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Are you looking for advice today?

Maybe you don't need it.

Have you ever received advice from someone you love, like your parents or your friend, but somehow it just didn't feel right?

Well, I just wanted to make this video to tell you that you don't have to take that advice.

And this isn't about being ungrateful or rebellious, these are just some things I've been thinking about on going through myself.

As someone who makes YouTube videos where I share my thoughts and try to answer people's questions,

because I sometimes post like questions on Instagram and get some answers

and try to I don't know react to it

and as someone who also watches YouTube videos

and listens to other people's stories I really hope my videos don't just become advice for someone.

I hope they can simply be a little bit of inspiration instead not like advice something

that makes you think then something that tells you what to do.

We're constantly surrounded by advice that comes from a good place.

We are encouraged to follow the choices of people who seem to have everything figured out, to follow that formula for success.

But I don't think that path will always lead us to a life

that makes us happy because their advice will take you to where they are not where you want to be.

So welcome back to this episode of This Hazel.

you know i think most advice actually comes from love

and that's what makes it so hard to dislike

or ignore like your parents want you to have a secure future

so they encourage you to choose a stable

or a reasonable practical career even if the dream you had growing up was something

that completely different your friends start getting married and buying houses

and suddenly people start asking you when you're gonna do the same thing.

And it's funny because just five minutes ago, you felt pretty sure about the direction you were going in,

but then this little feeling of anxiety starts, you know, growing.

Because you feel like you are falling behind, like everyone else is following the right path, right timeline, and somehow you're not because you're different.

I think it's pretty natural thing that happens

when we are trying to figure out our own lives while being surrounded by other people's expectations.

Even when advice comes from a place of genuine love, support and concern, it's still based on the other people's expectations,

values and also like fears and stuff.

We see the life that made them happy but we sometimes forget

that our idea of happiness might be very different from theirs.

Also we hear about the right way to build a life

but we don't always hear about what they had to give up there to get

that right way of their life and maybe those are things that we are not willing to give up ourselves.

For some of you who are new to this channel, I'll give you a little background of myself.

I used to act in Korea.

I was an actor in Korea, mostly on the stage but sometimes in front of the cameras too.

After moving to Vancouver, I worked at the company doing marketing and design

and now I'm freelancing on teaching Korean my language as well I'll leave a link below in case you're interested

but anyway okay just imagine I was a kid I was like 16 17 18

and I'm saying that like I want to be an actor

so I heard

so many people express their concerns about me pursuing art

you can imagine right

I went to a high school where most students did really

well academically like they wanted to be a doctor lawyer like this kind of studying for kids um yeah

it was pretty common studying from like 9 a .m to like 10 p .m

and then go to academy after that

and they study studying a lot of hours right

and it wasn't really the kind of place where people considered going into the arts

so I naturally started hiding the fact that I wanted to be an actor

and I was preparing for it

because I wanted to go to the university for it I just didn't think

that the students or like my friends would understand or relate to

that dream of course I told my best best friends that

but in general I didn't tell anyone about it

but it's not like that made me unhappy I was not sad about it

if anything I think it showed how much

that dream meant to me it had already grown

so big inside me that I didn't really need other people's support to keep it alive

if that makes sense just having that dream was enough to make me feel fulfilled

but even back then at

that young age I think I was already aware of how much other people's support concerns

and even like a tiny curiosity could affect my decisions.

I knew how easily I could be swayed by what other people thought.

I think what's even harder is that we want to make these people happy too.

We understand that they mean well.

We know they care about us but when we keep trying to fit ourselves into a life that doesn't feel like ours,

we slowly start to lose ourselves.

That's where things can get dangerous because because when we spend too much time trying to meet other people's expectations,

we can slowly move further and further away from who we actually are and that happened to me too.

The real problem isn't just feeling confused, it's what happened when we start making decisions based on that confusion.

Sometimes we get so caught up in other people's definitions of happiness

and success that we forget to ask ourselves what those things even mean to us.

Ever since I was a kid, I've always wanted to do something related to arts.

It's always been there.

The specific thing that I wanted to do changed over the years.

Like I wanted to be a singer, I wanted to be an actor, like it always changed.

But it was always something creative or something connected to art.

And just think about how much your values and interests can change as you go through school,

go to university and meet different friends and start working.

Then when I moved to another country, I think I became even more confused about what I actually wanted.

And to be honest, I still am.

When I'm doing something creative, I feel so happy that I think, yes, this is it.

This is what I want to do.

But then I meet someone who's very focused on making money, like financial plans and the whole thing.

