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Can you be ambitious without overdoing it?
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Can you be ambitious without pushing yourself too hard?
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Can ambition exist without anxiety?
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Can you have ambition while also having inner peace?
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These are the questions that I ask myself, and I feel like I'm always at a tug and pull between these two sides.
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My ambitious side that wants to do well and succeed and live to the fullest,
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and the peaceful side, the side that knows I have to take care of myself first, put my health above everything else,
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and not push myself too hard because I shouldn't do anything that sacrifices my overall well -being,
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mental, physical, emotional, spiritual.
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So I feel like the goal is obviously to live in the balance of these two
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because if you are an ambitious person, you do want to do a lot with your life.
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You want to live a full life that you're proud of, and that entails doing a lot sometimes.
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But there's always this balance of life is not just about one thing.
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Life is about living everything, but also first and foremost taking care of yourself first, because when you become depleted,
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everything else in life becomes depleted.
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Today we're going to talk about how to create a life balancing ambition and wellness,
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how to stop that habit of pushing yourself too hard past that healthy limit, and how to actually curate your life so
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that you really know what your priorities are and you have the trust to let everything else go.
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If you're someone who wants to do a lot and do everything well, this is for you.
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Okay, now we're talking.
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Oh my gosh, you guys.
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The two colors.
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It's definitely a different vibe from last year.
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Last year, it was sky and stone, blue and gray.
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And this year, it is butter and poppy, inspired by the colors of wildflowers.
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If you've been following my life this past year, first of all, thank you for still watching because I know I've been posting a lot less.
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Life has been changing a lot for me this past couple years.
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And if you have been following along, you know that I launched an app.
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I've been working on my book and I have just been going through a lot of changes.
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And through those changes this past year, I've noticed my energy shift.
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So it's so funny because if you go back like two or three years ago,
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I was in a place where I was so lost in life.
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I felt like I was ending a chapter.
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I felt like I had very low energy and motivation for anything.
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I didn't feel like making videos.
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I didn't know what was next and I was just lost.
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And then after that point of being lost, I went into an exploration phase.
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And then that eventually led me to decide to commit to build an app.
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And then once I started building my app last year, I became very motivated.
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I was so focused, working really hard, just envisioning and building this app with my team.
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And I was so focused on the app throughout launch and the first six months of launch.
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And then now we are here and I notice my energy is shifting.
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Not only that, but because I have a lot that I want to accomplish, but so little time and not enough energy to go around.
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I still feel like I have to show up creating content because content is the foundation of everything that I do.
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And now that I have this app, there's obviously effort to maintain, upkeep, and create content for the app.
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And then I also wanted to finish my book proposal, but because I was so busy with other things, I kept pushing that deadline back.
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And these past two months, like August, September, I was really like,
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okay, I have to lock down because I have two very important things I want to get done.
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One is the book proposal, which tentative, don't even know if I will finish it in time, but also my workbook launch because we're launching.
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I mean, by the time this video is out, the workbook launched.
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It's like everything at once.
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And the beginning of this year, I already put my podcast on hiatus.
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I have all these ideas.
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There's like content series, products that I want to create,
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everything off to the side because I just don't have the time and the bandwidth for them.
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And I noticed something about my energy the past couple months is that I started feeling a little trapped, a little suffocated, a little bit like,
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oh, why do I put all of these obligations and responsibilities on myself?
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There seems like there's nothing else I can take off my plate.
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Like there are certain things that I really care about and I really want to get done.
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And I just felt so restricted.
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And I think it's when you start feeling that energy in your life where it's restrictive, that's not a good sign.
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And not only that, it's because I was so overwhelmed with my obligations
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that I started to just turn off my brain and go to what's comforting, snacking, watching TV,
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not doing what I really want to be doing or what I think I should be doing and feeling guilty about it, and that negative loop.
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Let's talk about it.
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I'll break this down so it's actionable and helpful for you guys.
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So if you can relate to that feeling of feeling restricted, trapped, suffocated, because you have too much going on,
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at the same time you care about everything, you want everything to go well, this is what you have to do.
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Number one, you have to pay attention to your energy.
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Your energy is your map and your energy does not lie.
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No matter how much you try to lie to yourself, your energy is not going to lie.
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If you are tired and your body is tired, you're going to feel it.
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No matter how much you try to push through it, the signs will be there if you're aware enough to see it.
