跟讀練習: Why People Don’t Respect You (Do This Instead) - 通過影片學習英語口語

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The more you try to get respect, the less of it you will probably wind up with.

And I know that might sound weird, so let me be more precise here.

Yes, you can absolutely learn to command more respect, but many of the most common ways people go about that just lead to them getting way less of it.

So I want to break down three of those most common respect -killing moves, and we're going to be using characters from the Peaky Blinders to illustrate those, including showing the better way from Tommy Shelby himself.

But first, we're going to start with the first respect killer coming from the Digbeth Kid.

Now, for context, this is someone who has come to Tommy looking for work.

No, I'm Digbeth Kid.

The Dig...

What are you, boxer?

Digbeth Kid, like Billy the Kid.

What are you...

Wait, wait.

It's not a real gun.

So, the Digbeth Kid, as he calls himself, comes in with a fake name and a fake gun.

He knows he's meeting Tommy Shelby, and so he's trying to appear dangerous, but his body language gives him away.

You can see his twitchy prey -like movements.

He shuffles from foot to foot, he can't decide where to look, and he holds his hat across his body like he's afraid of taking up too much space.

We've talked about this on the channel before, but these herky -jerky prey -like movements that you might see in a squirrel instantly signal internal unsafety.

So to avoid this, you can maintain eye contact, slow down your movements, and open up your stance.

And you see Tommy doing this throughout this entire video in comfortable settings and in high -pressure situations.

Please allow me to put a bullet in this scum tinker's head.

No, he's been chosen.

Could the chosen one smoke?

But back to the kid.

He is attempting to portray the facade of a hardened criminal because he thinks it's going to get him a job, but the facade actually causes a problem.

You've been arrested.

You see, the tough guy act nearly loses him the job.

It's only when he drops that and admits he's never been arrested

that he gets what he wants because his idea of what they're looking for is the complete opposite of what Tommy needs.

And this is just as true in all of our lives.

It can be very tempting to change what you say or how you act to appeal to others, especially in job interviews or dates or when you're talking to someone that you admire.

And in the short term, yes, it might work out.

But those facades have gaps, and eventually the gaps will get exposed.

And when those cracks show, the whole thing usually backfires.

So the first respect sin that you want to cut out is don't try to be what you think others want.

In fact, holding true and saying what you won't give other people often creates more respect.

This works because people trust and respect consistency.

Whatever short terms

that you gain from morphing yourself to become what other people want will just cost you respect

when that consistency breaks down the line.

And that brings us to the second respect issue coming from Billy Kimber.

Is there any man here named Shelby?

I said, is there any man here named Shelby?

Kimber enters loud and brash, and many people think this is how you command respect, by dominating everyone else in the room.

The problem is that this inevitably creates a combative frame where one side wins and the other side loses.

If you do this, you're going to either wind up surrounded by yes -men

that are down to lose all the time or in an argument.

Either way, you've got extremely fragile respect.

Tommy avoids this trap by rejecting the combative frame.

By not reacting to the gunshot with fear or anger and And instead calmly ordering drinks, he turns this confrontation into a discussion.

And you can follow the same plain book

when you sense someone is trying to get a rise from you with some sort of insult or a threat.

And it's a surprisingly simple move that pulls others into your frame.

You can watch how Tommy does it here.

I'm told the boss is called Tommy and I'm guessing that's you

because you're looking me up and down like I'm a fucking tart.

I want to know what you want.

You see, the frame of an insult or a threat is that you need to match their energy.

You have to reply super quickly and intensely in order to win in this combative frame.

But pausing before you speak, usually for 3 to 5 seconds, up to 10 or 15 if you need it, will allow you to reset the frame.

You can take a breath, center yourself, and then respond instead of react.

And to be clear here, a reaction means that you are being totally pulled into that other person's frame.

You're allowing them to set the tone and then dictate your behavior.

But a response means that you take in what the other person has said, but you're maintaining your frame.

You're replying on your own terms.

Now, Billy Kimber doesn't respond.

He reacts to any perceived challenge.

Which one am I talking to?

Which one of you is the boss?