And suddenly I'm like, right, money is probably the most important thing like it's it's huge it's powerful let's just make money

and i can read a book that reminds me how important family is

and i think yeah family that's what matters the most

and i spend more time on my own become more comfortable being alone and i start feeling like there's something

almost spiritual about loneliness and i received

so much advice throughout all of this i've listened to

so many different perspectives and I've tried to make sense of all these different ways of living.

But the older I get, the more certain I become of one thing.

I'm the one who has to figure this out.

There is no shortcut to understanding myself and I don't think you can simply follow someone's advice and skip that whole process.

One thing I feel a little sad about is that

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when I was studying acting i spent

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so much time with this bright -eyed people in their 20s who all dreamed of becoming actors

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i don't really know what your university experience was like

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because i've heard a lot about like a team project

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and some people don't really show up i have to do the presentation

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but no one really helps me to do like it's annoying to be in the team project

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but for acting students all of this really was the dream

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so we'd work on group projects or put on little performances like everyone's

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so into it like we are just so genuinely passionate about this project

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so like even though someone's busy with something else we don't care it's just our passion

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so so we spend our days and nights at school eating sleeping we i actually slept

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at school to do the better work for the project

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and creating things together it was just nobody was forcing us to do any of it we were there

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because we genuinely wanted to be it was such a beautiful experience to be part of it

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and i also got to watch those people grow up to graduating the university

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and then looking for the actual work some of them eventually realized oh being an actor

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it's actually hard to make money doing this

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and money is really important to me

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so I'll just go get a regular job

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and other people came to a different realization you know what money

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that's not very important to me I can live with less money

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and then still be happy I'll just chase my dream

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because that's my passion and I think both are completely valid choices but when When I look at my situation,

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I feel like I still haven't figured that out.

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I don't think that I've really decided what I'm willing to give up

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and what I absolutely don't want to let go of.

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Did I want to become an artist who had very little money but a rich inner world?

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Or did I want to look back on those days and say just like,

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those were good times while going to work at a regular office shop.

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Honestly, I don't think either of those feels quite right for me and that's why I still don't know.

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I'm not complaining about the advice that I received.

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I didn't really have all the people in my life who constantly pushed the advice on me.

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My parents even, they were not the kind of people who forced me to do things.

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They were supportive.

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They were just waiting for me.

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I'm just talking about the general idea here.

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The power of experiencing things for yourself and why other people's advice doesn't really have to influence your decisions.

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I think the big part of feeling happy and fulfilled comes from knowing

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that we are making our own choices and that those choices reflect what really matters to us.

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It's not that people give bad advice.

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It's that the answer that works best for them might be completely wrong for you.

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If there were just one piece of advice that worked for everyone, wouldn't life be so much easier?

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So what do we do?

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How do we find our way back to ourselves?

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We have to become a little more comfortable with not having everyone's approval.

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And we have to accept that figuring out what kind of life we want is going to be messy, uncomfortable, and sometimes confusing.

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I think the first step is to spend more time with yourself.

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Maybe that means spending time alone.

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Another thing we can learn to do is just recognize when someone else's idea of a good life starts influencing our choices.

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Do you feel pressured to choose something because it looks impressive than because it feels right to you?

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Are you adopting certain goals just because the people you love expect you to have them?

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And I want to be better at this myself too.

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I want to be more open about things I'm still struggling with and the things I haven't figured out yet.

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I want to give myself more opportunities to be honest about those things

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and I hope this channel can be a place where I can do that.

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I also hope that when people talk to each other in the comments, they feel like they can be honest too.

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Not because we have all the answers, but because we're trying to figure things out in our own ways.

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You don't need to have everything figured out right now

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Because at the end of the day

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No one else can live your life for you

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And no matter how much they love you

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They can't figure out what makes your life meaningful on your behalf

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And that's something only you can discover

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Yeah Thank you for today

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And let me know what you think in the comments

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Talk to you soon I think I like me I think I like me I like the way I look

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And I like the way I feel

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When I take my clothes off

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Oh, I'll take my clothes off

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And just be real

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People will wonder

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How I got this way

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How I did it

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They don't understand

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That life's not about getting there

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It's just about being

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On Saturdays, Saturdays where I can be myself I take my insecurities

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and put them on a shelf I think I like me

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이 말하기 레슨은 영상 “why i stopped asking”을(를) 바탕으로 합니다. 이 영상에는 섀도잉할 문장 177개와 단어 2214개가 있습니다. 말하는 구간의 길이는 13:22입니다. 화자는 분당 약 166단어로, 일상 대화에 가까운 자연스러운 속도로 말합니다. 단어의 88%가 영어에서 가장 많이 쓰이는 3,000단어에 속해 어휘가 쉬운 편입니다.

