Shadowing Practice: 20 Cheat Codes I Wish I Knew at 20 - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Here's what nobody tells you.
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The girls with the life you want are not smarter than you and they're not luckier either.
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They just found a few cheat codes early and started using them sooner rather than later.
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So here are my 20 cheat codes that helped me get my dream life that will change your life too.
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Shared while I take you through my first Coachella.
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Let's go!
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Lesson one, later is not guaranteed but you know what is?
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Right now and that's why I have a really strong bias toward action.
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When these Coachella tickets came up and I saw that Katzai was going to be there, I knew I wanted to go.
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So I didn't just sit there dwelling on it for days.
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I remembered that money comes back, but time doesn't.
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And the more time I spend thinking about it is also time wasted.
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And especially under 30, there's not really much you can lose.
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I know you'd be procrastinating all the time, but whatever you need to do or want to do, there's no better time than the present
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because you may not have tomorrow first stop walmart grocery lesson
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number two maximize your happiness happiness isn't a reward you earn at the end
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and my husband sean once told me
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that he loves how happy i am about everything by default like one time we got caught in the rain
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and i just started singing rain rain go away come again another day
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and i feel like most people nowadays
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feel like they have to think their way into being happy
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or they have to earn somehow but the way
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that i found to live a really successful life is
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because i just don't think about it and i really prioritize my happiness.
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I don't let myself feel uncomfortable for too long.
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And that's also why I quit my consulting job after 18 months.
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And jumped into a passion that I'm happier about
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and therefore going to be better at and more driven in and thus now also more successful in.
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Lesson number three, weigh both fears
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when you're scared to do something you're only weighing the fear of doing it
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but there's a second fear that almost nobody counts and
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that is the fear of regret
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when the fear of your regret is greater than the fear of doing the thing I do the thing
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and that is how I was willing to start talking to Sean who is now my husband
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that is how I was willing to start a personal brand
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and put my face on the internet which is really scary
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but now I literally get to have dream opportunities I live in the coolest city in the world
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and I have the coolest friends
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lesson number four don't wait for everyone to agree when i said
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that i wanted to be a youtuber a girl i worked with told me in this very dubious voice
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that i probably won't make it you just have to be really lucky
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but two years later i had a following
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and now she's making content too it's just like school 10 years later everyone agrees
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that they should have worked harder
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but at the time nobody did do what you believe in
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because you don't want your unique potential to be held back by peer pressure.
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Top sign was 10 out of 10.
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10 out of 10.
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Beautiful.
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Lesson number five, being a girl is actually a superpower.
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I used to scoff at posts about loving being a woman and in the name of efficiency, I wore sweatpants every single day.
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But then after a while, I realized I didn't feel so good about myself.
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And then I started to learn makeup.
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I wore pink for the very first time and it surprisingly just made me very happy.
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And I discovered maybe that's the magic of being a woman.
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We're finally back.
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That we can change our own mood just by putting on an outfit or trying something new with our look.
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It's difficult sometimes in this society where if you're too pretty, people might think you're dumb and if you're smart, people might not expect that you should care about fashion.
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But I think that we can be anything we want to be and happiness is proof enough that it's worth our time.
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Lesson number six, be selfish.
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Everyone says that to improve yourself and take on new habits, you have to take on a new identity first.
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Tell yourself you're disciplined before you have any proof.
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But I disagree.
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Your identity changes from your actions, not the other way around.
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My dad taught me to just choose actions that are good for me.
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When you do that and you put yourself first, then you automatically do stuff that would be considered disciplined.
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And then you get to call yourself disciplined because you have actual proof.
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Oh, the cardio has messed up my sweat gland.
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I literally sweat so easily.
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Oh my gosh, today is so much hotter than yesterday.
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Yesterday was peak though.
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I don't know how we're gonna top that, but we don't need to because every day is different.
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I'm so grateful I got my most uncomfortable outfit out of the way though because my feet could not survive another day.
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And I'm just really excited to do more like girly things.
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Lesson seven, your calendar is your real values list.
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People always say they value things, but their actions aren't in alignment with what they say.
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Comment if that sounds like you.
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And that gap is where the discontent comes from.
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So if health is at the very top of your list and there's no workout scheduled, and you're weak, then you need to put one in or let yourself off the hook.
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Either way, the discontent goes away.
