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you are going to take all of the energy you have been putting into other people

and put it back into yourself okay

because you are the most important project you will ever work

on okay you are the main character in your life

and you should act like you are the main character in your life

because if you always make everyone else a priority

and always focus on everyone else

but never focus on you on your life on your well -being you will never be happy

and you will see how much your life will start to change

when you finally stop focusing on everybody else and start focusing on yourself.

So hi guys, welcome back to my channel.

My name is Sladi and I am here to help you become the best version of yourself

and today we're going to talk about how you can finally start focusing on yourself.

So let's start with this video.

So first of all, you need to stop looking at everybody else and start focusing on yourself, okay?

Because when you always focus on everybody else, you won't even have time to focus on yourself.

When you're always watching others, what they are doing, how they look, how far they have come, what kind of vacations they go on, what kind of relationships they have,

there won't be any time left for you to focus on yourself because you are busy watching other people.

And the best way to stop constantly focusing on everybody else

and looking what everybody else is doing is to limit your social media consumption.

Limiting your social media consumption, in my opinion, is one of the most important things you can do

when you want to start focusing on yourself

because on social media you are you are exposed to

so many things to

so many information about other people the whole day our brains

are not made for this okay our brains are not made to see so many different people so many different lives

every single day and

when we spend our whole day on social media we don't

even have another choice than to look at other people's lives

and to look at what other people are doing

because this is the only thing we see the whole day okay

so please limit your social media consumption this will help you so much

when you want to start focusing on yourself also what's very

important is live your life for yourself oh my god please stop living a life

that is expected of you please stop doing things

that everyone else is doing just

because they are considered normal they're considered good stop it okay you can never have a happy life

and you will never be happy and fulfilled

if you don't build a life for yourself

that you actually enjoy it won't get you anywhere

when you only do the things that are accepted of you

and that are so normal in society because

when you feel empty inside what does it bring you

that your life looks good on the outside it doesn't get you anywhere

if you for example don't want to get married

but everyone else is getting married around you don't get married okay

if this is not something you want to do then don't do it don't just get married

because everyone else is getting married.

We get so pressured to do the things that everyone else is doing

and that look good on the outside that we forget to ask ourselves, is this actually making me happy?

You literally need to take all of your energy and build a life for yourself.

And I would recommend you to start with taking care of yourself.

Number one, take care of your body.

Your body is your temple, okay?

Your body is carrying you through your life.

So really you need to treat yourself well

and you need to treat your body well start doing things

that are good for your body start working out go to you don't even have to go to the gym

if you don't want to go to the gym try out pilates try out whatever find something

that you also enjoy but i have to say sometimes we can't only do things

that that we enjoy something sometimes we have to do things

that are good for us even if we don't enjoy them

but of course you can find a way to take care of your body

that you enjoy the most also start eating healthy eating healthy is

so important for you and you will feel so much better when you start eating healthy.

And again, you won't always feel like eating healthy.

And I don't say that you have to eat healthy 100 % of the time, but eating healthy is self -care and you deserve to take care of yourself even

if you don't always feel like it, okay?

Also, start working on your mind, start working on your mindset, start healing your trauma, start reading books,

start going to therapy, start doing things that really help you feel good, not only in your body but also in your mind, okay?

because a healthy body with a with an unhealthy mind won't

get you anywhere okay you really need to treat yourself like the most important project you will ever work on

because you are okay who in your life could be more important than yourself

when you don't have you when you don't have a healthy body

when you don't have a healthy mind what else is left

there for you nothing you are the person you will spend your whole life with

so dedicate your life to yourself to become the best version

of yourself to make yourself happy to make yourself feel good

and to make your life meaningful to you

and you won't have the time and you won't have the energy to do this

if you constantly focus on everybody else and also

if you always put other people first you need to become

a little more selfish okay being selfish is always considered a bad thing

but i don't understand this because how can it be a bad thing when you put yourself first Of course, you can't be selfish 100 % of the time in your life.

Sometimes you need to put other people first that you love.

That's normal.

I don't think that I even have to explain this.

But most of the time, you're doing yourself a favor if you put yourself first.

If you look at yourself first, if you ask yourself first, what do I want?

What do I need?

When you take care of your needs first and then take care of everybody else.

