Shadowing Practice: Enough Talking. Start Becoming Someone - Learn English Speaking with Video
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But given what women want out of a relationship.
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Women don't know what they want.
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Ah, here we go.
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They don't.
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Women want things that they, women think they want things and then they get them and they leave the dude.
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Women, women don't have a clue what they want.
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I want a guy who's sweet and sensitive and takes care of my needs and thinks about me, blah, blah, blah.
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They're all out there.
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None of you are with them.
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Why?
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Because women don't want that.
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Women don't actually want that.
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Women want to be with a man they respect.
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Women are only going to enjoy the time with and end up feeling in love with a man they genuinely respect.
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And unfortunately, to be respected, some of the qualities are detrimental to the overall relationships, let's say happiness.
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I know loads of women who are with a dude they hate, but they respect him.
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Like, he makes me so mad, but he is the G.
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And they stay with him, as opposed to the woman who's like, well, he's so nice to me, but you know, and leaves.
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So women need to respect you as a man.
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How's a woman going to respect you as a man if no other girl wants you?
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How's a woman going to respect you as a man if you're putting her above all your boys?
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How's a woman going to respect you as a man if you're not here in the streets making money?
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How is a woman going to respect you as a man if you don't respect yourself or other men don't respect you?
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Respect is linked to fear.
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How is a woman going to respect you as a man if people don't fear you?
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What do you say if a guy was working a nine to five, married two women, had a couple of kids
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Going his two free holidays a year and he said to you he was happy?
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I'd say congratulations.
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I would genuinely say congratulations if you're happy with that And I know that's like a pretty normal setup.
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If you're happy with that, absolutely congratulations And I don't look down on you that's that's perfectly fine, but some men are just not born that way
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Some men are born with something else inside of them with a fire inside of them
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Which cannot be extinguished by beans on toast TV at night
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nine to five sitting around with your wife a couple blowjobs a month
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Most some men are not some men are not satisfied with that.
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I know me as an individual I could not be satisfied with
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that that doesn't mean I look down on the people who are absolutely congratulations But my time on the planet, I guarantee, will be more eventful.
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You need to find people who do not listen to your excuses.
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Like if I ever tried to say an excuse to my dad or anyone, just look at me like, so?
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You know, like that doesn't matter.
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Even when I was fighting, if I was fighting, I had a really bad ankle, I fucked my ankle up, and I couldn't run properly.
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I said to Amir, my coach, I said, I can't run properly my ankle.
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He goes, okay, let's just call your opponent and tell him that, you know, you have an excuse.
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So he has to go easy on you.
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Because he isn't going to.
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He isn't going to give a shit about all your excuses.
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If I get in the ring with him and he aims to kill me or hurt me as bad as he can, he's not going to pull a punch or think I better not hurt him because he couldn't train for me.
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He doesn't care.
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And life is the same.
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All your excuses do not change life hitting you as hard as it can hit you.
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Your excuses carry zero weight.
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And these people who are excuse makers, they have these support networks of people around them who listen to their excuses.
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Oh, I can't do this.
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Why?
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Because of that's why I said, yeah, it's true.
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You need someone to say no. You can do it.
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You just don't want it enough.
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That's the absolute truth.
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Excuse makers have become in the habit of using excuses because of people who will listen.
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And I've never had anyone who listened to my excuses.
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My words are absolutely sacred, especially to myself.
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And that's why I'm very careful with what I say because like I said, if I threaten someone, even if I don't want to do it anymore, I have to do it.
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I'm out of myself.
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I won't betray myself and that allows you to start thinking a lot more carefully about what you say Yes, you know Every moment you say you get a lot more direction
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and clarification on which direction your life is going and it's just fulfilling your own word Man, I said I was gonna be world champion over and over
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and over again I was nervous to lose not so nervous to get knocked out.
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I was nervous.
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I looked like a liar I told them what I was gonna win.
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Oh shit.
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Yeah That's how I was.
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I was like, no, I'm gonna do this.
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I'm gonna have this.
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When I picked but I picked up my Lambo The best feeling about picking up is I told everyone for years
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Lambo's my car.
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I'm gonna push a Lambo when I guarantee you I'm gonna find a way to push them
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But this is the reality of life as a man is
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that you have to build your value the people say to me all the time Oh, yeah, I'd take you get girls.
