Pratica di Shadowing: confidence is uncomfortable - Impara a parlare inglese con i video
Creazione lezione...
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You like you and other people are going to be attracted to that and it is going to be good, I promise.
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Just believe it and keep believing it.
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Even whenever you find reasons not to believe it, keep believing it. And it...
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will be reality and i can't believe it's true but it actually will be
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i wanted to talk about how uncomfortable the journey from insecurity to confidence can actually be
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because i feel like we glamorize this idea of confidence like
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people look a certain way maybe they dress a certain way
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or they act a certain way they talk a certain way they carry themselves
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actually like and like that process is
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so different for everybody it's a never -ending journey it's something
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that you have to upkeep it's like a muscle and training
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that muscle doesn't always feel good like it can be really painful
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and it can be ugly and hard
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and i have watched myself come from an extremely insecure person
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and of course it's something that i'm still working on every day
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but i have healed and feel like i am kind of the opposite in some ways like things that
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made me so confident.
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I recently, the other day, was just thinking about it and I was like, wow, I love myself.
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And I have never been able to say that before.
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Like, I love myself.
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I love the way I act.
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I love the way I talk.
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I love the person I am.
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I love the friend I am it doesn't mean that they're...
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aren't things that I still want to improve and learn and things that I will continue to grow in.
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But I realized for the first time, oh my God, wow.
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Like I love myself.
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It just kind of felt like
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crazy and it hit me in the face
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because it's like whenever like for example my cat mazy she used to be a tiny little kitten
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and i have pictures and memories and everything whenever she was so small.
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but now she's huge, she's big.
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I've been with her basically every single day, so that change was so gradual, and I feel like that's kind of what happened with my confidence.
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Like, it was such a gradual journey, like, I didn't really notice at first that these things were changing.
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If anything, it just felt like a lot of uncomfortable, like, Oh my God, there's a fly.
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But it just felt like a lot of uncomfortable affirmations and change and all this stuff.
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And it was just like, oh my God, this is not doing anything.
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I still feel insecure about this, this and that.
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But then like gradually as time went on, that changed and I became a different person.
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not overnight, but like I did after I put in the work that was uncomfortable.
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I've been making floral arrangements for myself every week.
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I wanted to make one while - oh!
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While we're talking about this.
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I think the first question that I asked myself in the journey was, What does my confident self act like?
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What does she think like?
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What does she look like?
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Like what what is making me so unhappy or insecure in myself right now?
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What is it?
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And what does that version of myself who feels good about that or has confidence or isn't thinking about that?
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What is she doing?
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Who is that?
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Like you can kind of do the thing with the whole Beyonce, Sasha Fierce, like creating an alter ego.
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What does she stand for?
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What type of friend is she?
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How does she treat her? herself.
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Like, you know what I mean?
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Some people are very visual.
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I am very visual.
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I have created vision boards for this and I've created so many on these dream boards.
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there are outfits there are hairstyles there are photos
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that just depict a certain energy
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that i i picture whenever i think of my most confident
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self creating those visual boards to kind of go back to
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and see definitely help whatever helps you have like a clear vision of who
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that person is and everything you could possibly get to know about her having a vision of your most confident self
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alter ego, whatever it is.
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Having a vision that you want to achieve, right?
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You really got to think of every detail.
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How does this person stand?
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For example, I've always been insecure about my posture and just like the shape of my back and shoulders.
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I've just always felt like I kind of have like rounded, hunched, thing going on and I knew that it was
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coming from stress and insecurity and just like sort of this natural body language
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that i had and i was uncomfortable it just made me feel insecure
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and i thought about my most confident self and how she doesn't have
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that insecurity because she stands up straight like she doesn't have
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that problem because she can easily have her chest open
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and feel confident and great she has
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that body language body language is such an important part you know like of course you can
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then you start to think about these smaller details like there's
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layers to it it's like okay of course like what does she look like on the outside
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but then how does she carry herself and how does she speak
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that was another thing that honestly i'm sort of actively working on right now
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because i know that the most confident version of myself is a really powerful communicator
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when i feel like maybe i'm saying too much sort of dismiss myself and over explain whenever i
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yourself and having the awareness of, oh my gosh, okay, this is uncomfortable.