And the most important thing you need to learn

when you want to put yourself first is to say no.

to say no without feeling guilty i used to be someone

when someone asked me do you want to come do you

want to do this can you do this for me i always jumped even

if i had something to do for myself i didn't consider

doing something for myself as a good enough reason to say no to someone else

and because i always put everyone else first i was left there with nothing i was left there feeling empty

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because i never cared about myself but now

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when someone asked me to do something to go somewhere

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or whatever I listen to myself and

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if I don't want to go I'm not going to go

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and I'm not going to feel guilty I don't need a

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huge reason like I don't know my mother fell down the stairs

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or whatever if I don't want to go

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because I feel like staying at home today I am staying at home today

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and I'm not going to feel guilty about that

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and let me tell you only when I started to become more selfish

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and to care about myself first

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because before I care about anyone else I literally my life started changing

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and I became more happy because I did the things

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that are good for me

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and second of all surprisingly I was also more able to take care of the people I love

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because my cup was already filled by myself what's also very

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important is you need to learn to do things by yourself

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and to enjoy your own company this is so

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so important okay listen to me I want to grab you

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and to tell you how important it is

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because no matter what happens in your life okay you will always have yourself

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and you spend time with yourself 24 7

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so really think about how sad life is

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when you always need someone else to do things with so

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that you feel comfortable because you don't feel comfortable on your own

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and i know this is hard in my opinion this is especially hard for women

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because women are raised to always look for others to care for others men

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or boys are raised to focus on themselves to focus on what they like or to focus on their hobbies, to focus on their career.

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But girls are raised to focus on people around them, to care about people around them, to start a family, to get married, to have kids one day.

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This is what women are conditioned to do.

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Women are conditioned to build a life that always includes other people

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and that always evolves around other people but not about themselves.

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So I think especially for women it's very hard to learn to do things for themselves, to do things by themselves and to really

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and genuinely enjoy their own company

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but it's one of the most important things you can do

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because if you have yourself and if you can spend time with yourself

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and if you can do things alone you are unstoppable

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because then you are full on your own

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and you don't need anyone else and it's not only

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that you need to enjoy your own company it's very important

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that you learn to do things alone because

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if you can't do things alone you won't ever reach your goals okay

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because for example you want to go to the gym

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and you always need a friend to go to the gym with then your success depends on your friend

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and not on you because if your friend can't go then you also won't go

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so if you can't do things alone your success always depends on other people

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but the only person you should depend on is yourself

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and this actually brings me to the next point

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and the next point is you need to take responsibility for your own life

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because no one will come and save you okay

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if you are unhappy with something you are the only person

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that can change it because your life is your responsibility

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and your responsibility only and i know

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that life is unfair okay life is unfair i know that

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and maybe other people are more privileged than you

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but you need to understand that you are also more privileged than other people

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so it doesn't get you anywhere to sit there

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and to be sad about what happened in your past

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and to blame other people who treated you wrong

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and who made you become the person you are today of

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course it's not always your fault what happened to you

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but it's your responsibility for what you do with it from

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now on you can't control what other people do to you

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but you can't control what you do with it so

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if you always blame others like your parents your ex -boyfriend

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your girlfriends who did you wrong you are literally giving them all of the power over your life

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and over yourself okay because when you just sit there

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and say they did me wrong they did me wrong they did me wrong and

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because of them i am the person i am today you

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don't change anything okay you don't change anything with blaming them

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you can spend your whole life actually blaming other people but

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when you don't take responsibility nothing will change

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and those people who did you wrong will have all the power over your life

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And I don't want to say that you can never be sad.

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I don't want to say that unfair things don't happen to you.

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I'm very sure unfair things happen to you.

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Unfair things have also happened to me.

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My whole childhood was unfair.

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I literally used to always ask myself, how can a person be so unlucky, okay?

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I always felt like I'm so unlucky and I was.

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I didn't grow up privileged, okay?

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I had so many problems I had to resolve myself

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and many people around me were more privileged than me

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but at one point i understood

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that i am also more privileged than many other people it

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depends on who you compare yourself with no matter what happened

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to me no matter how unfair my life was the only person who could change it

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and who could make me happy is myself

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so instead of always asking why me start asking yourself what

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can i do now no matter what happened to me what can i do now.

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This is the mindset what you need when you really want to focus on yourself and to get far in life.

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No one on this planet is successful and is genuinely happy because they blame other people.

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They are happy because they take responsibility over their own life no matter what happens.

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And the last thing I want to say in this video what's very important

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when you want to really start to focus on yourself is you need to stop wasting your energy.

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You know sometimes people misunderstand us and we

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so badly want to correct them and want to prove

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that we are good people and that we didn't mean it that way and that we want to make them like us.

