Shadowing Practice: Before Giving Advice, Learn to Listen | A2 English Shadowing - Learn English Speaking with Video
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have you ever told someone about a problem
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and before you even finish speaking they gave you advice you say i had a really bad day
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and they say you should sleep more you talk about a problem at work
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and they say just find another job you tell a friend
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that you feel sad and they say you need to think more positively.
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Sometimes the advice is not wrong.
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It may even be good advice.
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But somehow, you still do not feel better.
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Why?
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Because sometimes we do not want an answer.
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We want someone to listen.
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When a person is having a difficult time, they may need to tell their story before they are ready to think about a solution.
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They may want to feel heard before they want to hear what they should do this is easy to forget
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because giving advice feels useful
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when someone has a problem we want to help we think i know what they should do
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but helping someone is not always about finding the answer quickly
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sometimes the first thing a person needs is simple someone who stays listens and lets them speak
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Imagine that your friend comes home after a difficult day at work.
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They sit down and say, Today was terrible.
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My manager was angry with me.
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And then I made a mistake in front of everyone.
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You immediately say, You should talk to your manager tomorrow.
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And you should be more careful next time.
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Your advice may make sense, but your friend becomes quiet.
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They were not asking what to do yet They were still trying to explain what happened Now,
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imagine a different response You listen and say That sounds really difficult What happened after that?
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Your friend continues talking They tell you more about the day
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After a few minutes They may start to feel calmer Maybe they even find the answer themselves
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This is why listening can be more helpful than advice.
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When we talk about a problem, we often need time to understand our own feelings.
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We may start with anger, then realize we are actually tired or disappointed.
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We may think we are angry with one person, but later understand that something else is bothering us.
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If someone gives us an answer too quickly, we may never have the chance to understand what we really feel.
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Listening gives people that space.
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It does not mean you do nothing.
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You are still helping.
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You are showing the other person that their words matter and that they do not have to solve everything immediately.
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one important thing to remember is that people do not always tell you a problem
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because they want you to solve it sometimes they simply want
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to share it with someone they trust imagine your friend says
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i had a fight with my sister today you may want to say you should call her
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and say sorry
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but maybe your friend only wants to tell you what happened
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maybe they are still angry maybe they are confused maybe they
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do not even know what they want to do yet
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if you give advice too soon they may feel
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that you are not really listening they may think you did
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not understand what i was trying to say a simple question
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can make a big difference you can ask do you want advice
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or do you just want me to listen this small question shows respect it gives the other person a choice
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if they say i just want to talk then you can listen
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if they say yes i need advice then you can share your thoughts you can also ask simple questions
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while they are talking how did
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that make you feel what happened next what do you think
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you want to do these These questions help the person continue without telling them what they must do.
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And sometimes, after talking for a while, they may say, I think I know what I should do now.
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You did not give them the answer.
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You helped them find it themselves.
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That can be much more useful.
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There is another problem with giving advice too quickly.
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Even when we mean well, our advice can sometimes make the other person feel that their problem is simple.
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Imagine someone tells you, I am having a hard time at my new job.
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I feel tired every day.
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If you say, just relax, they may think, if it were that easy, I would already be doing it.
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When we say things like, just leave, just forget about it, or just be positive, we may be trying to help,
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but the word just can make a big problem sound very small.
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We do not know everything the other person is dealing with.
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Maybe leaving the job is not possible.
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Maybe forgetting someone is not easy.
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Maybe being positive is difficult because they are very tired.
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This does not mean advice is bad.
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Good advice can be very helpful when someone is ready for it.
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But advice works better when we understand the problem first.
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Before saying what someone should do, learn more about what they are going through.
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Ask questions.
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Listen to the full story.
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Let them finish.
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Then, if they want your opinion, you can share it carefully.
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You can say, maybe you could try this, instead of, you need to do this.
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There is a big difference.
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One gives a suggestion.
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The other sounds like an order.
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When you speak gently, the other person can think about your idea without feeling that you are judging them.
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So, how can you become a better listener?
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First, let the other person finish speaking.
