تدريب Shadowing: How I Became More Confident! (level - EASY) - تعلم التحدث بالإنجليزية عبر الفيديو
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Okay, what do they say around here?
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Welcome back to my channel.
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Today we're going to talk about confidence, how I gained it and how I maintained it throughout my life.
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So a lot of people ask me, how did I become confident?
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What did I do?
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How did I get the confidence?
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And the truth is, confidence is not something that is given to you, right?
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It's not something that somebody can magically put inside your brain.
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I think Mel Robbins said that confidence is the willingness to try.
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So the more you do things, the more you try doing things, the more confident you become.
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It's as simple as that.
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Now I was born and raised in a very small community slash village in Republic of Moldova, right?
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So let's just say I didn't have anybody giving me confidence lessons back then, but here's what I did that I didn't realize I was doing that helped me throughout my entire life.
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It's very simple.
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Delusion, playing pretend, imagination, fake it till you make it, all that cheesy stuff.
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But hear me out.
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Let's say you're a character in a play or in a movie, right?
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And someone tells you, hey, your name is this and you are this confident human being who just started a new job
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and is going to show everybody how amazing they are.
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It's a play, right?
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You play pretend.
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So this is what I did in my life.
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As a kid, I would imagine who I was.
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Like, okay, I want to be bold.
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I want to be brave.
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I want to be confident.
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I didn't even know what confidence meant at that time, but I wanted to be the center of attention.
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I wanted to be funny.
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I wanted to be fun.
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So I was imagining that I was all those things and I was basically pretending to be those things.
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And I liked the game.
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I liked who I was when I was pretending.
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The game stopped being a game when everybody around me, when the kids started believing that that's truly who I was.
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And let's say we had a little school project.
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They would be like, oh, Verdeca can present.
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She's bold and brave and she can do it.
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What?
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Or like, oh, we have to go to the director's office, but we're all scared to knock first.
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Verdeca can knock.
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What?
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So in a way, I started becoming the person who I was pretending to be.
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And you can do that in real life as well.
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And you can break it down into smaller pieces.
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Let's say you're somebody at work, you're somebody at home, you're somebody in the gym, you're somebody with a friend or whatever it is.
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But let's talk about what stops you from being confident and what are some struggles that people have with confidence in general.
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So number one, you're afraid of being judged.
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What if I say this and they think I'm stupid?
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Number two, you compare yourself to others.
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She's better than me.
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Why should I even try?
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Number three, you're a perfectionist.
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I won't do it at all if I can't do it perfectly.
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Number four, negative self-talk.
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I always mess up.
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I'm not smart enough.
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I'm not even going to do it.
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Number five, past failures or trauma.
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Last time I spoke in public, I froze and choked, so I'm not going to do it again.
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Number six, cultural or family conditioning.
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I was always told to stay quiet and not stand out.
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And number seven, lack of practice or experience.
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And we're going to talk about that a little bit more.
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So a lot of people ask me, hey, how can I get to your English level, for example?
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And the idea that people have is that they can do something,
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like a couple of things really quickly and get to a certain level or get to a certain level of confidence.
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Or they ask me, how can I be confident like you?
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And in their mind, it's like, oh, confidence, it's something that you can gain very easily.
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It's something that, you know, somebody can just tell me what to do, and then I'll get confident.
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Well, confidence is a skill, okay?
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Confidence is not a piece of information.
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It's not that you just take a course and at the end of the course you're confident.
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You could be a little bit more confident, but it's not going to be exactly what you expected.
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Confidence is a skill.
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If you start playing the violin and you have no idea how to play it, you've never played it before, you're extremely, extremely insecure, right?
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But if you practice every day.
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You take lessons, you improve, you pay attention, you grow, you learn, you make mistakes, you become more and more confident because you become better at it.
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You start a new job.
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The first day you arrive at that job, let's say your job is just to pick up the phone and say, hi company XYZ, my name is Rudika, how can I help you?
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At the beginning, this will be terrifying.
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The first time to pick up the phone
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and listening to a stranger saying hello and then you having to have
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that confidence of saying that sentence with a certain tone
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and certain clarity right it's really complicated you're you're not confident in doing
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that but throughout the day you're gonna have to do
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that maybe 20 times at the end of the day are you gonna be a little bit more confident in doing it?
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The answer is yes.
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What about in a week?
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What about in a month?
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Was there a manager able to give you that confidence on day one?
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No, you had to do it yourself.
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People can guide you what to do, how to do it, but ultimately you have to be the one putting yourself in that situation,
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doing the thing that you're lacking confidence in and becoming more confident by doing it.
