シャドーイング練習: Stop Giving Second Chances to People Who Haven't Changed - 動画で英語スピーキングを学ぶ
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I'm about to say something that nobody wants to hear a relationship or couples therapist say.
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I understand that.
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I know that I am not supposed to say what I'm about to say out loud, but it must be said.
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Everybody does not deserve a second chance.
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Say it with me.
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Everybody does not deserve a second chance.
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That is my opinion and I am standing on it.
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I'm Dr. Baldwin.
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I'm a licensed therapist and I've been a relationship therapist for a long time.
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I know we've been told to be the bigger person.
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We have been told that forgiveness is for you, not for them.
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And that is true.
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Forgiveness is absolutely for you.
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But second chances, that's a different conversation.
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And we're having it today because it needs to be said.
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A second chance has nothing to do with how much work you've done on yourself.
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Giving someone a second chance does not make you more evolved or enlightened.
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It doesn't even make you more emotionally mature.
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It just means that you have made a decision.
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Making a decision is very important.
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It needs to be an informed decision.
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If you don't know what an informed decision means, it means your decision is rooted in information.
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An informed decision means you are choosing something based on clear understanding of the facts, risks, benefits, and possible outcomes.
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You are not guessing.
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You have taken the time to gather the right information and considered all your options.
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You understand how the choice could impact you.
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It means that your decision is intentional.
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grounded, made with awareness, not impulses.
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With that said, the only thing, and I mean the only thing, that earns someone a second chance is a perspective shift.
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Not an apology, not time, not them saying they've changed, a full perspective shift.
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The way that they see you is different.
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The way that they treat you has changed.
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The way that they talk to you, talk about you, show up for you, it looks different than it did before.
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And not only can you see it, you can feel it too.
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You won't have to overanalyze.
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You won't have to convince yourself of anything.
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When someone's perspective of you has genuinely shifted, you will feel it.
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It will be in the room with you you will feel the shift in your body.
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But when it hasn't, when they're saying everything right, but doing everything the same, that will feel confusing.
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That person has earned access to you again without doing the work to deserve it.
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Access and second chances are two completely different things.
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And giving someone access to you without a perspective shift is permission.
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It is permission to play in your face again for the second time.
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Giving a person a second chance who has not had the shift in how they see you
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and treat you is a nail in a coffin.
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That is permission to play.
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Again, now let's say you decide to give someone a second chance.
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Let's say the shift is real.
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You can see it.
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You can feel it.
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You have made the decision.
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You cannot hold them in contempt for something you have forgiven.
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That is rule number one in couples therapy.
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The only rule that matters once you open that door because contempt is a thing that poisons everything.
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You can ask John and Julie Gottman.
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If you don't know who they are, look them up.
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They say contempt is one of the strongest predictors of relationship breakdown.
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Contempt is the eye roll that says, I actually never forgave you.
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Or the way that you bring up what they did every time there is a conflict, even when it has nothing to do with whatever you're talking about.
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Contempt is you letting them back in while quietly deciding they'll never be able to do anything right again.
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And that's unfair to them and to you.
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If you decide to give someone another shot, you give them a real one.
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You stop treating them like they're guilty until proven innocent.
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Now, that does not mean you stop paying attention.
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That does not mean you start ignoring red flags.
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That means that you let them old ones go.
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Because saying you forgive and actually releasing contempt are not the same thing.
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A lot of couples say that they have moved on, but you can still see it in the tone.
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The body language, the sarcasm, and how they interpret each other, that's pretty obvious.
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It tells you that the injury is still active.
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Contempt keeps the wound open.
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You let that person back in, but you stayed in the place that they hurt you, which means the relationship can't actually go anywhere.
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You're both stuck.
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This is hard work.
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Just know, if contempt is present, forgiveness is incomplete.
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And if forgiveness is real, Contempt has nowhere to live.
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Please remember this.
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After everything that is said here, a second chance is earned.
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It is earned by someone who holds you in the highest regard consistently without you having to ask for it.
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If the regard isn't there, the second chance is not warranted.
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In my opinion, if you decide to give it, you give it fully or don't give it at all.
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Because half in holding on to contempt is one foot in and one foot out the door.
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That's a slower version of the same hurt.
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And you deserve better than that.
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You deserve people who see you clearly and choose you anyway.
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The second chances you give should be moving towards that.
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So let me give you an example.
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You have a friend who is chronically late to your events.
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And this puts you in a position to not mess with them.
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Okay?
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So you end the friendship.
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After a few years, you're thinking, hmm, I miss them.
