Pratique du Shadowing: The Psychology of Pretending Not to Care | B2 English Shadowing - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec la vidéo
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have you ever said i don't care
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when you actually cared a lot someone does not reply to
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your message you notice you check your phone you wonder what happened but when your friend asks are you okay
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you simply say yeah i don't care maybe someone criticizes your work you think about their words all evening.
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But when someone asks what you think, you say, it's fine, I'm not bothered.
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Or maybe someone you really like starts becoming distant.
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You feel hurt, but instead of saying that, you become cold.
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You reply with shorter messages.
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You act busy.
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You tell yourself,
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if they do not care neither do i it looks like confidence sometimes it even feels like strength
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but often pretending not to care is not about having no feelings it is about having feelings
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that you do not want another person to see and
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that is what makes this behavior so interesting In this B2 English shadowing practice, we will explore why people hide their feelings,
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what they may be protecting when they act like they do not care, and why pretending can sometimes make the original feeling even stronger.
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Imagine that you send an important message to someone.
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Maybe you ask them a personal question.
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Maybe you invite them somewhere.
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Maybe you finally tell them something you have been thinking about for a long time.
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Then you wait.
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No answer.
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An hour passes.
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Then several more.
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You begin to feel uncomfortable.
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You wonder whether they saw the message.
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You wonder why they have not replied.
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You may even create different explanations in your head.
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But then your friend asks, Have they answered?
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and you say i don't care why say that because admitting that you care can make you feel exposed
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if you say i'm waiting for their answer you are showing
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that their response matters to you and
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when someone matters to you they also have the ability to disappoint you
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that can feel dangerous So sometimes we create emotional distance before anyone else has the chance to hurt us We tell ourselves,
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I don't need them I wasn't
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that interested anyway It doesn't matter These sentences can make us feel safer They create a little space between us
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and the thing that hurts This is why pretending not to care can work,
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at least for a moment It gives you control over how much of your feelings other people can see.
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You may not be able to control whether someone likes you, chooses you, replies to you, or understands you.
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But you can control whether they see how much you care.
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And sometimes that feels like power.
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But there's a problem.
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A shield can protect you from being hurt.
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It can also prevent you from being seen.
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And if you use that shield too often, people may never know what you actually feel.
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So, why does caring feel so uncomfortable sometimes?
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Because caring creates risk.
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When you care about someone's opinion, their criticism can hurt.
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When you care about a relationship, conflict can scare you.
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When you care about a goal, failure can feel personal.
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When you care about someone, losing them can hurt.
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So the mind may make a simple suggestion.
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Care less.
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It sounds like an easy solution.
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If caring creates pain, perhaps not caring will remove the pain.
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But emotions do not always work that way.
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You cannot simply turn off one feeling
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because it has become inconvenient You may hide it You may
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ignore it You may act like it does not exist But
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that does not necessarily make it disappear Think about someone who
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applies for a job they really want They receive a rejection At first,
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they say I didn't even want the job that much Maybe that is partly true But later, they keep thinking about the rejection.
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They tell their friends it was no big deal.
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Yet they spend the evening wondering, what was wrong with me?
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The problem is not that they felt disappointed.
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That is a normal response to losing something they wanted.
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The problem is that they are fighting the feeling instead of allowing themselves to recognize it.
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There is an important difference between saying, I am disappointed,
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and saying, I should not care the first statement accepts reality the second tries to argue with it
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and when we spend energy proving
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that we do not care we may actually keep our attention
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fixed on the very thing we are trying to escape think about it
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if you truly did not care would you need to keep telling yourself
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that you did not care sometimes the more we repeat it doesn't matter the more we reveal that it does.
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But there is an even deeper reason people hide their feelings.
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Sometimes, pretending not to care is not about avoiding pain.
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It is about avoiding shame.
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Many people grow up with the idea that showing strong feelings makes them weak.
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You should not look desperate You should not need anyone too much You should not let people know
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that their words affected you You should stay calm You should act like nothing can hurt you So
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when something matters deeply You may learn to hide it Someone
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hurts your feelings You laugh Someone ignores you You act busy Someone leaves your life You say I never really cared.
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Someone criticizes something you worked hard on.
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You say, whatever.
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From the outside, you may look completely fine, but inside, a different story may be happening.
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You are hurt.