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I said I got girls because I became a kickboxing world champion That's thousands of hours in the gym.
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I wasn't born with some magic.
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I'm not Ron Jeremy, I wasn't born with some tool.
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You know, it's like, I had to do it myself.
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So you have to build it as a man.
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This is just the unfortunate reality.
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If you're not prepared to do any work at all, you're gonna suffer.
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When you speak of control, one of the very few things you have control over in this world, because we can't control very much.
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Like even, we can do our best to maintain healthy, but you can still be unlucky and have a brain hemorrhage.
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You can still get hit by a car.
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You can't even control your personal safety.
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You can't control the weather.
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You can't control if your company you work for is going to shut down.
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You can't control if the government's going to change.
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One of the only things you actually have control over is your state of mind.
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That's one of the few things you can affect directly in real time.
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You can wake up pissed off and sad, and you can brush your teeth, and you can make a coffee and go, you know what?
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Fuck it.
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I'm not sad.
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I'm the fucking man.
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And you can bang.
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You can do that.
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And people go, no, you can't.
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I say, yes, you can.
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That's one of the only things in the world you have control over.
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You don't have control over anything else.
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And that's where life starts from.
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It starts from in your head.
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Every movement you do with your body starts in your head.
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The weights we lift starts here.
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We get up and we prepare ourselves to do it.
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It all starts in your mind.
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That's the only thing you actually have control over.
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And if you refuse to control that, If you refuse control the only thing you can control and then you want to complain that life's kicking your ass
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I'm sitting here thinking well, what the fuck did you think was gonna happen?
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My life was built off the back of anger.
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I was too angry to sleep that I was broke That's how I got rich.
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I was too angry to sleep at the thought of losing.
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That's why I trained I was completely built on anger and I channeled it all in the right direction.
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I have no criminal record So, I'm never gonna tell anyone not to be angry.
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I'm gonna say make sure you put it into something worthwhile.
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If you're genuinely pissed off, and I mean genuinely, think how much energy that is.
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That's a little ball of force.
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You're pissed off, that's it, fuck it, that's it, I'm doing this today.
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I'm fucking, I'm finding a way to get this done today.
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That's good.
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What a lot of people do is they pretend they're angry, but they're not.
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Oh, I'm angry, but really I'm just miserable, I feel sorry for this.
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Now that is negative, that's never gonna help.
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But if you're genuinely angry, then you have unlimited motivation.
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So I don't ever try and stop myself being angry.
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I just make sure I have something to put into.
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Fantastic, good, be angry, good.
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Absolutely, but you need to have an outlet in your life that's gonna benefit your life.
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It doesn't matter what it is.
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Go do push-ups.
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I'm so angry, uh, if you're so angry, you wanna talk how angry you are like a tough guy, show me a thousand push-ups.
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Come on, you're so angry, move them arms.
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You're so angry, use your force.
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Oh, what, you're tired now.
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Oh, you're not angry anymore.
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Shut the fuck up.
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When I was broke, all I thought about was money.
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If I was in a coffee shop, I was sitting in a coffee shop with my coffee, and I was looking around at all the other people in the coffee shop.
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How many people are in here?
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Who bought cake?
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What's the average spent?
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How much is the rent here?
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How much is that member of staff?
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Do they sell sandwiches?
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No, they don't sell sandwiches.
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Why not?
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Oh, most of the people in here are men, businessmen.
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Why is the waitress not attractive?
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The waitress is a fat bitch.
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Why is that?
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Hmm, if I was next door, would I make more money if I did this, this, and this?
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How much would it cost to do that?
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That was how my brain was.
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All I talked and thought about was money.
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The only people I hung around with talked about money.
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When I sit down with my friends, they'd be like, how are you making money today?
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Well, I'm selling drugs.
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How are you making money today?
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I'm selling black and old dudes.
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How are you making money today?
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Well, I'm going to go rob them, motherfucker.
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I do the worst people in the world.
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But all they did was talk about money.
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So I didn't sit around and talk about anything else.
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I didn't think about anything else.
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I went to the gym.
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They're better than me.
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They beat me.
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I can't go.
