Shadowing Practice: Matara's Dating Advice BROKE Chat... 💀 - Learn English Speaking with Video

There's this girl I met online and I liked her, but her friend texted she doesn't like you in a crush way and also said, just so you don't get your hopes up.

That's fine.

That's really like good of her for doing that.

So you don't get your hopes up and waste your time.

You know what this means?

Now you can move on and get with other women and get other crushes.

Isn't that awesome?

How nice that somebody, and two things could happen.

Number one, that friend is honest and that girl does not like you.

And now you moved on and you will be able to like, move on and meet new people and meet, or maybe she told you that.

And then in a month when you move on and you do other stuff, she'll be like, no, you know what?

Actually, I really like, I really like Chig.

I really did.

So either or you benefit.

I think that's awesome.

I think you saved yourself a lot of heartbreak and like the worst thing that people can do, I think is waste your time.

And don't get me wrong.

Okay, sometimes, all right, let's talk about it.

Sometimes people have this idea of like, let's say you date somebody for three years

and then let's say you do or you don't get married

and they go oh you wasted my time okay

but you kind of needed to get serious get together do

stuff to get oh sorry do stuff together to realize am

i wasting my like you know you can't just be like

oh i can't believe we dated for six months you wasted my time okay

but while you were dating while you were going on dates

while you were talking about the future while you were opening up

while they were kind of becoming themselves you then realize right

because it's very easy i'll give women as an example right

so let's say you start dating a girl

and she's like i love cooking i never drink

and i don't talk to any of my ex-boyfriends

and then a month goes through she's fine after three months

you're like wait a second you never cook you always talk to an ex

and you're out you drink every day so clearly that's stuff

that you wouldn't have been able to figure out within a month

because you believe her when you know why would you assume she would be lying to you

so yeah i think it's fine i think i think time waste kind of happens

when people are going back and forth and all that

but even then you have to kind of date people

and be friends with them and hang out with them

and do stuff to kind of realize wait a second well

this always kind of happens how does one date at the

age of 30 unfortunately you just you just got to talk to people i think the biggest way is probably

if I were you I'd annoy your friends I tell your

friends hey I am looking for this this this this this this this

if you know anybody let me know set me up on

dates annoy your friends also talk to people right like um the other day

when I had lunch with my friend somebody next to me

was talking about a place called night market in Silver Lake I didn't know it was in Silver Lake

so I was like oh my god where is this like I heard about it and

so just kind of make conversation with people you know all

your friends are married perfect they might have some unmarried friends or they might know some unmarried friends.

I think in life, a lot of stuff is unfortunately kind of like, you only need one yes, right?

It's kind of like a job.

If you think about it, if you want to have a beautiful, lovely, sweet wife, you only need to meet one beautiful,

lovely, sweet woman that you and her agree to go on dates and get married and be together.

It's the same thing like if you're looking for a job, you only need the job to say yes.

And I know it's scary, but knowing that like you only need one yes, Got with my ex situationships best friend.

Hey.

Ex situationships best friend.

I mean, okay, this is gonna, for legal reasons, this is a joke.

Okay.

So legally speaking, let's say I decide that one of my, one of my ex-husbands can, you know, the ones that are alive can get out of the,

I don't know, the dog house or wherever they're at.

And if it doesn't work out with them, that sucks

but they got friends they also have friends

so I get it good for you um personally you know it things it's fine

if things don't work out with people by the way if

if you know if you date a person

and you have three kids together two dogs

and then your best friend swoops in without ever having the conversation with you

and like buries them from under your nose and you're devastated that's different

but if you go on a few dates with a girl

and she's kind of nice but then you meet her friend and you

and the friend just vibe each other a lot more as

long as you guys are both honest I think as long

as you guys are like look I think you're nice we had two dates together you're very sweet

but I just think you know your friend is just my type she

and I have the same humor we like the same stuff

we have the same interests you know maybe like you drink a lot

and I don't like that she also is sober I think it's fine

and I think the older you get as long as people come up to you with respect

and kind of tell you like hey I know this is a hard conversation um

but you think it's bro code violation to date another bro's ex but also like what are we in the 1700s, like don't marry another man's widow.

Like at a certain point, people have dated, people have history.

And I'll give you this example.

Okay.

One of my ex-husbands, he's still alive.

Good for him.

I actually introduced him to one of his future partners because,

okay, me and this ex-husband dated like 20 plus years ago for like few months.

What does that mean now suddenly forever?

I have to go to every woman to be like, you could never, don't even look at him one time when we, you know, when we were in our,

like 20 years ago, when we were in our early whatever 20s, like we held hands and kissed maybe one time.

You're not a bro, but it's the same thing for like women, right?

Where it's like, what am I now, if I introduce him and he gets along with a girl, you know?

Always marry another man's widow.

She's lonely and hags are worth loving.

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True.

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I think there's also a time limit of like, how long ago did you date this person?

