Shadowing Practice: Who decides what is socially “normal”? | Christine Emba - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Why do cultures develop social norms?
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The clearest answer to me is that they're shortcuts.
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They provide you with a general guidebook of how to behave in society, at least for the place and time that you're in, and that can ideally help you live a better life.
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Social norms that are enforced by our communities
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or by broader groups also come with enforcement mechanisms that are often more effective than our own knowledge.
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The positive motivations that we feel when we engage in social norms, a sense of pride, accomplishment,
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being looked upon happily by other people, are powerful.
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And then the negative reinforcements, a sense of guilt when we transgress social norms, help keep us in line.
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But we're in a moment right now where society is changing rapidly
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and where many of us are not sure whether old social norms still apply.
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How do you evaluate whether a social norm is past its sell -by date, whether it's still useful in the modern era?
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The English writer G .K.
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Chesterton talks about what one should do if you encounter a fence unattended in a field.
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Some people might have the impulse to just tear it down.
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After all, what is it doing there standing alone in this field?
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But he actually suggests that one should investigate.
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The fence may not seem useful to you in this moment, but it was probably put there for a reason,
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and one should try and figure out what that reason was before discarding the fence entirely.
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I think that notion can be applied to social norms too, even ones that seem outdated.
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So, here's one example.
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Should men open doors for women?
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When you're trying to figure out whether a norm has any use still, it's helpful to look at what it was there for originally.
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Was it there to help someone, to protect, to orient society in a useful way?
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Is that use case still in some way valid now?
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If so, maybe that norm is still doing something good, even if it isn't evident immediately to you.
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With the dissolving of social norms, some people are looking for guidance.
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So who do people look to for guidance in the past?
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They look to their parents, their families.
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They look to religious leaders and sometimes state leaders.
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Who do people look to for guidance now?
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Well, let's say the slate has grown.
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It kind of feels like there's a coach for anything, whether it's meditation or parenting or how to become the best CEO.
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There are lifestyle influencers, fitness influencers, there are beauty gurus and masculinity gurus.
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So what's problematic about seeking the guidance of a self -described expert?
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The problem is in the self -described.
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They may say they're expert, but are they really? what qualifications do they have and why should you believe them?
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And then again, there's the question of what social norms are for and how they're built.
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Ideally, social norms are adapted to situations, times, and places, and the communities that they're embedded in.
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A social norm that may be fit for one community or one kind of person may not be applicable to everyone else.
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Similarly, the advice given by a fitness guru or a beauty influencer might sell well on the internet,
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but might not actually be tailored helpfully to you.
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Why Social Norms Matter: A Real-Life Discussion
Imagine chatting with a friend about why people follow unwritten rules like holding doors or dressing a certain way. The video explores this, asking who shapes "normal" behavior and how to tell if old norms still work. This scenario mirrors everyday conversations—perfect for english speaking practice—where you’ll need to explain ideas, ask questions, and share opinions.
Useful Chunks & Collocations to Master
- "Past its sell-by date": Describes something no longer useful (e.g., "That old rule about phone calls is past its sell-by date").
- "Enforcement mechanisms": Ways a group makes people follow norms (e.g., "Guilt is a common enforcement mechanism for social rules").
- "Tailored to": Made for a specific person or group (e.g., "Good advice should be tailored to your needs, not just trends").
- "Dissolving of social norms": The weakening of shared rules (e.g., "The dissolving of social norms can make people feel lost").
- "Self-described expert": Someone who claims to be an expert without proof (e.g., "Be careful of self-described experts online—check their credentials").
Your Shadowing Challenge: Practice "Shadow Speak"
Shadowing (or shadow speak) is a great way to improve fluency. Here’s your task: Watch a 2-minute clip of the video. Pause after each sentence, then repeat it aloud, copying the tone and speed. Focus on phrases like "enforcement mechanisms" and "tailored to"—they’re key for IELTS speaking practice because they show advanced vocabulary. After 5 repetitions, try summarizing the clip in your own words. This trains you to think and speak quickly, just like in real conversations. For extra practice, record yourself and compare it to the original—you’ll notice improvements in pronunciation and flow!
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | are enforced · being looked · was probably put |
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now | has grown · I've found · I've already read |
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.