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I don't want to change the way I'm speaking right now
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because this is how I've spoken for years and years and years.
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I don't want to stop myself.
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I don't want to slow down.
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That's uncomfortable.
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But oh wait, I remember how she talks.
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So let me try to reintroduce that a little bit.
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Like you don't have to force a whole new personality or anything,
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but it's more about reintroducing patterns and like That's something that I'm still working on very hard,
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but I have gotten a lot better.
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I've had the awareness for a long time that my posture is not what I want it to be.
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I had the awareness 'cause I knew the insecurity and I had the vision of, okay, my most confident self doesn't stand like this.
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Okay, I'm insecure about this thing, but it wasn't until I actually went through the physical discomfort, like of rolling my shoulders back,
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taking a breath, stretching the neck loosening up that is just not natural to me
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and i had to keep going and keep doing it anyways
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and reminding myself as much as possible until it just started
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to become how i was able to stand i finally had the strength
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and the power to stand up straight
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and relax you know like i was able to build
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that through the discomfort knowing the insecurity and knowing it well but knowing the vision just as well
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through the little uncomfortable shifts to match that dream vision
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that you have body language maybe you can start implementing it into the way
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that you style your hair or clothes or how you speak
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or anything small details whatever it is don't make it
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so hard for yourself with okay i need to change everything
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tomorrow i'm gonna start speaking like this like that's just not sustainable
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and that's not gonna work but if you slowly just every time you can kind of just catch yourself a shift,
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that's where the actual magic happens and it happens slowly and it's not fun.
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It can even remind you of like what you're insecure about
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because you're becoming so aware of it and I think of course be careful.
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That can be unhealthy and hard to always...
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be like, oh, let me be aware of the way I'm talking or the way I'm standing.
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Like I, it can be a nuisance.
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So of course, holding grace for yourself and just knowing that it takes time and don't put too much pressure,
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just be aware of it and know that the real strong action happens in all of the small movements.
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So just be patient with yourself, but have the vision, have the vision and be excited about
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that vision and know that that vision and that version of yourself is you, or else you create it.
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So I got the little cherry blossom branches from Trader Joe's and I am so happy right now.
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I just, I've never used these before and they're so beautiful
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and I know that they're very fragile and going to be pretty short -lived, but I just think it's like the perfect thing for the beginning of spring.
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And oh, I'm just, I'm so excited about these.
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Anyway, so getting back to it.
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euphoria quote by Maddie where she's like doing a Lexi's makeup and she's like What is she saying?
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She's like, everyone feels stupid and I just chose not to.
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Like, nobody knows if confidence is real or not.
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That is facts because nobody knows.
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People, however they hold themselves, that is how other people will receive them.
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So.. you don't actually have to fix everything in your brain
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and feel so amazing about yourself in order to start acting like it.
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I know that that part can get the most uncomfortable for me because if I feel ugly, then I'm going to the shrugging and the shoulders and the,
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oh, I can never, it's because it feels more comfortable.
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So the act of like faking it and pretending to be something else just feels really weird.
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It feels like I'm putting on shoes that don't fit me.
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so wrong, like it feels out of the comfort zone.
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Like you're lying.
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It can feel like you're lying.
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How would that confident version act in this situation?
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and you just pretend.
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I said it
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more eloquently yesterday like you just pretend and you sweat
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while you're doing it and your face gets red
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while you're doing it and it's uncomfortable
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but you do it anyways becoming comfortable with something
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and creating a habit is like the act of forcing yourself
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to do it for a certain period of time until it becomes natural the more you start
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forcing yourself to act like it, you slowly start to actually become it.
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And I know that sounds kind of like, okay, yeah, obviously, but it's just sort of blowing my mind.
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Like even right now, it's so simple.
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but it's not easy.
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You start to enjoy it over time and it does become easier.
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I know that there have been things that I have seen in myself that I've been insecure about, whether that is mental or physical.
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And I have told myself the opposite of that.
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affirmations are part of faking it until you make it i feel like laughing at myself
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when i'm saying these affirmations in the mirror at first it's actually embarrassing
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and when you feel embarrassed to do something you think you're going to be excited about waking up
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and doing it no that is uncomfortable looking yourself in the eye
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and saying these things that you perceive to be lies right now
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but pretty soon they're not gonna be and it's weird how it happens if you are reinforcing yourself.
