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Is there anything else that, you know, people accidentally do that holds them back from being someone of high aura?

Yes.

They try to be impressive.

People that have aura and riz.

Oh, yeah.

How does one cultivate aura and riz?

Okay.

I think aura and riz, and the only reason this is front of mind is, is my daughter asked me,

she heard one of my YouTube videos, and she said, what is charisma?

She asked me that.

And I was like, ooh, like she's eight.

They said, charisma or riz or aura is someone that you really want to be around.

It's when they walk into a room, you want to go over and talk to them.

You want to sit near them.

You want to listen to them.

You want to work with them.

You want to play with them.

And I said, do you know anyone like that?

And she goes, oh, yes.

And she named, so interesting, she named two kids in her class that I had already identified as very charismatic.

Like, in my mind, I knew who the charismatic kids were in her class.

I had popped them, right?

I saw them.

They were the kids that you really wanted to be around.

They have this aura about them.

And she named those exact two kids.

So I think that that definition works.

It's someone that we are drawn to verbally, physically.

I think also some of it can be physical.

And there's something hormonal there as well.

But it's someone we're drawn to.

Okay, so based on the 20 years of research you've done.

Yes.

If you were trying to teach me to have aura and riz, what are like the basics?

Be really easy to talk to.

Okay.

Right.

So the point of level one is to put someone at ease.

We like to be around people who are, one, clearly signaling.

We don't like people who are mute with their body language.

We don't like people who under signal.

We like people who clearly like us.

Right.

So we have to be very allowed with our liking.

So saying things like, it's always so fun talking to you.

Or, oh, you always have the best stories.

Oh, you always make me laugh.

I love when you're put on my team.

So clearly signaling like and verbally.

I think there's something called signal amplification bias, which is this bias that we have that we think we're being really obvious with our cues,

but we are not, in fact, being obvious.

We think that people know that we like them.

Of course they know that we like them.

But actually people underestimate liking, right?

The liking gap.

So we like people who are very clearly broadcasting likes.

And I have a funny story, if I may.

So this hit very close, embarrassingly, to home.

Because of my job, I don't know if this happens to you, my friends often ask me to suss out their partners, like potential partners.

So like a friend will be like, hey, I met a new guy.

Can you go out dinner with us and tell me what you think?

Does that hit you all?

Absolutely not.

Oh my.

You're like, nobody asks me.

No. So I get this a lot.

And by the way, I'm just a regular person.

So I'm always like, are you sure you really want to know what I'm...

Yes, so I go on a lot of like second

or third little ghosty coffee dates to suss out the guy or gal.

I bet you love that.

It makes me feel needed.

Okay.

I also love eavesdropping on like the date conversation.

So she said, I really want you to meet this guy.

Let's call him Schmobbert.

Okay?

Okay.

And so we go on this dinner and we have like a Mediterranean platter and he was okay.

You know, I was like, okay, he's nice.

But I wasn't like, green flag, green flag, you know?

It's kind of like, meh.

So the next day I get the call.

She's like, hey, what did you think?

And I'm about to say, it's only okay when she goes, you know what?

He just loved you.

I was like, oh, what?

She said, oh, you know, he thought you were so funny, and he already bought your Audible book, and he just loved talking to you.

Like, the most, I started to like him more.

Like, it was so embarrassing, because as she was telling me all these things about how he liked me, I was like, you know,

that Schmaubert, he is a great guy.

He's clever.

He's so smart.

He liked my, he liked my jokes, really?

She's like, yeah, he just really had a good time with you.

And I felt like I liked him more in that moment.

And I was horrified by my own response.

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And I realized we so want to be liked that when someone clearly signals liking, it makes us like them more, right?

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So we can be charismatic.

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One is we send clear signals of liking.

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But also two, and we talked about this a little bit last time,

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is fundamentally 82 % of our impressions of people are based on warmth and competence.

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So people who are first and is first signaling, I'm open, I'm friendly, and then competent,

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I'm capable, I'm efficient, I'm effective, make us feel like I'm in good hands.

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In this way, every human being we first meet, we're trying to answer two questions.

