Shadowing Practice: Daddy Issues - Learn English Speaking with Video
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To say that someone has daddy issues is a somewhat rude
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and humiliating way of alluding to a very understandable longing – for a father who is strong and wise,
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who is judicious, kind, perhaps at points tough, but always fair and ultimately always on our side.
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It would be so understandable if we were to feel we wanted someone like this in our lives, – especially at moments of confusion and chaos.
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The longing for a strong father has been a recurring theme throughout history.
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Most religions have conceived of their central divinities as male parents.
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In ancient Greece, Zeus was described as the father of men and gods.
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In Christianity, God was the heavenly father.
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In Germanic mythology, Odin was the all -father, the father of all other gods.
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The longing has been no less present in secular culture.
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In the US, the individuals who led the War of Independence and drew up the constitution came to be known as the Founding Fathers.
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Garibaldi, the dignified and authoritative man who fought for the unification of Italy in the 19th century,
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earned himself the title of the Father of the Fatherland.
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In early childhood, we are all immensely weak and in need of protection.
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We can't understand the world.
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We're so fragile we could be killed by a moderately sized dog.
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So much feels mysterious and outside of our control.
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A hunger for a daddy is, in the circumstances, wholly natural.
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A grown man inevitably and rightly seems immensely impressive to a small child.
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They appear to know everything – the capital of New Zealand, how to drive a car, how to say a few words in a foreign language,
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how to peel an avocado.
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They go to bed mysteriously late.
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They're up before you.
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In the swimming pool, you can put your arms around their neck and rest on their back.
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They once kicked a football so high you nearly couldn't see it.
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It's beyond astonishing when one is four.
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The paradox of daddy issues is that those who have them are, almost always, people who didn't have very good fathers when they were small.
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Perhaps one's father was strong but ultimately cruel, bullying or disinterested.
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Perhaps he was more concerned with another sibling or with his work.
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Perhaps he wasn't around much, left the house after a divorce or died young.
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The adult longing for a father is not the result of having had a good father in childhood.
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It's a consequence of abandonment.
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The longing can incline us to some tricky patterns of behaviour.
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However mature and sceptical we may be in most areas, in relation to the idea of male protection,
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we remain a little like the young child we once were and haven't been allowed to mature away from.
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We secretly yearn for a man to step in and fulfil an unquenched fantasy role.
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They'll take charge, they'll make the big decisions, they'll be tough and certain to make our problems go away.
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They'll make sure the money side of things is sorted, they'll get angry and aggressive with anyone who hurts us,
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they'll be proud of us and love us as we are.
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We'll be looking out for daddies in friendships, at work and, not least, in politics.
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The danger is that these daddies may in the end hugely damage our trust,
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for it isn't in anyone's power to assuage the sort of longings we bring to bear on them.
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They may know very well what we want and naively or cynically promise to provide it for us,
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but gradually, too late, we stand to realise that they had a thousand flaws, as we all do.
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We may realise that they are bullying rather than noble, that our enemies haven't gone away, that they couldn't help us,
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that there isn't enough money in the world to do what they promised and that, in fact, they didn't really love us at all.
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The fantasy daddy figure of adulthood isn't, in fact, a good father for one big reason.
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Truly good humans know they aren't that powerful
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and are happy to admit to the fact cleanly and honestly just as soon as we're ready to take the news,
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which is normally when we're around 12 years old and conscious of new powers and capacities.
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A good father doesn't, beyond that age, pretend to be all -powerful.
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They confess they can't solve all our problems and can't magically save us from a myriad of dangers, no matter how much they wish they could.
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The good daddy disappoints us just as soon as we're strong enough to bear reality.
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Out of love, they deflate the idea that there could ever be a perfect ideal daddy.
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They try as best they can to help us grow up.
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If we encounter someone who has daddy issues, the temptation is to get frustrated, to tell them to mature,
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to mock them and in particular to poke fun at the particular daddy figure they might have identified.
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This isn't either a very wise or ultimately a very kind strategy.
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It simply tends to trench their devotion because whenever we're attacked,
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we of course feel ever more intensely than ever the need for the protection of an idealized father.
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What we really need to help us out of our daddy
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issues is something more like the actions of a genuinely good father.
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Someone who acknowledges our suffering and our fears, who deeply wants what's best for us and isn't reluctant to say so,
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but who at the same time, out of love, wants to help us to come to terms with a messy and essentially disappointing world.
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A man who, out of love, would encourage us to be independent and specifically not to fantasise that anyone,
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however outwardly imposing, can ever do the impossible.
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Good daddies allow us to bear the truth that there are, in the end, no daddies.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This speaking lesson is built on the video “Daddy Issues”. The speaker keeps coming back to these words: father, daddy, longing, daddies, perhaps. This video has 68 sentences and 985 words to shadow. The speech runs for 5:59. The speaker talks at a natural 165 words per minute, close to everyday conversation. Only 81% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is demanding.
Key vocabulary in this video
15 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| daddy noun | /ˈdædi/ | Also used as a term of address: a father; one's father. |
| mature adjective | /məˈt͡ʃʊ(ə)ɹ/ | Fully developed; grown up in terms of physical appearance, behaviour or thinking; ripe. |
| realise verb | Non-Oxford British standard spelling of realize. | |
| bullying noun | /ˈbʊ.li.ɪŋ/ | An act of intimidating a person to do something, especially such repeated coercion. |
| understandable adjective | Capable of being understood; comprehensible. | |
| disappoint verb | /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnt/ | To sadden or displease (someone) by underperforming, or by not delivering something promised or hoped for. |
| immensely adverb | /ɪˈmɛnsli/ | Greatly; hugely; extremely; vastly; to a great extent. |
| earn verb | /ɝn/ | To gain (success, reward, recognition) through applied effort or work. |
| impressive adjective | /ɪmˈpɹɛsɪv/ | Making, or tending to make, a positive impression; having power to impress. |
| encourage verb | /ɪnˈkʌɹ.ɪd͡ʒ/ | To mentally support; to motivate, give courage, hope or spirit. |
| suffer verb | /ˈsʌfɚ/ | To undergo hardship. |
| deeply adverb | /ˈdi(ː)pli/ | To a deep extent or degree; very greatly. |
| ideal adjective | /aɪˈdi(ə)l/ | Pertaining to ideas, or to a given idea. |
| essentially adverb | /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/ | In essence: by nature. |
| solve verb | /sɒlv/ | To find an answer or solution to a problem or question; to work out. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Meaning |
|---|---|
| go away verb | To depart or leave a place. |
| draw up verb | To compose (a document), especially following a standard form; prepare a plan. |
| grow up verb | To mature and become an adult. |
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now | has been · have conceived · haven't been allowed |
| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | was described · be known · could be killed |
| Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing | man who fought · those who have · anyone who hurts |
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 30 contractions and reduced forms, such as they'll, isn't, we're. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “th” sounds: mythology /mɪˈθɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, authoritative /əˈθɔɹɪˌteɪtɪv/
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, relation /ɹɪˈleɪʃ(ə)n/, confusion /kənˈfjuːʒən/, conscious /ˈkɑn.ʃəs/
- Long words — get the stress right: essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, mysterious /mɪˈstɪɹi.əs/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, inevitably /ɪˈnɛvɪtəbli/, mythology /mɪˈθɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like daddy, mature, realise.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.