Shadowing Practice: how to create your desired reality (reality transurfing) - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Reality Transurfing is a book written by Russian quantum physicist named Vadim Zilin
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and the main idea is that there are infinite parallel realities happening at the same time
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and your inner state determines which version you experience.
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The way we create our reality is much simpler than we think
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but we're constantly making it harder on ourselves and getting in our own way.
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Too many people are also worried about how others perceive them or how hard their life is.
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The thing is we all have our struggles
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but you have to learn how to reject the reality
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that was handed to you by default the biggest takeaway from
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that book is
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that the only freedom we truly have is the freedom of choice
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you can choose anything
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you want at any time become like water flowing down the top of a mountain
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it doesn't matter what streams you take you will get to where you want to be on the flip side
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if you deny yourself
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that freedom by giving your power away to your struggles then you will suffer greatly
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and create ripple effects you block your flow from getting down
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that mountain then instead of a lake
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you end up with a puddle every time you say i'm too old for this too broke for this
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that is an obstacle you just invented then other people who hear you may also internalize it
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which creates a ripple effect or
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if you say things like i'm not good looking enough not smart enough
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it's too difficult you are already cutting yourself off to opportunities before anybody else does.
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Carl Jung says the world is full of people suffering from the effects of their own unlived life.
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They become bitter, critical, or rigid not because the world is cruel to them but because they have betrayed their inner selves.
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The artist who never creates art becomes cynical about those who do.
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The lover who never risks loving mocks romance.
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All of them suffer because deep down they know the life they mock is the life they were meant to live.
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It's not a part of this quote but Carl Jung also mentioned
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that the greatest burden a child can take on is the unrealized life of the parents.
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So you see what happens when you don't take responsibility and agency over your own life?
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None of us gets to choose our responding point although some
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of us do have an easier start to life than others
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and I will get to that in a bit
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but the circumstances of your life are not just created by your actions but also by the nature of your thoughts.
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Not even the thoughts themselves because it comes and goes
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and you won't ever manifest an intrusive thought unless you believe in it
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so it's the thoughts that you choose to accept
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that creates your energy if choice is so important then we may think
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that we have to fight for our happiness and push
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and force things to happen but zealand says you don't actually have to fight for anything
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if you're unhappy of your own life all
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you have to do is simply choose an alternative reality that's more to your liking
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and then let yourself naturally align with it there are certain pitfalls
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that comes out of this simply because saying it is easier than doing it
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so now i'm going to get into how you can do
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that if you're new here my name is may
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and my community is called stoic angels we are all about personal transformation of the mind body
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and spirit by improving ourselves
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we can then improve everything around us not only do we learn here we also practice what we preach
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so i created a workbook slash guide specifically for this video
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so that you can practically apply what you learn to your own life.
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It's a free guide I made that you can download in the link in description.
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Before we get into the next chapter, I would like to thank my longtime sponsor, Skillshare.
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They were my first real YouTube sponsor and they have supported my channel from the very beginning.
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So one of the biggest thing that Zeland talks about is getting out of your head, stopping the mental spiraling and reconnecting with flow.
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All of that excess energy has to be channeled somewhere because energy is neither destroyed or created.
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So where does it go?
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For me, I've been channeling that through creativity.
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I took this class on Skillshare called 15
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Minutes of Art Therapy, Play with Your Inner Child, where we're not even trying to create amazing art or anything, but we're learning to play more,
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let go, and get into our flow.
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You can never overthink or suffer while you are in flow state.
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It's also why we do art therapy during my group trips to the Greek island
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and the next one is coming up this july by the way
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but whenever i feel stressed out i would follow this class
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and just sit down and enjoy it
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when you're in a state of playful relaxation you're also undoing
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so much unconscious resistance skillshare has creative classes taught by real
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life professionals from illustrators designers entrepreneurs people who walk the walk
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it's the best place to learn any creative skill from video editing to photography you can pick up a new hobby.
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You can even learn how to do your taxes if you want and Skillshare is the perfect place to learn anything.