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"Oh, I hate this thing about me." And "Oh, I just feel so bad about this thing."
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And you're putting yourself in situations that make you feel insecure
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and focusing on things that make you insecure and telling yourself those things over and over again.
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That becomes your reality and that becomes who you are.
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Whatever you focus on is what grows and you are acting like it even when you don't want to.
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Like you are doing the work
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to be that person and you are that person
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and nobody can tell you otherwise it sounds just sort of
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like you gotta believe in yourself no it's it's like you will actually you will actually become
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that person i think a lot of the time we get
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so caught up in like oh that dream version of me has this designer purse
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or has a completely different style and i need to change my wardrobe
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and oh actually she has these shoes and she has this apartment and so i actually need to get all
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No. Absolutely not.
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We have to generate it first and then all of that will come.
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You don't need the designer purse right now to be that dream self.
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Does she have that?
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Maybe, of course, we'll get there.
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The discomfort of reintroducing new habits along with making promises to yourself and following through.
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For example, I know that my dream self has a certain exercise routine that do I stick to it all the time?
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Absolutely not.
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But every time that I reinforce that habit, when I don't feel like doing it, that allows me to trust myself,
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my dream self, or my goal of mine is to drink more water or oil my hair more often, or it's to go to yoga class twice a week whatever
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it is building those new habits requires you have to think
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of it like the discomfort you're feeling in starting a new habit waking up early i'm talking about things
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that are good for yourself by the way like i know i'm saying discomfort
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and like pain and all these things a lot like i'm talking about things
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that are good for yourself but that are hard like going on a walk
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or waking up early in the morning like things that maybe we don't always want to do them but
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gas or fuel for the engine that is taking you to the version that you want to be.
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Whenever I'm forcing myself to like wake up to work out, I would rather be sleeping.
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No, no, no, no, no. I know that I'm supposed to be going through that discomfort.
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I know that it's it's normal.
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It's painful.
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And whenever something is painful, we just like stray away from it and we don't want to do it anymore.
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And we don't want to think about it and we put it off.
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And we're always like, Oh, I just, I wish that I exercised more.
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And I wish that I cooked for myself more.
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I wish I could read more or whatever.
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Like I don't have time.
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Like that's what that turns into whenever we get so scared of the discomfort.
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And it's like using that discomfort as fuel to keep
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because I am really far from this you have to care
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more about the end result than how you feel right there
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in the moment it's not instant gratification these things are slow gratification
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that bring the results that you're always wishing for and wanting the bridge to get there
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is the discomfort so just know that it's carrying you there it's carrying you to
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that goal and also i'm going to turn on the light because now we're getting a little dark - Okay.
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Does this look really bad? Does that look better?
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No, that looks worse.
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Making promises to yourself and actually following through with it.
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So you get the data from the vision.
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So vision, your most confident self wakes up early every morning and exercises.
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I don't know, but something like that.
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So you get the data from the vision.
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Okay, she does that.
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Got it.
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I'm going to make a promise to myself.
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I'm going to put that in my affirmations.
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to get it in here and to get it out here
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and to actually do
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that i'm gonna make a promise to myself you guys don't understand i think the thing
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that we get so caught up in is like
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that drastic change that's why i started the video talking about
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how we just feel like we need to drastically change in order to be this vision of ourselves
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and it feels
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so far away like i i get it like i understand
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like creating a vision can make you feel really opposite from
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that version of you but It is so much closer than you think
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and it's gonna come through smaller actions than you think.
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Atomic Habits by James Clear helped me so much when it came to forming habits.
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When you're thinking about how your dream self carries yourself, don't feel like you need to drastically change your speech and your posture and this and that.
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It's just about reinforcing small ways.
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And it's the same thing with building habits.
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Okay, your dream self wakes up early every single day to exercise.
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Okay, then just start becoming so comfortable with the smallest steps of it.
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Just picking out an outfit to exercise in.
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And that's it.
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Don't exercise.
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Just wake up early and pick out the outfit.
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And then slowly you can start waking up early, picking out the outfit, and putting the outfit on.
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And if you don't want to exercise, you don't have to, but maybe you will feel more inclined to after you've put it on.
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But if you don't want to, just you don't have to.
