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Is there anything else that, you know, people accidentally do that holds them back from being someone of high aura?
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Yes.
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They try to be impressive.
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People that have aura and riz.
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Oh, yeah.
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How does one cultivate aura and riz?
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Okay.
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I think aura and riz, and the only reason this is front of mind is, is my daughter asked me,
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she heard one of my YouTube videos, and she said, what is charisma?
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She asked me that.
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And I was like, ooh, like she's eight.
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They said, charisma or riz or aura is someone that you really want to be around.
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It's when they walk into a room, you want to go over and talk to them.
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You want to sit near them.
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You want to listen to them.
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You want to work with them.
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You want to play with them.
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And I said, do you know anyone like that?
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And she goes, oh, yes.
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And she named, so interesting, she named two kids in her class that I had already identified as very charismatic.
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Like, in my mind, I knew who the charismatic kids were in her class.
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I had popped them, right?
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I saw them.
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They were the kids that you really wanted to be around.
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They have this aura about them.
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And she named those exact two kids.
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So I think that that definition works.
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It's someone that we are drawn to verbally, physically.
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I think also some of it can be physical.
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And there's something hormonal there as well.
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But it's someone we're drawn to.
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Okay, so based on the 20 years of research you've done.
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Yes.
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If you were trying to teach me to have aura and riz, what are like the basics?
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Be really easy to talk to.
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Okay.
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Right.
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So the point of level one is to put someone at ease.
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We like to be around people who are, one, clearly signaling.
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We don't like people who are mute with their body language.
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We don't like people who under signal.
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We like people who clearly like us.
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Right.
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So we have to be very allowed with our liking.
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So saying things like, it's always so fun talking to you.
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Or, oh, you always have the best stories.
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Oh, you always make me laugh.
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I love when you're put on my team.
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So clearly signaling like and verbally.
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I think there's something called signal amplification bias, which is this bias that we have that we think we're being really obvious with our cues,
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but we are not, in fact, being obvious.
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We think that people know that we like them.
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Of course they know that we like them.
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But actually people underestimate liking, right?
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The liking gap.
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So we like people who are very clearly broadcasting likes.
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And I have a funny story, if I may.
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So this hit very close, embarrassingly, to home.
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Because of my job, I don't know if this happens to you, my friends often ask me to suss out their partners, like potential partners.
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So like a friend will be like, hey, I met a new guy.
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Can you go out dinner with us and tell me what you think?
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Does that hit you all?
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Absolutely not.
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Oh my.
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You're like, nobody asks me.
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No. So I get this a lot.
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And by the way, I'm just a regular person.
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So I'm always like, are you sure you really want to know what I'm...
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Yes, so I go on a lot of like second
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or third little ghosty coffee dates to suss out the guy or gal.
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I bet you love that.
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It makes me feel needed.
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It makes me feel needed.
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Okay.
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I also love eavesdropping on like the date conversation.
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So she said, I really want you to meet this guy.
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Let's call him Schmobbert.
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Okay?
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Okay.
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Okay.
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And so we go on this dinner and we have like a Mediterranean platter and he was okay.
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You know, I was like, okay, he's nice.
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But I wasn't like, green flag, green flag, you know?
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It's kind of like, meh.
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So the next day I get the call.
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She's like, hey, what did you think?
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And I'm about to say, it's only okay when she goes, you know what?
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He just loved you.
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I was like, oh, what?
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She said, oh, you know, he thought you were so funny, and he already bought your Audible book, and he just loved talking to you.
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Like, the most, I started to like him more.
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Like, it was so embarrassing, because as she was telling me all these things about how he liked me, I was like, you know,
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that Schmaubert, he is a great guy.
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He's clever.
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He's so smart.
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He liked my, he liked my jokes, really?
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She's like, yeah, he just really had a good time with you.
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And I felt like I liked him more in that moment.
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And I was horrified by my own response.
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And I realized we so want to be liked that when someone clearly signals liking, it makes us like them more, right?
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So we can be charismatic.
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One is we send clear signals of liking.
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But also two, and we talked about this a little bit last time,
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is fundamentally 82 % of our impressions of people are based on warmth and competence.
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So people who are first and is first signaling, I'm open, I'm friendly, and then competent,
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I'm capable, I'm efficient, I'm effective, make us feel like I'm in good hands.
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In this way, every human being we first meet, we're trying to answer two questions.
