शैडोइंग अभ्यास: What Does “HELP YOURSELF” Really Mean in Britain? Please DON’T Take It Literally! 🇬🇧 - वीडियो के साथ अंग्रेजी बोलना सीखें

Help yourself, one of the easiest British English expressions which you are likely to come across, right?

Help yourself.

Take whatever you want, whatever you need, it's yours.

So, you can indeed just take whatever you like, can't you?

Well, not necessarily.

And does it actually mean that you can have one thing?

Does it mean that you can have everything?

Does it mean that if something is particularly valuable, you can have that as well?

Does it mean that you can actually take it away from the place that it's currently in at the moment?

There's so much ambiguity there.

And I was reminded of just how dangerous these expressions can be on the back of something

which happened between my mother and my teenage daughter relatively recently and you would think I am a native British person.

You'd think that I would have been more switched on to this particular issue, but I wasn't.

And that gives you just a little indication of how difficult it can be

and how important it is to try and manage these sorts of situations when you come up against them correctly.

And I would look at those expressions like help yourself or take whatever you like.

I would look at those expressions in terms of giving you like a verbal green light.

But socially, there are still speed restrictions, if you like, within that verbal green light.

So it's about a year or so ago now, we were staying at my elderly mother's house for the weekend and my teenage daughter was with me.

And early on the weekend, my mother said to my daughter, take whatever you like, have whatever you like.

It's yours.

What would you think that actually means?

Anyway, funnily enough, I'm native British and I didn't even think about it.

Nothing crossed my mind that that was likely to cause a problem.

So I ignored it.

We had a fantastic weekend and we were driving all the way back down to the south coast where we live.

It's quite a long drive from Newcastle in the north.

And about four hours into the drive, I received a phone call from my mother to say to me, oh, did, let's call my daughter,

just protect her name here.

Let's call her Janice.

Did Janice take all of my juicy tops?

And I thought, oh no, what's happened?

So I sort of looked in my mirror as I was driving and And I said to my daughter, did you take the Juicy Tops?

And she said, well, yes, I did.

And then I said to her, well, how many Juicy Tops did you take?

And she had this huge, great bag of Juicy Tops on the backseat of the car.

And I'm totally oblivious to this.

I didn't realize at all.

And to some extent, it is understandable.

And, you know, I had to sort of apologize to my mother for what had happened

and we sent the juicy tops back maybe not all of the juicy tops um we negotiated later

which tops could be kept and which ones had to go back

but um you can completely understand what has happened there

and you know from my daughter's perspective um she'd done

that completely and utterly innocently and she had taken

that expression literally like it was an all -you -can -eat buffet you can have literally what you want here

and i think a lot of people um maybe non -native speakers

and maybe native speakers of english would possibly behave in in in the same way um

and i think it's very very important here to realize that you cannot um sometimes take expressions like this

literally it is not a green light to actually go ahead

and take whatever you want in fact is an invitation to explore individual items

and maybe check in again to see if it really is okay to take those particular items.

And I would emphasize checking in again.

So what then, having caused you guys a lot of confusion, what then does help yourself actually mean?

And as is so often the case with English, there is definitely not one particular rule at play here.

I would say there's lots of different things that you have to be aware of.

The first thing is the actual relationship between the people.

So do you have a very close relationship?

The closer the relationship, the more freedom that you actually have.

But just be aware of my particular story, even in very close relationships, even in a granddaughter -grandmother relationship.

there is still so much potential for problems here.

The second rule, if you like, or second thing that you should look out for is the actual setting.

So for example, if you're sat around a table

and someone puts some biscuits on the table

and you're all having a cup of tea and a chat and the person says, help yourself, then obviously you can just take a biscuit.

It's, you can have two or three or whatever.

It doesn't really make any difference at all.

But if someone says to you, help yourself to whatever you want from the fridge, That doesn't mean that you can actually empty the fridge of its entire contents.

And also maybe you need to be a little bit careful about what you take from the fridge.

Maybe there's bottles of wine and things in the fridge as well.

