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Folks, I have a feeling that this is gonna be a pretty lengthy video because today I'm gonna be breaking down the art of conversation according to my head.
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It's evident that many of us are struggling with talking to people.
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Just from the sheer amount of views that my previous video got on talking to people, a lot of us are struggling with this.
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So, today I'm be sharing with you guys some things that have helped my mindset, so that I'm more comfortable talking to anyone that I meet.
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So, before we get into all the tips and tricks, we have to establish a good foundation first.
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I got to talk about the golden mindset I have before I enter any conversation or any social activity that I do.
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To quote Eckhart Tolle, "You are neither inferior nor superior to anyone." So, in other words, no one is above you, no one is below you.
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Every person that you meet is on an equal playing field.
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And I know it's like something that we subconsciously do where we like size ourselves up with the people that we meet, but if we don't keep this in check, we're gonna either end up with an inferiority complex or a superiority complex.
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An inferiority complex is essentially when you feel like someone is better than you.
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And inferiority comes in all different types of flavors.
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It could be someone who's more successful than you, someone's older than you, someone who's more beautiful, more followers, more intelligent.
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When you feel less than and when you're feeling insecure and you're feeling intimidated, you are not allowing your true self to shine.
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You're not giving yourself a fair chance to have people get to know who you truly are.
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And a superiority complex is when you feel like you are better than or more elevated than someone.
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It's an assumption that just because you're further along a certain path in your life or more knowledgeable about a certain topic, you feel like you can just dominate someone.
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You can come off smug, arrogant, condescending.
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And again, you're not giving people a fair shot to get to know who you are because you have this inflated sense of self.
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And there's an argument to be made that those with a superiority complex are just struggling with their inferiority complex.
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It really is like a balancing act.
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So, bottom line, recognize that no one is higher than you, no one is below you.
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And when you channel this energy, you give off grounded, calm.
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Like, I know myself energy.
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And ultimately, that's the kind of vibes that I'm looking for, and that's the kind of vibes that people are drawn to.
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And one huge way that I'm able to be more attuned with myself is through therapy.
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Next up, let's go over some prep work.
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So, this is kind of like a subconscious checklist that I have in my mind before I enter a conversation.
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First, I reflect on the things that are going on with my life because chances are, when you talk to someone, you're gonna receive the questions, like, how are you, how was your week, what's been happening, what's new?
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And in the past I would find myself like mildly irritated with these questions because I was like, "I hate small talk." And sometimes my mind would just go blank.
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But then I realized that it was up to me to do some reflection beforehand so I had something to say.
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So, before you go out, ask yourself these questions, how are you?
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Like, how are you really?
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What happened during the week?
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This is where my journal and my calendar come in, like, come in so clutch because it's like a running inventory of the things I did, the ideas that I had, the things that I learned.
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And so, I select maybe three or four items on that list and I just keep them stored in my mind, so that way I am not flustered when someone asks me just a very simple question.
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And these highlights can look like anything.
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It could be something that I learned in a podcast or a book.
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It could be like, did I come back from a trip?
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Did I add a new regimen to my life?
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Was there something amusing that happened this week?
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Or did I have an aha moment?
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And so, yeah, I just gather these things, so that way I am prepared.
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And if you struggle with this and you don't journal, I highly recommend just trying out the activity of Morning Pages.
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This is when you get a notebook, big or small, and you fill out three pages every day.
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It doesn't need to be in the morning.
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But ever since I started this practice during lockdown, it has really helped me retain the information and the events that are happening in my life.
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And in these pages I would write about anything.
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It could be about my day, a conversation that I had, like a summary of an article that I read, like from news, health, science, tech, like, anything.
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I just put it all on that page and it just helps me create topics that I'm interested in.
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And the thing is, the more subjects that you are curious about, the more range of topics that you can discuss with other people.
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I feel like I should give like an example.
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So, if someone asks me, "Hey, Jenn, how are you?" I'll be fairly honest, I'll be like, if I'm having a good week, I'll be like, "Oh, I've been pretty good, I've been grounded, stable, just been, like, been in a good season in my life.
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I think it's because I've been getting, like a large amount of sleep.
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Like, I really cleaned up my sleep hygiene routine.
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I read that book, "Why We Sleep" by Matthew Walker and it has just changed my life.
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Boom, instantly it gives the other person something to work with.
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You have sleeping, which is an activity that all of us do.
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You can ask about their sleeping routine, if they struggle, or if they also have read that book, or if they read another book.
