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Let's be so real right now.

If you're not already in a happy relationship, chances are you're looking for the one.

Your soulmate.

Your peanut butter to your jelly.

Depending on how you were raised, you may have developed a particular attachment style which we, unfortunately, bring with us into the dating search.

We've talked about them before on this channel, but let's recap the four main attachment styles.

Secure.

A long and healthy relationship.

This is the one we all strive for.

Avoidant.

Can't build long-term relationships, avoids any type of intimacy.

Anxious, codependent and scared of rejection or abandonment.

Disorganized, trouble trusting others and changing behaviors.

We're going to focus on avoidant and anxious attachments

and we'll see what happens when these two attachment styles end up in a relationship.

You want a hug?

Ew.

Avoidant attachment is arguably the most difficult attachment style to have a relationship with.

Like the other attachment styles, it's developed due to the way their caregivers raised them.

This doesn't mean their caregivers ignored or avoided their child.

The caregivers avoided any display of emotion or intimacy with a child.

Think of a child falling down, scraping their knee, and crying.

Sometimes, children cry out of fear or shock, not necessarily due to pain.

Adults know this.

Instead of comforting the child and helping them realize that they're alright, the caregivers may see something like, you'd better stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about.

This lets the child know that what just happened isn't a valid reason for tears, and crying should be reprimanded.

In the future, the child may not want to show sadness or let see them cry.

This is also the same for parents who may not give hugs or physical intimacy to their child.

In an adult relationship, avoidant attachment can show up as a strong sense of independence, avoiding emotional or physical intimacy,

feeling threatened by anyone who attempts to be close, and a belief that they don't need anyone.

Are we out of the woods?

Taylor Swift's song, Out of the Woods, was a bit of a controversial one when it came out.

For such a talented lyricist, a lot of people were disappointed with the chorus.

If you haven't heard it, the song's chorus is just Taylor repeating, Are we out of the woods? and Are we in the clear?

At first glance, it seems a little easy, but once I found out the reason, I was gagged.

They depict the level of anxiety

and codependency in a toxic relationship the lines were repeated over

and over to mimic the cyclical feeling of the relationship's ups and downs.

This is a great way to describe anxious attachment.

Those with anxious attachment may have had caregivers that went from being attentive to indifferent to the child.

These caregivers may have also gone overwhelmed easily or possibly blamed the child for being the reason why they're overwhelmed or upset.

In a relationship, an anxious attachment can manifest as being clingy to their partner, needing approval from their partner, being scared of actual or perceived criticism and judgement,

and having feelings of unworthiness.

Put them together and what do we have?

The dating world is crazy and beautiful all at once.

One of the beautiful things is that we get to meet people from all walks of life.

The crazy thing is that we have to find ways to work together to create that healthy relationship.

What if an anxious attachment, let's name her Amy, and an avoidant attachment, let's name him Mark, got together?

What would happen?

As an avoidant, Mark never received any signs of physical or emotional intimacy from his caregivers.

Whenever Amy goes to give him a hug or a kiss just because, he moves out of the way or cringes.

Because Amy is incredibly sensitive to rejection, she now believes that Mark is upset with her or possibly doesn't love her anymore.

As an anxious attachment with codependent tendencies, Amy wants Mark to come with her to the grocery store.

She figures they can make a day out of it.

Mark immediately declines because he can do his errands on his own.

So should Amy.

These two consistently trigger past wounds from each other's childhood, but they don't realize it.

They're also not communicating these pain points with each other.

Unfortunately, if they don't communicate, they will continue unknowingly hurting and invalidating each other.

In the relationship, it will quickly spiral into an unhealthy, toxic one.

I don't know about you, but Amy and Mark's relationship seemed miserable.

Now let's clarify that any kind of individual with any kind of attachment style can be in a relationship with anyone.

However, the trick is to communicate with your partner

and even a mental health professional to see how you can work through your attachment style

and how to make work with your partner.

Have you ever been in this relationship dynamic?

Should we do another video like this with another combo of attachment styles?

Let us know in the comments.

And don't forget to like, subscribe, and share with a friend.

See you next time.