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I actually drew some of these during the Greece group trip last year
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and Anna who came on the trip also gifted me this one.
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I actually watched her paint this from start to finish
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and I can tell you where she started ended up completely different from this final result which is so cool.
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The first 500 people to click the link in the description
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or scan the QR code will get a one -month free trial of Skillshare.
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i mentioned this a minute ago
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but zealand talks about something called access potential basically your reality mirrors your energy
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when you're assigning too much importance to your wants
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and your desires you are also unconsciously creating this energetic resistance
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because you're pushing so hard
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that you're actually pushing your goal away from you the more important
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or urgent something is the more likely you are to screw it up
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because you want it to go a certain way
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so badly the harder you chase something the more desperate
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you feel about it the further it seems to drift from you
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and the more out of reach it becomes for you
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that is exactly how your access potential creates obstacles zealand warns against pendulums as well these are like energy structures
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that deliberately feed on our emotional reactions where we feel the need to swing back at it
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and react to it our emotions are an extremely powerful form of energy
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they change people's lives in a split second just like
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that we can manifest with visualization belief and most of all our emotions
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if we can't regulate ourselves enough to control that emotional energy for better
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or worse then our lives spiral out of control every time you fight
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or resist your problems as you're stressing out about obstacles getting triggered by situations
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you're literally feeding those obstacles your attention and making it even stronger so the solution to that is detachment.
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Stop feeding them your energy.
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Even Buddha says attachment is the source of suffering.
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When you stop caring so much and adopt this no big deal mindset to everything,
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the resistance disappears and things start to flow to you naturally.
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How do we do that?
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So Zeland breaks it down into three steps to getting whatever you want.
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Number one, lower importance.
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Treat all of your desires as nice to have but never must -haves.
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This removes the desperation.
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Number two, add as if.
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Move through your life as though the universe has already arranged everything for you, like it's already done.
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It is inevitable.
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Number three, slide between realities.
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Mentally visualize yourself stepping into timelines where your obstacles don't even exist.
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You're literally choosing which version of reality you want to experience.
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We already do this all the time unconsciously.
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It will work even better if you are actually conscious about it because your emotional frequency attracts matching outcomes always.
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Desperation, survival mode, and scarcity mindsets creates people who become dysregulated which also creates disorder in the mind,
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in the body, and in their lives.
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There are so many things that we learn early on in our lives
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that we have to unlearn if we want to unlock higher potential
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so don't ever be trapped by your circumstances also nobody enjoys dealing with a volatile
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and difficult person or any kind of situations in general whether it's your family
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or at work if there's someone in your life who's like this that's not who you are
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so don't internalize it for the sake of you having an easier life you have to believe
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that every situation can be easier for you.
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No matter how difficult your problems are, there is always going to be an easier way to solve it because everything reflects back onto your beliefs.
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Calm confidence opens new doors and desperation attracts more struggle and closes doors.
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This no big deal state carries the highest frequency because it's completely resistance free.
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If something doesn't go the way you want, no big deal.
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There is always an easier way and if you don't get your dream job or someone doesn't let you back, no big deal.
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Rejection is always redirection and in my experience always towards something even better.
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In fact, something I never even can imagine getting had I not moved on from that rejection.
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If I kept resisting by staying in places where nobody values me, not only will I betray myself, I will also turn into a bitter person.
