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It comes out of nowhere.
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You're on the bus and a completely random, uninvited sexual thought about the stranger sitting across from you pops up in your head.
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Or you're talking to your friend's parent and your brain suddenly decides to play a porno scene in your head.
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And in that moment, you are frozen with absolute terror.
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You think, what is wrong with me?
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I'm a monster.
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If this is you, listen carefully.
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What you're experiencing is not a reflection of your character.
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It's your brain being a weirdo.
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And it's surprisingly common.
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The most important thing to understand is this: Your brain is not a pristine temple of purity.
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It's more like a weird chaotic garage band
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that sometimes starts playing a heavy metal song in the middle of a classical concert.
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Thoughts are just thoughts.
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They're not desires.
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They're not intentions.
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They are not a secret window into your soul.
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The problem isn't really the thought itself.
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The problem is the panic attack you have in response to it.
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So what is happening?
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This is often the hallmark of a condition called obsessive compulsive disorder, or OCD, specifically a subtype called pure O.
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The intrusive thought is the obsession.
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It's your brain's faulty alarm system misfiring.
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But then the compulsion is the mental ritual you perform to neutralize the fear.
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You replay the thought trying to prove to yourself that you don't like it.
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You avoid the person or situation.
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You essentially fall into the "oh crap" trap.
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You're trying to put out a fire that doesn't exist by panicking and throwing gasoline on it.
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So why does your brain suddenly turn into a 13 -year -old boy who just discovered the Internet?
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It's usually because your brain's volume dial is cranked to 11.
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Maybe you're stressed about an exam.
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Maybe your hormones are going wild.
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Maybe it's that time of the month.
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Maybe you've been doing no fat for 30 days and your brain is basically screaming for any kind of release.
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Or maybe you just had a recent encounter that left you feeling a little turned on.
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And your brain doesn't know what to do with the leftover energy.
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Suddenly, everything in the world becomes intensely stronger and stranger.
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The world isn't more sexual, your brain's filter is just a little broken.
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Oh, do you beat them?
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You don't beat them by fighting it.
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You beat them by getting bored of them.
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This is the core of exposure and response prevention, ERP, the gold standard treatment for OCD.
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Step 1.
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Label it like it's a weird bug.
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The moment the thought appears, say to yourself, "Ah, there's that old intrusive thought again.
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Classic." Don't debate it, don't analyze it, don't ask why.
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By giving it a silly, boring label, you take away its power.
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It's the difference between seeing a monster and seeing a weird -looking squirrel.
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Step 2.
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Expect it.
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Don't be surprised when it shows up.
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In fact, invite it to the party.
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Say, "Oh good, you're here.
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I was wondering when my brain was going to get weird again." When you expect the thought, you take away its power to shock you.
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It's like knowing the jump scare is coming in a horror movie.
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You still flinch, but you don't scream and run out of the theater.
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Step 3.
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Sit with the anxiety.
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This is the hardest but most crucial step.
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The thought will bring a wave of anxiety or disgust.
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Your job is to let that feeling be there without doing anything about it.
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Don't reassure yourself.
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Don't pray it away.
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Just breathe and tell yourself, This feels awful but it's just a feeling.
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and it will pass.
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The anxiety is kind of like a wave.
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If you fight it, it gets bigger.
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If you let it wash over you, it will eventually recede on its own.
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But what if you try all that?
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and you feel like you're losing.
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What if resisting feels like you're Nezuko from Demon Slayer, desperately fighting her demon instincts to not go berserk?
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Even Nezuko, with her incredible determination, had moments where she almost lost control.
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Sometimes your body's hormonal drive is just too strong to fight with your mind alone.
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And that's okay.
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It's not a failure.
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It is a signal that you need a different strategy, though.
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If you feel like you can't control it any longer and the thoughts are driving you insane, maybe it's time to go for that run.
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Since this is often a hormonal issue anyway, physical exercise can do wonders to bypass that tension.
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Go for a sprint, lift weights, do push -ups until you can't anymore.
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you're redirecting that intense chaotic energy into something physical and productive It's a healthy way to tell your body,
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"Hey, we're doing this instead." And this might be controversial, but we need to talk about it.
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Sometimes, a healthy, consensual release is the most practical solution.
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Also, have you thought about journaling about it?
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It really helps.
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It helps you know what's going on and stops you from feeling like you did something gross.
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You're not writing down the pornographic details, you're writing down your experience.
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Today was hard.
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The thoughts were strong.
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I felt anxious.
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but I recognized them for what they were, and I handled it.
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I'm not alone in this.
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It's a way of reminding yourself that you're a good person having a very difficult experience.
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and that you're doing your best.
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Beating sexually intrusive thoughts is about having a toolkit.
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Sometimes you use the ERP strategy.
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Sometimes you need to go for a run.
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And sometimes you just need a healthy release.
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You are not your thought.
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You are the one who hears them.
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And you are the one who gets to decide what to believe.
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And you choose to believe the truth.
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that you are a normal person whose brain is just being a little too creative sometimes, and that you, just like Nezuko, have the strength to resist.
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If you're struggling with this, please know that specialized help is available.
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Look for a therapist who specializes in OCD and ERP.
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Of course, we know how tough this is, and it's easier said than done.
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So if you're interested in a guided meditation for moments where your thoughts are going in the wrong places, Let us know so we can add it to our guided meditation playlist series.