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So number one is you have to pay attention to your energy as your map.
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And this is yes, for the times where we're like stressed and overworked and burnt out,
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but it's also for the times where you're feeling lost and you don't know what to do.
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Wherever your energy is, you should pay attention to what it's telling you.
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And sometimes you can't take it for face value.
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If you're feeling lazy and unmotivated, don't just assume that you're lazy and unmotivated.
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There's a deeper meaning.
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Are you lazy and unmotivated because you've worked too hard recently and you're tired?
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Or is it because you're feeling bad about yourself
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or there's something else going on in your life that you're trying to avoid?
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Are you lazy and unmotivated because you're running away?
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Or is it a sign of fear?
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You really need to develop that awareness to understand what your energy is, but also read underneath.
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Like what's happening underneath this energy.
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That's really the story that's happening here.
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This is where you have to get really honest with yourself
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because no one on the outside will tell you what's wrong with you.
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Only you will be able to clearly figure that out
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if you get real quiet and if you do a lot of reflection, whether it's meditation or journaling, but that is the first step.
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So notice your energy.
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Notice when you're feeling exhausted.
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Give yourself that break.
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Give yourself grace.
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Be gentle with yourself.
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Give yourself love.
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Treat yourself as the most important person in your life that you love the most because you are.
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A mantra
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that I've been telling myself these past few years as I've been changing is to honor my energy create
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and work when the energy is there.
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But when the energy is not there, allow myself to rest because my energy is telling me something.
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This is why, even though I have so much on my plate, I find that I have energy for just the most random things.
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I felt like starting a sub stack because I wanted to write more this year.
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Nobody told me to add a new platform, right?
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I was trying to subtract everything from my life.
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I was subtracting the podcast.
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My team was downsizing.
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There was a lot that I was trying to get off my plate, but at the same time,
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there was inspiration and energy in a new direction.
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You should honor your energy, listen to it, and follow it, because it is leading you in the right direction,
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even if it doesn't make sense right now.
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The next point, choose your priorities for this season.
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So what to keep and what to release.
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By season, you can build it based on month or quarter.
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I like to do both.
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And I think lately I've been focusing on month.
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I just go month to month.
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Like what is the most important focus for this month?
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And that's what we do in our Artist of Life workbook.
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But because you can't do it all at once, you really have to hone down on your one to two main priorities for the month.
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It's like, if I were to only do this one thing
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or these two things and be proud of myself at the end of this month, what would it be?
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And so know what those things are and then let everything else fall off.
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My home can be messy.
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I don't have to have a workout routine.
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I can move this project to the side.
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I could procrastinate.
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I could say no to this event.
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But the most important thing is this one.
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Obviously, everyone's priorities are going to be different.
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The beauty of this is how good it feels to release everything else.
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And when I say release, sometimes you can't completely offload it.
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Sometimes it's just allowing it to be mediocre, allowing it to be just enough.
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Earlier I mentioned goodbye to the workout routine.
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I feel like… Sometimes if you know I need to keep my body moving for a baseline of health and mental,
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emotional well -being, then just do a mediocre workout.
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Just go on a walk instead of a hard training session.
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There are ways to release without completely ignoring it and not doing it at all.
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When I say release, I mean release your high standard and your high expectation for things.
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Let's say you're a mom too and you have a party to organize.
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It's allow that party to be mediocre or delegate some tasks and get some help for certain things.
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Don't try to do everything yourself.
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Because I think oftentimes the people that struggle with what we're talking about are the people that are high achievers.
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They want to do everything and they want to do everything well, and they want to have control over everything.
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And it's almost like everything that you do is a reflection of your worth.
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And so you're so tied to it and it has to succeed.
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It has to do well.
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It has to be well received by others.
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And the truth is that's optional.
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Like who said, who said that everything you do has to be excellent all the time?
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Because we don't have that bandwidth or that energy, especially the older we get,
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we have limited energy to work with, limited time we don't want to waste it on things unnecessarily.
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So focus on your priorities.
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Know what the most important things you want to hold onto to keep high quality.
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And then everything else, let it be mediocre.
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Let it be just good enough.
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Something that has really inspired me to take more care of myself and slow down, not have to push too hard,
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is understanding my body and my health and I recently had blood work done through Whoop's Advanced Labs.
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So thanks to Whoop for sponsoring this video.