So it doesn't literally mean that.

It's just giving you an invitation to go and explore basically what's in there.

And then probably much better for you to actually check in again to just make sure

that it's okay that you do actually take what you're thinking about taking.

And I think finally, which is probably the heart of the story, which I just told you before,

you need to actually think about the actual object itself and in particular,

the value of the object and the emotional connection that somebody has with that object as well.

So, you know, juicy tops are quite expensive.

If we're talking about electronics, they can be quite expensive.

If it's something which is very personal to somebody else, that's obviously sort of carrying a lot of emotional value behind it as well.

So to some extent, you have to use sort of common sense with regards to what is being proposed in terms of help yourself.

If there's any doubt at all, as soon as you hear that expression, it's probably best just to have a think about what's being proposed and then just double check that that's okay.

And sometimes, I mean, for me, I would actually triple check or even quadruple check to be absolutely certain,

because one thing that we hate more than anything else is embarrassment.

That is simply awful for us to deal with.

I have a slightly different example to share with you.

And I was at a car boot fair recently, and it was getting towards the end of the morning

and I walked past this particular stand and there was this really beautiful light and it looked really, really, really expensive.

And it was coming to the end of the morning.

And I think the seller was getting pretty bored and wanted to go home.

So he actually said, have whatever you like, take it.

It's yours.

And then he said, it's free.

And I looked at this light as I was walking parts.

That cannot possibly be free.

No chance.

It looked really, really expensive.

So rather than just take it, which is maybe possibly what my daughter would have done,

I said to him, are you absolutely sure?

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And he said, yeah, mate, take it.

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It's yours, please.

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I said, are you certain?

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Are you absolutely certain that I can do that?

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And he said, yeah.

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And I think I was almost getting to the point whereby he was going to throw that item at me.

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You know, he's going to force it down my throat, literally.

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But if I sort of pushed him to that point, then I feel really comfortable taking that because he really, really, really doesn't want it.

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So that's just an example of how I've checked in.

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That's not necessarily in a social situation, but it is very similar to how I would actually behave anyway in a social situation.

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When you hear this expression, help yourself, I think it's probably really important to think in your mind about giving

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that person who said that to you an escape route.

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Think escape route straight away.

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So in other words, if they don't really want to give you everything,

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or if there are particular items that they would rather not really part with, you're then able to give them the opportunity to sort of backtrack on that a little bit.

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And I think with British people, it is really, really, really important to do that.

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Otherwise, it can be incredibly embarrassing.

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So like if I'd actually realized what had been happening in my mother's house with my daughter and those juicy tops,

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and my daughter had actually sort of grabbed a bag and I'd actually seen it, then I would have actually taken that bag to my mother before we left the house.

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And I said, oh, look, this is what Janice has taken is it okay firstly

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that she takes so many and secondly it's okay

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that these she takes these particular tops

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and then my mother could have actually said oh well actually no um i would rather keep these ones

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but she's more than welcome to to take this one

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so therefore you know nobody loses face there everybody's happy she's taken the valuable ones back that she did actually really want.

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And she's still given something to my daughter. So everybody.

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wins and that is the importance of giving that all -important escape route

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so as you can see understanding british english is all about thinking beyond the actual literal words the literal expressions

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and thinking about the social situation and the impact from from

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that perspective actually my daughter said something to me very very recently

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which sent shivers down my spine It really sort of shocked me and concerned me quite a lot.

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She said, well, you know, granny's getting older now.

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She doesn't really drive the car anymore.

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And do you think she would eventually give it to me?

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And I thought to myself, oh, gosh, I thought, well, yeah, well, if she does give you that car eventually,

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we're definitely going to get that in writing before you drive it down to Eastbourne.

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So, yeah, leave you with that particular thought always make sure

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that you get confirmation of these situations to avoid those really awkward and tricky situations.

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Thank you so much for listening to this video.

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Appreciate you making it this far in the video

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and I'll very much look forward to seeing you again in the next one.