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I won't even evolve from it
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and eventually i will regret not moving on sooner you have to believe
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that there are a thousand better places that will actually value you
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and want someone like you so when you look back at
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that rejection someday maybe five years from now it's like a small blip in your entire life
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it's really not a big deal and you'll be so happy
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that you believe you deserve better than that
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so now we know desperation blocks realization
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and neutrality allows energy to flow freely like water following its natural path into inevitability
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you stop trying to control every little thing you stop freaking out
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when something doesn't go according to plan and you just let yourself be relaxed
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and detached and your energy aligns effortlessly with your desired reality
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and it's such a luxurious privilege to be yourself zealand says is the one privilege
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that everyone can afford
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but only a few actually muster up the courage to enjoy
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it it doesn't matter what circumstances you're born into i have met people who are born very rich
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and privileged who are also
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extremely trapped and powerless in their lives
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so they're not truly privileged most people are
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so busy playing different roles wearing masks trying to fit in
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and be what they think they should be chasing out their external approval
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and validation or else they feel worthless
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but the hardest role to play is the one where you're just
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you where you're removing all the massive societies slaps onto you
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and allow yourself to actually exist as who you are
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and it takes so much courage to say F everyone else
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and whatever they're doing I create my own standards
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I will do things my way once you can accept the possibility of failure
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and not be scared of failing because failure is inevitable
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and winners fail more than losers and just stop being
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so terrified of things not working out
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because you will always find another way
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you find an easier way no matter what then you can
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just move in the direction of your goal in all of your lightness with no overthinking no expectations
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and without any kind of heavy desperate energy weighing you down
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I know at some point people do look at me
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and say well you have everything that you want in life you're young beautiful
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and your life seems to be very easy everything flows to you
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and I agree I affirm that with you like yes people underestimate me all the time
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and I am so okay with it
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because guess what I don't care what they think
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if they want to affirm
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that onto me yes please I'll take
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it I will have an easier life thank you it wasn't always like this i worked
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so hard on myself to get to the point where everything is easy now even
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when it's not easy i will just say
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that it's easy anyways i evolved out of my old circumstances over
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and over again
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because you have to go through the tunnel to get to
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the light honey not through desperately clinging on to whatever doesn't serve you
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which i did for so long i had to learn how to let all
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that go i didn't come from a privileged background
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or an easy life at all i am so lucky to have my mom who does her best for me,
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but I have been called all kinds of ugly names throughout my life, bullied, broken home, rejected from so many dreams,
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used and abused, like people literally spit on me or harm me in different ways, and others actively try to destroy me and the things
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that I work so hard for so that they can either take my place or, you know, if I can't have it, no one can.
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All my life, people try to take my power away from me and discredit me, but the difference between me and someone who succumbs to
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that is I do not let any of these things define who I am.
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I always reject that reality.
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Life is all about overcoming yourself.
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I had to go through all
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that struggle to the point where it's now easy for me to handle
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that struggle where it never actually goes away
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but I never gave up on that privilege to be myself anyway and live my life which only makes me tougher.
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It was only through taking my power back
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and my authorship of my life back to me
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that my life started getting much easier because i got stronger i strategize like
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if i'm ugly i will glow up if i'm clueless i will get a clue and i learn
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circumstances may not always change like for example the people around you
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or we can't choose our parents
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but you can change your perspective my relationships to all of these things completely changed
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because i stopped caring about where i came from about people who don't want the best for me
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and I stopped taking on other people's problems.
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People need to take responsibility over their own lives but not everyone wants to.
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However if you're brave enough you do get that privilege of a lifetime.
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I will give you an example.
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It's kind of sad actually.
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Last week I had a feeling that the death of a family member was going to be announced to me.
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I sometimes just get the knowing that something was going to happen.
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Then a couple of days ago I found out my biological father passed away a few years ago.
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In so many ways, he wasn't a good father or husband to my mom.
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He caused a lot of suffering and became the symbol of everything that I reject today.
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Deadbeat, victim mindset, not grateful for what he had.
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And every time he opened his mouth, it was to spew hatred and negativity.
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And I was having a hard time thinking about like happy memories
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that I had with him which was really sad like i wish he was at least an indifferent or detached father
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but no he was just critical and a bitter person he made everybody's lives difficult
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because he didn't want to change his circumstances or learn from his mistakes
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and he projected it onto everybody
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he was also an immature parent who made a five -year -old girl step up to mother him
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it was only when my oldest half -brother passed away
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that was when he woke up and by the time he realize everything that he had lost it was too late.
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Everybody in his life had already left him including my other half -brother from a previous marriage
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and I cut ties with my dad years ago.
