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Are you looking for advice today?

Maybe you don't need it.

Have you ever received advice from someone you love, like your parents or your friend, but somehow it just didn't feel right?

Well, I just wanted to make this video to tell you that you don't have to take that advice.

And this isn't about being ungrateful or rebellious, these are just some things I've been thinking about on going through myself.

As someone who makes YouTube videos where I share my thoughts and try to answer people's questions,

because I sometimes post like questions on Instagram and get some answers

and try to I don't know react to it

and as someone who also watches YouTube videos

and listens to other people's stories I really hope my videos don't just become advice for someone.

I hope they can simply be a little bit of inspiration instead not like advice something

that makes you think then something that tells you what to do.

We're constantly surrounded by advice that comes from a good place.

We are encouraged to follow the choices of people who seem to have everything figured out, to follow that formula for success.

But I don't think that path will always lead us to a life

that makes us happy because their advice will take you to where they are not where you want to be.

So welcome back to this episode of This Hazel.

you know i think most advice actually comes from love

and that's what makes it so hard to dislike

or ignore like your parents want you to have a secure future

so they encourage you to choose a stable

or a reasonable practical career even if the dream you had growing up was something

that completely different your friends start getting married and buying houses

and suddenly people start asking you when you're gonna do the same thing.

And it's funny because just five minutes ago, you felt pretty sure about the direction you were going in,

but then this little feeling of anxiety starts, you know, growing.

Because you feel like you are falling behind, like everyone else is following the right path, right timeline, and somehow you're not because you're different.

I think it's pretty natural thing that happens

when we are trying to figure out our own lives while being surrounded by other people's expectations.

Even when advice comes from a place of genuine love, support and concern, it's still based on the other people's expectations,

values and also like fears and stuff.

We see the life that made them happy but we sometimes forget

that our idea of happiness might be very different from theirs.

Also we hear about the right way to build a life

but we don't always hear about what they had to give up there to get

that right way of their life and maybe those are things that we are not willing to give up ourselves.

For some of you who are new to this channel, I'll give you a little background of myself.

I used to act in Korea.

I was an actor in Korea, mostly on the stage but sometimes in front of the cameras too.

After moving to Vancouver, I worked at the company doing marketing and design

and now I'm freelancing on teaching Korean my language as well I'll leave a link below in case you're interested

but anyway okay just imagine I was a kid I was like 16 17 18

and I'm saying that like I want to be an actor

so I heard

so many people express their concerns about me pursuing art

you can imagine right

I went to a high school where most students did really

well academically like they wanted to be a doctor lawyer like this kind of studying for kids um yeah

it was pretty common studying from like 9 a .m to like 10 p .m

and then go to academy after that

and they study studying a lot of hours right

and it wasn't really the kind of place where people considered going into the arts

so I naturally started hiding the fact that I wanted to be an actor

and I was preparing for it

because I wanted to go to the university for it I just didn't think

that the students or like my friends would understand or relate to

that dream of course I told my best best friends that

but in general I didn't tell anyone about it

but it's not like that made me unhappy I was not sad about it

if anything I think it showed how much

that dream meant to me it had already grown

so big inside me that I didn't really need other people's support to keep it alive

if that makes sense just having that dream was enough to make me feel fulfilled

but even back then at

that young age I think I was already aware of how much other people's support concerns

and even like a tiny curiosity could affect my decisions.

I knew how easily I could be swayed by what other people thought.

I think what's even harder is that we want to make these people happy too.

We understand that they mean well.

We know they care about us but when we keep trying to fit ourselves into a life that doesn't feel like ours,

we slowly start to lose ourselves.

That's where things can get dangerous because because when we spend too much time trying to meet other people's expectations,

we can slowly move further and further away from who we actually are and that happened to me too.

The real problem isn't just feeling confused, it's what happened when we start making decisions based on that confusion.

Sometimes we get so caught up in other people's definitions of happiness

and success that we forget to ask ourselves what those things even mean to us.

Ever since I was a kid, I've always wanted to do something related to arts.

It's always been there.

The specific thing that I wanted to do changed over the years.

Like I wanted to be a singer, I wanted to be an actor, like it always changed.

But it was always something creative or something connected to art.

And just think about how much your values and interests can change as you go through school,

go to university and meet different friends and start working.