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इस पाठ की शब्दावली और बोलने के सुझाव

इस वीडियो में शैडोइंग के लिए 142 वाक्य और 1876 शब्द हैं। बोला गया हिस्सा 11:17 लंबा है। वक्ता लगभग 166 शब्द प्रति मिनट की स्वाभाविक गति से बोलता है, जो रोज़मर्रा की बातचीत के करीब है। 89% शब्द अंग्रेज़ी के 3,000 सबसे आम शब्दों में से हैं, इसलिए शब्दावली आसान है।

इस वीडियो की मुख्य शब्दावली

वीडियो के 15 सीखने लायक शब्द, उच्चारण और अर्थ के साथ:

शब्द	उच्चारण	अर्थ
necessarily क्रिया विशेषण	/ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/	अवश्य, अनिवार्यतः
extent संज्ञा	/ɪkˈstɛnt/	विस्तार
explore क्रिया	/ɪkˈsploɹ/	अन्वेषण करना
invitation संज्ञा	/ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/	निमंत्रण
behave क्रिया	/bɪˈheɪv/	आचरण करना, बर्ताव करना
verbal विशेषण	/ˈvɜː.bəl/	शाब्दिक
ignore क्रिया	/ɪɡˈnɔː/	उपेक्षा, उपेक्षा करना
mirror संज्ञा	/ˈmiɹɚ/	दर्पण, शीशा
shock संज्ञा	/ʃɔk/	झटका
aspect संज्ञा	/ˈæspɛkt/	पक्ष
remind क्रिया	/ɹəˈmaɪnd/	याद दिलाना
triple विशेषण	/ˈtɹɪp.əl/	त्रि
throat संज्ञा	/ˈθɹoʊt/	गला
boot संज्ञा	/but/	बूट
confusion संज्ञा	/kənˈfjuːʒən/	गड़बड़

वीडियो में आने वाली फ़्रेज़ल वर्ब

शब्द	उच्चारण	अर्थ
go ahead क्रिया	/ˌɡoʊ əˈhɛd/	आगे बढ़ना

इस वीडियो का व्याकरण

वक्ता जिन संरचनाओं का सबसे अधिक प्रयोग करता है, वीडियो के असली शब्दों के साथ:

संरचना	वीडियो में
Passive voice be + past participle — ज़ोर इस पर कि क्या होता है, न कि कौन करता है	was reminded · are still speed · could be kept
Present perfect have/has + past participle — बीता हुआ काम जिसका असर अभी भी है	has happened · I've checked · has taken
Relative clauses who / which + उपवाक्य — व्यक्ति या वस्तु के बारे में अतिरिक्त जानकारी	finally, which is · something which is · person who said

ध्यान देने योग्य उच्चारण

वक्ता 25 बार संक्षिप्त रूपों का प्रयोग करता है, जैसे doesn't, you're, didn't। इन्हें वैसे ही छोटा बोलें जैसा आप सुनते हैं।

“th” की ध्वनियाँ: throat /ˈθɹoʊt/, grandmother /ˈɡɹæn(d)ˌmʌðɚ/
“sh” और “zh” की ध्वनियाँ: invitation /ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/, shock /ʃɔk/, confusion /kənˈfjuːʒən/, confirmation /ˌkɑn.fəɹˈmeɪ.ʃən/, indication /ɪndɪˈkeɪʃən/
लंबे शब्द — बलाघात सही रखें: necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, invitation /ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/, incredibly /ɪŋˈkɹɛdɪbli/, electronics /ɪˌlɛkˈtɹɑ.nɪks/, apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/

इस वीडियो से अभ्यास कैसे करें

पहले बिना बोले पूरा वीडियो एक बार सुनें और जो शब्द नहीं आते उन्हें लिख लें।
0.75× गति से शुरू करें, एक-एक वाक्य की शैडोइंग करें, और सहज लगने पर सामान्य गति पर लौटें।
अपनी आवाज़ रिकॉर्ड करें और मूल से तुलना करें, ख़ासकर necessarily, extent, explore जैसे शब्दों पर ध्यान दें।

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