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Can I trust you?
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And can I rely on you?
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So the second thing that charismatic people are doing is they're signaling, you can trust me, and you can rely on me.
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I'm going to get it done.
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I'm going to only speak when I know something.
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I'm going to be assertive.
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I'm going to.. carry us through this conversation.
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I think that sort of this came after cues in a good way because cues is very much about picking your signals,
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but conversation is about being a bit assertive about the plan, right?
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Like if you read this book, you are going to feel in control in conversation.
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You're gonna feel like you're approaching a conversation and you know what you wanna do if you have intention.
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We like that.
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Charismatic people like, they carry us, right?
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Like they're like, we got this, we're gonna do level, I'm gonna ask about this, I'm gonna do dream killing, And if I like you,
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if I like you, we're gonna talk about your character."
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And so I think that that plan is a secret door into charisma.
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Is there anything else that, you know, people accidentally do that holds them back from being someone of high aura?
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Yes.
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They try to be impressive.
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Now, I know we talked about this before, but here's what happens when you go into the conversation trying to sound smart,
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trying to impress people with your accolades and your background is you actually end up creating distance.
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I was in Austin and I was invited to this VIP party and I was like, oh man, like what, why am I being invited?
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Like so imposter syndrome.
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So we get there and I'm like, oh, I know that person's YouTube channel.
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Like I know that person, like the people I immediately recognized.
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And I'm like, whoa.
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And then of course, like within the first five minutes, the leader of this group says,
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we're going to get in a circle and we are going to introduce ourselves.
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And this is like, So we get in a circle, and the first person basically is like,
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I'm a billionaire, and I invented the internet, or something like that.
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And the second person is like… I would love to know what they actually said.
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That's what you heard.
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That's what you heard.
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That's what I heard.
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I was like, great.
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I invented the internet.
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Like, it was so impressive, it hurt, you know?
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And I was like, okay, okay.
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It was the first person, is that right?
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The second person is like, I cured cancer.
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Right?
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Like, amazing.
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And it was just like person after person.
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It was like getting more and more impressive.
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And like it's slowly coming to me.
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And I was like, everyone was trying to be impressive, right?
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Like they were saying things that were meant to shock and wow and awe you.
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It gets to me and I was like, my name is Vanessa and I'm a recovering awkward person.
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And I help smart awkward people with my books and my YouTube channel.
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And everyone laughed and took a deep breath.
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Now, I have other accolades that I could have shared, but I was like, it's nothing in comparison.
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And also, I just wanted to be a little vulnerable.
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So I said, and I don't know why I was invited to this party.
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And everyone laughed, right?
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There's like a little bit of vulnerability.
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Every single person after me said, I'm a recovering awkward person.
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So like they also were able to feel awkward.
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So it changed the nature of the rest of the invites, the rest of the introductions.
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And then afterwards, the circle like breaks up for networking and most people came over to me, not the billionaire, not the cure of cancer,
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not the saving the earth climate change guru, but wanted to talk to me about awkwardness and about my YouTube channel and about they're smart,
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but they feel uncomfortable.
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And I realized like I was just the easiest person to talk to in that circle.
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So I think that I just share that because we don't have to put so much pressure on ourselves to be impressive.
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In fact, the really impressive people, I don't know, I haven't met that many billionaires
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But the ones I've met, like, most of them are quite humble.
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And they're quite...
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Like, they downplay how successful they are because they've already made it.
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And so I think if we all just put less pressure on ourselves to just connect, that would be easier.
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It does really track.
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I was thinking about the people in my life that have aura, and they're not the people that are the most successful, the most accomplished.
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They are...
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They are the ones that you would most like to spend time with.
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Yeah, they're easy.
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For whatever reason, yeah.
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Yeah, they're easy.
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And by the way, it's back and forth.
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Like, you can be introverted and extra.. or extroverted.
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You don't, like people, I think, think that master conversationals are extroverted.
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Actually, that's not usually the case.
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Sometimes extroverts fall into their own traps with conversational narcissism.
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Ambiverts and introverts do really well.
