Shadowing Practice: Your SELF IMAGE can make or break you - Learn English Speaking with Video

Are you sure that you are really who you think you are?

There are so many parts of your personality that are layers of things

that you have created in order to either facilitate who you think you are

or facilitate your existence in the world that you exist in.

You probably have limiting beliefs in your self-image that allow you to persist in being the type of person that you are.

So you have a rhetoric in your head that keeps going over the fact that you're an unlucky person, or you're a lazy type of person, or you'll never get to what you want to in life.

It's because you've trained yourself to notice the things in your reality that say, yes, she is right, or yes,

he is right because of these things.

Our brain wants to prove ourselves right above anything else, because it's a feeling of comfort that you have to know

that your inner world resembles the reality so if i think

if i i'm an unfortunate person that's just who i am

that's just my reality your brain will go okay she's unfortunate let's prove her right this happened

that happened she didn't get a parking spot this tragedy happened all this stuff it's gonna prove you right

if you let it so in order to change your self-image to facilitate growth

and a creation

and manifestation of your future reality you need to radically change who you think it is

that you are if you don't see yourself as a different person you will keep repeating the loops

that you've learned yourself to believe you have you've made yourself

too comfortable in this life you haven't set boundaries you have golden child syndrome where you were

so good and so convenient and so obedient just to please your parents

and a lot of cultures we come from that is what we are

in the eastern european culture that i come from you had to be good

and proper and listen and all that stuff

that is not conducive to being able to stand up for yourself

and set boundaries a lot of you would feel the same

if you have a knowledge of being yourself for who you are you need to break out of

that paradigm and create a new reality so

that then your world resembles who you are inside

because you're over here trying to manifest and trying to make things happen and trying to

you know move forward in the world

when you are still in your head the person you always

were you need to change who you understand yourself to be first

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But what we hardly ever discuss is why did you develop these limiting beliefs?

Yes, you might have had a really traumatic, difficult childhood yes you might have not grown up in the way

that you wanted to all these things might be true

but the reason you're not breaking up with those beliefs might be

because they're serving you in some ways a lot of people

who are stuck in the victim mentality like to be felt sorry for they like to be mollycoddled

and they like to feel witnessed and noticed it's like you will try

and save them you will try

and break down the doors of the castle slay the dragon

and then And the last part is you just need to get into the room where they're locked, but they're holding the door on the other side

because they don't want to be saved because this idea and the mental image of themselves as a victim serves them.

Is that you?

Do you like to speak a rhetoric again and again over

and over about how life's not fair and how you don't get all the right things?

You need to stop.

We need to cut it out because you were given one life

and you are going to utilize it if that is the last thing you're going to do.

you are going to see how far we can take this thing this movie

that is our life you're going to be fully the main character

and we're going to see how far we can spin this

because you deserve to do this all your ancestors didn't come before you for you to just sit there

and hold the door

when people are trying to rescue you you need to rescue yourself you need to understand

that your thoughts and your emotions shape your reality i always was

so confused about the notion of

if you want to be happy just be happy i was

like how can i be happy tragedies are happening this and

that the other thing but the truth is you can't change some of the realities

that are happening you just can be the type of person

that you are people have noticed throughout history throughout time evolution

that those people who make the best out of the little things they have actually amplify

and grow you need to create a gratitude habit to learn the skill set of noticing all your opportunities

because once you want to buy a red car you suddenly notice

that everyone around you has a red car your brain cannot take in all the information

that is offered in the world all the time your brain is a supercomputer

which you say right brain now we are noticing red cars

why do we have a gratitude diary where we write the things we are grateful for every day not

because it's a magical thing well i guess it is magic

but because we want to train our brain to see

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and notice the good things why do we want to do

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that because the more you notice the opportunities and the good things that are happening in your life, the more you can utilize them.

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I want to buy a red car.

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I see so many red cars.

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I want to be successful in a millionaire.

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I see the paths to how to become that.

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If all I'm thinking about is how I'm poor, I'm not seeing the opportunities.

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And this is coming from a person who's been that.

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I've been that.

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I've grown up with a single mom with no English, her or I, in a country, eating cereal with no milk.

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So listen to me.

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You need to start focusing on opportunities as opposed to a lack thereof.

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Because your brain is a super machine that will find the opportunities once you let yourself see them.

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How do you do it?