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Poor me poor me and that I never I've never had that mindset I've never had the poor me mindset
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not a poor me guy
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so it's always like okay they beat me well I'm gonna
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I'm gonna change some things I'm gonna go beat them especially men
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if you have this paradigm in your mind
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that you should just be happy by default without trying without
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working without any kind of struggle without any negatives in your life
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and you're just gonna be a happy person
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and you're always just gonna be laughing
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and giggling in the top one percent that's asinine it's not real it's just it's a stupid mentality to have.
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I don't care how happy you are.
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You have work to do.
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If any man comes to me and he's looking for guidance, I say, I don't really care how happy you are because you're fat.
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You got work to do.
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Come talk to me when you have a six pack.
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Otherwise, I don't care.
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You have too much to get done to be talking about happiness.
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I get a lot of people messaging me and they're very like, look, I'm very depressed, but I've been watching your videos and I want to kind of think like you.
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I want to be happier, etc. I made this big mistake two years ago and I lost my wife, whatever, whatever.
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And I try and explain to them that if you did what you believed was best at the time, hindsight's a bitch, right?
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If you did what you believed was best at the time, then what are you mad for?
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Every mistake I made in my life at the time, I thought I was doing the right thing.
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So I'm not going to be mad.
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It passed me.
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And every single bad thing that's happened to me, every single piece of trauma that's happened in my life has led me here.
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So if you're happy with where you are currently, then you have to be happy for every bad thing that's ever happened to you.
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Genuinely, right?
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If you look at your life now and go, I'm quite happy with where I am, then you have to be happy with every single shit day you've had, because you wouldn't end up here any other way.
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You know, I wouldn't have grown as a man if my father didn't die.
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You learn a lot about yourself as a man when your father dies.
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So, of course I wish my father was alive, right?
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But if I'm happy with my life now and where it is, you have to accept every shitty day and every single lesson.
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I say this all the time.
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Your ability to deal with stress, the amount of stress you can deal with as an individual, is directly correlated to your success level.
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If you can deal with stress all day, you're gonna be successful.
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If you collapse under stress, you're not gonna be successful.
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There's no way to the top without stress involved.
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And bullshit, and things going wrong, the virus has fucked your convention up, it's fucked my casinos up.
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Like, who saw this coming?
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Nobody.
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Like, it's just, this is life.
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You're either ready for it, and you're either gonna be a man about it, or you're gonna be a little bitch.
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But if you're a little bitch, then you're never going to succeed in anything in life.
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I think a man should have absolutely no interest in whether he's actually happy or not.
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If I wake up and I'm unhappy, I will do the exact same things as if I am happy.
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I will go to the gym the same, I will work the same.
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How I feel has no impact on how I live my life.
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I don't think happiness as an index is a healthy view for a man to have on life success.
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Women are different.
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Women just want to be happy, right?
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Women just want to smile.
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They don't care how.
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They don't care if they deserve it or not.
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As long as they get to smile, women are happy.
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That's women.
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But I think for a man, if you're waking up and going, am I happy, am I not?
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You're looking at life wrong.
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I think of a man, if you put happiness far, if you move it down the scale, right?
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And you start looking at, am I successful?
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Am I competent?
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You know, am I achieving things?
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Am I respected?
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If you start to look at these indicators of your life, you're going to end up being happier without actually analyzing if you're happy or not.
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So for me, I understood very, very well that half a million dollars a month is good, but a million dollars a month is better
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And I also very very much understood that as soon as you stop pushing forward as soon as you go stagnant
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You're dying Most of you in fact the large majority of you don't deserve to be happy
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Because they haven't done the work it requires to be happy You're not a man of genuine excellence in every human metric.
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You don't deserve to be happy You're sitting at your computer with your bored ape and your NFTs and four million dollars, but you're fat and you're boring and you stink.
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And you expect yourself to be happy.
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You don't deserve to be happy.
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You don't deserve it.
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You haven't worked for it.
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Beauty lies on top of the mountain, my friends.
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You have to climb it.
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You have to get all the way up there to see the peak and its amazing view.
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Let me tell you something.
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I'm happy because all I've done is suffer.
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That's all I've ever done is suffer.
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This is how I got here.
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Suffer!
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My life's been nothing but suffering and trauma.
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That's how I got here.
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That's why my- that's why my worldview's so brilliant.
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That's how I can wake up and as long as no one has a gun to my head, I am happy.
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Because I have suffered.
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I say this to people all the time.
