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It's been a while since I've been on Reddit, so I've decided to take another stroll down Reddit dating advice.

Let's start with this one.

Why do people do this?

A month ago, I went on a date with a girl and it was amazing.

Two days after the date, she texts me telling me she found me cool and attractive, but doesn't want to continue this further.

A month later, she texts me saying I was on her mind and that she'd like to be friends, but that she's talking to someone and it's serious.

I reply back saying I was surprised to receive the message,

and she ends it by saying we shouldn't be friends out of respect of the person she's dating.

Why do people do this?

Dating is hard.

Okay, people don't do this.

this person does this

we need a red flag someone yeah seriously I don't know that's red red okay that's just

that's not right that's not right okay this is clearly she

was just fishing for like attention I guess like cause why

the fuck would you do this why would you like be seeing someone seriously

and then decide to text the guy that you met

previously but you didn't really want to continue you know the relationship with

and then the person responds

and you're like i'm sorry we shouldn't do this make up your mind okay

and you're clearly not serious enough with the person you're supposedly serious with because

if you were serious you wouldn't be doing this okay like why are you throwing out a net like do not

people don't do this okay i'm telling you original poster you people don't do this this person does this

and this person added dating is hard it's hard when you choose

when you just look at people like this believe it

or not there are people who don't do

that someone uh okay i can't read uh okay their their eye their handle is box and balls

box and balls says uh you're being put on the back burner if the other guy falls through yeah

it's like a backup right it's like it's like it's like she's got a dream school

but you're you're the backup school lo ke says three reasons one you're being kept as a backup Two, she enjoys the attention.

And three, she wants to butter you up for another rejection

because some women enjoy rejecting and hurting men because it makes them feel powerful.

Okay, I don't think you should generalize and say all, like, you know, some women do that.

Guys do this too.

A lot of guys, if, you know, if they choose to do something as evil or whack as this, it's not a guy or a girl thing.

Some people are just narcissistic or just, some people are just assholes.

Okay, here's another one.

People, please clean your house before having dates over.

Went on a second date last night.

He invites me back to his place, and I say, sure.

Well, we got back to the house, and it was awful.

The main area of the house was fine.

I'm assuming his roommate's clean here.

But his bedroom was disgusting.

All he had was a mattress and a couch, and none of his clothes were hung up.

everything was on the floor the bed had just just the bottom sheets

and there was one pillow

and don't get me started with the bathroom okay it was clean enough

but there was no toilet paper

and instead it was a it was a set of napkins he was nice enough

but now i don't know if i'm going on a third date um

because i'm not dealing with someone who can't clean or buy toilet paper

in his defense I'm sure he can buy toilet paper he's got a mattress he's paying rent

I think he can get toilet paper he somehow for some inexplicable reason decided to go with napkins

it's gotta hurt to be honest

Kleenex is the opposite end of the problem but a lot of napkins are very rough

anyways uh yeah i don't know how to feel about this let's look at the comments first okay i hate

when a guy doesn't have extra pillows for guests

and they give you one that looks like it came out of a gulag it's

so thin and sad you know you're not even getting breakfast in the morning

because he's got one egg in the fridge but what if that one egg was saved for you is

that an all kind of thing i don't know uh okay

uh funny thing is this is probably after he cleaned up

since you were coming over that's that's actually what i was gonna say i think to him

this might be clean like this might be his clean uh i'm gonna play both sides here

but like uh i used to be very untidy like extremely like worse than this like um like i had a problem

So here's the thing, like I am very motivated and I am a hard worker, right?

But I am only a motivated and hardworking person for things I really, like, really want to do, like I really want to enjoy, right?

So in college, I wrote a lot.

Like I was a fiction writer.

I wrote like short stories I wrote like you know screenplays

and stuff so I was like always writing right

and every every moment I had every like a block of time I wanted to write

and I wanted to create and I was also writing songs at the time

and like you know or I was working at you know

the the sandwich place and or I was in class

so any free time I wanted to use on being creative

and as a result I didn't use any of

that time to clean my room right

so like I would have like cups all over my desk instead of throwing out the cup

or taking the cup down and washing it, I would just get another cup and the cups would just pile up.