Then when I moved to another country, I think I became even more confused about what I actually wanted.

And to be honest, I still am.

When I'm doing something creative, I feel so happy that I think, yes, this is it.

This is what I want to do.

But then I meet someone who's very focused on making money, like financial plans and the whole thing.

And suddenly I'm like, right, money is probably the most important thing like it's it's huge it's powerful let's just make money

and i can read a book that reminds me how important family is

and i think yeah family that's what matters the most

and i spend more time on my own become more comfortable being alone and i start feeling like there's something

almost spiritual about loneliness and i received

so much advice throughout all of this i've listened to

so many different perspectives and I've tried to make sense of all these different ways of living.

But the older I get, the more certain I become of one thing.

I'm the one who has to figure this out.

There is no shortcut to understanding myself and I don't think you can simply follow someone's advice and skip that whole process.

One thing I feel a little sad about is that

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when I was studying acting i spent

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so much time with this bright -eyed people in their 20s who all dreamed of becoming actors

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i don't really know what your university experience was like

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because i've heard a lot about like a team project

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and some people don't really show up i have to do the presentation

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but no one really helps me to do like it's annoying to be in the team project

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but for acting students all of this really was the dream

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so we'd work on group projects or put on little performances like everyone's

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so into it like we are just so genuinely passionate about this project

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so like even though someone's busy with something else we don't care it's just our passion

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so so we spend our days and nights at school eating sleeping we i actually slept

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at school to do the better work for the project

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and creating things together it was just nobody was forcing us to do any of it we were there

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because we genuinely wanted to be it was such a beautiful experience to be part of it

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and i also got to watch those people grow up to graduating the university

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and then looking for the actual work some of them eventually realized oh being an actor

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it's actually hard to make money doing this

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and money is really important to me

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so I'll just go get a regular job

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and other people came to a different realization you know what money

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that's not very important to me I can live with less money

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and then still be happy I'll just chase my dream

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because that's my passion and I think both are completely valid choices but when When I look at my situation,

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I feel like I still haven't figured that out.

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I don't think that I've really decided what I'm willing to give up

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and what I absolutely don't want to let go of.

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Did I want to become an artist who had very little money but a rich inner world?

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Or did I want to look back on those days and say just like,

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those were good times while going to work at a regular office shop.

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Honestly, I don't think either of those feels quite right for me and that's why I still don't know.

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I'm not complaining about the advice that I received.

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I didn't really have all the people in my life who constantly pushed the advice on me.

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My parents even, they were not the kind of people who forced me to do things.

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They were supportive.

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They were just waiting for me.

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I'm just talking about the general idea here.

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The power of experiencing things for yourself and why other people's advice doesn't really have to influence your decisions.

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I think the big part of feeling happy and fulfilled comes from knowing

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that we are making our own choices and that those choices reflect what really matters to us.

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It's not that people give bad advice.

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It's that the answer that works best for them might be completely wrong for you.

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If there were just one piece of advice that worked for everyone, wouldn't life be so much easier?

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So what do we do?

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How do we find our way back to ourselves?

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We have to become a little more comfortable with not having everyone's approval.

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And we have to accept that figuring out what kind of life we want is going to be messy, uncomfortable, and sometimes confusing.

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I think the first step is to spend more time with yourself.

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Maybe that means spending time alone.

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Another thing we can learn to do is just recognize when someone else's idea of a good life starts influencing our choices.

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Do you feel pressured to choose something because it looks impressive than because it feels right to you?

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Are you adopting certain goals just because the people you love expect you to have them?

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And I want to be better at this myself too.

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I want to be more open about things I'm still struggling with and the things I haven't figured out yet.

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I want to give myself more opportunities to be honest about those things

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and I hope this channel can be a place where I can do that.

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I also hope that when people talk to each other in the comments, they feel like they can be honest too.

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Not because we have all the answers, but because we're trying to figure things out in our own ways.