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So Whoop Advanced Labs is their product where you can get your blood work done through Quest
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and you get your blood work results in the Whoop app.
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And a clinician reviews it, gives you insights, and you get to see everything in one place.
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Instead of the PDF that you get from your doctors, everything is in this app.
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You can click on each marker and it gives you an explanation for what this marker means, why it's important, how it's related to other markers.
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There's even a box where you can ask questions and it will explain more of your results to you,
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which I think is so helpful.
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The goal is really to help you understand what's happening in your body and what you can do about it, which is really empowering.
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They have a selection of panels that you can choose from.
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They have heart, performance, metabolic, women's, and men's.
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I chose the women's because I was interested in learning about my fertility and my hormones.
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My cycle became a little irregular this year, so I wanted to just get the details of what's happening.
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The process in the app is super seamless.
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So you pick your panel.
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After you check out, you book your blood work.
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So I booked the next appointment three days later so that I have at least three days to prepare for it.
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Because I think before blood work, You have to make sure you're not over -exercising and fasting and doing certain things.
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So I booked my blood work, did the blood work.
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Wilson came with me because I was nervous.
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I do not like getting my blood drawn.
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And I think I got my results about a week after I did my blood work.
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So it was pretty fast.
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So all of your results are shown in the app.
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There's a clinician that reviewed your results and gave you, like, these are the important insights.
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Here are the recommended next steps that you could take.
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So for example, one of the recommended steps was I should add more beans and legumes to my diet.
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And I'm like, yeah, you're right.
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I don't really think about that.
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So if you're interested in getting your blood work done along with these insights,
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you can get 20 % off WHOOP Advanced Labs using my code Eileen20.
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And you don't need a WHOOP membership to access
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Advanced Labs either.
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So you can just get it on its own.
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Which brings me to my next point, health and wellness first.
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You have to take care of your foundation before you can do anything else.
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So as much as you want to offload things like your sleep or exercise or eating well,
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you really can't because those are the things that fuel your body, give your body the energy it can to do everything else in life.
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So think about your sleep, your exercise, your nutrition, how much time you allow yourself to rest, and also your relationships.
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So these are all the things that nourish us and fuel our energy in our life.
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And it's so important to take care of yourself.
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Everyone's a little bit different.
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So what gives you energy and what feels nourishing to you is different.
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Some people are more introverted and they need more alone time.
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That means alone time is part of your self -care that's necessary for your health and wellness.
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Other people might need more connection.
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They might need to spend more time with their loved ones, more time that's not rigid or on a schedule,
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but just open time to be present with the people that you love and care about.
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So really put your health and wellness first.
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And when I say wellness, it includes everything, like overall holistic wellness, not just physical wellness.
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I know some of you are saying like, this is just an ideal, perfect world.
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We have everything taken care of our health and wellness, and we're successful and we're doing this.
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But how do you realistically prioritize your health and wellness and do everything that you want to do?
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Again, you have to know what is your baseline of good enough?
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What is nourishing enough for me so that I'm not completely neglecting myself?
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Everything is on a spectrum.
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So when you're listening to these tips, ask yourself, how can I apply this to my life,
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even if it's just to make my life 1 % better?
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It's not about perfection.
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It's about the progress we make, the evolution and the growth that we make as people.
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Going back to my blood work results, the biggest thing that I discovered from it was basically this marker that I've never heard about,
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but it's related to checking whether you have immune activity against your thyroid and mine was elevated.
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So although every other thyroid -related marker in the blood work was healthy, like my thyroid is healthy,
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it's producing hormones, it's just doing what it needs to do.
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But there was that one, I think it's an enzyme or something, that was a little bit elevated.
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And when I looked into it, it scared me because it basically is saying a part of your body is attacking your thyroid for some reason,
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even though your thyroid is healthy.
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And if left unchecked or if this evolves into the future, it can become something worse.
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And that scared me because it's something
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that doesn't have like an immediate scientific things you can do to make it stop happening.
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There's no recommended lifestyle change.
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All that was recommended was keep an eye on it and retest for it in the future.
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And with that kind of thing, that's a little up in the air.
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It scares me but at the same time, it gives me a sign that everything happening internal is a reflection of the external.
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Because I tend to push myself and I tend to have this mindset of like, let me do more, let me sleep less,
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let me just stay up a little bit to finish this one task.
