습니다. 먼저 "perception"은 [pərˈsepʃn]으로 발음되며, 중간의 "cep" 부분이 약하게 들릴 수 있어 주의해야 합니다. 둘째, "insecurities"는 [ˌɪnsɪˈkjʊrətiz]로, "sec" 부분이 [sɪk]가 아니라 [sɛk]로 발음되는 경우가 많으니 주의하세요. 마지막으로 "justify"는 [ˈdʒʌstɪfaɪ]로, "jus" 부분이 [dʒʌs]가 아닌 [dʒʌst]로 발음됩니다. shadow speak 연습을 할 때 이런 세부 사항을 주의하면 발음이 더 자연스러워질 것입니다.

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화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.

문형	영상 속 표현
수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점	being liked · can't be liked · can be liked
관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보	person who doesn · people who simply · people who only
현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때	you've changed · have become · have changed

쉐도잉이란? 영어 실력을 빠르게 키우는 과학적 방법

쉐도잉(Shadowing)은 원래 전문 통역사 훈련을 위해 개발된 언어 학습 기법으로, 다언어 학자인 Dr. Alexander Arguelles에 의해 대중화된 방법입니다. 핵심 원리는 간단하지만 매우 강력합니다: 원어민의 영어를 들으면서 1~2초의 짧은 지연으로 즉시 소리 내어 따라 말하는 것——마치 '그림자(shadow)'처럼 화자를 따라가는 것입니다. 문법 공부나 수동적인 청취와 달리, 쉐도잉은 뇌와 입 근육이 동시에 실시간으로 영어를 처리하고 재현하도록 훈련합니다. 연구에 따르면 이 방법은 발음 정확도, 억양, 리듬, 연음, 청취력, 말하기 유창성을 크게 향상시킵니다. IELTS 스피킹 준비와 자연스러운 영어 소통을 원하는 분들에게 특히 효과적입니다.

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