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You don't need to have everything figured out right now

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Because at the end of the day

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No one else can live your life for you

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And no matter how much they love you

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They can't figure out what makes your life meaningful on your behalf

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And that's something only you can discover

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Yeah Thank you for today

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And let me know what you think in the comments

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Talk to you soon I think I like me I think I like me I like the way I look

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And I like the way I feel

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When I take my clothes off

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Oh, I'll take my clothes off

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And just be real

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People will wonder

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How I got this way

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How I did it

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They don't understand

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That life's not about getting there

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It's just about being

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On Saturdays, Saturdays where I can be myself I take my insecurities

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and put them on a shelf I think I like me

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这节口语课以视频“why i stopped asking”为素材。这段视频共有 177 个句子、2214 个单词可供跟读。讲话部分时长为 13:22。说话人语速自然，每分钟约 166 个词，接近日常对话。 88% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，词汇容易理解。

视频中的重点词汇

视频中 15 个值得学习的单词，附发音和释义：

单词	发音	释义
expectation 名词	/ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/	等待
confused 形容词	/kənˈfjuːzd/	困惑
encourage 动词	/ɪnˈkʌɹ.ɪd͡ʒ/	鼓勵 /鼓励, 激勵 /激励
happiness 名词	/ˈhæpinɪs/	幸福, 快樂 /快乐
passion 名词	/ˈpæʃən/	激情, 熱情 /热情
cloth 名词	/klɒθ/	布, 布料
fulfill 动词	/fʊlˈfɪl/	履行
surround 动词	/səˈɹaʊnd/	包圍 /包围, 圍繞 /围绕
ignore 动词	/ɪɡˈnɔː/	無視 /无视, 忽略
practical 形容词	/ˈpɹæk.tɪ.kəl/	使用的, 實用 /实用
stable 名词	/ˈsteɪ.bəl/	馬厩, 馬棚 /马棚
impressive 形容词	/ɪmˈpɹɛsɪv/	令人印象深刻
anxiety 名词	/æŋˈzaɪ.əti/	焦慮 /焦虑, 担心
formula 名词	/ˈfɔː.mjʊ.lə/	公式
chase 动词	/t͡ʃeɪs/	追逐, 追

视频中出现的短语动词

单词	释义
figure out 动词	弄清楚
give up 动词	投案, 自首
go through 动词	通過 /通过
fall behind 动词	遲到 /迟到
grow up 动词	長大 /长大
show up 动词	露面

值得反复跟读的句子

视频中简短而完整的句子，可以直接用在日常对话里：

Are you looking for advice today?
Maybe you don't need it.
I'm the one who has to figure this out.
I feel like I still haven't figured that out.
How do we find our way back to ourselves?

视频中的语法

说话人最常用的结构，并附上视频中的原话：

结构	视频中的用法
现在完成时 have/has + 过去分词 — 过去发生但与现在仍有关联的事	Have you ever received · I've always wanted · It's always been
定语从句 who / which + 从句 — 补充说明人或事物	someone who makes · someone who also · people who seem
被动语态 be + 过去分词 — 强调发生了什么，而不是谁做的	are encouraged · being surrounded · could be swayed

需要注意的发音

说话人用了 58 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 don't, I'm, I've。请按听到的简短形式来说。

“th” 音: cloth /klɒθ/, theirs /ðɛɚz/
“sh” 和 “zh” 音: expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, passion /ˈpæʃən/, inspiration /ˌɪn.spɪˈɹeɪ.ʃən/, presentation /ˌpɹɛzn̩ˈteɪʃn̩/, confusion /kənˈfjuːʒən/
长单词——注意重音位置: expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, inspiration /ˌɪn.spɪˈɹeɪ.ʃən/

中文母语者容易读错的音：

/v/ — 不要读成 /w/，上齿轻触下唇: impressive /ɪmˈpɹɛsɪv/, discover /dɪˈskʌvə/, valid /ˈvælɪd/, supportive /səˈpɔɹtɪv/
词尾辅音 — 要读清楚，后面不要加元音: confused /kənˈfjuːzd/, encourage /ɪnˈkʌɹ.ɪd͡ʒ/, happiness /ˈhæpinɪs/, cloth /klɒθ/, surround /səˈɹaʊnd/
/r/ 和 /l/ 的区别: naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, practical /ˈpɹæk.tɪ.kəl/, spiritual /ˈspɪɹɪt͡ʃuəl/, reflect /ɹɪˈflɛkt/, relate /ɹɪˈleɪt/

如何用这段视频练习

先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟读，熟练之后再回到正常速度。
录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 expectation, confused, encourage 这类单词。

什么是跟读法？

跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。

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