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Do not prepare your answer while they are still talking.
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Try to understand the story before you decide what you think Second,
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ask simple questions You do not need special questions What happened?
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How do you feel about it?
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And what do you think you want to do?
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Are often enough?
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Third, do not make every problem about your own experience If your friend says,
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I am having a hard time at work You do not always need to say
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that happened to me too sometimes your story can help
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but sometimes the other person simply needs space to talk about their life finally remember
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that listening does not mean you agree with everything they say
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you can listen without judging you can understand someone's feelings without saying
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that every choice they made was right you can be there without trying to control the situation.
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And sometimes, the best thing you can say is very simple.
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I understand. That sounds hard.
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I am here if you want to talk.
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These words may seem small, but they can mean a lot when someone feels alone.
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We often think good help means finding a solution.
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But sometimes good help means helping someone feel less alone while they find their own solution.
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Before you give advice, try to listen.
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Before you tell someone what to do, try to understand what they are feeling.
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You may discover that they do not need an answer yet.
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They may simply need someone who cares enough to stay and hear the whole story.
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And when they are ready for advice, they will be more able to hear it because they know you are not trying to control them.
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You are trying to help.
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Not every Every problem needs a quick answer.
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Some problems need time.
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Some need action.
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And some simply need a good listener first.
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You made it to the end.
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Keep listening, keep speaking, and keep practicing.
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The next time someone tells you about a problem, remember, you do not always need the perfect answer.
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Sometimes you just need to listen.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This A2 speaking lesson is built on the video “Before Giving Advice, Learn to Listen”. The speaker keeps coming back to these words: advice, listen, answer, simple, happened. This video has 118 sentences and 1292 words to shadow. The speech runs for 9:13. The speaker talks at a steady 140 words per minute, a comfortable pace for shadowing. 95% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is easy to follow.
Key vocabulary in this video
13 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| helpful adjective | /ˈhɛlp.fl̩/ | Furnishing help; giving aid; useful. |
| solve verb | /sɒlv/ | To find an answer or solution to a problem or question; to work out. |
| listener noun | /ˈlɪs(ə)nɚ/ | Someone who listens, especially to a speech or a broadcast. |
| confused adjective | /kənˈfjuːzd/ | unable to think clearly or understand |
| carefully adverb | /ˈkɛɹf(ə)li/ | With care; attentively, circumspectly. |
| anger noun | /ˈæŋɡə/ | A strong and unpleasant feeling of displeasure, hostility, or antagonism, usually combined with an urge to yell, curse, damage or destroy things, or harm… |
| disappointed adjective | /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/ | Defeated of expectations or hope; experiencing disappointment; let down. |
| bother verb | /ˈbɑðɚ/ | To annoy, to disturb, to irritate; to be troublesome to, to make trouble for. |
| discover verb | /dɪˈskʌvə/ | To find or learn something for the first time. |
| relax verb | /ɹɪˈlæks/ | To make something loose. |
| suggestion noun | /səˈd͡ʒɛst.ʃən/ | Something suggested (with subsequent adposition being for) |
| gently adverb | /ˈd͡ʒɛntli/ | Without strong force or quickness: softly, lightly. |
| positively adverb | /ˈpɑ.zɪ.tɪv.li/ | In a positive manner. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Meaning |
|---|---|
| go through verb | To travel from one end of something to the other. |
| sit down verb | To assume a sitting position from a standing position. |
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing | someone who stays · someone who cares |
| Possibility with “might / may” might/may + verb — something that is possible but not certain | may even be · may need · may want |
| Advice with “should” should + verb — saying what is a good idea | should sleep · should do · should talk |
| Verb + -ing enjoy, keep, stop… + -ing — verbs that are followed by the -ing form | finish speaking · Keep listening |
Pronunciation to watch
- Long words — get the stress right: disappointed /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/, positively /ˈpɑ.zɪ.tɪv.li/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Shadow it sentence by sentence at normal speed, repeating each one until your rhythm matches the speaker.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like helpful, solve, listener.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.