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You are disappointed.
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You are angry.
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You are afraid.
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And perhaps you are also embarrassed that you feel this way.
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This is where pretending not to care can become a habit you begin to believe
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that the person who cares less is more power
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if i need you less you cannot hurt me as much if i show no emotion you cannot see my weakness
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if i walk away first i cannot be the person who
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gets left behind there is some logic in this Protecting yourself can be useful, but emotional distance has a cost.
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If you always hide what matters to you, you may become very good at protecting yourself and very bad at connecting with people.
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Imagine two people in a relationship.
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One person is upset.
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Instead of saying, that hurt me, they become cold the other person notices the change
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but does not understand it
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so they become distant too now both people are waiting for
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the other person to make the first move neither wants to admit
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that they care the relationship becomes a quiet competition who can act like they need the other person less
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and this is the strange part both people may be protecting the relationship from rejection while slowly damaging the relationship through silence.
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Pretending not to care can become a wall.
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And walls do not only keep pain out, they keep closeness out too.
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So what does it look like to stop pretending?
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It does not mean telling everyone exactly how you feel it does not mean becoming emotionally dependent on other people
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and it certainly does not mean allowing people to treat you badly it simply means becoming more honest with yourself
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you can say yes that hurt yes i wanted this yes i care what they think yes i am disappointed
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These statements do not make you weak.
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They simply describe what is happening inside you.
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And once you can admit the feeling to yourself, you have more choices.
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You can decide what to do with it.
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Maybe someone criticized your work.
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You can accept the useful part of their feedback without allowing their opinion to define you.
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Maybe someone did not reply to your message.
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You can admit that it bothered you, while also accepting that you cannot control their response.
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Maybe someone you care about is becoming distant.
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You can ask what is happening instead of pretending you never cared.
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And sometimes you may discover that you do need to step away.
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That is different from pretending.
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Pretending says, I don't care because I don't want to feel this.
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Acceptance says, I care and I can still choose what is good for me.
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That is a much stronger position You do not have to
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become cold to become strong You do not have to stop caring to protect yourself You can care
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and still have boundaries You can be disappointed
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and still move forward You can love someone and still leave
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when the relationship is no longer healthy for you You can want something deeply
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and still accept that you may not get it This is emotional strength, not the absence of feeling.
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The ability to feel something without allowing it to control every decision you make.
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So the next time you hear yourself saying, I don't care, pause and ask a different question.
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Do I really not care?
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Or am I saying this because I care too much to admit that I am hurt?
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The answer may surprise you.
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Maybe you truly do not care.
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That is completely fine.
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But maybe you do care.
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And maybe the healthier response is not to hide that fact.
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Maybe you can simply tell yourself, this matters to me.
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I feel hurt.
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I wish things were different.
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And I will decide what to do next.
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You do not need to be ashamed of caring.
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Caring means something has meaning to you.
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The goal is not to care about nothing.
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The goal is to choose carefully what deserves your care.
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And then care without losing yourself.
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Sometimes, I don't care really means I care, but I do not want to get hurt.
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Pretending not to care can protect us for a moment, but it can also hide our real feelings and create distance from the people around us.
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You can admit that something matters.
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You can feel disappointed.
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You can be vulnerable and still have boundaries.
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Real strength is not having no feelings.
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It is knowing what you feel and choosing what to do with it.
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Great job completing this B2 English shadowing practice.
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Keep listening and speaking just behind the narrator.
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Focus on natural rhythm, connected speech, and emotional expression.
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Do not worry about catching every word.
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Stay with the flow and let your English improve through repeated listening and speaking.
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À propos de cette leçon
Vous vous entraînez en anglais avec "The Psychology of Pretending Not to Care | B2 English Shadowing" en utilisant la technique du Shadowing.
Qu'est-ce que la technique du Shadowing ?
Le Shadowing est une technique d'apprentissage des langues fondée sur la science, développée à l'origine pour la formation des interprètes professionnels. Le principe est simple mais puissant : vous écoutez de l'anglais natif et le répétez immédiatement à voix haute — comme une ombre suivant le locuteur avec un décalage de 1 à 2 secondes. Les recherches montrent une amélioration significative de la précision de la prononciation, de l'intonation, du rythme, des liaisons, de la compréhension orale et de la fluidité.