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So as a kid, when I was pretending to be someone confident, right?
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When someone would be like, hey, you go and knock at that door because we're all afraid, but you can do it.
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In my mind, I was like, oh shoot, they all think I can do it.
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I'm also shaking in my boots, but I'm going to push myself and do it because I have to live up to the expectations.
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And then I would go and do it and see that nothing terrible happened when I did it.
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The second, the third, the fourth time I knocked at that door, people already knew me, they would say, oh yeah, come on in, next time, don't even knock, whatever.
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And I would be like okay
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so the more you do it the better it gets
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so i was very confident in knocking at the director's door by the end of the year
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so confidence is the result of doing a thing
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that you're not confident in over and over
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and over again it's a very simple concept if you're afraid of public speaking
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There is no way somebody can just give you a guide
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or explain to you how not to be afraid of public speaking.
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Yes, they can give you tips and tricks.
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Yes, they can try to change your mindset around it.
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Yes, they can give you some sort of guidance, but ultimately you are the one that has to go on the stage with a mic in your hand,
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with that projector light in front of your face, and talk to a bunch of strangers the first time you're
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gonna do it is gonna be terrifying the second time you're gonna do it is gonna be also probably terrifying
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but at least you're gonna know what to expect third time
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you're gonna know what to expect you probably i don't know maybe work a little bit on a couple things
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and get a little bit better next time you'll get even better
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so on and
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so forth until you get to a point where you have
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everything covered you know what to expect you know what jokes to tell, you know how to breathe, you know when to drink water,
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you know you remember where the screen is, you know how quickly to go through the slides, you know what to add to make your speech more interesting and entertaining.
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You're basically a pro and as a result you're confident in doing that.
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So let's say somebody looks at you as a public speaker
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three years down the road after you've done it for so long.
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And they say, how do I get your confidence in public speaking?
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I want to be as confident as you are.
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You would tell them, do it.
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So there's a few different types of confidence, right?
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There is emotional confidence.
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There's intellectual confidence.
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There's professional confidence.
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There's creative confidence.
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And there's also situational confidence.
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Like you're super confident in the kitchen, but not on a stage.
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And for me personally, confidence came through
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doing the things that I was afraid of doing and understanding and realizing that nothing bad will happen if I do them.
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Because what is lack of confidence?
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Lack of confidence is basically stemming from your insecurities and your fears, right?
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You're not confident in doing something
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because you don't feel like you've had enough experience in that area to feel like you know what you're doing.
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If you do a thing a million times over, you are confident, you trust yourself that you can do it one more time
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because you did it a million times
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so you have to really think about it especially with speaking english right
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because a lot of you ask me specifically about english speaking
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like you you're not confident in it well you have to
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have this realization you have to like really think about it long
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and hard to to understand the logic behind confidence like what is this word
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when we say she lacks confidence in this or she walks confidently or he is not very confident in his job.
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That simply means that they didn't do those things enough.
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So if somebody doesn't walk confidently,
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right, it's probably because nobody really explained to them what it means to walk confidently and they have never tried it.
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And your posture and the way you present yourself also matters
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because if people look at you and you pretend that you have this, you know, confidence stance and you speak confidently your tone is very calm
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but also firm um you present yourself in in a way
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that people perceive as confidence whatever you say will also be perceived as the real deal
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so there's little tricks that you can do right fake it till you make it
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and somebody came up with a saying
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and i love the saying i know it could be interpreted
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in different ways people don't really see you know as black
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and white everything but
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when you look at the saying fake it till you make
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it this is what i'm talking about is kind of accepting the fact
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that you are a character in your own show
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and i know you've heard this idea before
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but it is true you are a character you have given yourself a description you have given yourself your name
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but also your role, like who you are in your life.
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And as long as you believe that truly, your actions, your words, your demeanor will follow that.
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And it works the same way with negative self-talk.
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If you give yourself a character name and a description that is very weak, it's very negative.
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This is Nancy.
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She is very insecure.
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She has a lot of fears.
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She's afraid of talking to people and she thinks she sucks at her job.
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If you tell yourself this, if you describe yourself as this character, you will be this character.
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So here's a few other things that I did or I would tell myself that helped me with my confidence.
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So before doing something, I would think what's the best it could happen.
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I would actually create an imaginary situation of the best absolute scenario
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that I would get from that action or whatever I decided to do.
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So you don't think about what's the worst it could happen, you think about what's the best it could happen.
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Second step, you actually do it.
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You block the intrusive thoughts that tell you, do not do it.
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This is risky.
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This is dangerous.
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You might look stupid.
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Somebody might judge you.
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Whatever.
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These are intrusive thoughts.