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So, it's the small talk is really just the foreplay of conversation.
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And from that, it splinters off to a bunch of different topics.
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But honestly, sometimes I'll like have three or four highlights in my head and never bring them up because the conversation is just flowing naturally.
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This is just like a mechanism or a tool that I use to keep any anxious thoughts at bay because I know I'm prepared.
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So, now, I'm going to attempt on dissecting what conversation feels like for me.
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So, when I'm in a conversation, I imagine myself as an ice picker and I imagine the person that I'm speaking to as a mountain of snow.
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Each question I ask that person is like me ice picking off that mountain.
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Sometimes a little speck will come out or a chunk of snow will come out.
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And sometimes if I'm at a really good flow then an avalanche comes and the snow is the information that you receive.
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If someone is significant to me and I wanna remember what they say, that's me essentially making an effort to gather the snow, AKA, the information that they told me, that requires me to remember what they said in my heart and my head.
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And as you collect more snow, it becomes into a small snowball, and those are your acquaintances.
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And as you pick and gather more snow, it gets bigger and bigger.
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And those larger snowballs, those are your friends.
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And as you continue to pick and roll the snow, the snowballs become very large.
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And the big ones, those are your best friends.
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I really like this analogy when it comes to like friendships and conversation because it shows like the fluidity of everything.
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And if you leave something a little bit too long, it can end up melting.
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And for some people, it can melt faster, others...
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It's, you are just in Antarctica and it does not want to melt.
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I just wanted to say that analogy to set the stage on talking to different categories of people.
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Let's begin with talking with strangers because oddly enough I find this category the most exciting because you don't know anything about this person, they don't know anything about you.
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It's a fresh start.
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And so, I am just excited to get on that mountain and see what comes out when I start picking.
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I also think I get this thrill because there's like this mysterious element, like I truly believe that there is something to learn from everyone that we meet in our lives.
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And that really, really excites me.
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So, when I enter a conversation, I think it's like my job to find something in common and find a connection.
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So, when I wanna talk to a stranger that I've never met, my go-to icebreaker is just to make an observation in the environment that we're currently in because automatically that's something in common.
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So, if we're at a bar, I'll be like, "Oh, wow, this menu's pretty overwhelming.
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What'd you get?" If I'm at a show, "Ah, I love this song.
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Have you seen this band before?" If they're wearing a cool accessory, "I love your earrings." Are they vintage?" And the easiest one is if you're at a party and you know someone mutual, then you say, "Oh, so how do you know Veronica?" I can go on and on, but I feel like this icebreaker is, honestly, just to test the waters to see if there's a vibe or not.
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And the worst thing that can happen is they respond to you and they leave and then you didn't lose anything anyway.
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Like, you are probably never gonna see this person in your life.
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It's not like you lost someone, like, crucial in your life.
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Like, you're exactly where you left off and you got some more practice with your small talk.
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Mm-hmm, because it's 100% a muscle.
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Talking to people is nothing but a muscle.
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The more you do it, the better at it you become.
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However, if the person is engaged and is amused, then that's when you can like start asking questions and start picking the mountain.
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Everything that they say is an opportunity for a new topic that can be splintered.
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Pro tip is to ask questions that you are genuinely curious about because when you have that authentic buzz of like, oh, I really wanna know, that enthusiasm permeates the energy and it's like infectious.
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So, again, this is where like prep work and checking in with yourself is really important because then you kind of already know some topics that you're into.
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Discovering topics that you're really interested in, really helps.
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So, then, you kind of like buckets of categories that you feel comfortable talking about.
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So, for me, I love talking about love, relationships, film, food, restaurants, tech, music, shows, current affairs, memes, books.
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And the more pillars that you have, the easier it is to connect.
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So, it's like doubtful that I'd bring up topics like quantum physics or sailing because I don't know anything about them.
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But the thing is I'm very open and eager for people to talk about whatever they wanna talk about as well.
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Like, for example, like I met someone's dad and he was like a rheumatologist and so we're just talking about like health and like studies that he found and what his patients are like.
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But the thing is with these questions, you want it to have a good flow.
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Like, if you ask a question, give it some space.
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Like, see where it wanders, see where it splinters.
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Like, just random questions like, what kind of animal would you be?
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Like, it can feel forced and trite.
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I would always start off with broad strokes first, like, how was your week?
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How was your day?
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If you're at a party, where are you coming from?
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Opens up the door for the next topic.