이 영상의 핵심 어휘

영상에 나오는 익혀 둘 만한 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.

단어	발음	뜻
encourage 동사	/ɪnˈkʌɹ.ɪd͡ʒ/	격려하다
happiness 명사	/ˈhæpinɪs/	행복, 기쁨
passion 명사	/ˈpæʃən/	열정
cloth 명사	/klɒθ/	천
fulfill 동사	/fʊlˈfɪl/	수행하다
ignore 동사	/ɪɡˈnɔː/	무시하다
practical 형용사	/ˈpɹæk.tɪ.kəl/	실질적인
stable 명사	/ˈsteɪ.bəl/	마구간, 축사
impressive 형용사	/ɪmˈpɹɛsɪv/	인상적
anxiety 명사	/æŋˈzaɪ.əti/	걱정, 불안
formula 명사	/ˈfɔː.mjʊ.lə/	공식
chase 동사	/t͡ʃeɪs/	쫓다
inspiration 명사	/ˌɪn.spɪˈɹeɪ.ʃən/	흡입, 들이쉬기
spiritual 형용사	/ˈspɪɹɪt͡ʃuəl/	정신적, 정신의
discover 동사	/dɪˈskʌvə/	발견하다

영상에 나오는 구동사

단어	뜻
give up 동사	항복하다
fall behind 동사	늦다

따라 말해 볼 만한 문장

영상에 나오는 짧고 완결된 문장으로, 일상 대화에서 그대로 쓸 수 있습니다:

Are you looking for advice today?
Maybe you don't need it.
I'm the one who has to figure this out.
I feel like I still haven't figured that out.
How do we find our way back to ourselves?

이 영상의 문법

화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.

문형	영상 속 표현
현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때	Have you ever received · I've always wanted · It's always been
관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보	someone who makes · someone who also · people who seem
수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점	are encouraged · being surrounded · could be swayed

주의할 발음

화자는 don't, I'm, I've 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 58번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.

“th” 소리: cloth /klɒθ/, theirs /ðɛɚz/
“sh”와 “zh” 소리: expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, passion /ˈpæʃən/, inspiration /ˌɪn.spɪˈɹeɪ.ʃən/, presentation /ˌpɹɛzn̩ˈteɪʃn̩/, confusion /kənˈfjuːʒən/
긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, inspiration /ˌɪn.spɪˈɹeɪ.ʃən/

한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:

/f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: confused /kənˈfjuːzd/, fulfill /fʊlˈfɪl/, formula /ˈfɔː.mjʊ.lə/, behalf /bɪˈhæf/, reflect /ɹɪˈflɛkt/
/v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: impressive /ɪmˈpɹɛsɪv/, discover /dɪˈskʌvə/, valid /ˈvælɪd/, supportive /səˈpɔɹtɪv/
/z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: confused /kənˈfjuːzd/, anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, presentation /ˌpɹɛzn̩ˈteɪʃn̩/, theirs /ðɛɚz/, realization /ˌɹɪə.laɪˈzeɪ.ʃən/

이 영상으로 연습하는 방법

먼저 말하지 않고 영상을 끝까지 듣고 모르는 단어를 적어 둡니다.
0.75배속으로 한 문장씩 섀도잉을 시작하고, 익숙해지면 보통 속도로 돌아갑니다.
자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, encourage, happiness, passion 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.

쉐도잉이란? 영어 실력을 빠르게 키우는 과학적 방법

쉐도잉(Shadowing)은 원래 전문 통역사 훈련을 위해 개발된 언어 학습 기법으로, 다언어 학자인 Dr. Alexander Arguelles에 의해 대중화된 방법입니다. 핵심 원리는 간단하지만 매우 강력합니다: 원어민의 영어를 들으면서 1~2초의 짧은 지연으로 즉시 소리 내어 따라 말하는 것——마치 '그림자(shadow)'처럼 화자를 따라가는 것입니다. 문법 공부나 수동적인 청취와 달리, 쉐도잉은 뇌와 입 근육이 동시에 실시간으로 영어를 처리하고 재현하도록 훈련합니다. 연구에 따르면 이 방법은 발음 정확도, 억양, 리듬, 연음, 청취력, 말하기 유창성을 크게 향상시킵니다. IELTS 스피킹 준비와 자연스러운 영어 소통을 원하는 분들에게 특히 효과적입니다.

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