And here's the thing, in college, you have a roommate, right?

And luckily, we didn't, my sophomore year, we didn't share like one room.

Freshman year, we did.

So I had to be a little more self-conscious and I had to be a little more like considerate.

So I was a little more clean.

But sophomore year, we had two separate rooms divided by a door, like a partition, right?

but here's the thing my roommate has to walk through my room to get to his room

so he's getting a he's getting a like a good view of my room like my room's devolving state

and i think he gave me a heads up a little like once in a

while but like i was

so like you gotta you gotta understand i was like i

was not who i am now i was a i was

a super artist like super artist i i literally thought of

myself as a poet like like as okay i had like delusions of grandeur

so i was like i was like i cannot be bothered

with the world like i i am i have a singular

focus on this i i need to change the world with this poem

that i'm writing or this story that i'm writing

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so i'm like i i blocked everything out

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so i i believe he did give me a couple heads up

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and then i i think like it got so bad the room got so bad that he actually reported me

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to the school to get my room cleaned when

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that happened i realized

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that there's something wrong with me i just like took a look at myself i was like wait it's not

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that bad i like took took a look at my room took a look at myself

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and i'm just like sitting there i'm like oh like so many cups

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oh my god is that is

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that sandwich from like last week i'm like have i been

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living with these bugs like I'm like I hate myself I'm disgusting like I deserve to be arrested

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so I had that moment sophomore year where like I had this realization

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that I did that there's a huge problem with me right

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so I cleaned it up but you know old habits die hard

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so like it kept like sometimes I would be clean sometimes I'd be like you know untidy like

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or or dirty as hell

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or like just pollution I was just pollution I was polluting

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the world with by living by being like by existing

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and then uh it went on for a long time

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until I met my uh my wife the shock

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that both of us had

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because heojeong is like tidy to the point of like at

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the time i just could not understand it i was like it seems like a waste of time to be that tight

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right she's the type where like if she buys like a bunch of like drinks

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or yogurt like drinks she puts it in the fridge like she has a rack just for the yogurt

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and all the labels have to be facing forward and

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and she knows exactly which like what pin is in what drawer of what area of house

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and so when we got married

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and i realized this i was like oh oh right

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and she was probably like after she saw my room slowly

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devolve she's probably like oh what have i gotten myself into both of us were thinking

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that right because she's too neat and i'm too not neat

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and And I think almost 100% of the times she yelled at me was about that.

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Because I kept losing things.

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You see me.

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I'm losing my phone every day.

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AirPods popping up out of nowhere.

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My dog chewing on it because it's all over the floor.

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Just leave me alone for about a week to work on music

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or something or to do like do anything creative and my room goes back to my sophomore year.

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So we would get into like arguments, not arguments, she, she, she get upset at me

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and then I'd fight back to trying to like justify the

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state of my room you know how like you know people like me like if you

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if you are untidy a little bit untidy you you know

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where i'm coming from you know what we always say right

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i know where things are i have a system like my

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brain works in a different way than yours like this is how i get things done

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right which honestly is absolute bullshit right like what do you mean what how does

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that make sense

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because I'm always looking for things I'm like I can't find

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things like I lose everything in my room like I haven't left the room

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but I lose things in there okay so um

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so after after a lot of arguments I'm like is it

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worth it uh i might as well just try to like match her a little bit

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so i started um cleaning more and being organized

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and i don't know if you've seen my room during our trips like epic closet trips abroad

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if you look at my room yeah everyone is absolutely shocked

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when they see my room because my room looks like it's just not used like

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if my hotel room like there's a

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if there's a bed i will only one side of the

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bed has like any creases in the blankets on the opposite

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side it's not even like i don't even pull it out

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because i only need

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because i'm small right i only need i don't sleep in

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the middle of the bed i only use one side all

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my like toiletries are in the bathroom in one place

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and i hang everything the minute i walk in i don't have anything lying on the floor

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I have trash exactly in one spot so that when we leave the hotel, I can get ready in like two minutes.

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I know exactly where everything is.

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It's only two, three different places, right?

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The reason how I got here is because I went on, obviously, I went on a honeymoon.

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I went on a lot of family trips, right, and got yelled at a lot, like all the time, okay?

