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Conversations can be brutal, but with a little preparation and bridging, you can have amazing communication.

My name is Matt Abrahams, and I teach strategic communication at Stanford Graduate School of Business.

Welcome to Think Fast, Talk Smart, the podcast.

Today, I'm excited to have another conversation with my friend, Rachel Greenwald.

Rachel is an executive fellow at Harvard Business School and a professional matchmaker and dating coach.

Rachel is an expert on communication and relationship building, not only in the dating arena, but also in the workplace.

She's here on campus at Stanford to co -teach a class with Professor Tina Selig called Designing for Love.

Well, welcome, Rachel.

I am so glad you decided to revisit us, and it's great to be in person this time.

Thanks for being here.

You're welcome.

Thanks for having me back.

Excellent.

Shall we get started?

Let's do it all right the last time you were here we talked a lot about small talk

and you gave very actionable useful advice

that i use to this day to start

and to exit small talk the white flag approach you taught was amazing

and i really quote you often with the point

that small talk is about being interested and not interesting and

if any of you want to hear rachel's advice on small talk go back to episode 217.

So if those were sort of the entry -level, beginner -level small talk advice and tips, can you give us some advanced advice,

black belt -level small talk tips to help us better communicate and help us avoid that dread we all feel?

Yeah, everybody hates small talk because mostly it's so boring and awkward.

So I think

that moving up the scale to graduate -level small talk advice is really about moving from playing defense to offense.

So defense is more like coming up with good answers to basic small talk questions, which we talked about last time.

But playing offense is more about being strategic with your small

talk game to help your conversation partner learn something about you that might lead to a desired goal that you have.

So this is really where your personal brand comes in, where I want you to find a bridge out of the initial stages of small talk

that leads towards a topic that makes you unique and memorable.

So here's an example.

Maybe you're on a date or you're in a job interview.

You want it to go well.

So you think a little bit ahead of time, what is it that makes me unique from all the other dates

that he's been on this week or all the other candidates he's interviewed this week.

And in your case, Matt, maybe it's that being a podcast host is unique.

You don't meet those hosts every day.

So what I want you to do is find a bridge

that is going to take you from a basic small talk question like, how are you, to something that allows you to talk about being a podcast host.

So for example, if I say, how are you?

You might say, oh, I'm actually doing great today.

I just interviewed a really interesting guest on my podcast, and she told me all about organic wine.

And so now you've sort of bridged into this more interesting topic.

The key, though, is that you have to have a plan going into these type of conversations

because you can't expect to just come up with something like that on the spot.

I mean, think about if you're an athlete, you wouldn't just start exercising, you would do some stretching and warming up before the exercise.

So there's all sorts of examples like this.

For example, in a job interview, let's say one of the personal brand attributes that makes you unique is that you're gritty.

You have a lot of grit.

Maybe you walk into a job interviewer's office

and he's got a photo of himself climbing a mountain behind him on the desk.

And so you could do this bridge where you say, oh, I noticed that hiking photo over there.

I'm curious where that hike is because actually I just climbed Kilimanjaro this year and it was so hard, but I did it.

And so here you're moving basic small talk into something that is strategic on your part,

demonstrating your personal brand that is grit in this case.

So what I really hear is it's about branding and bridging and how you connect those two.

And what's required there is to be a little strategic

and to think in advance about what are those things that make me unique.

What advice do you have as we reflect on our personal brand?

We've had Seth Godin and Dori Clark on the show, and they've talked about personal brand as well.

But as a matchmaker, I'm wondering if you have a specific way of thinking about brand that we could all benefit from.

I do.

I mean, I think that the first thing to say about

personal branding is that it gets a bad reputation as being manipulative

or like you're bragging or showing off if you talk about something that makes you unique or special or memorable.

So I think the first thing is you have to get

that out of your head that I think the better metaphor about personal branding is

that it's almost like you're walking into a restaurant and the hostess is greeting you at the host stand.

She can either make basic small talk with you and say something like, how are you?

Would you like a table?

Or she could hand you a menu and essentially say, what looks good here tonight on the menu?

So essentially, she's focusing the initial greeting on the chef's specials and what are the signature items at the restaurant.

So once you've got the right attitude about personal branding,

the easiest shortcut to what is a personal brand is to come up with three traits or skills that makes you unique.

So Seth Godin talked about this in Purple Cow, about basically how to be unique and memorable.