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本課的詞彙與口語要點

這節 B2 級別的口語課以影片“When an Anxious Attachment Dates an Avoidant”為素材。影片中反覆出現的詞有：attachment, relationship, style, caregivers, anxious。這段影片共有 70 個句子、865 個單詞可供跟讀。講話部分時長為 4:29。說話人語速較快，每分鐘約 193 個詞，會出現較多連讀和弱讀。只有 79% 的單詞屬於英語最常用的 3,000 詞，詞彙難度較高。

影片中的重點詞彙

影片中最難的 15 個單詞，附發音和釋義：

單詞	發音	釋義
anxious 形容詞	/ˈæŋkʃəs/	緊張 /緊張
intimacy 名詞	/ˈɪn.tɪ.mə.si/	親密 /親密, 親近 /親近
overwhelm 動詞	/ˌoʊ.vɚˈwɛlm/	吞沒 /吞沒
rejection 名詞	/ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/	拒絕 /拒絕
scare 動詞	/skɛɚ/	嚇唬 /嚇唬, 使害怕
attentive 形容詞	/əˈtɛntɪv/	注意的, 細心的 /細心的
depict 動詞	/dɪˈpɪkt/	描繪 /描繪, 描述
errand 名詞	/ˈɛɹənd/	任務 /任務
indifferent 形容詞	/ɪnˈdɪf.ɹənt/	冷漠, 冷淡
invalidate 動詞	/ɪnˈvæl.əˌdeɪt/	使無效 /使無效
lyricist 名詞	/ˈlɪɹ.ɪsɪst/	作詞 /作詞, 作詞家 /作詞家
scrape 動詞	/skɹeɪp/	刮, 擦
soulmate 名詞		靈魂伴侶 /靈魂伴侶
manifest 名詞	/ˈmæn.ɪ.fɛst/	宣告 /宣告, 宣言
strive 動詞	/ˈstɹaɪv/	努力, 奮鬥 /奮鬥

影片中出現的短語動詞

單詞	發音	釋義
come out 動詞	/ˌkʌm ˈaʊt/	出, 出來 /出來
fall down 動詞	/fɔl ˈdaʊn/	落下, 倒下
find out 動詞		找出, 查明
show up 動詞		露面

值得反覆跟讀的句子

影片中簡短而完整的句子，可以直接用在日常對話裡：

Let's be so real right now.
You want a hug?
Are we out of the woods?
Put them together and what do we have?
Have you ever been in this relationship dynamic?

影片中的語法

說話人最常用的結構，並附上影片中的原話：

結構	影片中的用法
被動語態 be + 過去分詞 — 強調發生了什麼，而不是誰做的	were raised · should be reprimanded · was gagged
現在完成時 have/has + 過去分詞 — 過去發生但與現在仍有關聯的事	We've talked · haven't heard · Have you ever been

需要注意的發音

說話人用了 20 次縮略和弱讀形式，例如 don't, they're, doesn't。請按聽到的簡短形式來說。

“th” 音: unhealthy /ʌnˈhɛl.θi/, threaten /ˈθɹɛt.n̩/
“sh” 和 “zh” 音: anxious /ˈæŋkʃəs/, rejection /ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/
長單詞——注意重音位置: intimacy /ˈɪn.tɪ.mə.si/, abandonment /əˈbæn.d(ə)n.m(ə)nt/, disorganized /dɪsˈɔːɡənaɪzd/, invalidate /ɪnˈvæl.əˌdeɪt/, unknowingly /ʌnˈnəʊ.ɪŋ.li/

中文母語者容易讀錯的音：

/v/ — 不要讀成 /w/，上齒輕觸下唇: caregiver /ˈkɛɹɡɪvɚ/, avoidant /əˈvɔɪdənt/, overwhelm /ˌoʊ.vɚˈwɛlm/, attentive /əˈtɛntɪv/, invalidate /ɪnˈvæl.əˌdeɪt/
詞尾子音 — 要讀清楚，後面不要加母音: attachment /əˈtæt͡ʃmənt/, anxious /ˈæŋkʃəs/, avoidant /əˈvɔɪdənt/, chorus /ˈkɔːɹəs/, abandonment /əˈbæn.d(ə)n.m(ə)nt/
/r/ 和 /l/ 的區別: lyricist /ˈlɪɹ.ɪsɪst/, spiral /ˈspaɪɹəl/, clarify /ˈklæɹ.ɪ.faɪ/, arguably /ˈɑɹɡjuəbli/, miserable /ˈmɪz(ə)ɹəbəl/

如何用這段影片練習

先完整聽一遍影片，不要開口，記下不認識的單詞。
先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟讀，熟練之後再回到正常速度。
錄下自己的聲音並與原聲對比，特別注意 anxious, intimacy, overwhelm 這類單詞。

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