Luyện nói tiếng Anh bằng Shadowing qua video: Realise when it’s time to let go
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Hi guys, I know this is not my usual setting,
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but I was actually going to bed and I felt called to do this video.
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And it's basically about letting go,
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knowing when to let go and how to let go.
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And the reason why I want to do this video is
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because for the past days I have been helping a friend of mine,
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giving him advice on how to let go of a job that he has been working at for seven years.
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and it's like his career field and he just stopped growing in
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that career so he began to feel miserable
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and the boss kept promising him stuff but never delivering on it
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and he basically told me Liz what should I do and I told him you have to leave.
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You know when you're stuck in a situation like
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that where you're miserable people are promising your stuff they're not delivering on or you're stuck in a relationship,
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what you need to do,
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you need to think about,
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I was reading this book,
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yeah, in The Art of Thinking Clearly,
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it talked about something, it's called the sunk cost fallacy.
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Sunk cost fallacy basically means you don't have to look at how much time
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or energy you spent into something as a reason,
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as why you should stay.
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You should look at what is the future of this thing like it doesn't matter how much time
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or energy you put in if the future of it is not going to get better
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if if you have put years into that relationship and energy
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and whatever but you're unhappy and you see your future in
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that relationship being unhappy then there's no point in staying
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if the same with with the company or your work
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if it's not going up there's no point in staying first thing i think what you should do is realize
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when you're being manipulated when a person is promising you stuff
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and never delivering on it you are being manipulated
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if someone is telling you even
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if a boss is telling you yeah you will get this position
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if you do this then you do that thing
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and you still don't get that position that's manipulation
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because like they're promising you stuff
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but they're never delivering on it you know same way in
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the relationship they're promising you to change they're promising you
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that they'll do better or whatever it won't happen again
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but then it does manipulation they're just saying anything to make you stay if
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if the words don't match the actions you leave you guys
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need to stop believing people on words people are full of bullshit okay let's be honest here like it's
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so easy to lie why would not everyone lie you know
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if i wanted to keep a girl
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but i know i like i'm not serious with her
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but i can just sleep around with her i would also
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lie to her to make her stay you know why not
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if i can why not you know most most people don't feel bad
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when they do that and you need to realize
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that not everyone has a good heart or morals or
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or feel feels bad about the stuff no most people don't
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and you guys need to start realizing that the world is really harsh
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when the words do not match the action see i had
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so many people in my life screaming to me liz i love you i love you
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but then they would do stuff to me that was
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so shitty that i would think like how is this love you know
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and then you have me i'm verbally i don't say
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that much like oh i love you but i will always show my actions
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that i respect you i love you and i'm loyal to you like my actions will always show
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i don't talk i show you
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and that's how you have to look at people look at your boss is are they just talking
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or are they actually giving me what i want
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and what they promised me look at your relationship the same
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way the thing is what they can easily get will never be valued okay
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and also if you're easy like if you're loyal to a company
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that is literally not giving you what you want
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but promising making false promises also they will not value you
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because see with my friend And the issue was what his boss did is he promised,
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promised, promised, never delivered.
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But the boss knew the guy would never leave.
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He's so loyal to this company.
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He knew he would not leave.
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So he knew this behavior could go on for years and years without him really doing anything.
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You know, and they would even say like,
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oh, no, he will never leave.
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Doesn't matter, whatever.
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That's how these people start to disrespect you.
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Start to value yourself, you know.
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start to value what you want and what you think that you deserve.
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Relationships don't get too easily with people.
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Make them literally work for you.
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Make people prove, especially if you're going into a relationship with a man,
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make that man prove to you that he's worthy of being with you.
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Because in this day and age,
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and I truly believe this is the issue with most relationships these days,
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is because we've created this whole thing of like,
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oh no, they don't have to do anything anymore.
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Everything's equal, this and that so then you have men
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that don't want to show up
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and be men anymore they're just like okay whatever i don't have to do anything
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so they're not going to do anything
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and even worse they want to take from the woman now
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yes i do believe in equality i do believe a man
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and a woman should be equal and and i'm happy
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if that's the way it is but at the end of the day if if you
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like make it so easy for a man to get with you
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and he doesn't have to do anything at all
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and he can still be in a relationship with you they will abuse
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that power they will abuse that power and
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that is not an that's not equality you know
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because again they're more powerful over you
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because you're giving yourself away for nothing this person doesn't even appreciate you respect you doesn't do anything for you
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and you're just giving yourself you're giving your time value yourself making someone literally prove to you
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that they're a good person with their actions is valuing yourself that is self-respect it's just nothing worse than wasted time
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wasted time on people don't waste your time your your time is valuable you guys like literally i've heard
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so many older people say time flies like this today you're 20 years old tomorrow you're 80 and it flies like this.
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Don't waste your time on dumb people.
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Don't waste your time on dumb people.
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Don't put your energy into people that promise you stuff.
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Don't deliver.
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Don't go to people that don't respect you or are toxic because you're lonely and you don't have anyone.