And so I think you just come up with three things that feel authentic, but also unique, kind of the Venn diagram of who you are,

but what's unique about that.

So maybe you're on a date, for example, and let's say your three personal brand traits are that you're adventurous.

Maybe you once appeared on Shark Tank and you're from North Dakota.

You know, being from North Dakota is not like being from New York or California.

It's unique.

So you will pick something that is part of that personal brand

and find a bridge out of small talk into focusing on something that makes you memorable.

You may not be the only one on Shark Tank.

You're not the only one who's from North Dakota.

You're not the only one who's adventurous.

But you might be the Venn diagram of those three things,

and that is a great place to start when somebody on a date might say to you, you know, what do you do?

You might be able to think in advance, well, I'm going to talk about being on Shark Tank

because that's always good fodder for interesting conversation and the crazy things that happened that one time I was on TV.

And so somebody says, what do you do?

And you might start off by saying, well, I'm an entrepreneur, but I have to tell you, I've only had 15 minutes of fame.

My company may not be doing very well right now, but once I was actually on Shark Tank and I have the craziest stories about Mr. Wonderful.

So you brought up the topic

and you've really served up an interesting menu to your conversation partner about something to talk about right away.

I really like the idea of delineating your authentic differences in your brand as circles that overlap in a Venn diagram.

A lot of people say just list out all the different things.

But the physical representation and overlaps is what I think can be really interesting because that is what makes you unique.

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There might be a lot of people who have tenacity and a lot of people who have deep knowledge in one area, but that overlap makes it unique.

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And I like that idea of helping us identify it that way.

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And then thinking of yourself as a host or a hostess who has to focus that initial interaction, I really like that as well.

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You know, many of us struggle in conversation in general, but the real struggle is that first beginning part, that first 60 seconds.

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Do you have advice on how to maximize and set ourselves up to enjoy that beginning part?

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I feel like once I get over that hump, it becomes much easier.

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You're exactly right.

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Those first 60 seconds are the worst.

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Taking an improv class is always great because that helps teach you to roll with any situation.

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But beyond that, there are two other things that I coach my dating clients on.

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So the first thing I tell people to ease that first minute is topic prep.

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So to think about in advance, again, you're like an athlete stretching and warming up for the exercises.

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Topic prep involves just taking a minute

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or two before you walk into a conversation you're maybe going to a business networking event

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or on a date or a job interview

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or even catching up with a friend and you pause

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and think of three things that you're curious to ask in advance

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so if it's stranger you're meeting you can google them

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or find their instagram or look for clues and some messages you've had

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so far from what they might be interested in And...

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But for example, let's say you looked at their Instagram in advance of somebody you're meeting on a date

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and you saw that this guy had a photo of himself fly fishing.

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So maybe that's one of your three topics that you've prepped in advance

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and you are going to ask how he became interested in fly fishing.

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And maybe that's going to lead to a story about how his dad taught him to fly fish

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and it was bonding and that opens up conversation about his family.

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So I think being prepared is super important.

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There's another really interesting trick that works especially well in almost every situation.

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And it is a Latin phrase called in media race.

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And in media race means literally in the middle of things.

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So this is where you start a story in the middle.

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Kind of like if you've ever seen a TV show where they start with a robbery in progress

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and then the show cuts to a phrase on the screen

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that says three days earlier and it hooks the listener to show what led up to that moment. In conversation,

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this looks like starting a story in the middle is something

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that you actually did the last time you and I had a phone call.

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I don't know if you remember this.

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I remember the phone call.

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I don't remember this, though.

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Tell me, what did I do?

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As soon as we got on the phone, I said to you something like, thanks for accommodating my schedule to talk on a Saturday.

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And you said, well, there I was, toilet shopping with my mom when the reminder for our meeting popped up on my phone.

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And so I was immediately hooked.

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Toilet shopping for your mom?

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What on earth is the backstory to that?

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And you just launched into in media rights in the middle of a story, something that was unexpected and intriguing.

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And it really just helped us get over very quickly those awkward first 60 seconds of small talk.

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I'm glad I demonstrated that.

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So let's just say it was an explosive situation that needed to be fixed and we took care of it.

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Again, the advice is to do some preparation, even though conversations are spontaneous, to take the time to do some preparation,

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that reconnaissance, reflection, and research on the person or people you're interacting with can be really helpful.

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And the goal is not to script out the communication, but it's really to find the opening for further conversation is what I heard you say.