I'm Mr. Kimber's advisor and accountant.

And I'm the fucking boss, okay?

I am Billy Kimber!

I run the races.

And here he is demonstrating what might be termed the Joffrey rule, which is that if you have to insist on your status in any situation, you don't have status.

I am the king.

Any man who must say I am the king is no true king.

This highlights a key difference between Tommy and Kimber and the types that we encounter like that in the world.

Kimber fights and argues to be respected.

Tommy never does.

So many people think that being respected means insisting upon it all the time.

You can't let anyone get away with disrespecting you.

But there's always going to be people who want to undermine you, play status games, or just casually disrespect you without even thinking about it.

If you get defensive or you overreact, you will just come across as insecure.

So when these sorts of challenges come, it doesn't mean that anything has gone wrong.

You do not need respect from every single person and you don't need to win every interaction.

Just take a breath, ignore the bait, and maintain your frame.

Which brings us to the third issue coming from Inspector Campbell.

For context here, Campbell and Tommy are meeting to negotiate.

Now watch how Tommy opens this conversation.

I'm a businessman.

I want to make my business successful.

So we're on the CM side.

I think perhaps we could be.

Tommy is direct.

He says what he wants clearly and he maintains this directness throughout the conversation.

Contrast this with how Campbell handles it.

How can we be on the same side

when i see things like this campbell is repeatedly sarcastic he's

condescending he's indirect he is uncomfortable with the direct aggression

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so he uses passive aggressive comments instead now people who use

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this kind of comments don't want to fully own their hostility

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so they hide their aggression under innocent sounding comments to give

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themselves plausible deniability they want to maintain power over people without other people realizing

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that they're doing it we all know people who play games like this, and nothing feels more patronizing.

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But if you respond in the right way, it can totally turn the tables.

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So how does Tommy handle these sorts of passive aggressive comments?

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Well, the same two steps that you can use.

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First, Tommy responds to the superficial layer of Campbell's underhanded remark.

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Forgive me, I don't seem to have a pen to write down this rather long list of demands.

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And this is true in real life.

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If someone makes a comment that could be interpreted as either genuine or maybe it's sarcastic, it's a really powerful move to respond as if it's genuine the first time.

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This is another form of that non -reactivity that we saw from Tommy earlier.

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It shows that you're unaffected and it forces the other person to either explain their insult or to just move past it.

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But if the indirectness persists, you can move to step two.

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I have what you're looking for.

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I have the guns.

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What guns?

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We're not it's play wait wait tommy doesn't overreact he just walks away and

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when we want something we can find it really hard to

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do this you see it all the time people work for bosses who undermine them

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or they stay with passive aggressive partners

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when it would just be better to get up and leave

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but the moment you show that you're willing to leave people realize

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that they have to drop the passive aggressiveness and engage with you honestly

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or they risk losing the interaction all together you see

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that happen with campbell as he's forced to call tommy back

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to the table i actually broke down a similar real -life scenario in much more detail with Robert Downey Jr.

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that follows a very similar framework.

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In that video, I actually highlight four steps if you want to go slowly through the nuances, but the key point holds.

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Indirect and passive -aggressive games will fall apart when you first interpret charitably and second refuse to play.

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So what the levels one to three have in common, they are all trying to get respect by proving their worth.

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The kid is lying to prove that he fits in, Kimber is trying to prove that he's in charge, and Campbell is trying to prove that he's respectable despite his double dealing.

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And this desperation to prove themselves actually makes us respect them less.

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But Tommy is operating at level four.

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He does not have this proving energy.

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He's not trying to prove that he's dangerous, clever, or in charge.

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His disinterest in proving himself to others underlies all the behaviors that we saw earlier.

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His consistency, his non -reactivity, and his directness.

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He is not trying to prove his worth.

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But there is a problem here.

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He's gonna trigger the grenade and your very combustible rum will blow us all to hell.

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And I don't care because I'm already dead.

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Tommy's disinterest in proving himself comes from his lack of self -worth.

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And this emptiness shows up in his destructive behavior, his drinking, his violent outbursts, and his relentless ambition at the expense of the people around him.