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Anyway, it was a sign for me that I need to slow down and take care of my body,
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and I need to not allow myself to get stressed because stress activates all of these symptoms in our body.
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And if left unchecked, it becomes actual illness.
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But before it becomes illness, it's just like everything else is healthy and everything else is working just fine.
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But it's almost like an invisible, very subtle sign.
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It's just a big sign to me that I cannot push myself the same way that I used to push myself.
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I cannot work as intense or sacrifice as much as I used to.
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I cannot do as much as I used to.
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I have to live a life where I feel relaxed and at ease while pursuing my goals.
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And so that's why this concept of, can I be ambitious while giving myself a lot of balance and rest and health?
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I think I can, but I think it requires taking the slow route.
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I think it requires not being in a rush and not being impatient,
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being super patient for the steady, slow route.
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Because I'm really into astrology, I love learning the meanings of the planets and the signs and the symbols.
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So if you look into the meaning of Saturn, Saturn is a planet that is about discipline, commitment, hard work.
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It's not a happy, easy planet.
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It's a planet that is forged through difficulty, and it's a planet that symbolizes when you move through difficulty,
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but you become something so strong, so substantial, that nothing can take you down.
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Nothing will wash you away because you've been built through the fire.
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You've been forged through the fire.
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You've been built just block by block.
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Earthquakes, hurricanes, tornadoes, nothing can take you down because you are so strong.
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Anything that reaches that level of sturdiness and strength was not reached there quickly or easily.
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In my chart, I have a lot of Saturn, and Saturn is in Capricorn.
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Saturn is a strong planet in my chart, and I always feel like my dreams are here, but the reality is here.
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And even though I've come so far, I've come a long way in the past 12 -15 years,
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but I still feel like I'm at the beginning.
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I always feel humbled.
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I always feel like, wow, I really thought the results would be here,
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but it's really here and I still have to learn and I still have to build and I'm still growing.
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I have to remind myself I'm on the slow, steady journey.
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I'm only beginning.
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Everything that you've seen up until now is just the beginning.
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I was a seed.
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And then the past 10 years, I'm a little sprout.
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You haven't even seen the tree.
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It's how I feel about myself and my life.
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And so when I think about it that way, it's about the long -term journey.
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It's about the marathon.
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Then the truth is, why do I have to rush?
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I can't rush it.
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And if I do try to rush and push myself, I'm only hurting myself and my own health.
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And I can't do this.
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I can't do this journey and become this invincible, big, strong tree if my health is not good.
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Like if I'm not healthy, how can I grow really big and strong?
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Right?
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It's as simple as that.
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So take care of your health.
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It's okay to slow down.
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You can still have your big ambitions and big dreams, but redefine your timeline of getting there.
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Redefine the meaning of the journey getting there.
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Understand that it's about the little steps of progress.
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Celebrate the little steps of progress instead of wishing you were already at the end.
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That's how I feel about my life.
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Like what's the rush?
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I've come so far and I'm still so young.
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There's still so much that I have to grow.
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And I'm excited and I'm proud of that.
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But the way I'm going to continue to grow from this chapter to the next is going to be very different.
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It's going to be slower, more easeful, more calm than I was the first chapter,
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the previous chapter where I hustled and grind and pushed through so much and burned out so many times.
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So once you can redefine what the journey to success looks like for you, and you realize it doesn't have to be rushed towards,
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it doesn't have to be met to your perfect standards and expectations,
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then you can start to become more flexible and forgiving in your everyday life.
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Because it's not life or death to meet deadlines.
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It's not like nothing truly is that important or that urgent it's only because you make it that important or urgent.
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So it's about learning to step back and really assess what needs your time and energy and what can be let go.
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And with that mindset, you realize that you actually have a lot of time.
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You have a lot of time and you should create more time for yourself
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and more space in between your obligations for flexibility.
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You need some forgiveness in the structures of your everyday life.
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It really cannot be so rigid because we are not machines.
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Some of us have the capacity to operate like a higher efficiency than others.
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Sure, but everyone needs some flexibility.
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Everyone needs that cushion, room to breathe, some extra space in case something delays,
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something goes wrong, something pops up in your life.
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This happens all the time.
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We feel like our plate is so full, but let's say something happens.
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If something happens to Togi and I have to take him to the vet,
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I would drop everything and take him to the vet and be with him.