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They're not real.
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It's not proof of anything.
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Next step, if I did the thing I decided to do and I made a mistake or it wasn't great,
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I wouldn't hold on to the shame or embarrassment feelings longer than like 10 I would accept them.
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Oh shoot, that didn't go very well.
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Yeah, maybe I should have done that. That sucks.
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Okay, well 10 seconds are up.
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Next time I'm gonna do this differently and you learn from it, right?
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You do not spend a whole day thinking about how you messed up.
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So if I made a mistake, so be it.
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Tomorrow's another day.
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If I said something silly, oops, tomorrow's another day.
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I learned this from my Canadian friends, to be honest.
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I was so amazed by how easily they let go of their mistakes there.
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I come from a country where, or from a culture, an Eastern European culture, right, where mistakes are condemned.
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Like if you make a mistake, you're dumb, you're stupid, like you're not supposed to make mistakes.
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If you're not going to deliver something perfect, then don't try at all.
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So this is a mindset, a cultural problem too, right?
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And then when I moved to Canada and I would make a mistake at my job and people will be like, okay, well, let's learn from it next time.
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Let's just do this instead.
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That's it.
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Moving on.
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There was no extra time spent on the mistake made.
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Whatever you did, you don't think about it longer than necessary unless it's in a constructive way.
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Beating yourself up and thinking about it the whole day or the whole week or however long you're thinking about it
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does not bring you anything, no benefits.
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You're only going to be solidifying those insecurities and those fears that will stop you from doing this thing again.
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Next step, again, about the mistakes because I would always make mistakes all the time.
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But what I realized that really helped me
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was to be grateful for the opportunity to do that thing
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so I could learn from my mistakes or I could learn from whatever happened.
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Because some people might not even get the opportunity
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and I would also be grateful for the courage I had to commit to that and try it.
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If I'm home, sitting on my couch comfortably, not pushing myself to do anything new, not trying to do anything interesting,
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not pushing myself to think outside the box means
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that I am stagnant I'm not doing anything I'm I'm I'm stuck
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and if you want to be stuck that's fine
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if you want to be on the same level for the rest of your life
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that is your choice that is okay but if you want to grow
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if you want to improve
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if you want to become more confident in something you have to put yourself on
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that stage you have to put yourself in front of those people.
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You have to get yourself out of the house.
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You have to do things that don't necessarily sound so appealing, but by doing them, you will learn so much.
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I think ultimately the biggest thing that helped me was blocking the intrusive thoughts.
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Understanding that I have control over my thoughts was literally a game changer.
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And it is a learning process.
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You can just immediately stop the intrusive thoughts and be done with them.
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They will always be there.
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They're part of your natural instincts.
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Don't do this.
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Something bad might happen.
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Don't do this.
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You might embarrass yourself.
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Oh, you did this.
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You made a mistake.
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You embarrassed yourself.
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Don't do it again.
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And the fear and insecurities are made up things, right?
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They're thoughts.
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They're not real.
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There's no, you can't touch them.
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The same way you create these thoughts in your brain, the exact same way you can create better thoughts in your brain or block these thoughts in your brain.
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So let me give you an example.
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When I was in Canada, I had an interview for a higher position
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and obviously I prepared for it and I kind of knew the general ideas that they would ask me.
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I prepared answers, I prepared ideas, whatever.
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I was very prepared.
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But then they asked me a couple questions that I wasn't prepared for
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and of course I did what I could to answer as well as I could in the moment.
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But after that I was like, I should have said this and I should have said that and I should have said that.
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And I started getting these unpleasant emotions like regret or shame or I don't know, trying to beat myself up.
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And I had to be like, whoa, no, I see these thoughts.
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I have to block them.
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What I can do is learn from it, right?
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I have 10 seconds to feel this and then I have to let it go because, okay, next time I'll have an interview, I'll think about it from this perspective.
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and if they ask me again something that I'm not prepared for, I'm going to buy myself some time.
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I'm going to say things like, hmm, that's a really good question.
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Let me think about it for a second.
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I just gave myself a couple seconds to wire up my brain.
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So I would learn from it.
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If I were in the same situation again, what would I say?
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And then this becomes a positive, constructive experience.
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It's not something to beat yourself up for
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because learning from it actually takes you further Beating yourself up pushes you backwards Okay,
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another thing I remembered about confidence that I started doing
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when I was young and I still do to this day Is never think about yesterday
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and always think about today and tomorrow and it sounds a little bit cliche
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But let me explain in my opinion or in my understanding
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My version of me yesterday was slightly less experienced than the version of me today.
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And the version of me tomorrow will be slightly more experienced than the one today.