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and then um and slowly i think i i kind of uh fixed it here's the thing though

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inside deep inside my heart i did not give in i did as i was told

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and i did like i did it just like she does

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it i put all the drinks like with the label to

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the front you know i put things back in their places after them after using them

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but in my heart deep inside my heart i was protesting

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every moment of it i was like i don't want to do this i don't want to do this

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but i'm doing it i'm just doing it to survive like

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i'm doing it to not fight okay i'm doing it just

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just to protect our family from you know arguments right like

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but i i did not give in i did not surrender i was still i was saving myself

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and then one day

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I think it was um I think it was like on

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some Epik High tour kind of thing I think yeah it was during a North America tour

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which we happen to be going on by the way uh

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September 30th all through October go to epikhigh.com to get tickets anyways I think it's the first

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or second North America tour I get to the states

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and our crew gathers the crew that's going to go on tour with me

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and I was meeting them for the first time

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so it's probably my first tour right uh right before we

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get on the bus we had to take something out of our luggage

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so i opened my suitcase

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and someone one of the crew members they saw my bag like the contents of my bag

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and they were like oh shit we got dexter over here

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you know dexter the tv show about a serial killer

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and you know how the serial killer

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that serial killer is like super neat my bag by

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that point i had already like i had been reformed right

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so um rehabilitated so like my bag was so clean

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and i had each outfit in a different ziploc bag

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so he saw that he was like oh we got dexter over here right

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and i realized how clean i've gotten right and i'm like

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that guy just called me a psychopath and in the the voice inside me

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that i had been like protecting was like see like maybe

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i should be like back to who i am like maybe

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i don't like being this tidy i don't want to be

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a psychopath i don't want to be compared to a serial killer right i don't like this right anyways

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because the tour requires us to uh be in a bus together for

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so long right uh it it's like it's like 12 people in one bus just living together

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so we're on the bus and i had never realized like i had never felt

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that somebody else was too untidy right because i too am like

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that deep inside even after i was rehabilitated um i never got mad

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or even noticed somebody being untidy because that's who i am anyways i I found myself being super bothered by Mithra.

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Like, Mithra is sort of untidy.

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And I didn't know this until we were living together on a bus in close vicinity, right?

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He just sort of like put shit anywhere.

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Right?

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And I'm like, and so like, I would wake up earlier, and then there's like this back area that we used together, like this common area.

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And like, his hoodie is just like on the sofa, instead of being hung up.

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Right?

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So I hung it up for him.

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And then the next morning I wake up, go out there, the same hoodie, on the sofa.

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And then there's like a bag of chips that he was eating, but he doesn't, he didn't like, he didn't use like the thing, you know, the clipper.

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And I was like, we can't eat those chips now.

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Like, we don't know what, and then I did that.

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And then I was like, and I was like, oh my God, I've become my wife, right?

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I'm like, why is this bothering me?

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I've known Mithra for ages.

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I used to live with him.

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It didn't bother me then.

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Why is it bothering me now, right?

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And then I started noticing other people, other crew, like, on the bus.

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Like, just, why does he have mismatched socks on?

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Right?

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Or somebody's like, oh, I can't find my phone.

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And I'm like, oh, just put it in the pouch next to your bed and you won't lose it.

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Oh, jeez, right?

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and I started being like annoyed by all of this the only person

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that I suddenly loved which is crazy is two cuts

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because two cuts is just as tidy as my wife and

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that was something I hated about him back in the day

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but now I was sitting with two cuts talking shit about

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Mithra I was like dude Mithra's like it's like a pig's die in there like I don't know like his cubicle

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like what the hell right and Tukas is like he's a pin

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and I was like I was like yeah right like why isn't he like cleaning this shit

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and I'm mind you I'm Mithra is not that untidy

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but it just felt like that at the time right

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and then I realized it's kind of nice being tidy like

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it's kind of nice not losing things it's kind of nice knowing where things are right

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and it's kind of nice just like just just you know

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just not being like a disgusting you know human it's just it's not a bad thing

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so i come back from this tour uh and then i i

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and you know reunite with my wife

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and i tell her you know what like you've made me a better better person

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and she's like why you say that and i was like

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and i was like so mithra

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and i complain about mithra for like 20 minutes okay i feel

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so close to my wife right

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and i'm like i'm like you know it's just i feel better like being tidy i actually like it now

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so so i'm just saying i don't know what i was trying to say uh this this was really long Okay,

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so the poster this original original poster was upset that this guy didn't clean up.