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Gratitude.

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You need to create a journal and write down all the good things that happen during the day.

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Meanwhile, with the bad things, what you resist persists.

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It will persist.

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If you resist it, if you fight it, which is why I often say to women who are like fighting a behavior of a man they're with, instead of constantly fighting that behavior,

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notice the good behavior that he's doing.

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It's the most backward thing to say to advise to someone, but it bloody works.

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Trust me, it works.

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When you start to speak a light into someone, they start to do the right thing, unless they're the most far gone case in the world, in which case they'll just fall away into the ether as they should.

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But you need to have blind focus on the goodness

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and disregard the negative looping that is going on in your mind to change your self-image, who you are, what your reality is.

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People are now good to you.

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People want to do good things for you.

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You are now good to yourself.

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When I had a child and had a surgery at the same time, love that for me, in terms of like body,

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I was stuck in a loop where I did not see myself as the fit type of person who had fitness, slimness, a type of body I want.

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People want different bodies, but that's the type of body I wanted.

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I was like, how?

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Googling all these things how I'm sure you've seen my weight loss video on this channel.

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and suddenly it clicked on me, my identity, I needed to change my self-image from somebody who doesn't know to somebody who knows, now this is really gonna,

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you're gonna really, your brain's either gonna understand it straight away or struggle to understand it, because I didn't understand it,

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but I finally did, you don't need to be the person who's dieting in the case

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that I'm talking about you don't need to be the person who's trying you need to wake up one day

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and completely shift your reality into the person who already knows say to your brain

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if I knew what to do what would I do

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if I knew what to do what would I do

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because your brain knows it knows a ton of information

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that you don't know that it knows

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because it's been picking up throughout your life picking it up picking it up picking it up picking it up

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but you're focusing on the fact

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that I don't know what to do I don't know what to eat I don't know how to be fit.

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I don't know how to lose weight, yeah?

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You've been focusing on all that.

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So your brain is affirming that.

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Yeah, we don't know what to do.

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Yeah, we don't know what to do.

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We're walking around not knowing what to do.

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We're so confused.

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We don't know what to do.

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Change your identity.

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I suddenly knew.

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I suddenly knew.

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Oh my god.

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Shit.

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Whole foods and no processed food and keto for me

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being a nordic person works the best i just knew two

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months 10 kilos lost the hell how i changed my identity it wasn't even hard not to eat junk

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because i was like i'm that healthy type of person who doesn't eat

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that thankful for that love it for me it lapses identity changes

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and i noticed that um i'm in the least happy state in my body

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when i guess it lapses and i'm not in that identity anymore

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and then I start to struggle oh oh oh should I eat the the chips

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and the fries should no you shouldn't what good is it doing for you honestly

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and I'm pretty strict on this a lot of people are

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like well love yourself eat the junk I'm not sure

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if that's a self-love format for me it's still a question

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no in fact I know I have a knowledge that's not

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self-love for me maybe for you you need to crowd out what it is

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that you don't want as opposed to try and get rid of it

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you need to focus let's stick with the eating thing instead

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of being like i'm not gonna eat this this this this

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this this this you're gonna be like you know what i

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love myself i'm the type of person who loves my body

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i'm the type of person who wants to do better for

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themselves i'm the type of person who wants to live a long time

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and play with my children i'm gonna eat this i'm gonna

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mix my greens i'm gonna have all this colorful salad

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because that's what needs to be done i'm gonna have these

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quality organic meats whatever whatever it is you want to do

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i don't know you i don't know exactly what you need

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but you know you know you need to crowd out the

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bad stuff stop focusing on the bad stuff stop thinking oh my god eat

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so much junk oh my god i can never you can you can wake up

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and decide and change your self-image you are now the person who knows

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and you are now the person who instead of thinking i

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can't eat these fries i can't eat these chips whatever country

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you're whatever you call it think i need a salad today i need this gorgeous salmon fillet

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because i need my omega-6 omega-3 omega whatever right that's how

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we need to be coming at it from self-love you need to create an idea

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and a self-image that you are the type of person because why not you

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that can create any reality that they want just wake up tomorrow and try it just decide that's you

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decide

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and I hear you I hear your brain going no no

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that's not me I can't that's not a reality these kind of videos are just you know people talking like that

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but it can't happen it can it can be you it's

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many people you can be one of those people why not