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We'll see you in the next one.
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Until then, take care.
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אוצר מילים והערות הגייה לשיעור הזה
שיעור הדיבור הזה ברמה B2 מבוסס על הסרטון “How to Beat Sexually Intrusive Thoughts”. המילים שחוזרות הכי הרבה: brain, weird, step, feeling, moment. בסרטון הזה יש 108 משפטים ו-1078 מילים לתרגול Shadowing. הדיבור נמשך 6:13. הדובר מדבר בקצב טבעי של כ-173 מילים בדקה, קרוב לשיחה יומיומית. 82% מהמילים נמצאות בין 3,000 המילים הנפוצות ביותר באנגלית; כדאי ללמוד את השאר לפני שמתחילים.
אוצר מילים מרכזי בסרטון הזה
15 המילים המתקדמות ביותר בסרטון, עם ההגייה והמשמעות שלהן:
| מילה | הגייה | משמעות |
|---|---|---|
| intrusive שם תואר | /ɪnˈtɹuːsɪv/ | התערב |
| chaotic שם תואר | /keɪˈɑtɪk/ | כָּאוֹטִי |
| bore פועל | /boɹ/ | שִׁעֲמֵם |
| demon שם עצם | /ˈdiː.mən/ | שֵׁד |
| scream פועל | /skɹiːm/ | צרח |
| resist פועל | /ɹɪˈzɪst/ | התנגד, עמד ב־ |
| compulsion שם עצם | /kəmˈpʌlʃən/ | כְּפִיָּה, אֹנֶס |
| neutralize פועל | /ˈnutɹəˌlaɪz/ | לְנַטְרֵל |
| playlist שם עצם | /ˈpleɪˌlɪst/ | רְשִׁימַת הַשְׁמָעָה |
| disgust שם עצם | /dɪsˈɡʌst/ | גועל |
| squirrel שם עצם | /ˈskwɪ.ɹ(ə)l/ | סנאי |
| purity שם עצם | /ˈpjʊɹɪti/ | טוהרה, טוהר |
| hormone שם עצם | /ˈhoɹmoʊn/ | הורמון |
| gasoline שם עצם | /ˈɡæs.ə.liːn/ | בֶּנזִין |
| instinct שם עצם | /ˈɪn.stɪŋkt/ | אִינְסְטִינְקְט, יֵצֶר |
Phrasal verbs שתשמעו
| מילה | משמעות |
|---|---|
| write down פועל | רָשַׁם |
משפטים שכדאי לחזור עליהם
משפטים קצרים ושלמים מהסרטון שאפשר להשתמש בהם בשיחה יומיומית:
- You think, what is wrong with me?
- It's your brain being a weirdo.
- It's your brain's faulty alarm system misfiring.
- Maybe you're stressed about an exam.
- Also, have you thought about journaling about it?
דקדוק בסרטון הזה
המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:
| מבנה | בסרטון |
|---|---|
| סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה | are frozen · is cranked |
| משפטי זיקה (Relative clauses) who / which + clause — מידע נוסף על אדם או דבר | one who hears · one who gets |
הגייה ששווה לשים לב אליה
הדובר משתמש ב-37 קיצורים וצורות מקוצרות, כמו you're, don't, can't. אמרו אותם בצורה הקצרה, כפי שאתם שומעים אותם.
- הצלילים של “sh” ו-“zh”: specialize /ˈspɛʃəˌlaɪz/, meditation /mɛdɪˈteɪʃn̩/, compulsion /kəmˈpʌlʃən/, consensual /kənˈsɛnʃuəl/, reassure /ˌɹi.əˈʃʊɹ/
- מילים ארוכות — שימו לב להטעמה: desperately /ˈdɛs.p(ə.)ɹət.li/, surprisingly /səˈpɹaɪzɪŋli/, determination /dɪˌtɜːmɪˈneɪʃən/
צלילים שדוברי עברית מתקשים בהם:
- /æ/ — פתוח יותר מה-“אֶ” העברית, לא כמו “a” ב-“cup”: crank /ˈkɹæŋk/, bypass /ˈbaɪpæs/, analyze /ˈæn.əˌlaɪz/, gasoline /ˈɡæs.ə.liːn/, anxious /ˈæŋkʃəs/
- /r/ — הלשון לא נוגעת בשום מקום, לא ה-“ר” הגרונית: intrusive /ɪnˈtɹuːsɪv/, hormonal /hɔɹˈmoʊnəl/, bore /boɹ/, scream /skɹiːm/, resist /ɹɪˈzɪst/
- עיצור קולי בסוף מילה — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ בלי להפוך אותם לאטומים: intrusive /ɪnˈtɹuːsɪv/, specialize /ˈspɛʃəˌlaɪz/, compulsive /kəmˈpʌlsɪv/, neutralize /ˈnutɹəˌlaɪz/, obsessive /əbˈsɛs.ɪv/
איך לתרגל עם הסרטון הזה
- הקשיבו לכל הסרטון פעם אחת בלי לדבר, ורשמו את המילים שאתם לא מכירים.
- התחילו במהירות 0.75×, תרגלו Shadowing משפט אחר משפט, וחזרו למהירות רגילה כשזה מרגיש קל.
- הקליטו את עצמכם והשוו למקור, תוך תשומת לב למילים כמו intrusive, chaotic, bore.
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