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It comes out of nowhere.
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You're on the bus and a completely random, uninvited sexual thought about the stranger sitting across from you pops up in your head.
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Or you're talking to your friend's parent and your brain suddenly decides to play a porno scene in your head.
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And in that moment, you are frozen with absolute terror.
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You think, what is wrong with me?
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I'm a monster.
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If this is you, listen carefully.
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What you're experiencing is not a reflection of your character.
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It's your brain being a weirdo.
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And it's surprisingly common.
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The most important thing to understand is this: Your brain is not a pristine temple of purity.
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It's more like a weird chaotic garage band
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that sometimes starts playing a heavy metal song in the middle of a classical concert.
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Thoughts are just thoughts.
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They're not desires.
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They're not intentions.
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They are not a secret window into your soul.
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The problem isn't really the thought itself.
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The problem is the panic attack you have in response to it.
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So what is happening?
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This is often the hallmark of a condition called obsessive compulsive disorder, or OCD, specifically a subtype called pure O.
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The intrusive thought is the obsession.
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It's your brain's faulty alarm system misfiring.
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But then the compulsion is the mental ritual you perform to neutralize the fear.
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You replay the thought trying to prove to yourself that you don't like it.
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You avoid the person or situation.
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You essentially fall into the "oh crap" trap.
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You're trying to put out a fire that doesn't exist by panicking and throwing gasoline on it.
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So why does your brain suddenly turn into a 13 -year -old boy who just discovered the Internet?
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It's usually because your brain's volume dial is cranked to 11.
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Maybe you're stressed about an exam.
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Maybe your hormones are going wild.
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Maybe it's that time of the month.
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Maybe you've been doing no fat for 30 days and your brain is basically screaming for any kind of release.
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Or maybe you just had a recent encounter that left you feeling a little turned on.
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And your brain doesn't know what to do with the leftover energy.
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Suddenly, everything in the world becomes intensely stronger and stranger.
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The world isn't more sexual, your brain's filter is just a little broken.
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Oh, do you beat them?
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You don't beat them by fighting it.
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You beat them by getting bored of them.
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This is the core of exposure and response prevention, ERP, the gold standard treatment for OCD.
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Step 1.
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Label it like it's a weird bug.
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The moment the thought appears, say to yourself, "Ah, there's that old intrusive thought again.
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Classic." Don't debate it, don't analyze it, don't ask why.
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By giving it a silly, boring label, you take away its power.
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It's the difference between seeing a monster and seeing a weird -looking squirrel.
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Step 2.
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Expect it.
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Don't be surprised when it shows up.
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In fact, invite it to the party.
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Say, "Oh good, you're here.
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I was wondering when my brain was going to get weird again." When you expect the thought, you take away its power to shock you.
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It's like knowing the jump scare is coming in a horror movie.
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You still flinch, but you don't scream and run out of the theater.
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Step 3.
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Sit with the anxiety.
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This is the hardest but most crucial step.
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The thought will bring a wave of anxiety or disgust.
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Your job is to let that feeling be there without doing anything about it.
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Don't reassure yourself.
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Don't pray it away.
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Just breathe and tell yourself, This feels awful but it's just a feeling.
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and it will pass.
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The anxiety is kind of like a wave.
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If you fight it, it gets bigger.
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If you let it wash over you, it will eventually recede on its own.
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But what if you try all that?
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and you feel like you're losing.
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What if resisting feels like you're Nezuko from Demon Slayer, desperately fighting her demon instincts to not go berserk?
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Even Nezuko, with her incredible determination, had moments where she almost lost control.
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Sometimes your body's hormonal drive is just too strong to fight with your mind alone.
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And that's okay.
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It's not a failure.
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It is a signal that you need a different strategy, though.
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If you feel like you can't control it any longer and the thoughts are driving you insane, maybe it's time to go for that run.
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Since this is often a hormonal issue anyway, physical exercise can do wonders to bypass that tension.
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Go for a sprint, lift weights, do push -ups until you can't anymore.
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you're redirecting that intense chaotic energy into something physical and productive It's a healthy way to tell your body,
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"Hey, we're doing this instead." And this might be controversial, but we need to talk about it.
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Sometimes, a healthy, consensual release is the most practical solution.
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Also, have you thought about journaling about it?
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It really helps.
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It helps you know what's going on and stops you from feeling like you did something gross.
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You're not writing down the pornographic details, you're writing down your experience.
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Today was hard.
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The thoughts were strong.
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I felt anxious.
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but I recognized them for what they were, and I handled it.
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I'm not alone in this.
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It's a way of reminding yourself that you're a good person having a very difficult experience.
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and that you're doing your best.
