Shadowing Practice: Things nobody told me before I turned 27 - Learn English Speaking with Video

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hello dolls welcome back to today's video i'm going to do more things

that i learned now

that i'm 27 buckle up honey you can't fix people who

enjoy being broken can sheeness you can't you can't die on the misery they love

that shit some people thrive in misery can sheeness you know

no matter how many solutions you give them how many how many times you speak to them

and things like that can she not have to have to cool

excuse my french

so do you know what i mean some people just genuinely

don't want to be you know they're unconsolable some people don't

want solutions they just want attention they want someone to carry them

and you're not a rehabilitation center you know what i mean there's a there's a time

and place you know you you help out here

and there you know what i mean when you can

if you start noticing

that this person is just genuinely just dragging you down with

them let it go you know what tell them you know what you you do your thing

when someone is like

that all the time it's very draining yeah that's the lesson sometimes you cannot fix people

and it's not really your job to fix people you know

what i mean you're this isn't Unless you're a therapist and they're paying you, then sure, queen.

But some people generally are inconsolable.

And that's the hard truth.

Lesson number two.

Stop auditioning for the role you already deserve.

Stop trying to prove your worth to someone.

Stop trying to do certain things to make them think, oh, maybe if I do this, then they'll love me.

Maybe if I'll do that, then they'll stay.

Maybe if I'll act this way, then they'll choose me.

Now, why do you say that? don't do that that's not a thing

if someone is meant to be for you they'll be for you

if you have some really like bad habits and things like

that then sure but to sit here and tell me

if i start acting this way then maybe he'll choose me

if the right person is the right person they'll choose you whether you like it

or not you know what i mean

and stop trying to act in different characters you know i mean auditioning to be chosen

or to get what you deserve if

that person is not for you they're not for you

because sooner or later that mask that you put on will fall

and then you'll go into depression and shit

because you're faking everything i'm getting through these really quickly

because this heat is not it sis another lesson your boundaries mean nothing if you don't enforce them for example

and then all of a sudden you come to the beginning with the most disgusting term

which is Sukti babe you're not enforcing your boundaries if you genuinely if your boundary is do not yell at me

and then you let the people yell at you

and Sukti you're not enforcing your boundaries

so of course this person will constantly yell at you from

the beginning you raise your voice at me i'm gone

and then that person has the audacity they do raise their voice at you

yes you've enforced your boundary and that person will never do it again

if you give them another chance so yeah saying

that i deserve better

and then still say staying in the nonsense situation is just performance people will treat you by what you tolerate

so if you tolerate nonsense they're going to give you nonsense

so if you're here putting up your boundaries

and being like don't do it these are my these are my boundaries

if you cross them class

but you let this person cross them all the time then they have no respect for you

and you haven't enforced your boundaries another thing i've learned now

that i'm 27 not everything deserves a reaction i used to

be very reactive i used to be like an explosion you know what i mean

if you just i'm exploding

but then i realized a lot of nasa khas they don't

deserve a reaction you know what i mean they do things on purpose

because they want a reaction out of you

and then you end up saying that's hurtful

and then all of a sudden it's your fault you know what i mean

so not everything deserves a reaction no a time

and a place to react

but not everything deserves a reaction don't let people run your life it's actually draining it's the most draining thing ever

and you're like i'm not going to do this

because of this person i'm not going to do that

because they said that

and then eventually every single day is misery for you why every single day is misery for you

because you're not authentically yourself then you're going to end up

with the autoimmune disease you think these scars are it's from psoriasis i've got psoriasis from stress vibes.

You know why?

Because I wasn't fully like me.

You know, I was like, but that's not a good thing.

So do not let people run your life.

If you're a person, you have a person.

You've got a brain in here, yeah?

Use it.

Don't let people, don't start using other people's brains.

You know what I mean?

Another thing, This is for I would say for friendships and also relationships and just in general life.

Don't trust everyone

Like no literally stop trusting people so easily They become your person just

because you kick it off with someone from the first situation Be careful Not everyone is your friend.

Not everybody wants good for you yes you're a good person

i know i'm a good person i would never like share other people's secrets i'd never in bedlam

but this is me not everyone is you you get to

the next game you know like i know i'm not good for everybody

and i don't like drama and i don't want to make everybody

and make anyone upset

or like fuck up their life i know not everyone is like me there's some people you

and then start causing you problems friends relationships family you know you know for me i only show my sister

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and a friend and call it a day

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not everybody that comes you trust be careful babe i want what's best for you

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i'm saying this because i've had a lot of comments from people

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and like stories and from the girlies talking about these most horrendous things

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that friends have done to them and even some family members

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so be careful don't trust anyone keep to yourself let your soul, you should have to know what you're doing that's your business babe,

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that's your business comfort is very expensive staying in a shitty job, staying in a horrendous relationship,

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staying in an environment that's draining automatically and eventually in the future

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that is gonna cost you a lot of things for example it's gonna cost you your health, mental health because growth is uncomfortable and that's fine but that's the only thing about growth,

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it's just uncomfortable but if you stay in the common in comfort it'll cost you more in the long run

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stop being comfortable learn to be in love with being uncomfortable

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put yourself out there get out there do things you know