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First time doing hair like this and it worked.
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I forgot to vlog for a hot sec.
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Basically, just took the front piece and then started braiding from the back.
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And I think pieces will fall out more as this gets looser.
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I threaded it through a rubber band and then tied it into a bow so it would stay.
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So it wouldn't slip off
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and I put in some gold hair rings put on my tinted sunscreen it's like a filter oh my gosh
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and added some accessories thinking of adding my gold necklace stack from yesterday see
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if it's too much though yay i like it i think it adds a little bit of sparkle
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and i'm actually
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so proud of myself most for making all my outfits out of things i already have
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which means either that i have a lot of clothes or
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that means i'm decent at fashion because it's all in the styling
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and pairing things together
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and i forgot how much joy i have from this in
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high school i would literally plan my outfits day by day right out the combination of hair
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and accessories and clothes and shoes
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and for me now i just think getting ready is like something
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that happens before the actual thing
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but i don't know maybe just being a girl means you got to do what makes you happy
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and this truly makes me happy and so
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i guess i'll just do more of it yay i put
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on some sparkles on top of the non -toxic nail polish i got the other day
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so okay i'm gonna i need to do my makeup now
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oh my gosh oh my gosh i've improved in makeup
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so much okay so i did tightline today um usual glitter eyeliner the goldish highlight
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and oh my gosh i'm
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so proud of the eyeshadow i never do eyeshadow like this
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i usually just do one single color i created dimension today
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i feel like they should teach makeup in school like what whoa shoot lesson eight do one good thing today
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when i'm in a rut i make myself do one small good thing anyway
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and every single time it shifts the whole momentum of the day
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and kicks off what is called the winner's effect in college
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i was a bench warmer on the basketball team i got put in
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while we were losing threw up a far three -pointer
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and it banked in because i made
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that one shot everyone cheered the whole vibe became positive
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and we came back and won
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that game one winning moment turns your whole attitude around okay
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so let's let's walk through what coachella is like right we
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got the ferris wheel here this is a health hazard simply not having our masks on right now
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but it's okay and we got the the rainbow tower apparently you can go in it
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And now we got our friends there.
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Yeah, right there, right there.
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She's still taking photos.
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Going strong.
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She's got higher endurance than us.
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Lesson nine, don't consume experience.
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You watch a 30 second video, you scroll on by, but that is 30 seconds of your life you scrolled away.
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You didn't pause that time, you deleted it.
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So the test isn't whether you were productive, it's whether you will actually remember that time.
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That's why I almost only watch shows or movies with other people to turn
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that into a bonding experience
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and that's why going to a concert set with your besties is something you'll still talk about in five years.
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Lesson 10, talk to strangers.
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I sent a LinkedIn message to a YouTuber I admired.
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Then that YouTuber introduced me to another creator who became one of my best friends
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and I'm so grateful I've gotten into the habit of just shooting my shot
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because there's really nothing to lose but everything to gain
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and the prospect of not gaining all those cool opportunities
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or those new friendships or that new knowledge that is the scarier thing which ties back to that earlier lesson.
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I have learned so many helpful things I didn't know I didn't know.
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Every person you meet is a doorway and the only way in is the first message.
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Lesson 11.
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Confidence is not needing the outcome.
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Three people in one week told me I speak well
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and that's crazy because I used to be so shy but
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when they told me that I realized it actually has nothing to do with speaking.
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It's that I stopped needing anything from the room and I stopped feeling that pressure of doing it well.
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Maybe I would like to impress people, but I don't need it and where I am right now is fine.
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So that contentness is what gives off a peaceful, confident aura.
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Because I don't feel desperate or nervous, that is when I speak better.
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Lesson 12, who I am, not who am I.
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My mantra is who I am.
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In this world of ever -changing trends and influences online, it's really important to feel a passionate pride in who you are
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and your likes and your interests because without that you have no identity.
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I am already a certain way and I stick by what I believe in.
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That's how I center myself when I see what other people have online.
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Just because I see it doesn't mean I want it.
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You can't have everything anyway so the beauty is getting to pick.
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Lesson 13.
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Care the most about your own success.
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You should be the person who cares the most about yourself.
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Not me, not your parents should be the ones telling you that your future matters.
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My parents didn't push me and I still went after things on my own
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and that's what makes it much more effective and joyful anyway.