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And that to me is a very different way of approaching.

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So it's not just, what do I say to start it?

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It's what do I say to open up the conversation?

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And I like the idea of starting in the middle.

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As somebody who teaches people how to give presentations, that's definitely a technique that can be used.

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And I like that you apply it to conversation.

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Well, I want to talk about how we did prepare for this interview on that phone call on that Saturday.

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You and I had a conversation about handling taboo topics, things like money, religion, sex.

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You have some really useful ideas about how to discuss these types of topics, which turn out to be really important as we develop deeper relationships with people.

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Can you share some tips and tools to help us talk about topics that might be taboo?

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People tend to avoid taboo topics because they're fearful of controversy or having awkward moments.

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But I would invite people as they move away from small talk

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and start to grow and deepen a relationship with somebody to reframe taboo topics as really a gateway to deepen connections.

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So for example, what that looks like is not focusing on the facts of the taboo topic,

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not what do you think about it?

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Are you in favor of it or against it?

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Those are facts about a taboo topic like money, sex, or religion, but really to focus on the stories and emotions behind those topics.

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So, for example, if we use the taboo topic of money, it's always somewhat awkward to talk about money for most people.

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So let's say you've been dating somebody for a few weeks

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or months and you want to start assessing if your values align on an important topic like money.

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So instead of asking a factual -based question like, do you consider yourself frugal with your money or do you spend lavishly,

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you might ask a question that evokes a story like, what did your parents teach you about money when you were growing up?

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Or you might ask a question like, what's the first thing you bought with your own money and why was that important?

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So here you're getting at the why of what they feel

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and not a factual black or white answer in terms of whether they align with what you think about the topic.

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Even though money is one of these topics that people argue a lot about in marriages, what's important is how you argue,

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not what you're arguing about and not whether you're on the same page, but how you resolve conflict when it arises.

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So taboo topics and using those to get into storytelling about how someone's belief system was shaped,

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especially at a young age,

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is really this kind of gateway drug to making taboo topics a vehicle for deeper connection.

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So several things there that I really like, that talking about topics that can be challenging actually deepen the relationship.

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And a great way to do it is through asking questions designed for people to explain why, tell stories, help me understand how you came to this rather than what it is you believe.

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We had Wendy De La Rosa on and we talked a lot about money

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and she had similar advice that talking about money in her case, but in all these topics, it's really an act of demonstrating care and concern.

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And that's what deepens those relationships.

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And I love the idea of just soliciting stories from people that allow you then to have, again, deeper conversations.

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Really good advice.

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Well, Rachel, you've been here before.

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You know that before we end, I ask everybody three questions.

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One, I make up just for you.

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And two, I've been asking people for a long time.

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And feel free to repeat what you've said before or come up with different answers from your previous visit.

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Are you ready for these?

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Absolutely.

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Excellent.

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As a matchmaker, your clients go out on dates every night all over the world

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and the date outcome entirely hinges on them having a good or bad conversation.

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How do you evaluate a successful or unsuccessful date

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when you're not there yourself and you're just listening in to what they tell you?

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How do you assess a good conversation?

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Oh, I love that question.

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The truth is I have one simple question that I reflect back to them.

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And I ask them, what side of you did they bring out?

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So what I'm not asking is information -based questions.

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I am not asking, you know, did you like them?

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Or what information did you learn about them?

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Or was there a spark?

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You know, those are typical questions that your friends might ask you when you get back from a date.

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I'm asking what side of you did they bring out to help me determine if this was a good or bad date.

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So if their answer is something like, well, he brought out my playful side,

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or maybe she brought out my confident side, then I know it was a successful date.

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But if their answer was something more like, well, actually, he brought out my insecure side or, I don't know, she brought out my competitive side,

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that's when I know it didn't go well.

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I really like that question for assessing conversation, not just on dates, but in general.

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You know, what part of yourself showed up or was able to be shown off in the conversation?

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And I think we can all do that ourselves.

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We don't need to just go to somebody who's an expert like you and think about that.

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I really like that.

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I appreciate that question.

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Question number two, who's a communicator that you admire and why?

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I've thought about this since the last time I was on the show

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and I'm gonna.. tell you about a personal friend of mine named Katrina.

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And the reason I admire her so much is that she always makes me feel good when I talk to her.

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And she does two specific things that always make me feel good.

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First of all, she has a signature expression that she uses all the time.

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And the expression is, it's not lost on me.