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How serious, Right, like if you just get out of like a 10-year relationship and this was the love of your life, yeah, maybe your friend shouldn't date them right away.

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But if you dated a person for a few months or even a year, 10 plus years ago, and your friend and them re-meet and they hit it off, you know, I don't know.

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I also feel like you're not allowed to have dibs on people forever, right?

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Like you're not allowed to be like, ooh, you can be like, maybe if you have like one person

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that you're like, listen, I'm sorry this is the love of my life

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and they just don't know it yet and i'm waiting for them maybe

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but even then like i don't know am i too open-minded

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am i too open-minded like i i have introduced one of my ex-husbands to like his future partner after

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that because i was like hey yeah he was great this is why things didn't work out with us

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but you know like great person just because just Just because me and this person couldn't make things work romantically

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doesn't mean that he can then make things work romantically with other women or men.

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I don't know.

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I'm...

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Did he have all his limbs?

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Yes, he did.

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Three legs, even.

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He had extra limbs.

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Sometimes things don't work out for special reasons, you know? So yeah.

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my parents divorced my mother remarried like a year after they separated i took

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that very badly i mean yeah when you're 16

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and your mother divorces your dad of course you feel like oh my god this is my dad um

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but i think it's again there's definitely stages to this right

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like let's say you are dating somebody for five plus years

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and you love them and then your friend behind your back goes

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and swoops in

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and starts dating them from right under your nose that's that's fucked up sorry for my language

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but if yeah if like oh yeah me

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and this person went on a few dates a few years ago

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and you and them hit it off go have fun all i'm saying is is i left

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that ex-husband alive he we were actually so we caught up not long ago

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and um he works in like tech um in medical tech

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and you know he's like all my friends are married

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but he's like

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if i were to introduce you to somebody uh he's like I'd introduce you to like people in sales

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or in finance or in stuff like that and he goes

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and I'm like well I have introduced him to like three

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three streamer girls throughout like the 20 plus years

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that I've known him and he's like please no more streamer girls

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and no vtuber girls either I'm like I'm sorry buddy I don't know anybody else

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so it feels like the scales aren't exactly fair right but listen I I know what I know

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I know who I know no I think I introduced him to like two streamer girls throughout the years

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and one of them ended up stalking him for for like many many years

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and he had to he had to like yeah it's crazy

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but in my defense I didn't know the girl very closely she was just a friend of a friend

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and she was like hey you know I brought him somewhere

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and she was like wow this guy is great I was

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like oh my god yes like you should absolutely pursue him I'm like him

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and I had a thing like 10 years ago don't worry

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it's not serious like we're friends that's why he's alive

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and she ended up like stalking him

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and like being really creepy i didn't know she was gonna

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be creepy i don't know like i feel like with women

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i don't know i think guys have a better radar for women being crazy than women do.

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Because to me, I'm like, yeah, I just thought she was European, you know?

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As a European myself, I was like, she's just European.

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I don't think it's anything like that, like that, like that.

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But yeah, I just, yeah, she as a European, I don't know,

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she just no, no, she was European.

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She is European. So yeah.

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My poor friend but again

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so yes you should absolutely ask your friends to set you up

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or and i know some of you were like oh x situations well like yeah

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if you think about it if you know if if your

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x situationship whatever has other friends you know there's a way that you can kind of be like hey

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i know we didn't work out but maybe like a finder's fee maybe

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if you introduce me to my next partner I will think

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okay wait you know how in apartment buildings they have this thing we're like

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if you find a tenant you will get like a month

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free of rent wait wait wait wait I'm thinking of a business here I'm thinking of a business what

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if you go to your other ex dates and be like hey

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if you refer me to my next girlfriend

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or boyfriend I will buy you I don't know a bag i i will pay your phone bill

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and you get a bonus if we get married

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and you get a bonus for every kid we have think about it

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because because if you just ask like an ex-girlfriend

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or an ex-boyfriend to introduce you to people why would they they'll they'll be kind of like territorial over it but what

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if you're like wait no no no like i'll get like

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do you want to go on a trip to japan i'll

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buy your flight i'll buy your thing you know come on

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come on think about Your ex like you know date girl

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or boy that you went on a date with has other boys or girls that they know

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I think I think we're sleeping on this And then be like okay, and then you know if we

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if we date for six months you get a bonus

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If we get married you get a bonus for each kid we have You get a bonus!

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That's actually a really great idea.

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I'm not being weird.

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I'm not being weird This is a great why can my

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apartment building be like wow your friend moved into a penthouse Not

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that they did I'm just giving you an example your friend

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moved into this apartment We are giving you an amount of money.

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I think it's a great like okay real talk

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real talk real talk real like

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if we actually actually take the funny aspect out of this

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conversation genuinely why is it my apartment building can be like hey

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if you find us a tenant we will give you a month

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or two of rent free of course if you go to like an ex

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or a friend and you're like hey do you have any friends

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that you think like sorry we didn't work out

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or you know it's been long enough we're both adults um do you have anybody

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that you think i could meet or talk to and

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if you're genuinely like hey you know I'll buy you dinner I'll buy you some, you know And I know everyone's like money Why is everything about money?

