Shadowing Practice: What Do You Truly Need? Finding Clarity in a Confusing World - Learn English Speaking with Video

Oh God, it's too awful for words.

I mean, just, just, oh.

The language that I would use with myself.

So now I'm going to cry.

I mean I can't say the words on camera.

But just very unkind, very unkind and harsh and...

Yeah, I mean you just wouldn't speak to anybody that you know like that.

Yeah.

I often say if I spoke to my friends like I speak to myself, they wouldn't be friends with me.

Like, you stupid idiot, you stupid dumb idiot.

And a lot of this in between.

So very harsh, very harsh words.

As you get older, there can be this beautiful softening of life.

Physically you actually feel you put on a little bit of weight and you get a bit softer.

But everything softens.

Your mind softens, your words soften.

You speak in a different way, you move in a different way, and it all slows down.

Life just becomes this magical thing where you can see so much more.

You can actually see things, you can see the wood for the trees.

When I was about 15 I did this modeling course

and I mean I was very skinny at the time and I remember going for this casting once and they said,

oh no, your hips are too big.

And it felt like this sort of devastating moment at the time.

I mean, it's such a silly thing to say, but that was my body image as well.

Growing up in the 70s and the 80s, the body image was just totally different to what it is now.

If you weren't skinny and fitted the mould, I suppose in some way you weren't accepted.

Well, that was the narrative that ran in my head, is that if you weren't skinny, you weren't accepted.

So there was this sort of disconnection with my body a lot.

I need to lose weight, I need to change my body, I need to exercise.

This whole narrative going on.

So a lot of shame.

A lot of shame, body shame, all of that kind of stuff.

And in that, having low self-esteem and then making stupid choices.

And I use stupid now because they weren't the greatest choices then, but then I would completely lambaste myself for the choices that I had made.

The lovely thing with getting older is that you become a bit wiser and you begin to realise that that's actually bullshit,

it's actually rubbish and it's not true.

But it feels like it takes a long time to work that out of your system.

Now being in my 50s it feels like I can let those things go, I can cut those cords.

I can cut those cords and let that narrative go.

Which is a very liberating feeling and experience actually.

That those things are not actually true.

But we can carry them for a very long time and sometimes for a whole lifetime.

Trust has been a great gift to me and it's been a long process of trusting and also to trusting myself.

I felt very closed and shut off and silent and secretive.

So I suppose that's what a lot of this stuff was about.

It was like I was incredibly secretive about things.

I mean, a lot of my friends have told me that I'm secretive, but I feel way less secretive now.

I feel like I've gathered my lost parts.

For a very long time, I just felt lost.

I felt like I was just moving through this three-dimensional realm and drifting through life,

whereas I felt like I needed something,

something to kind of hold me in this next phase of my journey.

And I found, I found art again.

There's no expectation of the outcome.

That gift of no expectation of the outcome is such a powerful thing

because it means that you can let go and be free and letting it just unfold.

And then it usually unfolds in the most beautiful, perfect way.

I used to have this little set of cards that had a lot of words on it, and I lost the set of cards

and then about a year later the only card I found was patience and that has been a great gift.

And it goes back to that thing of for me patience and trust is kind of, they kind of like interlinked.

Allowing things to unfold instead of forcing things or pushing things in a direction that might not necessarily be the right direction.

They say patience is a virtue.

I don't know whether that's a good thing or a bad thing.

But it's, yeah, patience is a very good reminder of just give it time and let it unfold.

One ends up spending so much energy

and time on trying to make something perfect and generally it is perfect in all its imperfections.

It feels like becoming kinder to myself has been quite a long process.

On a very rare odd occasion I catch myself calling myself something that's not very nice.

Then I actually re-change and say, no, no, no, no, come on, come on, come on.

That's not very nice.

That's not a very kind thing to say to yourself.

So it's a practice.

It's a practice.

It's a language that you need to learn in order to become kinder to yourself.

It feels like now, and I can really say this, like, from a heart space, that I feel like I'm back in my body and I love being in my body.

And, yeah, it's just, it's a good space to be in.

I know for myself, if I wake up and I've got a bit of anxiety, I always ask myself, what do you need in that moment?

And I think one can apply that to somebody else as well.

So if you're moving through the world and you can see somebody's agitated or having a, It's like, what do you need?

And sometimes they can answer you, sometimes they can't.

But often they can.

And it might be something very simple.

And, you know, a kind word, a kind gesture, a kind something kind.

Whatever that may be, however that shows up in that moment.

I'm often in awe of where I live.

and I appreciate every moment of it.

It feels like my life has become very magical, that's what it feels like.

You know, I can wander down at sunset, it's my favourite time of the day, and, you know, go and talk to my plants.

I love talking to my plants.

Maybe that's an age thing as well.

I love my life now.

I really do.

I love the way it's taking me.

I feel 100% enough.

In all aspects of my life.

I've really got to a good place within myself and in that this kind of shines completely.

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Deze video bevat 102 zinnen en 1217 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 13:12. De spreker praat langzaam, ongeveer 92 woorden per minuut, zodat je tijd hebt om elke klank na te doen. 83% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden; de rest kun je beter vooraf bekijken.

Belangrijke woorden in deze video

15 woorden uit de video die het leren waard zijn, met uitspraak en betekenis:

Woord	Uitspraak	Betekenis
patience zelfstandig naamwoord	/ˈpeɪ̯.ʃəns/	geduld
narrative zelfstandig naamwoord	/ˈnæɹ.ə.tɪv/	verhaal, vertelling
harsh bijvoeglijk naamwoord	/ˈhɑɹʃ/	ruw, grof
skinny bijvoeglijk naamwoord	/ˈskɪni/	mager
magical bijvoeglijk naamwoord	/ˈmæd͡ʒ.ɪ.kəl/	magisch
expectation zelfstandig naamwoord	/ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/	verwachting, afwachting
cord zelfstandig naamwoord	/ˈkoɹd/	touw, koord
necessarily bijwoord	/ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/	nodig, noodzakelijk
awful bijvoeglijk naamwoord	/ˈɔːfʊl/	verschrikkelijk, vreselijk
hip zelfstandig naamwoord	/hɪp/	heup
anxiety zelfstandig naamwoord	/æŋˈzaɪ.əti/	bezorgdheid, ongerustheid
silent bijvoeglijk naamwoord	/ˈsaɪ̯lənt/	stil
aspect zelfstandig naamwoord	/ˈæspɛkt/	aspect
whereas	/(h)wɛɹˈæz/	hoewel, terwijl
lifetime zelfstandig naamwoord	/ˈlaɪf.taɪm/	mensenleven, levensduur

Phrasal verbs die je zult horen

Woord	Uitspraak	Betekenis
end up werkwoord		belanden, terechtkomen
slow down werkwoord		afremmen
wake up werkwoord	/ˌweɪk ˈʌp/	wakker worden, ontwaken

Grammatica in deze video

De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:

Structuur	In de video
Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt	has been · have told · I've gathered
Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet	weren't accepted

Uitspraak om op te letten

De spreker gebruikt 19 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals weren't, I'm, I've. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.

De klanken “sh” en “zh”: patience /ˈpeɪ̯.ʃəns/, harsh /ˈhɑɹʃ/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, occasion /əˈkeɪ̯ʒən/, shine /ʃaɪn/
Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, incredibly /ɪŋˈkɹɛdɪbli/, dimensional /daɪˈmɛn.ʃə.nəl/

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Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?

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