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The top three mistakes that I see communicators make One, they use absolutes, the always and the nevers.
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Two, they over-explain their words.
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And three, they find a way to not take control of the first seven seconds of the conversation.
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Without those seven seconds, everything else does not fall into place.
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So number one, if you don't want to make this mistake, it's very simple, but it's also very hard.
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Absolutes.
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You know what it's like when you're in conversation with people or let's better yet in an argument with somebody, probably somebody you're very close with.
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I might be married to, might be in a relationship with, and they use this word right here.
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Always.
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Usually there's something that comes right before it, and it's the word you.
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You say you always.
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You never.
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They're generally not positive statements.
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If I had to guess, the only time you hear those is in some kind of negative conversation, meaning the other person's using these words with a downward,
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mad, angry, frustrated, disappointed expression on their face.
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You never listen to me.
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You always say this.
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You never care.
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And it should just send sirens off in your brain.
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That is one of the number one mistakes that I see communicators make if they're trying to actually have productive, efficient, successful communication.
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Is a use the absolutes, the extremes.
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When in reality, we both know that's not true.
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And really, the other person knows it's not true.
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They know it too.
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It just feels better to say it.
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It feels better to use the absolutes.
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Let's play it out for a second.
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Let's say you and I are in a conversation and I'm in an argument with you and I say, it is just like you always say this.
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Every time you come in, you always say, you never do anything that I ask.
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You never pick up around here.
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You never do this.
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You never, you always want to be the first to do.
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Those words, those absolutes, they create a lot of friction in the conversation because the conversation is no longer about the issue.
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It is now about the accuracy.
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It's no longer about the thing you were first originally talking about, what's beneath it all.
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Instead, it's now about the accuracy of somebody's statement.
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That's what happens to your brain when the other person's side.
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When you use the absolutes, what happens to the other person is they start to go, that's not accurate.
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That's not accurate.
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I don't always do that.
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I don't never do this.
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And they start to try and pick and poke and look at the accuracy.
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Okay, well, let's look at the timeline.
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When's the last time that I said that?
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Or when's the last time I did that?
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And it becomes a timeline game.
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It becomes who's more accurate,
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whose memory is better, who is the kind of the referee of the argument.
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And accuracy calls when somebody blows the whistle on accuracy and say, that's not accurate.
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I don't always do that.
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I don't never do that.
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It's now a second argument.
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So if you have straight line of A to B
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and you and I are talking and I just used the word never, you never, you know, what happens?
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We split, right?
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It's the multiverse.
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We have two different timelines happening because now that second one only cares about accuracy,
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meaning you're having an argument about whether you always or never did the thing.
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And so when I say accuracy, it's about, are they saying something that is correct?
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And as soon as the other person goes, no, actually, I don't always do that.
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It stinks because you're like, I don't want to talk about this.
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I want to talk about the issue itself.
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And that's where you get caught up.
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So what's, Jefferson, what's the point here?
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The point here is that you don't use them.
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And I know that sounds easier said than done, but it happens all the time.
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It happens in my relationships.
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It happens in my family's relationships and my friend's relationships.
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It happens among all of us.
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What I'm saying is, it will happen.
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The key here is quick to fix it.
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So what are some ways we can do that instead? that way, if you catch yourself using that.
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One is if you catch yourself saying always and never, be the bigger person and grab it back.
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If you say always, catch it and go, actually, not always, a lot of the time, some of the time, most of the time, right?
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Catch it.
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So, I mean, if you say it out loud of, listen, you never stop yourself and you hear it and go, actually, it's not never.
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it's a lot.
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It feels like a lot to me.
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If you can catch it and grab it, that's an easy win.
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You now don't have to have that second multiverse argument about accuracy.
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Number two, a quick way is to say, when you, I feel.
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It's a framework that works in a lot of different circumstances.
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You've heard me on this podcast talk about it.
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It's a framework that works a lot of the time.
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It's when you, I feel saying, when you do this, I feel that.
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When you X, I feel Y.
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When you speak to me in that tone, I feel like you're disappointed in me and I'm doing something wrong.
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When you leave the food on the counter, I feel like you're asking me to
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take care of it and you're being passive aggressive
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or whatever it is when you i feel it's a very easy way of putting
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that in there because at the end of the day these always
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and never statements they're really just a self-expression of what's going on inside you right of what's happening inside
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because in your body it feels like it's always
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or it's never in these absolutes
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and it's way clear for your body to go i feel it right now
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so this is what it must be all of the time And so when my body says never, it feels like never.
