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Hello my beautiful subscribers!

大家好，我美麗的訂閱者們！

I'm so excited to be filming.

能開始拍攝我真的太興奮了。

When I tell you guys I'm committed, I love you guys, I mean it.

當我告訴你們我是認真的，我愛你們，我是真心的。

Like, let's just talk about the elephant in the room.

咱們就直接挑明大家都心知肚明的那件事吧。

Which is my appearance today.

這就是我今天的樣子。

I obviously look crazy.

I look like Mama Odie from The Princess and the Frog.

我長得像《公主與青蛙》裡的歐迪媽媽。

I just.. i'm not giving okay like i usually

我只是……我不像平時那樣願意讓步了，好嗎？

film with a full face of makeup on my hair looks

amazing right now i've got some hair oil in i've been staying in sydney at my mom's house

Like this is so embarrassing, but you know what?

I don't care.

Okay, I'm committed and I'm going to be uploading every single week and I have very, very exciting news that I'm going to be telling you guys.

好的，我已經下定決心了，以後每週都會上傳影片，而且我還有非常非常激動人心的訊息要告訴大家。

If you're hearing about this for the first time, this is because this is the first time that I'm announcing this.

I am finally starting a podcast next year.

I have been putting like so much thought into this.

I've been thinking about this for over a year.

我已經思考這個問題一年多了。

I see all your comments.

I know everybody wants me to start a podcast.

I know and I will.

It's just like everybody has a podcast and I want to do it right.

be like a whole show so I've been waiting to rent a bigger place

so I can create an entire filming room with like this really nice setup.

I want to have microphones and couches and just like I want it to be

amazing

so i am finally starting a podcast it's going to be

up on spotify it's going to be up on my youtube

and there'll be long podcast episodes sometimes with a co -host

有時還會有與搭檔共同主持的長篇播客節目。

and sometimes by myself like the solo episodes

but yeah I'm just very excited next year is going to be such a good year

and I have so much amazing content planned for this channel.

So stick with me.

I'm obsessed with this.

This is Emco Beauty's watermelon lip balm and this isn't sponsored.

They have sponsored me in the past but Actually just bought this well actually I made my boyfriend buy it for me.

Yeah before we get into today's video I want to say a massive thank you to Emma sleep for sponsoring today's video.

So as I've mentioned I'm staying at my mom's house in Sydney.

Anyway, I wanted a mattress that would be super easy

that would just arrive in a box and all I have to do is Literally unbox it by myself.

I'm gonna insert a video here of me doing everything.

I got a mattress that was delivered so quickly I'm pretty sure it was next day delivery, which is wild.

It was so easy for me to unbox by myself, okay?

I'm gonna insert a video of me doing that.

我要插入一段我做那件事的影片。

And also I got two pillows and they are, I am not kidding, the best pillows ever.

Like they are so, so comfortable.

I'm obsessed with these pillows.

They've got so many different things on their website.

They also have a sofa bed on the website.

They've got different pillows, different types of mattresses.

It's just, it's giving comfy.

It's giving, we're sleeping well, we're waking up, we're getting shit done in 2024, which is the vibe, okay?

I have a busy year ahead.

I am not trying to lose sleep.

over anything love the idea of a mattress showing up in a box

我最愛的就是床墊裝在一個盒子裡送上門這個點子。

if you guys are interested i'm going to leave everything in the description below where is my cha time.

That's the real question here.

Oh, he's on the way.

He's two minutes away.

All right.

Today's pep talk is don't be afraid of losing people.

今天的勵志話是：別害怕失去任何人。

Be afraid of losing yourself. Did you hear me?

要害怕迷失自我。你聽到了嗎？

Because let me say it again.

Don't be afraid of losing people.

Be afraid of losing yourself.

Let me tell you something.

Okay?

The more you try and control something, the more it ends up controlling you.

Who do I think I am to give you this advice?

It's because I'm a complete control freak.

Like, completely.

I want to be in control of everything.

And it is my absolute downfall, right?

這簡直就是我的致命弱點，對吧？

It's a good thing, but it is also a bad thing.

這是一件好事，但同時也是一件壞事。

And I think it's more a bad thing than it is good.

而且我認為這件事弊大於利。

Because if you try and control something, then it ends up controlling you.

因為如果你試圖控制某樣東西，最終反而會被它控制。

If you try and control how another person is treating you, that's going to end up controlling you.

如果你試圖控制別人如何對待你，最終反而會被這種執念所控制。

It's a waste of time.

這是浪費時間。

Think of you in front of this puzzle and you've got this last piece and it's not fitting.