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But you need to realize that some things are simply not worth your time and not worth your energy.

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The energy you would put into other people to prove them wrong

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and to prove that you are a good person or whatever, you could take all of that energy and just pour it into yourself

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and do things that are actually good for you and do things

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that actually get you somewhere

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because at the end of the day it won't get you

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anywhere people are people people think what they want to think people do what they want to do

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and if they don't want to like you they won't like you

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if they want to misunderstand you they will misunderstand you the only thing

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that will really be beneficial to you and

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that will get you somewhere is when you take all of your energy is

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when you take all of your time and put it back into yourself

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so yeah guys that's it for today's video i really hope it was helpful

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and i would say i'll see you in my next one

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이 말하기 레슨은 영상 “How to become obsessed with your own life”을(를) 바탕으로 합니다. 이 영상에는 섀도잉할 문장 211개와 단어 2557개가 있습니다. 말하는 구간의 길이는 12:21입니다. 화자는 분당 약 207단어로 빠르게 말하므로 연음과 약하게 발음되는 소리가 많습니다. 단어의 94%가 영어에서 가장 많이 쓰이는 3,000단어에 속해 어휘가 쉬운 편입니다.

이 영상의 핵심 어휘

영상에 나오는 익혀 둘 만한 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.

단어	발음	뜻
unfair 형용사	/ʌnˈfɛɚ/	불공평하다
privilege 명사	/ˈpɹɪv.(ɪ.)lɪd͡ʒ/	특권
depend 동사	/dɪˈpɛnd/	의존하다, ...에 달려 있다
selfish 형용사	/ˈsɛlf.ɪʃ/	이기적(利己的)이다, 자기 본위(自己本位)의
consumption 명사	/kənˈsʌmp.ʃən/	소비
compare 동사	/kəmˈpɛɚ/	비교하다, 비유하다
temple 명사	/ˈtɛm.pl̩/	절, 사찰
badly 부사	/ˈbæd.li/	나쁘게, 서투르게
priority 명사	/pɹaɪˈɒɹɪti/	우선, 우선권
vacation 명사	/veɪˈkeɪ.ʃən/	휴가
resolve 동사	/ɹɪˈzɑlv/	해결하다
meaningful 형용사	/ˈmiː.nɪŋ.fl̩/	유의미(有意味)하다
stairs 명사	/ˈstɛɹz/	계단
trauma 명사	/ˈtɹɔm.ə/	외상, 손상
heal 동사	/ˈhiːl/	치료하다, 고치다

영상에 나오는 구동사

단어	발음	뜻
fall down 동사	/fɔl ˈdaʊn/	떨어지다

따라 말해 볼 만한 문장

영상에 나오는 짧고 완결된 문장으로, 일상 대화에서 그대로 쓸 수 있습니다:

What do I need?
I'm very sure unfair things happen to you.
I didn't grow up privileged, okay?

이 영상의 문법

화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.

문형	영상 속 표현
“used to” used to + 동사 — 지금은 아닌 과거의 습관이나 상태	used to be · used to always ask
수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점	are exposed · are not made · is expected
관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보	people who treated · people who did · person who could
현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때	have come · have also happened

주의할 발음

화자는 don't, won't, can't 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 62번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.

“sh”와 “zh” 소리: selfish /ˈsɛlf.ɪʃ/, consumption /kənˈsʌmp.ʃən/, vacation /veɪˈkeɪ.ʃən/, beneficial /ˌbɛn.ɪˈfɪʃ.əl/
긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, priority /pɹaɪˈɒɹɪti/, surprisingly /səˈpɹaɪzɪŋli/, beneficial /ˌbɛn.ɪˈfɪʃ.əl/, misunderstand /mɪs.ʌn.də(ɹ)ˈstænd/

한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:

/f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: unfair /ʌnˈfɛɚ/, selfish /ˈsɛlf.ɪʃ/, helpful /ˈhɛlp.fl̩/, meaningful /ˈmiː.nɪŋ.fl̩/, beneficial /ˌbɛn.ɪˈfɪʃ.əl/
/v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: privilege /ˈpɹɪv.(ɪ.)lɪd͡ʒ/, vacation /veɪˈkeɪ.ʃən/, resolve /ɹɪˈzɑlv/, evolve /ɪˈvɑlv/
/z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: resolve /ɹɪˈzɑlv/, stairs /ˈstɛɹz/, surprisingly /səˈpɹaɪzɪŋli/, expose /ɪkˈspoʊz/

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자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, unfair, privilege, depend 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.

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