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本课的词汇与口语要点
这节口语课以视频“How to Build Charisma and Aura”为素材。 这段视频共有 188 个句子、1809 个单词可供跟读。 讲话部分时长为 9:03。 说话人语速较快，每分钟约 200 个词，会出现较多连读和弱读。 85% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，其余的词建议在练习前先学一下。
视频中的重点词汇
视频中 15 个值得学习的单词，附发音和释义：
| 单词 | 发音 | 释义 |
|---|---|---|
| aura 名词 | /ˈɔːɹə/ | 靈氣 /灵气 |
| impressive 形容词 | /ɪmˈpɹɛsɪv/ | 令人印象深刻 |
| invite 动词 | /ɪnˈvaɪt/ | 邀請 /邀请, 請 /请 |
| awkward 形容词 | /ˈɔk.wɚd/ | 彆扭 /别扭 |
| billionaire 名词 | /ˌbɪl.jəˈnɛɚ/ | 億萬富翁 /亿万富翁 |
| cure 动词 | /kjɔː/ | 治療 /治疗 |
| recover 动词 | /ɹɪˈkʌvɚ/ | 追回, 收复 |
| rely 动词 | /ɹɪˈlaɪ/ | 依賴 /依赖, 依靠 |
| accidentally 副词 | /ˌæk.sɪˈdɛnt(ə)li/ | 偶然 |
| bias 名词 | /ˈbaɪ.əs/ | 偏見 /偏见 |
| invent 动词 | /ɪnˈvɛnt/ | 發明 /发明 |
| shock 名词 | /ʃɔk/ | 衝擊 /冲击 |
| afterwards 副词 | /ˈæf.tɚ.wɚdz/ | 然後 /然后 |
| efficient 形容词 | /ɪˈfɪʃənt/ | 高效率 |
| broadcast 名词 | /ˈbɹɔːd(ˌ)kɑːst/ | 廣播 /广播 |
视频中出现的短语动词
| 单词 | 释义 |
|---|---|
| end up 动词 | 到达 |
| go out 动词 | 出, 出口 |
值得反复跟读的句子
视频中简短而完整的句子，可以直接用在日常对话里：
- It's someone that we are drawn to verbally, physically.
- Does that hit you all?
- She's like, hey, what did you think?
- I was like, oh, what?
- He liked my, he liked my jokes, really?
视频中的语法
说话人最常用的结构，并附上视频中的原话：
| 结构 | 视频中的用法 |
|---|---|
| 被动语态 be + 过去分词 — 强调发生了什么，而不是谁做的 | are drawn · was horrified · be liked |
| 定语从句 who / which + 从句 — 补充说明人或事物 | People that have · people who are · people who under |
| 现在完成时 have/has + 过去分词 — 过去发生但与现在仍有关联的事 | you've done · haven't met · I've met |
需要注意的发音
说话人用了 56 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 I'm, don't, they're。请按听到的简短形式来说。
- “th” 音: breathe /bɹiːð/, warmth /wɔɹmθ/
- “sh” 和 “zh” 音: shock /ʃɔk/, efficient /ɪˈfɪʃənt/, impression /ɪmˈpɹɛʃn̩/, intention /ɪnˈtɛnʃn̩/, accomplish /əˈkɑm.plɪʃ/
- 长单词——注意重音位置: accidentally /ˌæk.sɪˈdɛnt(ə)li/, uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/, vulnerability /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/, underestimate /ʌndɚˈɛs.tɪ.meɪt/, charismatic /ˌkɛɹəzˈmætək/
中文母语者容易读错的音：
- /v/ — 不要读成 /w/，上齿轻触下唇: impressive /ɪmˈpɹɛsɪv/, invite /ɪnˈvaɪt/, recover /ɹɪˈkʌvɚ/, invent /ɪnˈvɛnt/, clever /ˈklɛv.ɚ/
- 词尾辅音 — 要读清楚，后面不要加元音: impressive /ɪmˈpɹɛsɪv/, invite /ɪnˈvaɪt/, awkward /ˈɔk.wɚd/, bias /ˈbaɪ.əs/, invent /ɪnˈvɛnt/
- /r/ 和 /l/ 的区别: rely /ɹɪˈlaɪ/, vulnerable /ˈvʌln(ə)ɹəbl̩/, vulnerability /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/, conversational /ˌkɒnvə(ɹ)ˈseɪʃənəl/, embarrassingly /əmˈbɛɹəsɪŋli/
如何用这段视频练习
- 先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
- 先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟读，熟练之后再回到正常速度。
- 录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 aura, impressive, invite 这类单词。
什么是跟读法？
跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。