想像一下，你正對著這個拼圖，手裡拿著最後一塊，卻怎麼也拼不進去。

to make peace with the fact that you have gone through

接受你已經經歷過這一切的事實，與自己和解。

that whole puzzle and you've done all of

整個謎題你都已經解開了

that hard work just for it to not work out is not the right piece it cannot work it cannot

付出那麼多努力最後卻一無所獲，這根本就不對，不該是這樣的，絕不能是這樣。

and that's the same thing with like people and friends

人和朋友之間也是一樣的道理。

and everything in your life right maybe you work

以及你生活中的一切，也許你正在工作

so hard on something and then you get to the very end

and it doesn't work out that doesn't mean everything is bad and life is horrible and you're never gonna feel happy again.

It's just something that was right for you in that phase and then at the very end it wasn't meant to be.

It didn't work out.

I feel like all of us can relate to

potentially in the past exaggerating your place in somebody's life which in turn ends up breaking your own heart.

You know, I'm not even talking about just relationships.

I'm just saying like, you need to stop being afraid of losing people and be more afraid of losing yourself.

I just couldn't imagine myself changing myself

around other people i think i would just end up

so depressed and losing my mind because i'd be suppressing the person

that i am on the inside who is luma what does

she like to do what are her hobbies how does she

feel about the world how does she feel about things i

feel like i can get along with a lot of people okay in my last youtube video it this is

so amazing it really gave me goosebumps i was reading all the comments

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and you guys are from

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so many different countries oh my god i was shocked i

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love it like i just was thinking to myself oh my god i could get along with so many

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different countries like I could be friends with so many of you

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that live in so many different places that come from

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so many different cultures I'm just not a judgmental person like

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I love all cultures I want to be friends with everybody um

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In the same way that I can be friends with everybody, I feel like it's easy for me to romanticize people and to meet someone and be like, oh, you're such a lovely person, like you could be a great partner.

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At least in the past I was like this.

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And I know some of you guys would be like this too.

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And the fact is, you have to just take your emotions out of things sometimes and look at things on paper.

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Almost like if you describe this person on paper, are they the perfect match for you to make you happy?

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Like that perfect match?

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Or are you just going to break your own heart by convincing yourself that this person is a perfect match?

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needs to fit your life and you need to find a way to make it work

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Because you know what happens in the end?

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You lose yourself trying to keep this person.

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Fun fact about me: I love my fluids, okay?

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I'm such a big fluids person and my drink I don't know

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if you guys have cha time overseas I don't know do people like there's there's bubble tea everywhere

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but my drink is a large peach black tea with 30 % sugar and rainbow jelly and ice always ice Amazing.

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I love the rainbow jelly.

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I love chewing the jelly.

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I feel like people do this all the time, where maybe they meet someone and the story is a little bit crazy.

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They're like, oh, we met at the most perfect timing, you know, blah, blah, blah.

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And then when it doesn't work out, they're paralyzing themselves because they're thinking, "Oh my God, I met this person in such a crazy way.

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It needs to work out.

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Otherwise, who am I gonna meet?" That's a limiting belief, We've spoken about this in the past, limiting beliefs.

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Here's an example of a limiting belief.

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This person doesn't want to be my friend anymore.

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I will never find a friend like them ever again.

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I'm useless and it just means that no one wants to be friends with me.

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You know why I'm smiling?

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Because it's funny.

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It's funny, if that person doesn't want to be your friend, you should be so excited for the new friends that are going to come into your life.

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You know what I mean?

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You never lack.

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You just transition.

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That is something that I always say that I love.

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I never lack.

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I just transition.

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If you leave me, I have learned now how to pick myself up and find even better.

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You are going to be a fucking flashback.

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What is Jhene Aiko saying in that song?

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Bounced on his ass turned that boy into a flashback.

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The fuck?

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You think I'm gonna sit there crying over you constantly?

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No, not in this lifetime.

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I don't believe in paralyzing myself over this concept and idea

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that this one person is the only person that could ever bring color into my life.

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Wild behavior.

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I refuse because it's just, it's not acceptable to think like that.

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So if you're thinking like that and you're worried and you feel

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that sense of urgency to keep someone and you're really worried about losing them, then you need to stop because there is something wrong and something we need to work on here.

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that there's a scale, right?

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And both people, whether you're friends or dating, whatever it is, both people need to respect each other.

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Respect is so big, you guys.

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Have you ever been friends with somebody that you just don't really respect that much?