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I want to bring them back into my life.
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And so you agree to move forward in a different path.
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Okay, so now you have events and your friend is showing up on time.
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And when they get there, you are reminding them of what it was like back then.
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You're here saying, nice of you to show up on time.
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And now the relationship is stuck in a pattern in the past.
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You keep repeating the pattern even though they've changed.
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This is keeping you both stuck and this is not a second chance.
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This is punishment.
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If you really wanted this to be a second chance, you would validate the effort to show up for you on time.
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And then you start a new pattern of interactions.
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Now you got the friend that you wanted all along, somebody to show up for you on time to your events.
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And that is how we keep growing.
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That is how we strengthen our relationships.
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when we decide to give a second chance.
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Now, let's be clear.
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If your friend starts showing up late again, you should evaluate the friendship again.
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You should evaluate to see if this is working for you and for them.
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And if it's not, you're not obligated to give anybody a second chance.
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So at the end of the day, this episode is not about whether or not you should give somebody a second chance.
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It's about what happens when you decide that you want to give a second chance and if that second chance is warranted.
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So if you're given a second chance, remember, you have to forgive so there is no contempt.
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And that person has to show that they have changed.
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Otherwise, you're trapped in a pattern.
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And that's what we're trying to avoid.
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So let me know in the comments, who are you giving a second chance and who can hit the door on the way out?
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Don't let the door hit you where the good Lord split you.
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Don't let it hit you where the good Lord split you. That is, that's funny.
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この動画が話す練習に最適な理由
YouTubeで英語学習をするなら、この動画は「shadow speech」の良い教材です。話者のDr. Baldwinは自然なスピーチスタイルで、感情や主張がはっきり伝わります。日常的な会話で使えるフレーズが多く、リズムやイントネーションも練習しやすいです。特に「Everybody does not deserve a second chance」のような強い主張の言い方は、英語での表現力を高めるのに役立ちます。
自然な表現を分解してみよう
- 「I'm about to say something that nobody wants to hear a relationship or couples therapist say.」：「about to say」は「今から言う」という即時性を表し、「nobody wants to hear... say」で「誰も聞きたくないこと」を自然に伝えています。関係代名詞「that」の使い方も日常会話でよく見られる形です。
- 「Forgiveness is absolutely for you.」：「absolutely」で強調し、シンプルな構造で確信を表しています。短い文なのに印象的で、話す時のリズムを感じ取れます。
- 「You won't have to overanalyze.」：「overanalyze」は「過剰に分析する」という意味で、日常的な問題を話す時に使える単語です。「won't have to」の否定形が柔らかく、勧めるような口調になっています。
シャドーイングの練習ルーティン
英語シャドーイングを効果的に行うには、以下のステップを試してみてください。まず動画を10秒ほど再生し、すぐに止めて自分で同じ内容を繰り返します（shadow speak）。声の高さや速さ、ポーズも真似してみましょう。それを数回繰り返したら、録音して自分の発音と元の音声を比較します。「a perspective shift」のようなフレーズは、発音が難しいかもしれませんが、ゆっくりと繰り返すことで慣れてきます。このルーティンを毎日10分続けると、自然なスピーチが身につきます。
この動画の文法
話し手がよく使っている文型を、動画の実際の表現とともに紹介します。
| 文型 | 動画での表現 |
|---|---|
| 現在完了形 have/has + 過去分詞 — 過去の出来事が今も関係している | I've been · we've been told · have been told |
| 受動態 be + 過去分詞 — 誰がするかより、何が起きるかに焦点を当てる | must be said · we've been told · have been told |
| 関係詞節 who / which + 節 — 人や物について情報を加える | someone who holds · people who see · friend who is |
シャドーイングとは？英語上達に効果的な理由
シャドーイング（Shadowing）は、もともとプロの通訳者養成プログラムで開発された言語学習法で、多言語習得者として知られるDr. Alexander Arguelles によって広く普及されました。方法はシンプルですが非常に効果的：ネイティブスピーカーの英語を聞きながら、1〜2秒の遅延で声に出してすぐに繰り返す——まるで「影（shadow）」のように話者を追いかけます。文法ドリルや受動的なリスニングと異なり、シャドーイングは脳と口の筋肉が同時にリアルタイムで英語を処理・再現することを強制します。研究により、発音精度、抑揚、リズム、連音、リスニング力、そして会話の流暢さが大幅に向上することが確認されています。IELTSスピーキング対策や自然な英語コミュニケーションを目指す方に特におすすめです。