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One day something terrible had happened
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and it was too late like he already had irreparable brain damage
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and he spent his final days at a nursing home in a vegetative state until he passed away
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and nobody came to see him and I had no idea until recently.
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I felt pity for how he passed, I pity him, and...
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How I found out was our old neighbor found my mom on Facebook
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and told her and then she told me and I'm telling you this because these are the consequences of an unrealized life.
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Whether you choose to do something about your life or not, there's always cause and effect and always a price to pay.
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So if you don't heal yourself and take responsibility for your life and make things easier for yourself and everyone around you,
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the result is you will hurt everyone around you and cause even more suffering.
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And one reason why I got bullied was because he gave me a name,
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my birth name that caused me to get bullied in school without even talking to my mom.
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He wasn't even there at the hospital for my birth by the way
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but he wanted that sense of power and control over the women in his life.
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In many ways he was truly my first adversary.
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Eventually I changed my birth name to get away from him.
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I moved countries.
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I also inherited his nose
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so all my life I wanted to change my nose to get away from him and eventually I did.
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I took charge of my life, my identity and I took my power back
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when I first got the news I felt an immense sense of guilt
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and also all kinds of other emotions because grieving an emancipated parent is
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so complex especially the way that it happened but then I realized
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that other people's problems are not mine to take on it's not my fault
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that he wasn't a good father to any of us
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if I hold on to his personal issues I will only create more resistance for myself
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so he's not here anymore there is no reconciliation the funny thing was i rarely have any dreams about him
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but he did visit me in my dreams around the same time
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that he passed away so that i would know
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that he's okay sometimes people in your life who passed on will do
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that they will visit you in your dreams and let you know
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that everything's fine like don't worry about them even though i didn't know at a time
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that he had passed but even though all my life i didn't want to be a victim
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and succumb to life like he did i still held on to
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that pain and the resistance for a really long time over half my life
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and that bitterness felt like reopening an old wound with a rusty old knife
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that i kept around a thousand times just to remind myself of how much it hurt me
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and i inherited that bitterness i think
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so for the longest time i was resisting
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that reality where it wasn't a problem for me
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and it made things harder for what for no reason so
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when he finally passed on it was also finally time for me to lay
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that knife to rest i just have to stop resisting all of it and forgive him.
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Find it in my heart somewhere to forgive him and pray for his soul.
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And it's through that forgiveness, that letting go, that I finally feel the last remnants of my power coming back to me.
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And I guess that it's really important for me to tell you this because everything has a lesson, whether it's positive or negative,
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no matter how terrible something is.
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That's just what life looks like.
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Anyways, how do you actually apply this?
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Stop fighting if something feels like a battle you're feeding the pendulum
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so detach and let it go lower the stakes
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and treat your desires like they're nice to have and never life
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or death this removes resistance
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and invites more opportunities to flow into your life there's always the hard way
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and an easy way to go about things
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and the best thing to do for everybody involved including yourself is to choose the easy way then act as
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if it's already done go through your life like the universe has already handled
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it for you you're just showing up to collect the results
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and everything that you want or better yet something amazing
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that you can't even imagine is inevitable you will get what you want
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or even better something that you can never even dream of
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so be open to it because every time i get something
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that i want my only regret about it is i didn't dream bigger than that
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and that's also a lesson in itself next time i can dream even bigger choose the reality you want literally
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when you notice yourself spiraling into worst case scenarios, stop, interrupt yourself and reject the worst case scenario.
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Consciously choose the version of reality where things work out for you and step into that timeline mentally.
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There's nothing you can't get out of, nothing you can't handle.
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It sounds so simple but that's the whole point.
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We overcomplicate everything and yes it was only through changing my beliefs about all of these things
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that I started to have an easier life
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But Reality Transurfing is also about simplifying it back down to choose what you want, remove your resistance, and let everything unfold.
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I have seen different forms of this type of system play out in all kinds of different ways,
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but this is maybe one of the most practical breakdowns
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that I have seen for actually creating the life that you want without burning yourself out in the process.