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So I'll just stay with them.
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But then you end up being miserable.
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Again, they're taking away from you.
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They're taking away from your years and you end up feeling bad about yourself.
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You end up feeling insecure and thinking
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that you cannot do anything better those kind of bosses those
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kind of relationship people what they will do is they will
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make it seem like you are this is the only good
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thing you will ever get like you cannot get any better than this and
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that is just such like that's one of the things they
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do with their manipulation yeah they have to make you feel like you cannot get do anything better
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so that toxic partner will make you feel like you cannot get anyone better than him
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or anyone that treats you decency and respect they will make you actually believe
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that or your job they will make you believe
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that oh you cannot get anywhere better you will not be
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paid better you will not get the same uh respect
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or position whatever that's such bullshit like stop listening to these
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people it's not true it's not true order to control you they have to make you feel this small
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but you have the power to take you to take
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that back and be like no you know what i deserve much better
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and i'm capable of much better and yes i can get much better than you
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and you can there's literally billions of people in this world
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and you think this one douchebag is your only option please there's literally
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so many companies you can start your own company there's
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so many options in this world money is only an energy
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if you start to understand money in an energetic way you
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also start to realize it doesn't have to be this hard these toxic people constantly benefit from putting you down
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and making you feel this small but like stop it has to stop
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and the only power you have right now is to take your own power back.
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You gave away your power to those people.
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Those people are not powerful without your energy that you gave to them.
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That company is nothing without you.
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That company needs you.
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You don't need them.
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That toxic person needs you.
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You don't need them.
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You think anyone wants to be with someone that treats them like shit?
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Nobody wants to do that.
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So when they're telling you you can't do anything better,
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they're actually projecting onto you.
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They can't do anything better.
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That company cannot find a better employee than you.
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That partner cannot find a better partner than you because you're the only one that wants to put up with their stuff.
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Nobody else wants to do that.
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Whether it's a company, whether it's a relationship,
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that thing, whatever it is,
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should always add to your life and not take away from it.
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for example the my friend
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that works for the company he completely doesn't have any time anymore uh for his friends
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or family constantly working constantly working became miserable his relationships are failing um
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so and he doesn't even make enough money to make up for
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that you know so it's like his relationships are completely failing
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and the company's taking away from his relationship his personal life it shouldn't do
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that if you're doing a job that job should add you should make your money and
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and you should like you should still have your life you should still have be able to keep your relationships
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and the same way you know i'm gonna say one thing have a partner
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and you have a good family that cares about you
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and your family says that this guy is not good for you
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or this girl is not good for you and they can see it
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and and you actually also know there's kind of red flags
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but you still choose that partner over your family
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and you lose your family because you chose
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that partner that's a dumb decision i'm gonna say it here that's a dumb decision
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if you have a good family i'm not talking about toxic families
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if you have a family that actually cares about you once
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that toxic person that got you away from your family knows
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that you don't have anyone anymore
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and you're not communicating with your family anymore you're done you're done you're literally like caged for them
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because they have all control now every time you want to
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leave though they'll say where do you want to go you
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don't have anyone they they literally feed off of this you cannot catch me go against literally the people
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that I love because of a man honestly truly truly had friends co-workers people
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that I used to know tell me that they did this
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when when they had a good family
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and they said it was the worst decision of my life the person became abusive the person literally did anything
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and everything to me and um yeah at the end of the day they felt isolated
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so much trauma coming out of it because
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you're not talking to anyone anymore you don't have anyone to
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go to now you only have this one toxic person
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and you're isolated with them with them sometimes people around you
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that love you you might feel like oh they're going against me they don't know what they're talking about whatever
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sometimes they know better believe me trust me i have seen
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it with my own eyes not with one case i've seen
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multiple cases like this sometimes your loved ones know better realize
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that it's okay to change your mind you don't have to do things like one way
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or just because you studied this and you're in this in this company
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and you did this job but you don't feel good there
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and you want to do something else it's okay to do
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something else you know it's never too late to change direction you will anyways go where you're meant to go
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or where your intuition leads you you will get there
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but maybe it's not a straight line maybe you have to go like this or try different things to
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in order for you to just feel like oh this is
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what i want to do i was watching this interview from tony robbins
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and tony robbins was basically talking about uh humans get unhappy
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and depressed when they stop progressing in life progression is literally what makes us happy that's why even
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if you look at people that are at the top they have millions
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and millions they that you you might look at them
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and see whoa oh my god they accomplished everything
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but they're miserable why do you think
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that is they stopped progressing in life they don't have
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that drive anymore because they have everything so we constantly need to find
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that thing that drives us need to find that thing
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that makes us want to evolve and
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when you feel like it's not okay to change your mind
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or you have to stay this way because this is what you've been taught
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and whatever you'll become miserable at the end of the day
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because you know that this is not what you want
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and second of all you feel like you're not progressing
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because this is not even what you want to begin with you don't even want to progress in this thing
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so you're stuck
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and you will really become miserable start thinking about okay maybe this was not what i wanted i tried this
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but this is not what i want this relationship i tried it
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but this was not what i want i want something else
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it's okay to change your mind it's okay we are here on earth to constantly evolve
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when you stop evolving that's when you stop living
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so once you've made that decision for yourself
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that you have to let go you plan your exit okay
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if you're in that company
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and you want to leave what you do is you search for an other job in another company
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or maybe you're like okay i don't want to work for now i'm going to take off
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and travel or whatever or i'm going to do whatever you can also do
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that uh whatever you want to do
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but plan your exit plan your exit in a relationship if if this is really not what you want.