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That just shows whether the things I thought were important before something happened were actually important.
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So I think that's where we realize, maybe what we feel is important right now, if something truly serious happened,
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you can easily drop those things and postpone them.
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And that's how you realize, okay, maybe it wasn't that important.
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Maybe I didn't have to stress out that much.
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So I am all for living a flexible life.
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Sure, I create a plan.
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I create some sort of structure.
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I try to be consistent in certain things, but I'm also very forgiving in that if my energy is not there,
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I'm like, okay, today is just not that day.
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It's not the day to be productive.
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Today is not the day to work.
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I will go out and go to my favorite cafe, or I will spend time walking in nature.
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I will do the things that fill my cup so that tomorrow, or maybe even later that evening,
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I will feel better and I will have the energy.
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So it's just learning to not force it and be very flexible, very forgiving.
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This year is actually the first year I did not participate in the shooting of the workbook launch.
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Every year for the past 10 years, I either shot it myself or I brought on photographer videographer
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and I was a part of the shoot like I was the one modeling the workbooks being in the videos
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and this is the first year I chose not to do that because Like I said,
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I already felt like I had so much on my plate.
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I didn't want to add that because for me,
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it's very stressful to plan and be in the shoot and to be part of the editing and everything.
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So this is the first year that I tested outsourcing that part to two studios.
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And I actually really liked it.
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I still planned it.
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I was still involved, but I didn't have to be the model.
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I didn't have to be there directing or shooting and it felt really freeing.
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It's just an example of like, wow, I really didn't have to do something that I thought was something I needed to do every single year.
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So as you change, you can change the way you do things.
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The things that you thought needed you to be there maybe didn't really require you in the end.
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Lastly, something really key that I want to share is how the definition of success is changing for me,
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what the journey looks like is changing for me.
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I think a lot of us maybe still have
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that mindset of success looks like a difficult journey and a lot of hard work and a lot of self -sacrifice,
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a lot of grinding, and a lot of anxiety.
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It almost seems like if you want to do something big
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and you want to be the best and you want to succeed, you're going to have to put yourself through the most difficult times,
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which I think parts of it is true, but I also don't think the whole journey is meant to be a struggle.
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I don't think you're meant to suffer the entire way.
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I think there are phases where you have to give your all, but you have to define what your all is.
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Your all is like all your time,
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energy, motivation, yes, but not past the point of hurting yourself and hurting your health and really ruining those boundaries.
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This is one of those beliefs that are really ingrained in people and it's like you only see what you believe.
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So if you believe you have to struggle to succeed, then you're going to see, oh, look at the people who succeeded.
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They had to struggle this much.
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If you believe it the other way, I believe you can still achieve success while living a balanced life, while living a life you love.
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Yes, there are hardships, but the whole journey has depth.
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It's not just like you're killing yourself every day, jam -packing your schedule every day, and you can still be there.
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You can see examples of that too.
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So I don't think there's only one way to get there.
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And I think I have more experience through the people that I've met in life.
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Everyone should be allowed to have their own definition of success.
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And what I believe as artists of life is we are supposed to create our own definitions of success.
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So I'm not going to impart anything but my definition at this point
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because I have learned that my definition of success is that I want to do what I am interested in doing.
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I will always follow my passions and curiosities and inspirations because I can't help it.
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I can't not do that.
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But success is also following that energy that drives you forward while not sacrificing yourself, your health, and your overall well -being.
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Continuing to nourish yourself, continuing to find joy and beauty and meaning and love and connection in life,
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in your everyday life, and having space in my days.
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I don't consider myself successful, no matter how much money I make or how much impact I have, if my days are jam -packed.
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If I am living a jam -packed schedule every single day, no matter anything else, no matter how successful everything looks on the outside,
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that is not success to me.
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Success is openness and freedom.
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The freedom to be creative, the freedom to choose how I want to spend my time.
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Success to me is living a balanced life where I can take care of the different areas of my life
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while working towards a worthy goal.
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Even if you were making hundreds of million dollars, if you don't have your health, I don't consider that successful.
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I don't consider that sacrifice worth it for me personally.
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The other flip side of what I'm sharing is, I love that as I am growing older and meeting more people,
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people who are older, people who are retired,
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I'm seeing more and more examples of people living this open and free life where they have built success,
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but they spend their time pursuing what interests them and they don't really care.