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If you want to go even deeper, I will link some resources below, including that worksheet that I made for you that you can download.
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And if you're here at this point, affirm with me in the comments, I define my life.
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Don't forget to check out Skillshare and also my Greece group trip in July.
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I have just reopened applications.
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Angels, thank you all for watching and I will see you in the next video.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This speaking lesson is built on the video “how to create your desired reality”. This video has 305 sentences and 3873 words to shadow. The speech runs for 20:05. The speaker talks fast, about 193 words per minute, so expect linked and reduced sounds. 86% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English; the rest is worth studying before you start.
Key vocabulary in this video
15 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| privilege noun | /ˈpɹɪv.(ɪ.)lɪd͡ʒ/ | A particular benefit, advantage, or favor; a right or immunity enjoyed by some but not others; a prerogative, preferential treatment. |
| obstacle noun | /ˈɑbstəkəl/ | Something that impedes, stands in the way of, or holds up progress, either physically or figuratively |
| resist verb | /ɹɪˈzɪst/ | To attempt to counter the actions or effects of. |
| desperation noun | /ˌdɛspəˈɹeɪʃən/ | The act of despairing or becoming desperate; a giving up of hope. |
| belief noun | /bɪˈliːf/ | Mental acceptance of a claim as true. |
| suffer verb | /ˈsʌfɚ/ | To undergo hardship. |
| bitter adjective | /ˈbɪ.tɚ/ | Having an acrid taste (usually from a basic substance). |
| emotion noun | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | A person's internal state of being and involuntary physiological response to an object or a situation, based on or tied to physical state and sensory data. |
| inevitable adjective | /ɪˈnɛvɪtəbəl/ | Impossible to avoid or prevent. |
| rejection noun | /ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/ | The act of rejecting. |
| bully noun | /ˈbʊli/ | A person who is intentionally physically or emotionally cruel to others, especially to those whom they perceive as being vulnerable or of less power or… |
| spiral noun | /ˈspaɪɹəl/ | A curve that is the locus of a point that rotates about a fixed point while continuously increasing its distance from that point. |
| naturally adverb | /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/ | In a natural manner. |
| lesson noun | /ˈlɛs.ən/ | A section of learning or teaching into which a wider learning content is divided. |
| angel noun | /ˈeɪ̯n.d͡ʒəl/ | An incorporeal and holy or semidivine messenger from a deity or other divine entity, traditionally depicted as a youthful, winged figure in flowing robes. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| pass away verb | To die. | |
| go through verb | To travel from one end of something to the other. | |
| find out verb | To discover, as by asking or investigating. | |
| get out of verb | To leave, exit or escape from; to become free of. | |
| check out verb | To record the departure or withdrawal of someone or something (such as guests, employees, books, etc.). | |
| come up verb | To emerge or become known, especially unexpectedly. | |
| end up verb | To bring to a conclusion. | |
| get down verb | /ɡɛt ˈdaʊn/ | To bring or come down; to descend; to cause to bring or come down. |
Sentences worth repeating
Short, complete lines from the video that you can reuse in everyday conversation:
- For me, I've been channeling that through creativity.
- How do we do that?
- Anyways, how do you actually apply this?
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| Conditional sentences if + clause, will/would + verb — a condition and its result | if i'm ugly i will glow |
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now | have betrayed · have supported · has already arranged |
| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | was handed · were meant · are not just created |
| Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing | people who hear · those who do · people who walk |
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 68 contractions and reduced forms, such as you're, don't, can't. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: desperation /ˌdɛspəˈɹeɪʃən/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, rejection /ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, transformation /ˌtɹæns.fɔɹˈmeɪ.ʃən/, conscious /ˈkɑn.ʃəs/
- Long words — get the stress right: desperation /ˌdɛspəˈɹeɪʃən/, inevitable /ɪˈnɛvɪtəbəl/, naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, photography /fəˈtɑ.ɡɹə.fi/, biological /ˌbaɪ.əˈlɑ.d͡ʒɪ.kəl/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like privilege, obstacle, resist.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.