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and it's like not even because they're a bad person maybe they make bad decisions for themselves

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maybe they make you cringe a little bit and you're just kind of like

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why do you do

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that you know what i mean like why do you keep running back to

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that guy when he clearly tweets you bad then you sort of like lose respect for them

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and maybe that makes you feel guilty

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but it's inevitable then the scale is tipped

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and you start feeling a type of way around them you start being more snappy more rude more resentful

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and it's the same with partners like relationships if you're dating someone

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and they're just a mad bum

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and all they do is sit around bumming it they never

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buy you flowers they never do anything for you they're literally

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just there you're not going to respect them you're going to treat them like and you guys will have problems because

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is tipped and one of you doesn't respect the other and you're just breaking your own heart, trying to convince yourself that this person deserves a place in your life.

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Wild.

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wild behavior you're just hurting yourself do you understand what I'm saying like you can't you cannot force things

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that is something that I have learned so

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when people ask me do you think that you

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and your partner are gonna get married bitch I don't know I can hope

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so I don't want to be out there on the streets

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but like I cannot help how I might feel in five years time

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or how he might feel maybe one day I wake up I hope this never happens

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but like things have changed maybe he's not And I don't think this will happen because he's very, very much the opposite of this,

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but maybe he just becomes lazy and he quits his job and he's sitting around and he doesn't want to do anything.

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If you're sitting around bumming it, I'm going to lose attraction to you and we cannot be together

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because I will not respect you the same way that I respected you once before.

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Why would you break your own heart trying to make space for this person to fit into your life

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when there are so many other people out there that you will respect, love and learn from and grow with rather than this person that's course has ended in your life?

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You understand?

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And no, it's not easy.

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It's not easy.

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It's easier said than done.

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I'm not just sitting here being like live, laugh, love.

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So we have the way we feel emotionally and then how we feel rationally.

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That's why I always try and step back and I always say, write the situation down on paper, take your emotions out of it.

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I'm going to open up to you about something.

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I feel like I have an anxious attachment style.

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I feel like I have relationship anxiety.

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If you don't know what that is, Merry Christmas to you.

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So glad you didn't experience it.

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I have this constant fear that who I am with is going to get up

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and look at me in the eyes and be like, I don't like you anymore and just leave.

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I know some of you feel that too, okay?

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So when I get these questions from you guys being like, how do you deal with relationship anxiety?

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Well, when you figure it out, you let me know.

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What I have learned through trying to deal with my relationship anxiety and going to therapy about it, reading a lot about it, is...

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I am a controlling person.

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I want to feel like I'm in control.

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But in relationships, you cannot be in control.

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And the more you focus on the fact that you cannot be in control, and the things that might distract you from that so

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that you can kind of let go of the control and live more in the moment, the more you will enjoy your relationship.

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I just choose to make myself busy.

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If he's going out, I know I'm going to feel anxious about it.

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I always do.

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I'm sorry, but that's just how I am.

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Maybe you're sitting there thinking, you?

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You feel anxious when your boyfriend goes out and stuff?

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Yes, I do.

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Yes, I sit here and give you guys advice, and I built this whole community of people, and I give you pep talks.

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I am a human being.

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I have flaws.

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The reason I've made this channel is because I struggle with things and so anyway, but I have learned to deal with how I feel

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and I'm rational and I always write things down on paper and it's like and it's like, okay, he's going out.

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He's a good boyfriend.

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If he wanted to cheat, he would.

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It doesn't matter where he is.

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It doesn't matter what career he's in.

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If he wanted to, he would.

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So if he is going to do something bad, he's going to do it.

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And me sitting here.

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pacing like this back and forth, checking his location, worrying about what he's doing is not is not going to do anything for me or the situation.

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It doesn't make it any better or worse.

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It's just a waste of my time.

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What can you do in that time to make yourself feel better?

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What I usually do is I make plans too.

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If I know he's going to go out, I'm going to be like, okay, I'll go out too.

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It's a perfect opportunity for me to go out with my friends as well.

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It's not like on some, oh, you're going out.

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I have to go out.

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No, it's like we spend a lot of time together.

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So if you're going to make plans with your friends, I'm going to make plans with my friends.

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Sometimes I don't.

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Sometimes I sit at home and I edit and stuff like that.

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You know, I do emails, whatever, about it and then we're both having a nice time away from each other then we miss each other

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when we come back together we're like So happy to see each other.

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It's a win -win situation.

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I used to be very intimidated by confident people because confident people are attractive.

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And then when I became one, I don't feel intimidated.

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When I meet somebody that can take a risk, when I meet somebody that is in their dream career and is happy with their life and has good relationships, they are somebody that is attractive to me.