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Let me just say There's no excuse For being untidy Okay,

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if I was able to be rehabilitated To be reformed to be to be born again

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Anyone can do it if this guy really is serious about you, he will do it.

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So one, either give him, if he was a good guy, if you like this person, give him a chance to reform.

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It might take a decade and an entire North America tour,

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okay, and being with a bunch of people who are untidy for about a month in a bus

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or just or just find somebody that uh is willing to be rehabilitated it's doable

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and to all the untidy people out there don't feel offended

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i am one of you i will i was the most

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extreme case of you like i represented all of us i was the leader of this team okay

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but let me just say It's much better being tidy,

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guys It's seriously awesome Use body wash Honestly It's okay to shower every day Scents are good

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Put things back where If you use scissors, put it back If somebody else is looking for scissors They know where it is

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Because you put it back in the right place There's no reason to have the scissors in your pocket That's dangerous.

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That is just dangerous.

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It's much better.

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Cross over to our side.

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Okay?

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I know what it's...

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I know what you're going through.

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But we can do it.

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And it's better.

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Just trust me, it's better. Be clean. Be clean.

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Okay, let's look at this one.

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Lower your standards or die alone.

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I find it really interesting when people say this as if it's an ultimatum to all the daters out there.

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A lot of the time, people who describe wanting a pretty average partner get told this.

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As if saying that you wanna be with somebody who is kind, emotionally mature, and a responsible adult is asking for the earth.

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It's not a crime to date and hope for a good relationship while also being completely okay with being single.

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It is possible for both things to be true.

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If you don't lower your standards, you're gonna end up alone.

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Okay, a partner would be nice, but only if it's a good partner.

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Otherwise, what's the point?

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I would much rather end up alone than be with someone who isn't right for me or makes my life less satisfying.

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For all the single people out there who can support themselves don't want kids

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or already have kids and live fulfilled lives with good friends

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and or family i don't think many people realize

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that you'll die alone threat doesn't really ring true to us anymore technically almost all people die alone

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unless you know you're dying in each other's arms like at the same time like you know it's

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like even in the Titanic, like the movie, Leo died alone.

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Yes, they were close to each other or next to each other.

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She was on a raft or like a plywood or something, right?

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A door, yeah, a door.

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A door that he was not able to walk through.

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But he died alone, okay?

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So technically, we all die alone.

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So using you'll die alone as some kind of threat is just stupid.

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Let's look at the comments.

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I had to be single for two years before meeting my boyfriend who fits all my standards and more.

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Best decision ever.

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You won't die alone.

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Okay.

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While I agree that this lower your standards or having standards is somehow wrong,

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I don't agree with that, of course.

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but uh some people do have unrealistic standards like and by

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that i mean like they literally want someone perfect like they'll

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say it they'll be like i want someone perfect okay i

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only have one life i don't want to spend my life with somebody who's not perfect newsflash no one is perfect and the fact

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that you're saying you deserve perfect means you are not perfect you clearly are not perfect because

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if you are perfect you don't need another person you don't

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need another person to uh be there next to you okay

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because you're perfect so the very fact that you're looking for someone perfect means

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that you're dealing with some kind of insecurity

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or you have an issue with being imperfect which is crazy to me

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because that's just being human like that's like saying oh i

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want someone not human i want an alien i want i

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want like i want i want to go out with a

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god like it just doesn't even make sense okay like even people who on the surface seem perfect

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and who seem to have all their shit together they're financially

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stable they're like you know they make great decisions they rarely

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make bad decisions they they're they're they have things like you

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know they're in charge of 10 000 employees they're like fucking

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amazing right they seem great on paper great uh in photos great in videos like you meet them

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and they're perfect they're funny you're gonna get into a relationship

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and as time passes you're going to realize these people also have huge faults, right?

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That's just literally being mortal.

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That's being a human.

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Like our mortality is the one common trait that we all share, okay?