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So what's another way?
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A third way we can take care of this is think of it as a headline.
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Think of it as a headline, meaning I'm going to say up front, I'm going to say up front, I'm going to tell you something.
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It's not always.
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I feel like it's a lot of the time.
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And then give the statement.
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You see, I kind of use the headline to give you a preview of what I'm about to say.
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And let me try it again.
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We could do a different way.
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I want to tell you something that's important to me.
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And I'm not saying that it's never, but I am saying that I feel like sometimes it's hardly at all.
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Then give what you need to say.
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So it's like combining the when you, I feel, with a catchback is saying, I'm going to go ahead and tell you right now,
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I'm going to use the word never, but I know it's not.
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I know it's not never.
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I'm just telling you it feels like it is.
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Right.
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Can can you relate to me on that aspect of that?
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Can am I are you safe enough for me to say it feels like it's never even though I know
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that it's not?
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My brain tells me.
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My body tells me my emotions tell me that this is always happening.
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But my brain knows objectively it's not always happening.
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All right.
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I think we've covered all the absolutes.
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There's a range, right?
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From always to most of the time to some of the time to often to never.
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it is something that easily slips up a communicator because, right, they no longer hear about the issue
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and now it becomes about accuracy and a recollection of events and people have to get out their logbook and go, remember, I did this this time and it does not serve you.
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All right, so don't be doing the absolutes.
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Number two, over explaining.
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You and I have talked about this many times.
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And I will say it again.
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I like to use the three sentence rule, meaning if I can't say it in three sentences, I'm going to try to find a different way to work that.
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Now you might go Jefferson, this whole episode's longer than the three sentences.
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What are you doing?
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Yeah, I know.
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There's some context that happens in this.
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If I need to write an email or a text, or I'm trying to say something assertively, I'm going to try to apply that framework.
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It does not apply to casual conversations with friends
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or to a podcast or to certain things that aren't going to require that level of professionalism or,
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you know, a little different threshold of a conversation that you need to have.
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And again, it's just a guide that's going to keep you from over explaining because what happens?
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The more words you use, the less people are going to likely do what you want them to do.
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the more words you have to use to say no, the more it kind of sounds like you're wanting them to push you to a yes, especially with boundaries.
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The more you try to explain your boundary, the other person starts to hear it not as a no, but as a negotiation for them to go,
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oh, well, if I took this off your plate and took this off your plate, would you be willing to do it then?
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And see, it feels weird because now they've kind of changed the paradigm
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and now you feel like you got caught in some way.
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You kind of have to acquiesce, right?
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Because you took too long, used too many sentences, gave too much context to explain what you need to say.
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What I tell every one of my clients when I prepare them for deposition is that answer the question only.
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And if they have more questions, it is on them to ask.
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it's a muscle, all right?
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It's a learned skill.
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So don't think that all of a sudden you have to be in deposition, cross-examination mode anytime anybody talks to you.
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That's not my point.
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What I'm saying is when it comes to communicating boundaries in particular, or really anything, the more words that you use,
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usually the weaker the point becomes because it's confusing.
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People get lost.
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People grab onto one sentence and start to use their message.
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Let's say use an absolute for goodness sake.
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I mean, that would be terrible.
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They all of a sudden in the middle of your monologue, somebody grabs onto an always, and that's all they think about.
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That's all they hear about.
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Or I mean, how many times have you been in a conversation with somebody and all of a sudden you're thinking, man, I wonder what, like what's for lunch today.
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And you just have thoughts, distracted thoughts that are normal and are going to happen.
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And it's, there's a natural part of this.
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So how do you eliminate that as a communicator?
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Cut down on the excessive words, the excessive words.
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I know people that they're just looking for a captive audience, really.
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And sometimes I give them one because I might be the only person they've seen and
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I got to talk to in a few days.
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And so they just need to kind of get it all out.
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And that's okay too.
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But for the most part, when it comes to effectively communicating, the more words you use,
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the harder it is to communicate a clear and certainly a consistent message.
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Number three, this is the one I want to give you the most on.
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It's about controlling the first seven seconds.
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And this is not some scientific study.
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So I don't think I have some lab where we've ran all these tests.
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It's not.
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It's just the school of Jefferson, just of my experience saying, hey, in about seven seconds,
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I can tell, you can tell where the conversation is going long before it gets there.