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Like, I want to be your friend because everyone else is just so victim of life average.

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I don't want that.

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I don't want that average energy around me.

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You ever hung out with people and they're so boring and it's just like You feel bad about yourself 'cause you're like, "Why, I'm not fitting in with this group." No, you are too big and too colorful for them,

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so get the fuck out of that situation, okay?

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But anyway, what I was gonna say is, I find it inspiring when somebody is independent And so you should work on being like that too.

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Because if you're independent, right?

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If you're dating someone, but you still make time for your friends, you still go on girls trips, you save your money, and you go overseas and see the things

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that you wanted to see before you even started dating this person, they are less likely to get up and just leave you one day because you are somebody that inspires them.

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You're gonna get sick of something if you have it 24 /7 in front of you.

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If you gave me this drink every single day, I mean, I do have this drink almost damn near every day.

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But really though, if you put that drink in front of me every single day, I will get sick of it.

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It's the way the world works.

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It's the way we work.

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If you're with your partner every single day.

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and they are nagging you they're like scared to lose you they control you you're gonna get the ick.

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You're not gonna want to be with them.

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Sooner or later, you guys are gonna break up.

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So if you want to save your friendships, your relationship, if you want to be attractive, be independent.

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You need to sit down and write down your goals on paper.

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I do this all the time.

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I manifest everything that I want all the fucking time, okay?

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This is what I want for 2024.

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I want to go to America.

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I actually do want to go on a big trip to the States.

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I want to see New York.

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I want to do this.

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I want to start a podcast.

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I want to do that.

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This is separate to my own goals.

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I was my own person before we started dating.

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I don't have to do everything with him.

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Maybe I want to go on a girl's trip.

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He doesn't have to come with me everywhere.

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Like, hello, I want to do my own things.

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I don't want to resent him and spend 24 /7 with him, and then one day, one of us wakes up and is like, Bitch, I've lost myself.

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All I do is hang out with you and we don't do our own thing.

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That's not healthy.

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That's how you're going to just lose that person.

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Stop.

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I am more afraid of not doing things because of a relationship.

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And I think that's healthy because in turn it makes my partner more attracted to me

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because I chase my dreams and I'm my own person.

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If you pull something you're just pushing them away.

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But if you push back and you're working on yourself they'll always be there.

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You will be their Roman Empire.

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Do you get what I'm saying?

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I don't mean this in a vain way.

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And if you take this as me being up myself, go ahead, doll, go off.

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But I'm telling you, I don't mean this in a vain way.

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"but I know for a fact that everyone I've ever dated thinks about me to this day.

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I know it, okay?

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I know it.

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I know for a fact that they lurk on my YouTube and my Instagram and they watch my shit and they care.

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I'm not saying they want to date me.

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Maybe they're in other relationships.

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They'll never get over me because...

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I am independent, always have been, always will be.

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I'm not that ex that you stalk and you're like, ooh, her boyfriend's kinda, she downgraded.

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No, it's only up from here.

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I never lack.

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I transition.

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Like I said before, I don't lack.

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That's how it is.

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Take it or leave it.

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Do you want to be the 10 % of people in this world

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that just keep being resilient and moving forward or the other 90 % that is just so victim of life?

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Here's my sob story.

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Am I going to sit around here holding it on my shoulder like I'm Santa with a big sack being like, this is my sad story.

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No, I just keep transitioning.

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keep going up and I know for a fact

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that I am these clowns Roman Empire for life for life because I am independent.

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And they know they'll never find another one like me.

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I'm not saying I'm the prettiest.

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I'm saying I'm independent and that is something that is attractive and that is something that is unforgettable.

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Because that means that these people that try and play you, when you bounce on them, they know.

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They'll always sit there feeling like, "Oh, she really did that.

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She just moved on.

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She did all the things she said she was gonna do."

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If I tell you that I'm going to go to New York this year, bitch, I'm going.

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And that's something that the people in my life know, and I think that's why they want to stay friends with me.

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She is a doer.

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When she says something, she does it.

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There's no cap here.

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When I say it, I'm on the way to doing it.

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That is today's pep talk.

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Don't be afraid of losing that person.

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Be afraid of losing yourself in the process of keeping them.

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But I hope you guys liked today's pep talk.

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I feel like this was a pretty good pep talk.

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Usually that's the case when I don't have any notes and I'm just kind of...

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speaking about things.

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But yeah, I hope you guys liked today's video.

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I am so excited to read your comments about what you guys think about me starting a podcast.