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So she'll say something like, it's not lost on me that you have an early morning tomorrow and you didn't cancel our dinner tonight.

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I really appreciate that you came out and spent this time with me.

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So she's just finding a way to show appreciation.

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And it makes me feel so good, especially when it's something so minor.

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It's cancel our date?

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Like that's a pretty low bar, but here she's feeling so appreciative.

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I think that expression is something that everybody should use more of.

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And then the second thing she does is she leaves a lot of voice notes for me instead of texting me.

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And I think this is a really

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underutilized feature on our phones because it's not only unique from everybody else that's texting you,

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but it's more personal and it creates an emotional connection when I hear her voice.

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And so I would say eight out of 10 times that I communicate with her is her leaving me a voice note.

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Now, I also appreciate that it's not as intrusive as a phone call

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because that would be her interrupting something else I'm doing.

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But, you know, the voice note is just that beautiful, happy medium where I get a personal and emotional connection with her,

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but it's on my own time when I listen to it.

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So I think those two things, appreciation and emotional connection, are really what make her a superstar communicator.

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Well, I'll start by saying it's not lost on me that you spent a little time thinking about this deeply, and I appreciate that.

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And taking the time to express appreciation

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and finding a unique way to connect with somebody where your true voice in the case of a voice memo comes out.

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I appreciate that.

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Well, the final question, Rachel, what are the first three ingredients that go into a successful communication recipe?

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The first ingredient is mood.

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I think not enough people think about how they make someone feel when they're talking to them.

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And so the idea here is that if somebody says something to you like,

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I love to ski, you might respond by saying something like, me too, if you're the mirror, or you might respond by saying something factual,

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a question like, where's your favorite place to ski.

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That would be a very legitimate response.

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But a mood -based response to somebody who says they like to ski is more like saying to them,

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tell me the last time you went skiing and you really loved the day.

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And that kind of evokes a time for them when they felt good.

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And you're invoking a positive memory by asking a question that is focused on them telling a story.

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It's promoting connection and it's not garnering information,

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but really creating a moment between the two of you where

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they're affiliating the positive mood they are calling up from their memory with almost like conflating it with you

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because you're the one that's experiencing that with them.

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The second ingredient, I would say, is an acronym I use all the time, which is DBB, don't be boring.

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I think not enough people use DBB, don't be boring, as a lens to filter their conversation.

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And so if you can start to remember that every time you go to answer a question in a conversation,

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first do a quick check, is this boring?

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And if it is, come up with something more interesting because boredom is just the enemy of conversation.

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And last, I guess the ingredient, I would say, is probably vulnerability.

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Not just showing the polished version of yourself, but really telling a story that's real and humble, maybe self -deprecating.

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You could talk about a challenge you're having.

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You could talk about an embarrassing moment.

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You could talk about a regret.

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And it's not about bringing the mood down or being negative, but really just being aware that the polished version of you where everything's great and you're amazing.

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is a lost opportunity for connection all of your three ingredients have to do with connection

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i i really like the idea of setting the mood through the things you ask

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and the interaction you have and that mood does transfer you know from

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if i'm having a good time telling you a story i'm having a good time with you

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and this notion of as you begin to respond in a conversation you have choices of what to say.

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Choose the option that's less boring.

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And then finally, being vulnerable, being authentic, really powerful.

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Rachel, like all of our conversations, I learned so much from you.

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I really appreciate it.

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This notion of thinking first and planning before we go into conversation,

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considering how we bridge into the topics we want to have

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and how we can bring out the best in others and ourselves were really important.

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Thank you.

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Thanks for having me.

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It was a pleasure as always.

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Thank you for joining us for another episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, the podcast.

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To learn more from Rachel Greenwald, please listen to episode 217.

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This episode was produced by Catherine Reed, Ryan Campos, and me, Matt Abrahams.

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Deze spreekles op niveau B2 is gebaseerd op de video “Small Talk Tips From a Matchmaker: Start Your Story in the MIDDLE!”. Deze video bevat 315 zinnen en 4319 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 26:53. De spreker praat in een natuurlijk tempo van ongeveer 161 woorden per minuut, dicht bij een alledaags gesprek. 85% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden; de rest kun je beter vooraf bekijken.