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But you just built a little bit more of the habit.
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Now, once you feel comfortable with waking up early, picking out the outfit and getting it on, now you can start to go on a 10 minute exercise walk
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right so now every morning you've you have built that habit of you made sure that you got up every single day.
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And he goes into detail about like how many days you should be doing this and all that stuff.
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But I'm just giving you an example of how it doesn't have to feel so daunting and far away.
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She deadlifts 250 pounds every morning.
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Like, no, we can get there.
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But like the most productive and powerful use of your time is going to be making the little efforts there.
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Just slowly, the simplest step of that habit you can think of, just start doing that every day.
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And then you'll just, you'll want to do more.
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When you make promises to yourself and you actually keep them, that is proving to yourself that you are somebody to trust.
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What's a trait that we recognize in confident people?
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They trust themselves.
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If somebody is confident, they feel steady within themselves.
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They're confident.
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They're confident in what they're saying because they trust themselves.
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If you can learn to trust yourself, you can have that sense of confidence
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too because why would you not be confident in somebody
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that you know is reliable and you know that you can trust
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and it works
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and it works with small things it goes back to what
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we were just saying it doesn't have to be big it
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can be these tiny things like i'm gonna drink more water every day
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and you say that's something you want to do
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and then you actually commit it's actually
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so dark in here right now i like just looked at the viewfinder and realized that we are sitting in the
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will show you and will show your subconscious you are somebody to be trusted who says
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that they're going to do something and does it.
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You are a reliable source.
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People respect a reliable person and somebody with confidence doesn't wait around for people to respect them.
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They respect themselves and therefore they attract that and they'll surround themselves with people who also respect them.
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Because why are you going to like somebody who lies to you?
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Oh, I'm going to do this.
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Oh, and then they just don't, okay?
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Like, I don't want to be your friend, I don't trust you.
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It's the same thing with yourself.
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Gotta build that trust, and you can do it in favor of your goals, you know?
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Like, you can build habits, you can say like, yeah, I'm gonna do this, and...
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stick to it and do it.
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And it's funny, right?
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'Cause it's like, we can talk about this all day.
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And like, I can sit here
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and feel all good about what I'm explaining to you
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but it's actually doing it where it's uncomfortable and it doesn't feel good.
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And we want to run away and turn around and start all over again, but we're not going to do that.
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because we're going to build the confidence.
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Okay, next thing is interacting with people becomes a lot less
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scary and there's a lot less room for insecurity in yourself
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when you realize that everybody else is just thinking about their own insecurities
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and they're thinking about their own insecurities so much
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that they are projecting them onto you and then in turn
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that kind of like feeds our insecurity like we're just all rubbing each other's egos
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and like trying to hurt each other all the time
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because of our own insecurities our insecurities do the talking like if we are out here insulting
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or talking bad on someone or whatever.
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And if we feel the need to do that, I'm trying to...
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Oh, I know how to fix it.
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What were we talking about?
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it's not so scary to interact with people
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when you realize oh my god all they're thinking about is their own insecurities
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because if they're looking at you a certain way
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and they're analyzing you or you think they're going to talk about you
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or they say something to you or whatever like they're saying
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that to you because they want to feel better about something within themselves
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that will give them a false sense of this person is below me
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so therefore i am okay in this area i
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Confident people don't feel the need to talk about
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anybody to insult others compare themselves to others to talk about others behind their backs that's just the truth
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because they're fulfilled with themselves with the people they surround themselves
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with what they put their attention on they're not going to
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be wasting time insecurities are vicious they will look for anything
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they can find to validate themselves criticizing others gives people some sort of false superiority complex
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that they are better and they are have a reason to feel insecure.
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When you start to actually care about yourself, you don't feel the need to be hateful.
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You know, anyone who is being rude to you or talking about you behind your back or, you know, just tries to make you feel shitty about something.
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It's not your problem.
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It's not your responsibility.
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And it's also not about you.
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It is about them.
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And, you know, after realizing this fact, it gets really easy.
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You have that like lens of, okay, this person feels good about themselves.
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very nice person, but I think that a very easy way to comfort yourself
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when you're insecure is to try to bring others down.
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This is sort of going into social anxiety, like what I just said and now what I'm about to say.
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You kind of got to start switching your mind from like, ah, like being sort of scared of the outside.