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Your parents are the closest anyone gets to caring genuinely about your success
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and you want to care more than even they do.
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Lesson 14.
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Yes compounds into luck.
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Did I ever dream of being on a billboard in Times Square?
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Absolutely not, but it happened.
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That wasn't a goal I set, but it was years of putting myself out there
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and it just looks like a stroke of luck
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But I was ready for it
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when it came lesson 15 every small move counts on my channel I've already talked about the butterfly effect
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Which is that a little change in the past dramatically affects the present
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Which is why you should focus on all your little habits right now
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But let me give a real example from this coachella experience right after the justin bieber set the crowd was is insane.
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I've never seen a sea of that many people in my life and it was barely moving.
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It was 1 30 a .m and the last shuttle left at 2
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so my friends and I were super stressed but we tried our absolute best.
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We inched little by little to the edge and we even jumped over a barricade.
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All of the little actions and snaking through the crowd made us be able to catch the very last shuttle.
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We were literally the last people out of everyone who got to leave
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and the next time the buses would come back would be like 4am.
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Crazy experience, but just more proof that every little action you take truly adds up.
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Lesson 16.
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Quitting can be the power move.
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Leaving something prestigious may feel like betrayal, so we stay in things because we already put the time in.
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Hence the sunk cost fallacy.
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But Alyssa Liu walked away from a figure skating at 16, even when she was at the top, then came back on her own terms and won the world championships and Olympic gold.
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I left consulting in 2023, and I built this channel instead, which led to my dream life.
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Today's is my favorite outfit, actually.
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It's not just because comfy, but I feel like this is just my style.
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I love this style.
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I don't know what it is.
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Sporty, kind of street wear -ish.
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Now, I'm just going to add in some silver hair loops.
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Hopefully, it's not too much
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because I already have silver rings oh my gosh that's wild okay we got one side yo this looks sick
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oh my gosh i love it lesson 17 i can is not i want for years i thought
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that being an engineer was what i wanted i was good at it
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and i went to caltech and being good at something felt like the answer
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but being able to carry something is not a reason to keep carrying it i proved i can
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and now i can use those same analytical
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and problem solving skills into the things i want to comment down below
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which look of the three
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that i should do regularly in one of my videos lesson 18 judge your path as
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if the exit didn't exist in 2024 when youtube felt real hard a friend startup with real packing wanted me.
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And I almost said yes and quit YouTube for good.
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Then I admitted to myself that the pull was fear, not interest.
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I said no and a big relief washed over me.
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So when a door opens on a hard day, ask if you'd still want to leave without it.
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Lesson 19.
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Decide what rich means to you.
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Most people never ask what rich actually means to them.
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Not the influencer version, but yours.
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For me, it's two things.
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It's my health and the time to take care of it.
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And it's having the people I love around me.
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Everything else is secondary.
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When you pick a couple of things that matter, you stop trying to afford everything because you can't have everything anyway.
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And doesn't that give better peace of mind?
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Lesson number 20.
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You can't have a good life if it's not yours.
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The people with the life you want just found these cheat codes earlier, but none of it works if the life isn't yours.
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Why am I so happy?
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Because I stay strong to what I want.
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Most people never stop to ask why they want what they want.
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You can't have a good life if it's not yours.
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Bye bye Coachella.
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I think it's so fun.
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I think it's like this is a dream come true.
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It made me feel very alive.
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I did feel very alive.
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Super visceral.
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I did feel alive.
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I think it's a great balance of like music.
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Like we saw six people we really like in the full sets of them too
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and we got actually pretty good like views for all of
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them all 20 cheat codes come back to the same thing own your life or someone else will.
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Tell me in the comments which cheat code hit you the hardest or which one you'd like to add.
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I also made you a free seven -day guide on how to have better time management, discipline, and overall how to live your best life.
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Link in the description below.
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If you like this video, then watch this video about how to get ahead of 99 % of people and no, it's not what you would expect.
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Thanks so much for watching and I will see you at the top.
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About This Lesson
You're practicing English with "20 Cheat Codes I Wish I Knew at 20" using the Shadowing technique — a method originally developed for professional interpreter training.
Focus on sounding like the speaker — not just repeating words. With 15–30 minutes of daily practice, you'll build real-world speaking confidence.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.