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In the first seven seconds, nobody's really listening to your words.
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They're listening for what you do, meaning your signals.
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Are you somebody who sounds upset?
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I'm not listening to your words.
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I'm listening to the tone of it.
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I'm listening to the music of it.
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it happens a lot related to music and music.
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We do the same thing.
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It is usually the first three seconds of just the music
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or five seconds or seven seconds of the music that grabs our attention that goes, okay, I want to listen to this.
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This is something that resonates with me long before the lyrics show up.
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It's kind of the same way, right?
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If I'm approaching you as somebody who's very kind of, I'm looking like I'm negative.
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I'm looking like I'm intense.
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I'm looking like maybe I'm really passive or maybe I'm really shy.
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You're reading all of that in seconds, right?
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If you can hear the tone of my voice, do I sound serious or not?
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Do I sound playful or not?
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Do I sound happy or not?
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I'm listening for all the signals long before the words ever come out.
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I know when Sierra walks into a room, if she's in a good mood or not.
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Right.
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And she knows the same for me.
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I know with my kids, they walk in, I can know immediately if something is wrong.
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One of the biggest mistakes that I see
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that communicators make is not taking the first seven seconds of a conversation seriously because in those first seven seconds, usually less.
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That could be two seconds.
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Nobody's listening to the words.
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They're listening to you.
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They're listening to your mood.
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They're listening to your tone.
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They're listening to your facial expressions.
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They're listening to how your posture is when you walk into the door.
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They're listening to all those things long before the words ever come out of your mouth.
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So if you want to be an excellent communicator, it is making sure that you treat those first seven seconds
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like they are liquid gold because if something falls apart and it's oftentimes that it does, you get the chance to say, I need to say that differently.
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I want to redo.
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I need to reset this conversation.
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If you feel that it starts to go off the rail immediately, I need to say that differently and restart those seven seconds.
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All right.
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Because if you're not in the right mindset, if you're not in the right, yeah, I don't think another word for it.
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If you're not in the right mindset, neither will they, because conversations generally don't go south in the middle.
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So if we have a beginning and an end, conversations typically don't start to lose control in the middle.
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It's at the very beginning, meaning at the very beginning, it's set it up to have a hard conversation.
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If I'm in an argument, let's say, and let's say it's me who gets frustrated.
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I'm going to get frustrated really quickly, right out of the gate.
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And you know what?
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That's going to color the whole rest of the conversation for me.
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And I'm going to have to be doing the mental work to try and dig myself out of that, you know, that mindset.
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Same for somebody else.
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If they're trying to deliver something to you and you're not being receptive of it, the good communicators say, I can tell that this is not going where we need it to go.
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I'm going to restart it.
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Or let's push it for another time.
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So to me, the first seven seconds of the conversation is sort of like the tail wagging the dog.
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I know if those first seven seconds aren't going well,
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it is rare that the rest of the conversation will somehow turn by itself naturally and improve.
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What I typically like to do, and what I'm going to encourage you to do, is reset it.
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So how do you do that?
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If you find that the first seven seconds are not going well, the good communicators will reset it.
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They'll say phrases like, I need to redo.
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I need to restart this.
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It's not asking.
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You could ask if you wanted.
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Hey, can I have a, can I try that again?
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Somebody's going to say, yeah, of course.
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They don't ever say no. But yeah, of course.
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Or what I like to do is say, can I say that differently?
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I need to say that.
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I need to say this differently.
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And I restart it because most likely if I'm asking that, the other person's lost.
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They're like, yeah, please restart it differently.
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Cause I didn't, I didn't prepare.
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I didn't do the mental gymnastics of making sure that I'm in the right mindset before we go into this conversation, because that's, that's normal.
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And what happens three quick, easy tools to improve your communication.
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Number one, we talked about absolutes, the always and the nevers
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and how those quickly tank the conversation to start talking about accuracy rather than the true heart of the issue.
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Two, we talked about the excessive words, how whether you like it or not, the more words you start to use, the weaker your message becomes.
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And the more the other person hears, it's an invitation for them to try and problem solve what you said
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and fix it rather than actually stick to your boundary.
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And number three, we talked about the value of the first seven seconds of a conversation because nobody's listening to the words, not near as much as how they're listening to you.
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and if you're actually ready for it.