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If you have any requests or anything, I already have a name.

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I'm going to get some nice lighting and cameras and I have a co -host for some of my podcast episodes.

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She is amazing.

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She is so funny.

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She has such good advice.

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I'm excited.

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I'm so excited for 2024 and I love you guys

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so very much and I will see you guys in my next video next week.

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這段影片共有 348 個句子、3944 個單詞可供跟讀。講話部分時長為 17:57。說話人語速較快，每分鐘約 220 個詞，會出現較多連讀和弱讀。 86% 的單詞屬於英語最常用的 3,000 詞，其餘的詞建議在練習前先學一下。

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影片中 15 個值得學習的單詞，附發音和釋義：

單詞	發音	釋義
podcast 名詞	/ˈpɑdˌkæst/	播客
transition 名詞	/tɹænˈzɪʃ.ən/	過渡 /過渡, 轉變 /轉變
pillow 名詞	/ˈpɪl.oʊ/ [ˈpʰɪɫ.ö̞]	枕頭 /枕頭
mattress 名詞	/ˈmætɹɪs/	床墊 /床墊
belief 名詞	/bɪˈliːf/	相信, 信心
anxiety 名詞	/æŋˈzaɪ.əti/	焦慮 /焦慮, 擔心
anxious 形容詞	/ˈæŋkʃəs/	緊張 /緊張
sponsor 名詞	/ˈspɒn.səː/	保證人 /保證人
jelly 名詞	/ˈd͡ʒɛli/	果凍 /果凍, 果子凍 /果子凍
overseas 副詞	/ˌoʊvɚˈsiːz/	海外, 國外 /國外
convince 動詞	/kənˈvɪns/	說服 /說服
fluid 名詞	/ˈflu.ɪd/	流體 /流體, 液體 /液體
emotion 名詞	/ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/	感情, 情感
insert 動詞	/ɪnˈsɝt/	插入, 插上
inspire 動詞	/ɪnˈspaɪə(ɹ)/	授意, 鼓舞

影片中出現的短語動詞

單詞	發音	釋義
go out 動詞		出, 出口
end up 動詞		到達
work out 動詞	/ˌwɝk ˈaʊt/	計算 /計算, 算出
wake up 動詞	/ˌweɪk ˈʌp/	醒, 醒來 /醒來
get up 動詞		起床
come back 動詞		回來 /回來, 返回
go ahead 動詞	/ˌɡoʊ əˈhɛd/	請便 /請便
go through 動詞		通過 /通過

需要注意的發音

說話人用了 167 次縮略和弱讀形式，例如 I'm, you're, don't。請按聽到的簡短形式來說。

“sh” 和 “zh” 音: transition /tɹænˈzɪʃ.ən/, anxious /ˈæŋkʃəs/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, shock /ʃɔk/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/
長單詞——注意重音位置: anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, potentially /pəˈtɛnʃ(ə)li/, acceptable /əkˈsɛp.tə.bəl/, inevitable /ɪˈnɛvɪtəbəl/, emotionally /ɪˈməʊʃənəli/

如何用這段影片練習

先完整聽一遍影片，不要開口，記下不認識的單詞。
先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟讀，熟練之後再回到正常速度。
錄下自己的聲音並與原聲對比，特別注意 podcast, transition, pillow 這類單詞。

影片中的語法

說話人最常用的結構，並附上影片中的原話：

結構	影片中的用法
現在完成進行時 have/has been + -ing — 以前開始、現在仍在繼續的動作	i've been staying · have been putting · I've been thinking
條件句 if + 從句，will/would + 動詞 — 條件及其結果	If he wanted to cheat, he would · If he wanted to, he would
現在完成時 have/has + 過去分詞 — 過去發生但與現在仍有關聯的事	have sponsored · I've mentioned · have gone
被動語態 be + 過去分詞 — 強調發生了什麼，而不是誰做的	isn't sponsored · was delivered · wasn't meant

什麼是跟讀法？

跟讀法 (Shadowing) 是一種有科學依據的語言學習技巧，最初開發用於專業口譯員的培訓，並由多語言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。這個方法簡單而強大：您在聽英語母語原聲的同時立即大聲重複——就像是一個延遲1-2秒緊跟說話者的影子。與被動聽力或語法練習不同，跟讀法強迫您的大腦和口腔肌肉同時處理並模模擬實的講話模式。研究表明它能顯著提高發音準確性，語調，節奏，連讀，聽力理解和口語流利度——使其成為雅思口語備考和真實英語交流最有效的方法之一。

影子跟讀法: 閱讀完整分步指南 →

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