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if you feel like you deserve better in that relationship leave

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because i promise you you will find better there's always better okay

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if that job is toxic leave

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if the friends you have you genuinely believe in yourself

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that all these people are just like no no my people

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and the distance yourself or friends you know one more thing which is i guess very obvious

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i think it's just an obvious thing but love yourself learn to love yourself

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and i'll make a very dedicated view you only have yourself

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you know at the end of the day you can't love someone properly

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if you want to get in like you want to get married

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or like if you want to get in relationship

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if you don't love yourself how the hell you gonna love somebody else hashtag rupaul

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but that's a real thing nothing in life will have taste

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nothing in life you'll enjoy nothing in life you do you'll never like go out there

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and see the world or like take risks

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or be uncomfortable as i said and even whenever you get in a relationship

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or something you'll never give that person a hundred percent

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because you're not giving yourself a hundred percent

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so how the hell you won't expect to give somebody else a hundred percent you know

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so start to learn to love yourself whatever you know what

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i mean god created me space i gotta accept it you

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know what i mean i grew up hating my under eyes

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hating my nose hating my laugh hating my body hating everything

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what did

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that get me nothing it got me misery stop being a

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bitch stop being a bitch there you go it's enough it's

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2026 let it go this is what god has given you

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if you got money to change it do you for me

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i'm not bothered babes i'm accepting with what i have this

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is it this is the nose this is the eyes this is the body

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this is me if i can

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if i want to exercise to make it look certain way

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if i want to do some skincare mixing it away cut

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my hair it looks certain way i will do it

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if i want to but i'm not going to sit

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and watch day and night if you don't like something change it either accept it

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or change it if you do not like something either

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accept it

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because you don't want to get out your comfort zone will

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change it choose don't shut up this is what it is these are the two options you've got

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and that's it for now these are the few lessons

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that i've learned these are a few things i want to

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throw your way i know it's not like the longest video

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but it is it's just something that i really wanted to put out there

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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les

Deze video bevat 156 zinnen en 1756 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 10:05. De spreker praat in een natuurlijk tempo van ongeveer 174 woorden per minuut, dicht bij een alledaags gesprek. 87% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden, dus de woordenschat is goed te volgen.

Belangrijke woorden in deze video

15 woorden uit de video die het leren waard zijn, met uitspraak en betekenis:

Woord	Uitspraak	Betekenis
boundary zelfstandig naamwoord	/ˈbaʊndɹi/	grens
enforce werkwoord	/ɪnˈfoɹs/	handhaven
misery zelfstandig naamwoord	/ˈmɪz(ə)ɹi/	ellende
lesson zelfstandig naamwoord	/ˈlɛs.ən/	les
uncomfortable bijvoeglijk naamwoord	/ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/	ongemakkelijk
babe zelfstandig naamwoord	/beɪb/	stuk
drain zelfstandig naamwoord	/dɹiːn/	afvoer
comfort zelfstandig naamwoord	/ˈkʌm.fət/	comfort, gemak
nonsense zelfstandig naamwoord	/ˈnɒn.səns/	nonsens, onzin
yell werkwoord	/jɛl/	schreeuwen
sudden bijvoeglijk naamwoord	/ˈsʌd.ən/	plotseling, plotselinge
tolerate werkwoord	/ˈtɑ.lə.ɹeɪt/	verdragen, tolereren
audition zelfstandig naamwoord	/ɑˈdɪʃən/	auditie
bother werkwoord	/ˈbɑðɚ/	storen
friendship zelfstandig naamwoord	/ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/	vriendschap

Phrasal verbs die je zult horen

Woord	Uitspraak	Betekenis
end up werkwoord		belanden, terechtkomen
go out werkwoord		naar buiten gaan
grow up werkwoord		opgroeien
put out werkwoord		buitenzetten, uitwerpen
shut up	/ʃʌt ʌp/	hou je kop, kop dicht

Grammatica in deze video

De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:

Structuur	In de video
Voorwaardelijke zinnen if + zin, will/would + werkwoord — een voorwaarde en het gevolg	if I do this, then they'll love · if I'll do that, then they'll stay · if I'll act this way, then they'll choose
Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt	you've enforced · haven't enforced · have done
Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet	being broken · is meant · be chosen
Werkwoord + -ing enjoy, keep, stop… + -ing — werkwoorden die door de -ing-vorm worden gevolgd	start noticing · Stop auditioning · Stop trying

Uitspraak om op te letten

De spreker gebruikt 84 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals don't, I'm, you're. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.

De “th”-klanken: bother /ˈbɑðɚ/, therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/, thrive /θɹajv/
De klanken “sh” en “zh”: audition /ɑˈdɪʃən/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, explosion /ɛkˈsploʊ.ʒən/, rehabilitation /ˌɹiː.əˌbɪl.ɪˈteɪ.ʃən/, hashtag /ˈhæʃˌtæɡ/
Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, rehabilitation /ˌɹiː.əˌbɪl.ɪˈteɪ.ʃən/, psoriasis /səˈɹaɪ.əsɪs/, audacity /ɔˈdæ.sɪ.ti/

Zo oefen je met deze video

Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
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Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als boundary, enforce, misery.

Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?

Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.

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