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So, if I ask someone, how was your day?
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And they respond by saying, "Oh, my day was good, work was a little stressful, my commute is like pretty long." Oh, it was, like, how long is your commute?
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An hour? So, are you more of like a music or a podcast person while driving?
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And loop, you have an in.
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Suddenly, you can talk about records they're listening to, or podcast they're listening to.
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Remember in conversation, if someone is not opening up, it is up to you to set the stage by opening up first.
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And of course, conversation is always a two-way street, so if they wanna talk about crafting, for example.
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Like, I personally don't craft, but I will try and find something that I am curious about it.
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So, I'll ask them, oh, how'd you get started with crafting?
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What's the last thing that you created?
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What's your process?
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How long does it take for you to complete something like that?
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I think what really helps conversation flow is when I am just giving them my full complete focus.
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I'm not looking around at the party, I'm not trying to think about something wise, or like, come up with an obscure reference or whatever.
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Like, I am truly just listening to them.
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And when I trust that my brain is gonna come up with an appropriate response, it usually does.
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Because when you're trying to think of the best thing to say, that's your perfectionist showing.
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Ultimately, no one really cares about like a quote from, I don't know, Kurt Vonnegut.
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People just want to feel heard and to be seen.
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So, when I don't really know what to say, when someone says something to me, the best thing I do is I just paraphrase what they said and that's enough.
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Like, it makes people feel like they've been heard.
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And ultimately, that's what many people want in a conversation.
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Trust me, like, all of this is trial and error.
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And there have been a lot of conversations that I've been in where I literally just crashed and burden just made it a complete idiot out of myself.
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But the thing is I didn't die, it just made me into a better conversationalist 'cause I was like, maybe I just shouldn't say that.
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So, now, let's move on to acquaintances.
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I think that this category is arguably the most difficult because acquaintances are not strangers and they're not friends.
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And I used to get really in my head about certain acquaintances because I would forget everything that we talked about in the past and it was really embarrassing.
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I was not collecting the snow, if you will.
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So, let's say there's an acquaintance where I'm like, I don't remember anything about this person.
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It's fine, just go back to the stranger's equation.
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Start with the small talk.
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Like, pretend that it's just like a brand new mountain.
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When I believe that there's a fresh start, I am just inherently better at it because I feel like I get to start again.
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But chances are with most acquaintances, I know at least, like, two or three facts about them in my Rolodex of information.
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Is this person in a relationship?
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Is this person single?
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Is this person in school?
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Do they have any siblings?
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Each one of these questions can branch out into a different topic.
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So, if they're in a relationship, ask them how their partner are doing.
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Like, how did their partner and them meet?
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If they're single, ask them the last bad date they went on.
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If they're in school, ask them about a project they're working on.
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If they have any siblings, ask them if they're like younger or older and if that, like, birthplace had any effect on their sense of development.
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I don't know, these are questions that I personally would like receiving, so that's why I ask them to other people.
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If you and an acquaintance are following each other on social media, that's also a really easy icebreaker because you can like look at their stories and ask them about that cafe they went to, or that restaurant, or how their trip was.
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This is all a form of ice picking and letting that snow fall.
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If a conversation continues to be clunky and it is not serving anyone, you have every right to leave.
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My favorite line is, ah, I'm gonna go to the bathroom.
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I'll see you in a bit.
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Chemistry is seriously a thing, not only in romantic relationships, but in friendships as well.
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If there is no chemistry, like, friendship chemistry, then it's fine to acquaintance-zone people.
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And it is fine if people acquaintance-zone me.
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Acquaintances are great because it's so nice to see familiar faces in spaces and you might end up having like a cute conversation.
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Also, acquaintances are one of the best ways to meet more people because acquaintances and friends introduce you to strangers.
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So, it's just like this cycle that keeps on going.
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And finally, we have the friend category.
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To be honest, I don't really have too much prepare on this section because friends are the ones where you have already done the hard work.
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Like, you've already established a foundation, you've done a lot of ice picking, you know the mountain really well.
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You know if you pick here, chunks of snow will come out.
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You know if you pick there, just maybe a little will come out.
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But the fact is, with your friends, conversation should feel natural, intuitive, easy, ambling, fun, lively.
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Like, this is why they're your friends.
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And each friend has like a different character profile.
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There are some friends where you just speak mostly about, I don't know, like, light stuff or there's like stuff, friends that you go to parties with, friends that you work out with, friends that you just spill all your guts with, friends that you just lay and do nothing with, and your best friends are the ones that tick a lot of those boxes.