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Obviously they want that thing to do well, but they're not killing themselves to reach their goal.
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They just have a loose goal and they're just moving towards it, but in a very happy and balanced way.
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And yes, it's gonna look slow.
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but they're not in a rush because they already have enough.
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So I think that might be the key phrase is you're not in a rush because you already have enough.
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And I think maybe when you're young and you're trying to build your first little mountain of success, like you're trying to climb your first mountain,
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maybe that's when you have the most anxiety because you're trying so hard to make something of yourself.
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You feel like you have something to prove.
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Sometimes you just need income.
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You just need money, right?
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So I think once you get to that first hump, and once you've at least built a life where you have some stable income,
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something that you've built, as long as you have enough beyond that, why are you in a rush?
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Do you feel like you're in competition with others?
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I don't think you have to be in a rush ever.
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I think sometimes the slow way is often the way that beats out people who are in a rush as well.
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This is why you might see two different kinds of really successful people.
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One kind of person made their success by grinding, and they continue to grind, and they continue to burn themselves out, and they continue to push.
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And are they really happy?
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I'm not sure.
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Are they really healthy?
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Probably not.
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And then there are people who are successful,
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but they have this energy of they're just doing side quests at some point.
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They're doing things but for fun.
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And it's not like they absolutely need those things to succeed
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because they have enough and they're just doing more because they want to.
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And then the other, the first type of person is the kind
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that no matter how much success or money that they have,
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they just continue to build with that same energy of desperation and like, oh, this must happen.
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And they're so controlling.
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It's because deep down, they feel like whatever they do is never enough.
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Whatever success they've made is never enough.
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So this can also come down to your sense of worth, your sense of safety, your sense of security.
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Do you actually feel like you are enough as you are?
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Do you feel like you are enough if you're not productive
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or you are enough even if you don't reach your goals in time?
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Ultimately, the point is, there are seasons for different phases in your life,
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and sometimes you might need to have a season where there's a lot on your plate, and then you need a season that's a bit slower.
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And you have to be aware to know what season you're in.
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And also, I think it's important to build the awareness of how to get really good at the things
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that you can control obviously how to become more effective at doing your tasks and not procrastinating, how to be effective at building consistency,
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having some sort of routine, and making it so that getting things done is easier and not such a big effort every time.
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The point I'm getting to is I'm not a big life optimizer, but I think it's important to learn some.
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It's important to learn how to optimize enough, how to - like personal growth.
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You don't have to read self -help books forever, but it's important to have enough knowledge so that you feel like, okay, I know enough.
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I'm optimizing enough.
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But after that, I'm giving myself some space and some balance.
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Life is not meant to be optimized forever and ever.
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Life is meant to be lived.
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And you should simply be living your life however you want to live it.
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You should not be letting anyone else or anyone else's opinions or society dictate how you live your life.
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It doesn't matter what other people deem as success.
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And you really have to build the awareness to understand
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which parts of your definition of success you picked up from some place or someone outside of you.
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I think that's the biggest lesson.
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And then honestly,
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the last thing is learning self -forgiveness because oftentimes we are the ones that put the most pressure on ourselves.
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And it's because something in our past taught us that was the way to operate in this world.
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But wisdom is being able to take a step back
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and look at the big picture and realize that all of it is optional.
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All of it was self -imposed.
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And whichever part of it you thought was absolutely necessary because maybe it's the norm in society,
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or maybe someone's depending on you or whatever.
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Sure, take it all into consideration, but also think about the opposite.
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If this didn't exist, would I be okay?
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If this didn't happen, would I be okay?
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at the end of the day, you're probably going to be okay.
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So it's okay to let yourself have some slack, relax.
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Because the people who relate to this are often on one side of the extreme, the lesson is to pull back, to soften.
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But if you are someone who's on the other side, the lesson is to pull back the other way and build some structure in your life.
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I think truly the path in life that is the most wise is to find your balance of the middle path,
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wherever that lies.
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So only you know, because everybody is different.
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So learn how to define success for yourself, how to create a life that feels both successful and nourishing at the same time,
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encompassing everything that you want while making sure that you're protecting your wellness because that's the most important thing.
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All right, sending you so much love.
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Thank you for hanging out with me and just listening to my thoughts.
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Again, our Artist of Life workbook is out now.
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You can go to our shop to check it out.
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It's out a bit early, but it's a good time to start reflecting on how this year has already shaped you.