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Okay, you start thinking about how can I get out of this relationship?
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Do you need financial?
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Do you need money?
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Whatever you need.
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Maybe you can find family members,
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friends, anyone that can help you to get out, plan your exit.
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You do not stay where respect is not served.
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You do not stay where you're manipulated.
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You do not stay where you're miserable.
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Once you have let go and you close
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that door you do not open that door again
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and why am I saying this listen I used to constantly
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when I was uh I had an ex me
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and my ex were good friends
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but um he would constantly like he would take care of me financially
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when I was really really broke and I really needed him
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but I didn't like the relationship anymore and there was no love
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and I wanted to leave I I constantly would like ask God,
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like, please give me someone that I love,
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that they can scare me.
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But that would never happen.
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And I would constantly be stuck with this partner.
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So what happened is I literally in a moment where I was my brokest,
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I was like, you know what,
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I have to let go of my ex.
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Otherwise, the person that is meant for me can never come in.
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So what I did is I was like,
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okay, I'm just gonna let go of him.
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I don't care that I literally have no money, you know, without him.
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So then I let him go.
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And then literally like a year later,
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I met my partner now and he's literally what I've wanted and what I've prayed for.
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So in order for that manifestation to come in that you want about maybe the partner or the job that you want,
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you need to let go of the thing that's not serving you.
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If the thing right now is not what you want,
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but you just hold on to it because it's comfortable,
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you have to have faith and let go because i really really believe
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if you don't believe in god believe in yourself if
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if whether it's the universe something else i don't know i
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really believe god has a bigger plan really honestly i i believe god has a bigger plan
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and i think the things we ask for are just pathetic
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and he has like such a big plan
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and we can have like huge huge stuff but we don't think
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that we can have it so we never attract it
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and this is what i told my friend as well i'm like you have to show God that you trust him.
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You don't have to be afraid to let go of this toxic job that you have right now and be like,
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oh no, if I don't let this go,
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I will not have something else.
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You will because God always provides.
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You will always have, always,
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but you have to have some faith.
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And if you don't believe in God, believe in yourself.
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You will provide for yourself.
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You will you got yourself out of
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so many bad situations did you not like we literally went through
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so much and we're still standing we're still doing our stuff doing like trying to get better
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and trying to evolve
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so you're still here are you not why do you not
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believe in yourself then why do you not think you can
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get better every time you thought this was the end and
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and like you would never get out of this you got out of it didn't you why do you think
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that this time you're gonna fail yourself you're not trust me
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trust me once you let go once i had let go of all the shitty friends
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that i had all like my partner
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that there was no love anymore once i let all of
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that go i i promise you everything i ever wanted came in
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and there is no person that has left my life
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that i missed truly truly i'm sorry and there is no person
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that i would take back from from my previous life like in this like in this new reality
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that i'm living no i'm sorry i'm literally not but once all that
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that like unwanted is gone your true purpose starts to show you start to see what is meant for you
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and and literally miracles start to happen
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because you had faith you had faith in yourself you had faith in god
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and you were not afraid to take risks sometimes in life you need to get uncomfortable see
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when you're jumping from your present reality to the new one
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that you want in the beginning it might be a little
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chaotic like it's not gonna be amazing from the get-go you know
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and you have to accept that
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but that's okay you know you've survived much worse much worse this time
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when you're going into this you actually have a plan
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and you have wisdom that you didn't have before
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so this time around it will be different i promise you it will be different
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and don't also think like oh no it's too late like my age this and
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that whatever no people have done incredible things at 60 at
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70 they've accomplished only you know it doesn't matter it doesn't
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matter your age doesn't matter see age is just a number
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we are a soul you know it's it's all about our soul you guys have to realize
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that our souls are here on earth to evolve literally
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and to learn constantly we have to learn once we stop learning
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and evolving we stop living so in order for you to do
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that you constantly have to experience new things you have to create those experiences for yourself
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and you don't have to be scared to do
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that fear stops everything instead of fear have faith have faith in yourself
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if you believe in god have faith in god have faith in the universe
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everything will work out for you at the end
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but don't do a dishonor to yourself by staying where you're not welcome anyways guys i love you guys
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so much i'm so sorry you're looking like this
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because i know a lot of people don't like it uh
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when i am not dressed up
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but honestly i just really wanted to share this message with you guys
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because i felt like i felt some of you need it um so yeah i love you guys so much bye
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