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All right guys, I feel like the sun is totally cutting me off here, but I think it's a good time to wrap this video up.
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I hope watching this helped you get a little, like, less out of your head on talking to people.
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I hope you guys talk to at least five strangers in the next month.
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And I'll see you guys in the next one, bye.
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Informazioni su questa Lezione
In questa lezione, ci concentreremo sull'arte della conversazione, esplorando come interagire efficacemente con estranei, conoscenti e amici. Imparerai a costruire un mindset positivo prima di ogni interazione, riconoscendo che tutti siamo sulla stessa lunghezza d'onda. Questo è un passo fondamentale per migliorare la tua capacità di conversazione e sentirti più a tuo agio mentre parli in inglese. Utilizzeremo strategie per affrontare i piccoli discorsi e comprendere come riflettere su cosa condividere nelle conversazioni quotidiane. Questo legame tra riflessione e interazione è fondamentale per migliorare la pronuncia inglese e la fluidità.
Vocabolario Chiave e Frasi
- Mindset positivo - mentalità che aiuta a sentirsi a proprio agio in situazioni sociali.
- Complesso di inferiorità - quando ti senti inferiore rispetto agli altri.
- Complesso di superiorità - quando ti senti superiore agli altri.
- Riflettendo sulla vita - considerare ciò che sta accadendo nella propria vita prima di una conversazione.
- Piccole chiacchiere - conversazioni informali su argomenti generali.
- Comunicazione efficace - abilità chiave per migliorare la conversazione.
- Essere a proprio agio - sentirsi rilassati e sicuri durante un'interazione.
- Flessibilità - adattarsi a vari tipi di relazioni e conversazioni.
Consigli per la Pratica
Per sfruttare al meglio questa lezione, ti consiglio di utilizzare la tecnica del shadowing, che consiste nel ripetere ciò che hai ascoltato, cercando di imitare la pronuncia e il tono dell'oratore. Questo è particolarmente utile quando si tratta di pratica di conversazione in inglese, e ti aiuterà a migliorare sia la fluidità che la pronuncia. Poiché il video potrebbe avere un ritmo diverso, prova a velocizzare o rallentare l'audio secondo le tue necessità. Puoi usare un shadowing site per praticare con diversi video.
Per iniziare, trova un momento tranquillo durante la giornata in cui puoi concentrarti sull'ascolto. Segui queste fasi:
- Ascolta una breve parte del video senza interrompere.
- Rimandi la parte ascoltata, cercando di copiare ciò che hai sentito.
- Prenditi tempo per riflettere sulle risposte che utilizzeresti per le domande comuni.
- Fai pratica con amici o familiari, discutendo come ti senti nei vari contesti sociali.
Utilizzando questi metodi, potrai imparare l'inglese con youtube più efficacemente e sentirti scollegato da ansie o nervosismi nella comunicazione con gli altri.
La grammatica di questo video
Le strutture che chi parla usa di più, con le parole esatte del video:
| Struttura | Nel video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — un’azione iniziata prima e ancora in corso | what's been happening · I've been getting |
| Frasi condizionali if + frase, will/would + verbo — una condizione e il suo risultato | if I'm having a good week, I'll be · if we're at a bar, I'll be |
| Present perfect have/has + participio passato — un’azione passata che conta ancora adesso | have helped · have spent · has really helped |
| Forma passiva be + participio passato — conta ciò che accade, non chi lo fa | be made · are drawn · I've been grounded |
Cos'è la tecnica dello Shadowing?
Shadowing è una tecnica di apprendimento delle lingue supportata da studi scientifici, originariamente sviluppata per la formazione dei traduttori professionisti e resa popolare dal poliglotta Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Il metodo è semplice ma potente: ascolti un audio in inglese di madrelingua e lo ripeti immediatamente ad alta voce — come un'ombra che segue il parlante con un ritardo di solo 1–2 secondi. A differenza dell'ascolto passivo o degli esercizi di grammatica, lo shadowing costringe il tuo cervello e i muscoli della bocca a elaborare e riprodurre simultaneamente i modelli di discorso reale. La ricerca dimostra che migliora significativamente la precisione della pronuncia, l'intonazione, il ritmo, il discorso connesso, la comprensione dell'ascolto e la fluidità del parlato — rendendolo uno dei metodi più efficaci per la preparazione alla prova di speaking dell'IELTS e per la comunicazione reale in inglese.