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So the fact that, you know, we're mortal means that we have a huge weakness.

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We can die, okay?

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So that standard needs to be lowered.

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I think a sense of humor like sharing a sense of humor is extremely important

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if you okay I just said that you know you don't standards don't matter

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but like put that on your list though like

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and I don't mean they have to be funny funny what I mean is they have to have the same

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like vibe of of a sense of humor as you okay

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so if you're not the type that laughs out loud

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if you're if you're even

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if you're like the type to be at a like a I don't know like a comedy show or something

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and like never laugh okay let's say you're the party pooper

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let's say let's say you're you're the stand-up comedian's night like

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biggest nightmare okay you just you just don't have a funny

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bone okay you just don't laugh like you're not easily it's hard to make you smile find somebody

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that either breaks through that

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or is is fine not is sitting next to you at the comedy club not laughing with you and then

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but still somehow having a great time i don't know you

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have to have the same like code as like humor code as

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that person i guess oh okay i don't know what this is

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but men you need to read this today okay to the

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men who are confused by this take it the wrong way

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or genuinely don't understand what's happening in these situations here's something

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i'd like to share from a woman's pov i hope you

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read it with the same patience as i've put in writing

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this in order to help those who easily come up with a conclusion it's really long women

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you need to hear this today if you want to write something that starts with men

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you need to read this today maybe like four or five lines

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if it's really long the men will not read it

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or they'll read a little bit of it

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or they'll keep reading just to like because you told them to

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but they'll they'll stop paying attention like two sentences in anyways uh i've read hundreds

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if not thousands of comments across reddit not just on this sub

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but on dating app subs too one thing i keep seeing

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is men saying things like come on bro she didn't talk to you because you weren't attractive you were fucking ugly.

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If you were hot, she would have done this.

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Find someone in your league.

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I've also seen tons of men internalize these ideas and reject themselves before anyone else even has the chance to.

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Now here's what I'd like to say.

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That's not always the reason or case, even though many men seem convinced that it is.

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Men are generally more visually oriented when it comes to attraction.

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And so they look at things from that lens usually, even though they try to think from the POV of women.

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But you see, they're wearing the same glasses.

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OK, so what are we supposed to do here?

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OK, and then it gets really scientific and long.

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I mean, is it OK if we just keep thinking this way?

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that it's just because we're ugly?

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I don't know, like, I'm sure this post solves this problem, but it's too long.

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It's just too long.

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Okay, I'm just gonna, you know, we're good.

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If it's all right, we'll just continue to think that it's just because we're ugly.

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All right, we good?

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Okay.

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Skipping, skipping ahead.

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We can't deal with more than two, three sentences.

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I'm sorry.

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It's just our brains are just too simple.

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I think she should have just written these two lines that she had done.

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What, what, what?

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Was there something good in there?

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Don't build yourself only for dating.

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Build yourself for life.

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That's the gist of it.

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We clearly don't build ourselves for dating.

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Didn't she hear us?

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We just said to each other, it's because you're ugly.

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look at your clothes

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you're wearing purple shorts does it look like we were built for dating

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but I know what you mean

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build yourselves not for dating

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not to be a good prospect

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but for your own life build yourself for your own life

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which brings me back to be clean be tidy seriously it's

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so good like it is absolutely the best and also yo go to like the body shop

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aesop or whatever like wherever your your girlfriend

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or your wife is going to just go with them don't don't be fucking complaining

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and sitting on the seat like waiting for them to come out

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or be like i'll be outside waiting just come out

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when you're done because you feel like you don't belong in there

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and you're out there on your phone just wasting your life

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away go in there with them smell the samples smell the samples get whatever she gets

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if she gets a certain body wash you buy another one you buy two

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and she's like why are you buying two i only need one i want to use it too

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and she'll be like okay

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and then you're you're thinking to yourself oh you're not supposed

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to be using this right you're supposed to be using like

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men's products right no it'll change your life okay you there it's there it's nothing bad about smelling good like

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use whatever toothpaste she's using.

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Just copy them.

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Just buy two of whatever they're buying.

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Use it.

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It's awesome.

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Use their shampoo.

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And please, use conditioner or rinse.