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why can't you be one of those people why can't things

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happen for you your brain sees what it is you train

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it to notice that's the key to it you need to

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lean into what makes you feel good as opposed to what makes you feel blocked

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so what made me feel good in the whole weight loss health journey is knowing

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that I'm fueling my body with these amazing things as opposed to things I can't eat

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so I totally stopped thinking about things I can't eat

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and started to almost to the level of obsessed to be

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like oh my god I can't wait to eat this I

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can't wait to eat this to research food to listen to podcasts about like food

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and like interesting things to really fall in love with it

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um I've heard a lot of people who break out of eating um disorders

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which isn't what this video is about

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but they they break out of it's from a passion for food as opposed to trying to escape from it and

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that is a big thing you need a positivity mindset a

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growth mindset is what it's called as opposed to a negative

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mindset a growth mindset is where things are possible for you for anyone at any time

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and you can make it happen and that is the first thing

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that needs to shift before you sit there

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and you manifest some kind of reality you need to manifest

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a new version of yourself from tomorrow you're going to be

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43 you're going to be 18 you're going to be 28 that's a whole new you that's a whole new you

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i got it in my head

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that my life is in seven cycles my last birthday i

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was like this is where my next cycle begins i grew

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my tiktok to over half a million within five months i launched a podcast

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which is charted i am not saying this to like show off or anything

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but i just decided i'm from this birthday for the next

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seven years i don't know what's gonna happen in the next seven years it's gonna be even better

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but like seven year cycles that's what i decided you need to Create a belief for yourself

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that is unbreakable and that you will live with and believe unbreakably.

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The book that I mentioned earlier via Blinkist, it goes into meditation.

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That is not something I can sit here and teach you because, let alone being an expert, I'm not even a practitioner.

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I don't know the power that it has, but I do believe that meditation isn't what everyone always says it is and that it's a certain practice.

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You've got to let go, brain, da-da-da.

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I believe I've reached a level of some sort of meditation I guess it's my own

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but a visualization an emotional connection to the ideas of what

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I want to happen I lie down before I go to sleep

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and I feel into the reality

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that I want to happen I don't know a feeling of

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independence happiness with my child success in my endeavors feel into them emotionally

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and that is my meditation

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but Dr Joe Dispenza will give you more he's got lots of books on

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that the key to take away from this is your brain

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will create the pathway to close the gap between your belief and your reality.

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So if right now this is your reality and this is your belief of who you are, it's cohesive to who you are.

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So if you think you're a piece of garbage that doesn't serve anything and you can't do anything and all this stuff, your brain has matched it.

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And now, oh, this is where the brain feels good, where your belief matches your reality.

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If you can overpower yourself and change your belief

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to where you're this person and your belief your soul

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and your spirit and your mind is stronger than any body in any reality right

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so your belief is here your brain has no choice

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but to pull up to where you are it will pull up

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and it will create pathways you will start noticing opportunities you will start to carry yourself differently you will lose

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that weight or you will dress differently or you will gain

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that weight if that is what you want or you will present yourself differently in order to match your self-concept, your self-image.

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That's what's going to happen.

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Lastly, a lot of ways that we see ourselves and our self-belief needs to be dismantled.

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It comes from a pain point in childhood or some way

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that you became convenient or some way that you learned to survive, to disappear in the background, to not require for much,

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to not set boundaries, to not appear in this world as a person of presence

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and someone who deserves to take up space, even down to the fact that what we were talking about earlier, weight loss, a lot of times people hold weight in order to protect themselves from the world.

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If you notice a lot of people who carry weight and they don't know why are people who are overly kind, hence the stereotype can sometimes prevail that,

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and they are trying to protect themselves from hurtful things in the world, and it is hurtful.

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so you almost need to

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fortify yourself

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in your self knowledge and self concept and let go of the fact that the world is going to hurt you, it might but you will survive, you will be fine you can do this

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because you're going to change your self image

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and you're going to appear in this world as the person you are meant to be

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and you will see the pathways the world will open its arms to you, I promise

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anyway thanks for watching this video go in the description box

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look at Blinkist get your 25% off thank you for sponsoring

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and uh check out my podcast 20 feminine energy principles is

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also in the bio it's all down there love you love you like jay tots

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and i'll see you on the next one bye Bye.

What is the Shadowing Technique?

Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.

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