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So how you show up in conversation, how you show that you're controlled, how you slow down your words, how you make sure you have the right tone,
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how you make sure you're approaching the conversation is something that you can actually lean into
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rather than pushing them and making sure that you're in some kind of defensive posture.
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That's not going to be anywhere that's going to want to get you to where you're wanting to go in the conversation.
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So how can you make sure that you preserve,
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treasure value prioritize the first seven seconds that's going to make sure
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that you become a better communicator so let's avoid those three mistakes
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and i think my voice is actually starting to go out
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| cosy bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈkoʊzi/ | gezellig, gezellige |
| restart werkwoord | /ˈɹiːˌstɑɹt/ | herbeginnen |
| mindset zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈmaɪn(d)ˌsɛt/ | mentaliteit, ingelsteldheid |
| boundary zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈbaʊndɹi/ | grens |
| podcast zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈpɑdˌkæst/ | podcast |
| frustrate werkwoord | /ˈfɹʌsˌtɹeɪt/ | frustreren |
| pajamas zelfstandig naamwoord | /pəˈd͡ʒɑ.məz/ | pyjama |
| reset werkwoord | /ɹiːˈsɛt/ | herinitialiseren, terugstellen |
| headline zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈhɛd.laɪn/ | kop |
| excessive bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ɪkˈsɛsɪv/ | overmatig |
| timeline zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈtaɪmˌlaɪn/ | tijdlijn |
| multiverse zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈmʌltəˌvɝs/ | multiversum |
| redo werkwoord | /ɹiˈduː/ | herdoen |
| deposition zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˌdɛp.əˈzɪʃ.ən/ | schorsing |
| seafood zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈsiːfuːd/ | zeevruchten, zeebanket |
Phrasal verbs die je zult horen
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| come out werkwoord | /ˌkʌm ˈaʊt/ | uitkomen |
| fall apart werkwoord | uiteenvallen, uit elkaar vallen | |
| go off werkwoord | afgaan | |
| go out werkwoord | naar buiten gaan | |
| hands down bijwoord | met losse handen, met gemak | |
| keep up werkwoord | bijblijven | |
| pick up werkwoord | oppakken, optillen | |
| show up werkwoord | tentoonstellen |
Zinnen om te herhalen
Korte, volledige zinnen uit de video die je in alledaagse gesprekken kunt gebruiken:
- When's the last time that I said that?
- You know what I mean?
- Are you somebody who sounds upset?
- Do I sound playful or not?
- Do I sound happy or not?
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt | You've heard · mom's never been · she's just been |
| Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet | is sponsored · are raised |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 119 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals I'm, you're, don't. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De “th”-klanken: trustworthy /ˈtɹʌst.wɜː.ði/, threshold /ˈθɹɛʃ(h)oʊld/
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: deposition /ˌdɛp.əˈzɪʃ.ən/, professionalism /pɹəˈfɛʃənəˌlɪzəm/, recollection /ɹɛkəˈlɛkʃən/, friction /ˈfɹɪkʃən/, negotiation /nɪˌɡəʊ.ʃiˈeɪ.ʃən/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: communicator /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪtə/, deposition /ˌdɛp.əˈzɪʃ.ən/, avocado /ˌɑvəˈkɑdoʊ/, objectively /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪvli/, prioritize /pɹaɪˈɒɹ.ə.taɪz/
Klanken die Nederlandstaligen lastig vinden:
- Stemhebbende eindmedeklinker — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ niet verscherpen: pajamas /pəˈd͡ʒɑ.məz/, excessive /ɪkˈsɛsɪv/, seafood /ˈsiːfuːd/, passive /ˈpæs.ɪv/, extremes /ɪkˈstɹimz/
- /æ/ — opener dan de Nederlandse “e”: podcast /ˈpɑdˌkæst/, passive /ˈpæs.ɪv/, acquiesce /ˌækwiˈɛs/, hamburger /ˈhæmˌbɜɹ.ɡɚ/, antibiotic /ˌæn.taɪ.baɪˈɑ.tɪk/
- /g/ — een harde plofklank, geen Nederlandse “g”: hamburger /ˈhæmˌbɜɹ.ɡɚ/, logbook /ˈlɑɡ.bʊk/, monologue /ˈmɑnəˌlɔɡ/, rigorous /ˈɹɪɡəɹəs/, negotiation /nɪˌɡəʊ.ʃiˈeɪ.ʃən/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als cosy, restart, mindset.
Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?
Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.