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Well, I'm saying this because I used to have really bad social anxiety.
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I have been a shy kid all of my life.
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Like in school, I was not popular.
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I have always sort of kept to myself and who I trust around me.
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The idea of like walking into a room
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and being a part of like a bigger space and group of people who I didn't know, or even people who I did know, used to really freak me out.
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And then I had to ask myself like, okay, why am I freaked out?
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What is there?
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What is making me feel so scared?
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Like, what is the belief I have in myself?
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Right.
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And then we go, it goes back to what we were talking about earlier.
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You know, the vision, what makes you feel so different from that?
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Like, what is, what's the issue?
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Right.
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So identifying that I realized, like, I think a big thing about being insecure and having social anxiety and stuff is like, you're so aware of the way that you might be coming across,
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or you don't want to come across to come across a certain way to people, or you have some sort of insecurity around the way that you're acting or being perceived.
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I have felt that so strongly my whole life, and it wasn't until I started flipping it being like no
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you know what I have nothing to worry about here walking into a room being excited for these people
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that they get to experience you you know like seeing yourself in
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that regard of you're not better than anybody you're not superior
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but you love yourself
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and you are excited to add to this room you're excited
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for the people around you you are excited for your presence
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to interact with others because you are amazing and you are worthy of
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that and you are interesting and you love yourself
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and you love yourself for a reason all of this work
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that we're talking about all the comfort we're sacrificing to be
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here we didn't come here to be like oh you know
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like i'm gonna walk in a room like with my head
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down a little bit no we came in here to grace everyone with our presence you are putting all this work
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beautiful and amazing and you get to share that with the world
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and you get to walk up to people and introduce yourself to people as that person that you love, as that person who is watching this video, as that person who wants to learn,
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as that person who wants to grow, as that person who does the uncomfortable things for themselves, for the person who keeps the promises to themselves,
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that person deserves love and respect and you give that to yourself and you're excited for
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and you're excited for other people to engage with that person.
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You are your dream self.
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It's you, and you get to mingle with the world as that person.
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You don't feel like it right now.
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I promise you through a little bit of discomfort, you will.
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And I'm just, I'm getting so passionate because I literally spent my whole life being so insecure,
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and I have just recently found the beautiful have everything that my dream self would have?
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No. Like I said, this is a muscle that needs continuous upkeep and maintenance and work.
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I've seen the proof.
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Fake it till you make it, but no, like, just like, even if you don't believe it, be like, this is gonna be a great experience for me, and everyone in here is excited to meet me,
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and maybe some people will act like they aren't, and they'll be rude to you, or maybe they won't like you.
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Not everyone's gonna like you, right?
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But like, you like you, and other people are going to be attracted to that and it is going to be good, I promise.
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Just believe it and keep believing it.
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Even whenever you find reasons not to believe it, keep believing it. And it...
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will be reality.
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And I can't believe it's true, but it actually will be.
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I wish I could pull like real life footage right now of like moments
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that I'm thinking of in my head throughout all my teenage years.
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Even like last year, the year before, just thinking of all these moments where like I was so, I was paralyzed because I was so insecure around people.
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The last thing I want to say is that there is just nobody like you.
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I'm not saying this as like fake motivation and trying to make you feel better about yourself.
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nobody like you there is nobody with your exact vision with
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your exact strengths talents weaknesses your story your history there's nobody
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who is meant to do exactly what you're supposed to do there is just
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so much uniqueness and in every single one of us
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that we can be so ashamed of
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that we should ultimately be really really proud of
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because there is nobody else who is gonna do it like us um whatever
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that is there are
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so many people just waiting to look up to you whether that's at your job
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or in your family or the family you will create
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or the friends you will make or the friends that you have or the little you
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and now you're building that confidence or you're trying to reach a certain goal.
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There are so many people waiting to look up to you
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and waiting for you to pave the way in whatever area you feel like you're not good enough for.
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If you don't feel beautiful enough or you don't feel strong enough
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or you don't feel lucky enough or you don't whatever it is, there are people who feel the exact same way.
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People need an example.
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I could not do what I'm doing and build the confidence didn't have role models and examples.
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The resources I've used for motivation and the books and the tools
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that I have clung to in the midst of this journey, we need each other in order to do this.