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Sending you so much love.
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I'll see you in the next one.
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Bye!
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Belangrijke woorden in deze video
15 woorden uit de video die het leren waard zijn, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| rush werkwoord | /ɹʌʃ/ | afraffelen |
| wellness zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈwɛl.nɪs/ | wellness |
| priority zelfstandig naamwoord | /pɹaɪˈɒɹɪti/ | voorrang, prioriteit |
| ambitious bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /æmˈbɪʃ.əs/ | eerzuchtig, ambitieus |
| sacrifice zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈsæk.ɹɪ.faɪs/ | opoffering |
| lazy bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈleɪ̯zi(ː)/ | lui, werkschuw |
| grind werkwoord | /ˈɡɹaɪnd/ | malen, vermalen |
| mediocre bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˌmidiˈoʊkəɹ/ | middelmatig |
| everyday bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈɛvɹiˌdeɪ/ | alledaags |
| lesson zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈlɛs.ən/ | les |
| anxiety zelfstandig naamwoord | /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/ | bezorgdheid, ongerustheid |
| awareness zelfstandig naamwoord | /əˈwɛɹ.nəs/ | besef, bewustzijn |
| forgive werkwoord | /fɚˈɡɪv/ | vergeven |
| insight zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈɪnsaɪ̯t/ | inzicht |
| reflection zelfstandig naamwoord | /ɹɪˈflɛkʃən/ | reflectie, weerspiegeling |
Phrasal verbs die je zult horen
| Woord | Betekenis |
|---|---|
| slow down werkwoord | afremmen |
| get off werkwoord | van ... afgaan |
| check out werkwoord | onderzoeken |
| go back werkwoord | teruggaan |
| go out werkwoord | naar buiten gaan |
| run away werkwoord | vluchten, weglopen |
| show up werkwoord | tentoonstellen |
| stay up werkwoord | opblijven |
Zinnen om te herhalen
Korte, volledige zinnen uit de video die je in alledaagse gesprekken kunt gebruiken:
- Can you be ambitious without overdoing it?
- Are you lazy and unmotivated because you're running away?
- Do you feel like you're in competition with others?
- If this didn't exist, would I be okay?
- If this didn't happen, would I be okay?
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — iets dat eerder begon en nog bezig is | you've been following · has been changing · have been following |
| Voorwaardelijke zinnen if + zin, will/would + werkwoord — een voorwaarde en het gevolg | If this didn't exist, would I · If this didn't happen, would I |
| Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt | I've noticed · you've worked · has really inspired |
| Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet | was just lost · being lost · are shown |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 142 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals you're, I'm, don't. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De “th”-klanken: thyroid /ˈθaɪ.ɹɔɪd/, underneath /ˌʌndɚˈniθ/, bandwidth /ˈbændwɪdθ/, worthy /ˈwɝ.ði/, breathe /bɹiːð/
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: rush /ɹʌʃ/, ambitious /æmˈbɪʃ.əs/, reflection /ɹɪˈflɛkʃən/, obligation /ˌɑ.blɪˈɡeɪ.ʃn̩/, ambition /æmˈbɪʃ.ən/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: priority /pɹaɪˈɒɹɪti/, mediocre /ˌmidiˈoʊkəɹ/, anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, difficulty /ˈdɪfɪkəlti/, motivation /ˈmoʊ.tə.veɪ.ʃən/
Klanken die Nederlandstaligen lastig vinden:
- Stemhebbende eindmedeklinker — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ niet verscherpen: succeed /səkˈsiːd/, thyroid /ˈθaɪ.ɹɔɪd/, grind /ˈɡɹaɪnd/, forgive /fɚˈɡɪv/, productive /pɹəˈdʌk.tɪv/
- /æ/ — opener dan de Nederlandse “e”: ambitious /æmˈbɪʃ.əs/, sacrifice /ˈsæk.ɹɪ.faɪs/, anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, ambition /æmˈbɪʃ.ən/, trap /tɹæp/
- /g/ — een harde plofklank, geen Nederlandse “g”: grind /ˈɡɹaɪnd/, forgive /fɚˈɡɪv/, obligation /ˌɑ.blɪˈɡeɪ.ʃn̩/, forgiveness /fɚˈɡɪvnəs/, ignore /ɪɡˈnɔː/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als rush, wellness, priority.
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