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Because people are weird And obviously it would be nice

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if they did it for free But there's also It adds a stake of like They're gonna be serious about it,

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you know You have to pay If the person has a few killed I'm sorry,

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that's not funny That's actually really serious and dangerous But it made me laugh

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like what if they accidentally set you up with serial killer

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fuck i'm sorry that's not funny i shouldn't laugh

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but i'm just saying i'm just saying that

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if you are back in the good old days when i started streaming 15-ish years ago i would open up

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my Facebook and I would message people every day and be like, could you open my stream?

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And they're like, I opened it yesterday.

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I'm like, okay, but could you open it today?

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I went to my friends.

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I texted them.

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I asked them.

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I asked my stepsister.

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I talked to everybody.

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Okay.

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I was desperate because I knew that getting those first 10 viewers was so important.

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Have you been this day, you know, before being like, I'm desperate.

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I haven't met anybody.

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Have you tried number one, approaching women on the bike path?

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Have you tried talking to women on the bike path of death Greek and being like, Hey, you look familiar can i have your instagram

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and number two yeah have you been like hey you know

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maybe your brother's engaged been like tell your wife to set me up you know um

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i'm just saying i i think all jokes aside you know maybe maybe forget about the money exchange stuff

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because then it gets weird but genuinely i think look

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if your ex situationship whatever it is that you're talking about yeah

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if it was long enough ago be like hey i'm telling you right now

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if I was in a place where I was like that's

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it I'm getting married no matter what it's just a numbers

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game I just need to meet enough people I would I would go to my ex-husband's

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and be like hey um I'm glad you're happy I'm glad life is good you're welcome for not killing you

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uh and cannibalizing your body you I need I need three I need the photos of spider-man

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and and your hot friends on my desk by Monday I need you to basically you know ask them

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if they like annoying extroverted Ukrainian women

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and let's go come on you you got it you got

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to hustle a little in life you know yeah like Giga has a hot cousin allegedly you know if I

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if I was a little bit more annoying I'd be like

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Giga I want the photos of your hot cousin on my

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desk by Monday listen it is what it is you know

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and I would give a finder's fee I'm kidding I'm kidding I wouldn't uh it's funny because sometimes when I'm, it's hard because obviously like I am serious about a lot of this.

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Like I do genuinely think we don't utilize our friendships enough for like

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if you want a job or if you want to meet somebody, be like, hey, just so you know, tell your friends, hey, just so you know, I am looking for a partner.

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These are kind of the people I like.

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If you meet anybody, could you please like ask them if we could get set up?

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Boom.

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But then it's hard to take me seriously when I keep being like, and then for every kid we have,

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you're going to get an extra finder's fee.

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It's kind of hard to take me seriously when I sprinkle it with jokes, but you know, I still think that there's a lot in here that could be a genuine thing of like,

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talk to your friends about that kind of stuff.

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I've talked to my friends about it so much

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that most of my friends are relegated to like at maximum introducing me to one person every year

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because they get too excited whenever my friends are like oh

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my god wait i know somebody i know somebody no no

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no no no it's one person per household per year at maximum if

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because otherwise i don't have time i don't have time to

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be dating i gotta spend 60 minutes on my scooter today

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you know what i mean i got a scooter to death

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greek i gotta hurt my ankles with my scooter i don't have time mata what about regularly giving money

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and chatting them up during chatting them up women during their just chatting streams would

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that work asking for not me probably i don't know i feel like

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if you're online it depends what people are looking into personally

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me um i need to like i need to see people in person

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because i'm pretty good i feel at like reading people in person

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when when when we're online it's harder to like pay attention And also then you have to wonder, it's kind of like the waitress dilemma, right?

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Is she flirting back or is she just saying, thank you so much for the gift song.

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Thank you for the five gifted.

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Oh my God, I love you.

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And you're like, is she in love with me or is she saying I love you, you know?

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Does she love me or is she being polite, you know?

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It's not dating time.

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It's scooting time.

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It really is scooting time.

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I think until I get my visa and everything and I know

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that I can be in the States for a long periodically a time and I can No dating.

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It's time to scooter, okay?

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It's time to wear my little helmet and to scooter away, okay?

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"You kind of needed to...": This softens a statement, making it sound less direct. Example: "You kind of needed to spend time together to know if it works." Great for casual conversations.
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"Heartbreak": The "ea" sound is short, like "heh-tbreak" (not "hee-tbreak"). Practice saying it quickly to match the natural flow.
"Chig" (a name): The "ch" sound is sharp, similar to "chill," but with a short "i" (like "chig" not "cheeg").
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Structure	In the video
Conditional sentences if + clause, will/would + verb — a condition and its result	if I were you I'd annoy · if you find a tenant you will get
Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now	have dated · have introduced · I've known

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