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So if I am here today thinking about my version yesterday without trying to learn from what I did and my experiences,
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then I'm always kind of stuck one step behind.
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But if I'm grateful for yesterday and I'm trying to learn from my experiences
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and I'm looking forward to applying this new knowledge or whatever I learned tomorrow, then I'm in this continuous growth sort of mindset.
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For example, content creation.
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I never really thought like a year ago, if you told me that I would be a content creator in 2025, almost turning into a full-time content creator,
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I would have literally laughed so loudly in your face because I had a full-time job.
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I had a career.
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I thought I moved to Canada to live there forever.
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And the biggest struggle at the beginning of my content creation career was the fears
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and the insecurities because most of my following at that time on Instagram, I had 727 followers or something,
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were friends, family, people who knew me.
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And I was thinking about me making that content
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and them analyzing it and dissecting it because they all knew me
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and I thought they would judge me and I thought they would criticize me
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and I just thought
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that they would think how dare she like how does she
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think who does she think she is pretending to do her
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makeup routine like who wants to listen who wants to watch
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that and yes it was cringe and yes it was kind of weird and probably was embarrassing too.
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But the feelings of embarrassment and shame are feelings that you put inside your head yourself.
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And it's kind of funny how you want to create a piece of content
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and you start analyzing it through your own lens, through your own vision goggles, right?
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And through your friends.
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And you don't even know
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if your friends are going to think about it the way you think they're going to think about it.
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So you're just putting words in their mouths
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and you're just creating your this imaginary consequence like
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if i post this i'm gonna embarrass myself my friends are
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gonna laugh at me my family is gonna think oh my god she's
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so cringe or whatever right you don't even know
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if that's gonna happen you create that scenario you have no proof this will happen
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so i started posting on tiktok because I knew that none of my friends were following me on TikTok.
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My name on TikTok was the foreign son for the longest time, so you couldn't really look me up under Rodika.
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And I would post like little nail videos or some other types of random content.
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And for the longest time, I did not want to post on Instagram because I knew that everybody who knew me from work, my friends from back at home,
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everybody knew me would be on Instagram until one day I quit my job
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and I was like you know what I want to grow my Instagram page I don't know how to do
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that but the content that I'm posting on TikTok seems to be doing
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so well might as well post it on Instagram too
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and I said okay I'm gonna try with one video I'm
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gonna post it on Instagram see what the response is
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and then go from there
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and funny thing my first video I posted on Instagram had
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a really good response my friends were commenting saying this is
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amazing I love it for half a year I did not want to post on Instagram
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because I decided that people were going to laugh at me
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when actually people were being supportive
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and I held myself back not them I had no proof
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that they would think like that I put those thoughts in my head
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so then I realized okay this lack of confidence
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that we're talking about that I had I was not confident in posting my content on Instagram is made up.
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Okay.
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Lack of confidence is made up.
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Confidence is also made up.
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However, when you are confident, it's coming from experience.
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When you have a lack of confidence is coming from inexperience.
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So instead of saying I am not confident, I would say I am inexperienced.
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And if I want to say I am confident in this,
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I would probably say I'm experienced in this because I don't see a way of becoming confident without being experienced in something.
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Anyway, so the point of this video was, I guess, to make you aware of the fact that whoever is confident just means that they're experienced.
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And if you want to become confident, you need to become experienced in that area.
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If you guys are telling me, hey, I'm okay with listening, I'm okay with reading, I'm okay with writing, I'm just not confident in speaking.
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Guess what you should be doing?
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That means you are inexperienced in speaking.
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That means you have way more experience in listening to things, in reading things, and in writing things.
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So what you gotta do is speak more.
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Get more experienced in speaking.
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I lack confidence equals I lack experience.
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Don't blame it on your personality.
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Don't blame it on your parents.
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Don't blame it on anybody else.
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Blame it on the inexperience.
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How simple is that?
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Oh, I'm not confident in picking up the phone.
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Pick up the phone more.
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Oh, I'm not confident in riding a bike.
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Ride the bike more.
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I'm not confident in driving.
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Drive more.
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I'm not confident in speaking English.
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Speak more.
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And whatever you feel like you're not confident in, most likely is a skill that needs to be practice.
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And I don't want to say practice makes perfect because nobody's perfect, but practice makes better.
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More practice makes much better.
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I am very proud of you that you made it till the end of this video because again, I was rambling.
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So I really appreciate you being here.
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Thank you so much for watching.
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Make sure you hit that notification bell to know
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when I post the next video and let me know if you have any questions.
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I will happily reply to them in the comments.
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Okay, love you.
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Bye!
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