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Can I trust you?

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And can I rely on you?

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So the second thing that charismatic people are doing is they're signaling, you can trust me, and you can rely on me.

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I'm going to get it done.

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I'm going to only speak when I know something.

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I'm going to be assertive.

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I'm going to.. carry us through this conversation.

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I think that sort of this came after cues in a good way because cues is very much about picking your signals,

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but conversation is about being a bit assertive about the plan, right?

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Like if you read this book, you are going to feel in control in conversation.

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You're gonna feel like you're approaching a conversation and you know what you wanna do if you have intention.

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We like that.

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Charismatic people like, they carry us, right?

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Like they're like, we got this, we're gonna do level, I'm gonna ask about this, I'm gonna do dream killing, And if I like you,

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if I like you, we're gonna talk about your character."

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And so I think that that plan is a secret door into charisma.

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Is there anything else that, you know, people accidentally do that holds them back from being someone of high aura?

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Yes.

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They try to be impressive.

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Now, I know we talked about this before, but here's what happens when you go into the conversation trying to sound smart,

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trying to impress people with your accolades and your background is you actually end up creating distance.

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I was in Austin and I was invited to this VIP party and I was like, oh man, like what, why am I being invited?

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Like so imposter syndrome.

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So we get there and I'm like, oh, I know that person's YouTube channel.

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Like I know that person, like the people I immediately recognized.

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And I'm like, whoa.

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And then of course, like within the first five minutes, the leader of this group says,

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we're going to get in a circle and we are going to introduce ourselves.

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And this is like, So we get in a circle, and the first person basically is like,

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I'm a billionaire, and I invented the internet, or something like that.

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And the second person is like… I would love to know what they actually said.

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That's what you heard.

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That's what you heard.

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That's what I heard.

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I was like, great.

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I invented the internet.

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Like, it was so impressive, it hurt, you know?

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And I was like, okay, okay.

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It was the first person, is that right?

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The second person is like, I cured cancer.

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Right?

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Like, amazing.

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And it was just like person after person.

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It was like getting more and more impressive.

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And like it's slowly coming to me.

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And I was like, everyone was trying to be impressive, right?

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Like they were saying things that were meant to shock and wow and awe you.

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It gets to me and I was like, my name is Vanessa and I'm a recovering awkward person.

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And I help smart awkward people with my books and my YouTube channel.

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And everyone laughed and took a deep breath.

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Now, I have other accolades that I could have shared, but I was like, it's nothing in comparison.

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And also, I just wanted to be a little vulnerable.

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So I said, and I don't know why I was invited to this party.

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And everyone laughed, right?

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There's like a little bit of vulnerability.

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Every single person after me said, I'm a recovering awkward person.

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So like they also were able to feel awkward.

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So it changed the nature of the rest of the invites, the rest of the introductions.

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And then afterwards, the circle like breaks up for networking and most people came over to me, not the billionaire, not the cure of cancer,

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not the saving the earth climate change guru, but wanted to talk to me about awkwardness and about my YouTube channel and about they're smart,

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but they feel uncomfortable.

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And I realized like I was just the easiest person to talk to in that circle.

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So I think that I just share that because we don't have to put so much pressure on ourselves to be impressive.

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In fact, the really impressive people, I don't know, I haven't met that many billionaires

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But the ones I've met, like, most of them are quite humble.

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And they're quite...

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Like, they downplay how successful they are because they've already made it.

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And so I think if we all just put less pressure on ourselves to just connect, that would be easier.

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It does really track.

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I was thinking about the people in my life that have aura, and they're not the people that are the most successful, the most accomplished.

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They are...

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They are the ones that you would most like to spend time with.

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Yeah, they're easy.

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For whatever reason, yeah.

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Yeah, they're easy.

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And by the way, it's back and forth.

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Like, you can be introverted and extra.. or extroverted.

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You don't, like people, I think, think that master conversationals are extroverted.

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Actually, that's not usually the case.

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Sometimes extroverts fall into their own traps with conversational narcissism.

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Ambiverts and introverts do really well.