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Beating sexually intrusive thoughts is about having a toolkit.
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Sometimes you use the ERP strategy.
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Sometimes you need to go for a run.
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And sometimes you just need a healthy release.
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You are not your thought.
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You are the one who hears them.
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And you are the one who gets to decide what to believe.
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And you choose to believe the truth.
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that you are a normal person whose brain is just being a little too creative sometimes, and that you, just like Nezuko, have the strength to resist.
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If you're struggling with this, please know that specialized help is available.
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Look for a therapist who specializes in OCD and ERP.
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Of course, we know how tough this is, and it's easier said than done.
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So if you're interested in a guided meditation for moments where your thoughts are going in the wrong places, Let us know so we can add it to our guided meditation playlist series.
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We'll see you in the next one.
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Until then, take care.
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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les
Deze spreekles op niveau B2 is gebaseerd op de video “How to Beat Sexually Intrusive Thoughts”. Deze woorden komen het vaakst terug: brain, weird, step, feeling, moment. Deze video bevat 108 zinnen en 1078 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 6:13. De spreker praat in een natuurlijk tempo van ongeveer 173 woorden per minuut, dicht bij een alledaags gesprek. 82% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden; de rest kun je beter vooraf bekijken.
Belangrijke woorden in deze video
De 15 moeilijkste woorden uit de video, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| intrusive bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ɪnˈtɹuːsɪv/ | intrusief |
| hormonal bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /hɔɹˈmoʊnəl/ | hormonaal |
| chaotic bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /keɪˈɑtɪk/ | chaotisch |
| bore werkwoord | /boɹ/ | vervelen |
| meditation zelfstandig naamwoord | /mɛdɪˈteɪʃn̩/ | meditatie, overpeinzing |
| demon zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈdiː.mən/ | demon, demoon |
| scream werkwoord | /skɹiːm/ | schreeuwen |
| resist werkwoord | /ɹɪˈzɪst/ | weerstaan, zich verzetten |
| berserk bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈbɚˌsɚk/ | doorgedraaid, geflipt |
| compulsion zelfstandig naamwoord | /kəmˈpʌlʃən/ | dwang, drang |
| compulsive bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /kəmˈpʌlsɪv/ | dwangmatig |
| consensual bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /kənˈsɛnʃuəl/ | consensueel, afgesproken |
| flinch werkwoord | /ˈflɪnt͡ʃ/ | terugdeinzen |
| hallmark zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈhɔlmɑɹk/ | kenmerk, kenteken |
| leftover bijvoeglijk naamwoord | restant, kliekje |
Phrasal verbs die je zult horen
| Woord | Betekenis |
|---|---|
| write down werkwoord | opschrijven, neerschrijven |
| put out werkwoord | buitenzetten, uitwerpen |
| show up werkwoord | tentoonstellen |
Zinnen om te herhalen
Korte, volledige zinnen uit de video die je in alledaagse gesprekken kunt gebruiken:
- You think, what is wrong with me?
- It's your brain being a weirdo.
- It's your brain's faulty alarm system misfiring.
- Maybe you're stressed about an exam.
- Also, have you thought about journaling about it?
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet | are frozen · is cranked |
| Betrekkelijke bijzinnen who / which + zin — extra informatie over een persoon of ding | one who hears · one who gets |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 37 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals you're, don't, can't. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: specialize /ˈspɛʃəˌlaɪz/, meditation /mɛdɪˈteɪʃn̩/, compulsion /kəmˈpʌlʃən/, consensual /kənˈsɛnʃuəl/, reassure /ˌɹi.əˈʃʊɹ/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: desperately /ˈdɛs.p(ə.)ɹət.li/, surprisingly /səˈpɹaɪzɪŋli/, determination /dɪˌtɜːmɪˈneɪʃən/
Klanken die Nederlandstaligen lastig vinden:
- Stemhebbende eindmedeklinker — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ niet verscherpen: intrusive /ɪnˈtɹuːsɪv/, specialize /ˈspɛʃəˌlaɪz/, compulsive /kəmˈpʌlsɪv/, neutralize /ˈnutɹəˌlaɪz/, obsessive /əbˈsɛs.ɪv/
- /æ/ — opener dan de Nederlandse “e”: crank /ˈkɹæŋk/, bypass /ˈbaɪpæs/, analyze /ˈæn.əˌlaɪz/, gasoline /ˈɡæs.ə.liːn/, anxious /ˈæŋkʃəs/
- /g/ — een harde plofklank, geen Nederlandse “g”: disgust /dɪsˈɡʌst/, gasoline /ˈɡæs.ə.liːn/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als intrusive, hormonal, chaotic.
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