Belangrijke woorden in deze video

De 15 moeilijkste woorden uit de video, met uitspraak en betekenis:

Woord	Uitspraak	Betekenis
taboo zelfstandig naamwoord	/təˈbuː/	taboe
scribe zelfstandig naamwoord	/skɹaɪb/	schrijver, kopiist
podcast zelfstandig naamwoord	/ˈpɑdˌkæst/	podcast
ingredient zelfstandig naamwoord	/ɪnˈɡɹiːdi.ənt/	ingrediënt
bore werkwoord	/boɹ/	vervelen
deepen werkwoord	/ˈdiːpən/	verdiepen
memorable bijvoeglijk naamwoord	/ˈmɛm.(ə)ɹə.bl̩/	memorabel, gedenkwaardig
matchmaker zelfstandig naamwoord	/ˈmæt͡ʃˌmeɪkɚ/	koppelaar, koppelaarster
factual bijvoeglijk naamwoord	/ˈfæk.tʃ(u)əl/	feitelijk
diagram zelfstandig naamwoord	/ˈdaɪ.ə.ɡɹæm/	diagram
authentic bijvoeglijk naamwoord	/ɔˈθɛn.tɪk/	authentiek, echt
assess werkwoord	/əˈsɛs/	beoordelen, evalueren
appreciation zelfstandig naamwoord	/əˌpɹiː.ʃiˈeɪ.ʃən/	waardering
demonstrate werkwoord	/ˈdɛm.ənˌstɹeɪt/	demonstreren
adventurous bijvoeglijk naamwoord	/ædˈvɛn.t͡ʃɚ.əs/	avontuurlijk, ondernemend

Phrasal verbs die je zult horen

Woord	Uitspraak	Betekenis
come up with werkwoord		bedenken, verzinnen
come out werkwoord	/ˌkʌm ˈaʊt/	uitkomen
bring up werkwoord		opvoeden
check out werkwoord		onderzoeken
grow up werkwoord		opgroeien
show off werkwoord		zich aanstellen, pronken met
show up werkwoord		tentoonstellen

Zinnen om te herhalen

Korte, volledige zinnen uit de video die je in alledaagse gesprekken kunt gebruiken:

Would you like a table?
Tell me, what did I do?
Toilet shopping for your mom?
It's what do I say to open up the conversation?
Are you in favor of it or against it?

Grammatica in deze video

De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:

Structuur	In de video
Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — iets dat eerder begon en nog bezig is	you've been dating · I've been asking
Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt	he's been · We've had · I've only had
Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet	be fixed · was shaped · is aligned
Betrekkelijke bijzinnen who / which + zin — extra informatie over een persoon of ding	people who have · somebody who teaches · somebody who says

Uitspraak om op te letten

De spreker gebruikt 76 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals you're, I'm, you've. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.

De “th”-klanken: authentic /ɔˈθɛn.tɪk/, athlete /ˈæθ.liːt/
De klanken “sh” en “zh”: appreciation /əˌpɹiː.ʃiˈeɪ.ʃən/, preposition /ˌpɹɛpəˈzɪʃən/, notion /ˈnoʊʃən/, actionable /ˈæk.ʃə.nə.bəl/, appreciative /əˈpɹi.ʃətɪv/
Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: ingredient /ɪnˈɡɹiːdi.ənt/, appreciation /əˌpɹiː.ʃiˈeɪ.ʃən/, adventurous /ædˈvɛn.t͡ʃɚ.əs/, communicator /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪtə/, preposition /ˌpɹɛpəˈzɪʃən/

Klanken die Nederlandstaligen lastig vinden:

Stemhebbende eindmedeklinker — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ niet verscherpen: scribe /skɹaɪb/, appreciative /əˈpɹi.ʃətɪv/, intrigue /ˈɪntɹiːɡ/, specialize /ˈspɛʃəˌlaɪz/, maximize /ˈmæksəmaɪz/
/æ/ — opener dan de Nederlandse “e”: podcast /ˈpɑdˌkæst/, matchmaker /ˈmæt͡ʃˌmeɪkɚ/, factual /ˈfæk.tʃ(u)əl/, diagram /ˈdaɪ.ə.ɡɹæm/, adventurous /ædˈvɛn.t͡ʃɚ.əs/
/g/ — een harde plofklank, geen Nederlandse “g”: ingredient /ɪnˈɡɹiːdi.ənt/, diagram /ˈdaɪ.ə.ɡɹæm/, grit /ɡɹɪt/, greet /ɡɹiːt/, gateway /ˈɡeɪtˌweɪ/

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Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.

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