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Because if there aren't people paving the way, then we might not believe it's possible for us either.
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You can do it.
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You are that person and you have that vision for a reason.
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There are so many other people with goals like yours
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and maybe they look like you and maybe they come from a similar
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look up to and they need to know that it's possible
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and like there are people that can help you know
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that it's possible and you deserve to feel all the confidence in the world i promise you it is It's worth it.
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I'm getting emotional.
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I can't even really explain to you ever since I was little
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i never felt adequate i never felt i could be somebody
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in a room i always compared myself to other people
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and it just makes me sad to like think of little anaya not
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Feeling good enough and then other people they prey on
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that like I said earlier insecurity is vicious and if other people Feel silly about something in themselves.
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They are gonna make you feel really silly about it I have just gone through
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that like I've had friends make me feel
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so bad about myself I have compared myself to people and I have felt horrible mentally and physically about things.
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I'm just in such a different place in my life
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and i just like never thought that
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that was possible for me i just always thought i was
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gonna be the quiet insecure girl who you know of course
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maybe had a little bit of confidence in this area
432
and like oh can maybe do this a little bit
433
or this and that but i didn't think i could grow past those points
434
and to see myself choosing to do the things that are
435
so uncomfortable but they they pay off in a way
436
that is just so rewarding and in a way that encourages me to keep Going I I could talk about this forever.
437
I really could I just hope you know
438
that like you are not alone in this journey
439
and all of us Feel this way to a certain extent
440
all of the time It's just a matter of who's good
441
at combating it who is consistent with going through the discomfort of reinforcing new ways of thought
442
and new ways of thinking seeing themselves and showing that to the world.
443
I think it's beautiful to be able to help each other out
444
and I wish that we could all just be vulnerable
445
and lift each other up but sadly that's not always the way our world works
446
but just know that I am here to do that for you.
447
I I'm so proud of you.
448
And if you listened to all of this, I am so grateful.
449
If you did, can you let me know?
450
Because I have a belief.
451
See?
452
Here, actively, right here, I have a belief in my head that I'm like, nobody cares what I have to say.
453
That's not true.
454
And I know that's not true.
455
I do think that people care what I have to say because I care what I have to say, you know?
456
Like, don't let that, like, that insecurity is something that it likes to peek itself in, but I am going to shift my focus.
457
Very grateful if you listened.
458
Let me tweak this a little bit and show you our final product here.
459
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Vocabolario e note di pronuncia per questa lezione
Questa lezione di conversazione di livello B2 si basa sul video “confidence is uncomfortable”. Questo video contiene 459 frasi e 5536 parole da ripetere con lo shadowing. Il parlato dura 30:46. Chi parla va veloce, circa 180 parole al minuto: aspettati suoni legati e ridotti. Il 88% delle parole rientra nelle 3.000 più comuni dell’inglese, quindi il lessico è facile da seguire.
Vocaboli chiave di questo video
Le 15 parole più avanzate del video, con pronuncia e significato:
| Parola | Pronuncia | Significato |
|---|---|---|
| insecure aggettivo | /ɪnsəˈkjʊɹ/ | insicuro, malsicuro |
| uncomfortable aggettivo | /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/ | scomodo |
| discomfort sostantivo | /dɪsˈkʌmfɚt/ | malessere, turbamento |
| affirmation sostantivo | /æfɝˈmeɪʃn/ | affermazione |
| reinforce verbo | /ˌɹiː.ɪnˈfɔːs/ | rinforzare |
| reintroduce verbo | reintrodurre | |
| interact verbo | /ɪn.təˈɹækt/ | interagire |
| gratification sostantivo | /ˌɡɹætɪfɪˈkeɪʃən/ | gratificazione |
| pave verbo | /peɪv/ | lastricare, pavimentare |
| upkeep sostantivo | /ˈʌpkip/ | manutenzione |
| gradual aggettivo | /ˈɡɹæd͡ʒuəl/ | graduale |
| perceive verbo | /pɚˈsiv/ | percepire |
| surround verbo | /səˈɹaʊnd/ | circondare |
| altar sostantivo | /ˈɔl.tɚ/ | altare |
| vicious aggettivo | /ˈvɪʃəs/ | violento |
I phrasal verb che sentirai
| Parola | Pronuncia | Significato |
|---|---|---|
| wake up verbo | /ˌweɪk ˈʌp/ | svegliarsi |
| go through verbo | attraversare | |
| come across verbo | dare l'impressione, avere l'aria | |
| stand up verbo | alzarsi in piedi | |
| get up verbo | alzarsi | |
| run away verbo | scappare, fuggire | |
| slow down verbo | rallentare, decelerare | |
| turn around verbo | girare, girarsi |
Frasi da ripetere
Frasi brevi e complete del video che puoi riutilizzare nella conversazione di tutti i giorni:
- I've been making floral arrangements for myself every week.