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If you don't blow money, it's very hard to fuck up.
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Like what's the- okay, you start a company and you don't blow your money.
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What's the worst that can happen?
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You close?
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They don't want to face the risk of the failure and rejection, the emotional- That's what it is, because they're pussies.
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Yeah, they're pussies, yeah, exactly.
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But if you don't give a shit and you're just all about the money, then what's the worst that can happen if you don't blow money?
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Nothing bad can happen to me.
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Like, literally nothing bad can happen.
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People just have this idea, well, if I only had 100 grand, I could...
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I'm like, listen, if you could do this idea of yours, you wouldn't need 100 grand to do.
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Is any of my problems going to stop the sun rising?
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Is any of my problems going to stop the tide coming in?
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Like, it's just the reality of the world is that how much I am upset, it really doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things.
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That's the first thing.
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And two is that anger can be channeled into anything.
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Anger can be channeled into inaction as much as action.
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And this is what people really don't yet understand.
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There's only one thing on the planet you actually have control over.
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You can't control the weather.
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You can't control your health.
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You can get a brain aneurysm or a heart attack.
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You can't control other people.
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The only thing you can actually really truly control is what you think.
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That's the only thing you can change in real time.
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You can be thinking of red and change it to blue.
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So why are you not controlling your own mind?
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It's your asset.
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It's your ally.
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It's your friend.
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Why would you make an enemy out of the only thing you have control over?
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I refuse to do that.
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It doesn't make sense to me.
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As a grown up, you're never going to be happy like you were as a kid.
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You're never going to be joyful and laughing and smiling all the time.
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It's just not the human reality of adult happiness.
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Adult happiness for me is just a lack of absolute sorrow.
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Like, there's no such thing as cold.
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There's only a lack of heat.
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Scientifically, cold doesn't exist.
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Heat exists, and a lack of heat creates cold.
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Well, I think it's the same thing with happiness.
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There's no such thing as happiness.
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There's just a lack of sorrow.
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If I'm not grief-stricken, if I'm not sitting here, and I'm really devastated, if my family members haven't died, if I'm not bawling my eyes out,
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if I'm not really struggling, then I'm a happy person.
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Because I'm not completely sorrow filled.
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I think a lot of people are somewhere in the middle
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and they think because they're not at that giddy childish happiness that there's something wrong with them.
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No grown up adult is supposed to live at the fucking absolute peak of life's great, I'm happy, I'm happy, I'm happy.
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No one's supposed to live that way.
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And we're told we're supposed to live that way and that
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if you ever feel a little bit sad there's something wrong with them.
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That's not true.
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We're human beings.
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It's perfectly normal to wake up and be pissed off
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and be sad or be this or be that that because there's nothing wrong with it.
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The only thing that's wrong with it is to sit there
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and believe that you need to start taking a pill to fix it.
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Real-Life Conversations: Exploring Perspectives on Relationships and Ambition
The video dives into a lively, opinionated dialogue about what women seek in relationships, the role of respect, and the drive for a fulfilling life. It’s a perfect example of natural, conversational English—full of colloquial phrases, rhetorical questions, and passionate delivery. Whether you’re learning English with YouTube or practicing shadow speak, this type of real-world content helps you grasp how native speakers express strong ideas and debate topics.
Useful Chunks & Collocations to Master
- "blah, blah, blah": A casual way to dismiss repetitive or unimportant details. Example: "She kept talking about her plans, but it was just blah, blah, blah."
- "detrimental to": Harmful or damaging to something. Example: "Skipping practice is detrimental to your progress."
- "fire inside of them": A metaphor for intense passion or ambition. Example: "He has a fire inside of him that pushes him to succeed."
- "carry zero weight": To be unimportant or have no influence. Example: "Your excuses carry zero weight—you need to take action."
- "aims to kill" (hyperbolic): To try extremely hard to defeat or outdo someone. Example: "In the final game, the team aims to kill their opponents."
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Remember, real-life conversations are messy and energetic—this video is your chance to practice keeping up. So hit play, start shadowing, and watch your English skills grow!
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| Conditional sentences if + clause, will/would + verb — a condition and its result | if I was next door, would I |
| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | be respected · is linked · are just not born |
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now | have become · have unlimited · has led |
| Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing | women who are · people who are · people who do |
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.