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Tommy struggles to express himself emotionally and he believes that he can never find peace.

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There's no rest for me in this world.

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So, this is the big question.

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How can we stop trying to prove ourselves without cutting ourselves off emotionally?

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The answer is by building self -respect.

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And self -respect comes when who you want to be aligns with who you are.

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Tommy lost sight of that ideal self due to the trauma that he experienced in the war.

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But to build self -respect, you need to have a clear and realistic picture of who you want to be be.

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Now this might sound simple, but you have to ask yourself some very challenging questions like how does my ideal self respond to conflict

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and how do I do that today?

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How does my ideal self respond to the possibility of rejection and how do I do that today?

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And how does my ideal self act in awkward social situations?

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And don't answer these questions with how you want other people to react to you.

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It's about how you respond regardless of the situation.

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Now Kimber, Campbell, and the Digbeth Kidd all know who they want to be, but they ignore the gap between that ideal self and their actual self.

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And so they look to others for validation.

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They do not realize that external validation can only get you so far because the truth is you cannot outsource self -respect.

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It's in the definition.

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Only you can build it.

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So once you have a clear idea of who you want to be, just take one small concrete step towards that thing.

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So if you want to be more productive, Focus on spending less time scrolling social media.

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If you want to be more disciplined, choose a small task and do it every day for one month.

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Just start small and then follow through.

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Because whenever you deliver on a promise that you make to yourself, you strengthen that self -respect.

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And when you start respecting yourself, people notice.

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They see that you're not relying on them for validation, that you're not shaken by being undermined or insulted, and that you're not terrified of rejection.

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And through that, they will see that you're not trying to get respect, and that actually makes them much more likely to respect you.

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So if you're interested in the fastest way that I know of to make this stuff effortless, you might be interested in my course, Charisma University.

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You get full details at the link here, but basically, if you like the YouTube channel and charisma, confidence, building, respect is a priority for you, I highly encourage you to click the link,

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check it out, learn more, and maybe join.

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Either way, I hope that you have enjoyed this video and I look forward to seeing you in the next one.

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本節課學習要點

通過分析影片中《浴血黑幫》角色的對話與行為，你將練習如何在英語口語中傳遞自信與真誠，同時掌握“shadow speech”技巧提升表達流暢度。課程圍繞“獲得尊重的溝通方式”展開，適合用於英語口語練習及雅思口語練習，幫助你在對話中展現自然的個人風格。

核心詞彙與短語

command respect：贏得尊重
facade：偽裝
combative frame：對抗性框架
consistency：一致性
twitchy：神經質的
herky-jerky：急促不穩的

練習技巧

影片對話語速中等，語氣冷靜且富有張力，非常適合“shadow speech”訓練。練習時，先逐句跟讀，重點模仿Tommy Shelby的慢節奏與穩定語調，注意提高英語發音的清晰度。例如，當他說“Please allow me to put a bullet in this scum tinker's head”時，刻意放緩語速，感受重音落在“bullet”和“scum”上的強調效果。

對於Digbeth Kid的臺詞，留意其“twitchy”的語氣特點，對比Tommy的沉穩，體會“自然表達”與“刻意偽裝”的語氣差異。每天堅持15分鐘“shadowspeaks”訓練，不僅能提升口語流暢度，還能學會在對話中保持一致性，這對雅思口語考試中的“個人陳述”環節尤為關鍵。記住：真誠的表達比刻意模仿更能贏得尊重，口語練習亦如此。

影片中的語法

說話人最常用的結構，並附上影片中的原話：

結構	影片中的用法
條件句 if + 從句，will/would + 動詞 — 條件及其結果	if you need it, will allow
被動語態 be + 過去分詞 — 強調發生了什麼，而不是誰做的	been chosen · You've been arrested · been arrested
現在完成時 have/has + 過去分詞 — 過去發生但與現在仍有關聯的事	has come · We've talked · he's been chosen
定語從句 who / which + 從句 — 補充說明人或事物	someone who has · rule, which is · man who must

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本節課學習要點

核心詞彙與短語

練習技巧

影片中的語法

什麼是跟讀法？