- What's a trait that we recognize in confident people?
- What were we talking about?
- What is making me feel so scared?
- If you did, can you let me know?
La grammatica di questo video
Le strutture che chi parla usa di più, con le parole esatte del video:
| Struttura | Nel video |
|---|---|
| “Used to” used to + verbo — un’abitudine o uno stato passato che non è più vero | used to be · used to have · used to really freak |
| Present perfect have/has + participio passato — un’azione passata che conta ancora adesso | have watched · have healed · have never been |
| Frasi relative who / which + frase — un’informazione in più su una persona o una cosa | people who also · somebody who lies · anyone who is |
| Forma passiva be + participio passato — conta ciò che accade, non chi lo fa | be attracted · be trusted · being perceived |
Pronuncia a cui fare attenzione
Chi parla usa 182 contrazioni e forme ridotte, come I'm, don't, you're. Pronunciale nella forma breve, così come le senti.
- I suoni “sh” e “zh”: affirmation /æfɝˈmeɪʃn/, gratification /ˌɡɹætɪfɪˈkeɪʃən/, vicious /ˈvɪʃəs/, subconscious /sʌbˈkɑn.ʃəs/, gosh /ɡɑːʃ/
- Parole lunghe — attenzione all’accento: uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/, gratification /ˌɡɹætɪfɪˈkeɪʃən/, communicator /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪtə/, euphoria /juˈfo.ɹi.ə/, superiority /sʊˌpɪə(ɹ).iˈɒ.ɹɪ.ti/
I suoni difficili per chi parla italiano:
- /h/ — va soffiata, non è muta: hateful /ˈheɪtfəl/, unhealthy /ʌnˈhɛl.θi/, unhappy /ʌnˈhæpi/, heal /ˈhiːl/
- Consonante finale — senza aggiungere una vocale dopo: discomfort /dɪsˈkʌmfɚt/, reinforce /ˌɹiː.ɪnˈfɔːs/, interact /ɪn.təˈɹækt/, pave /peɪv/, upkeep /ˈʌpkip/
- /æ/ — più aperta della “e”: affirmation /æfɝˈmeɪʃn/, interact /ɪn.təˈɹækt/, gratification /ˌɡɹætɪfɪˈkeɪʃən/, gradual /ˈɡɹæd͡ʒuəl/, embarrass /ɪmˈbæɹəs/
Come esercitarsi con questo video
- Ascolta tutto il video una volta senza parlare e annota le parole che non conosci.
- Inizia a velocità 0,75×, fai shadowing frase per frase e torna alla velocità normale quando diventa facile.
- Registrati e confronta con l’originale, facendo attenzione a parole come insecure, uncomfortable, discomfort.
Cos'è la tecnica dello Shadowing?
Shadowing è una tecnica di apprendimento delle lingue supportata da studi scientifici, originariamente sviluppata per la formazione dei traduttori professionisti e resa popolare dal poliglotta Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Il metodo è semplice ma potente: ascolti un audio in inglese di madrelingua e lo ripeti immediatamente ad alta voce — come un'ombra che segue il parlante con un ritardo di solo 1–2 secondi. A differenza dell'ascolto passivo o degli esercizi di grammatica, lo shadowing costringe il tuo cervello e i muscoli della bocca a elaborare e riprodurre simultaneamente i modelli di discorso reale. La ricerca dimostra che migliora significativamente la precisione della pronuncia, l'intonazione, il ritmo, il discorso connesso, la comprensione dell'ascolto e la fluidità del parlato — rendendolo uno dei metodi più efficaci per la preparazione alla prova di speaking dell'IELTS e per la comunicazione reale in inglese.