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Questa lezione di conversazione si basa sul video “How to Build Charisma and Aura”. Questo video contiene 188 frasi e 1809 parole da ripetere con lo shadowing. Il parlato dura 9:03. Chi parla va veloce, circa 200 parole al minuto: aspettati suoni legati e ridotti. Il 85% delle parole rientra nelle 3.000 più comuni dell’inglese; conviene studiare le altre prima di iniziare.

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15 parole del video che vale la pena imparare, con pronuncia e significato:

Parola	Pronuncia	Significato
aura sostantivo	/ˈɔːɹə/	aura
impressive aggettivo	/ɪmˈpɹɛsɪv/	impressionante, spettacolare
invite verbo	/ɪnˈvaɪt/	invitare
awkward aggettivo	/ˈɔk.wɚd/	maldestro, impacciato
billionaire sostantivo	/ˌbɪl.jəˈnɛɚ/	miliardario
cue sostantivo	/kju/	segnale, avvertimento
cure verbo	/kjɔː/	curare
recover verbo	/ɹɪˈkʌvɚ/	ritrovare
rely verbo	/ɹɪˈlaɪ/	fare affidamento, basarsi
accidentally avverbio	/ˌæk.sɪˈdɛnt(ə)li/	casualmente, accidentalmente
bias sostantivo	/ˈbaɪ.əs/	pregiudizio, predisposizione
invent verbo	/ɪnˈvɛnt/	inventare
shock sostantivo	/ʃɔk/	trauma, trauma emotivo
afterwards avverbio	/ˈæf.tɚ.wɚdz/	dopo, poi
efficient aggettivo	/ɪˈfɪʃənt/	efficiente, performante

I phrasal verb che sentirai

Parola	Significato
end up verbo	andare a finire, finire
go out verbo	uscire, andare fuori

Frasi da ripetere

Frasi brevi e complete del video che puoi riutilizzare nella conversazione di tutti i giorni:

It's someone that we are drawn to verbally, physically.
Does that hit you all?
She's like, hey, what did you think?
I was like, oh, what?
He liked my, he liked my jokes, really?

La grammatica di questo video

Le strutture che chi parla usa di più, con le parole esatte del video:

Struttura	Nel video
Forma passiva be + participio passato — conta ciò che accade, non chi lo fa	are drawn · was horrified · be liked
Frasi relative who / which + frase — un’informazione in più su una persona o una cosa	People that have · people who are · people who under
Present perfect have/has + participio passato — un’azione passata che conta ancora adesso	you've done · haven't met · I've met

Pronuncia a cui fare attenzione

Chi parla usa 56 contrazioni e forme ridotte, come I'm, don't, they're. Pronunciale nella forma breve, così come le senti.

I suoni “th”: breathe /bɹiːð/, warmth /wɔɹmθ/
I suoni “sh” e “zh”: shock /ʃɔk/, efficient /ɪˈfɪʃənt/, impression /ɪmˈpɹɛʃn̩/, intention /ɪnˈtɛnʃn̩/, accomplish /əˈkɑm.plɪʃ/
Parole lunghe — attenzione all’accento: accidentally /ˌæk.sɪˈdɛnt(ə)li/, uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/, vulnerability /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/, underestimate /ʌndɚˈɛs.tɪ.meɪt/, charismatic /ˌkɛɹəzˈmætək/

I suoni difficili per chi parla italiano:

/h/ — va soffiata, non è muta: humble /ˈhʌmbəl/, hormonal /hɔɹˈmoʊnəl/, horrify /ˈhɒɹɪfaɪ/
Consonante finale — senza aggiungere una vocale dopo: impressive /ɪmˈpɹɛsɪv/, invite /ɪnˈvaɪt/, awkward /ˈɔk.wɚd/, bias /ˈbaɪ.əs/, invent /ɪnˈvɛnt/
/æ/ — più aperta della “e”: accidentally /ˌæk.sɪˈdɛnt(ə)li/, afterwards /ˈæf.tɚ.wɚdz/, trap /tɹæp/, charismatic /ˌkɛɹəzˈmætək/, accolade /ˈæk.əˌleɪd/

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