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You're like, oh, but I like, shampoo is enough.

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I'll just fucking do it with soap.

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No!

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Just buy two of whatever they're buying.

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Use it.

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It's not a bad thing to not smell like shit.

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Honestly, when you're with people or in a car,

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it's actually a good, it actually feels good to not have people be like,

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you know, revolted by you.

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Like, it's a good thing.

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It's a good thing.

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Build yourselves for life.

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For your life. Be clean.

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What if they don't have a girlfriend?

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It doesn't matter.

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It doesn't matter if you have a significant other or not.

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Okay?

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Being clean, even if you're...

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Even...

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Oh, if you can't follow your wife or your...

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Oh, your mom! your sister, your sister.

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Or just go in there.

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Just go in there, ask them.

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Ask them.

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Pretend you have a girlfriend and say you're buying products for your girlfriend.

475

Say you need shampoo, rinse, body wash, buy toners.

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I did not know you needed that.

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I had no idea what that even was.

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You know, I lived most of my life without even using lotion.

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Like, I didn't even put facial lotion, and I always wondered why my face is so dry.

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I hated it.

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And I was like, and then someone's like, you know, you're supposed to, not someone, my, you know, my wife.

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Using lotion like crazy, and I'm like, let me use some of that.

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I used it, it's great.

484

But here's the thing.

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I only leveled up from no lotion forever on to lotion, just putting lotion, like moisturizer on my face.

486

I realized that's not the only way.

487

There's this thing called toner, which I thought for the longest time, I thought it was just like, you know, I'm an entertainer, so I go do a hair makeup,

488

so always my makeup person starts with this toner thing.

489

I always thought it was just water.

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I thought she was just spraying my face with water.

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And I was like, I don't know, that's weird, but whatever.

492

There's this thing called toner, guys.

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It's just clear, like, it's like water.

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You put that on your face first after you wash it, and then you put serum.

495

There's this thing called serum.

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You put that on.

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You put, there's other things too.

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Like, you can do like two different, three different things, and then you put the moisture on, moisturizer, and your face, you feel good.

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Go to the store.

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If you don't have a significant other, you can copy.

501

Go to the store, ask them.

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Tell them you're buying it for your wife or your girlfriend or your sister or your mom or whatever, right?

503

Ask them.

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And then get toner.

505

Get moisture.

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Get a serum.

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Put toner on first and then a serum.

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and then the moisturizer okay just start with the three first do it trust me it's awesome

509

i don't know like i have trust me if i

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if i say it like this

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if i say it like this hey guys um go to

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the store they're not gonna listen you're not gonna listen you

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have to be yelled at i know I was yelled at for over a decade until I fixed this.

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Like, you have to be, they're not listening.

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I'm telling you, guys, fucking listen to me.

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Okay?

517

Get up!

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Off your couch, get the fuck out there.

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Go to body shop, or Aesop, or Sephora, Olive Young. Do it!

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And go ask them, or copy somebody.

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Okay?

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Okay, and then just use it, trust me, use it for one week, clean your room.

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We got this.

524

He's all over me.

525

Oh my god, I'm so sorry.

526

Right after going on a rant about being clean.

527

Right after, right after.

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Holy shit.

529

Right after going on an epic rant about being clean.

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I just spat out my drink all over my room all over my producer.

531

Oh my god, Rosemary.

532

I'm so sorry It's all over the screen.

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It's all over the computer screen.

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Oh My god Guys do not be like this you see what it what I mean.

535

This is my old self

536

Locked in there trying to crawl its way out and and breathe and come and try to overtake my body Okay?

537

It's...

538

Shove it back in and.. and get clean!

539

I'm sorry.

540

It's not dating otherwise.

541

It's cleaning otherwise. That same thing!

542

Same thing, okay?

543

Before even like.. even contemplating going on a date, okay?

544

Fix your.. let's fix ourselves first!

545

Get clean!

546

Oh, holy shit.

547

Oh my god, I'm so sorry.

548

I'm so sorry.

549

Let's look at another one.

550

Is it normal for guys to not dress nice for the first date?

551

Off the bat, it's not typical, right?

552

Usually, guy or girl, it doesn't matter.

553

Like, you try to look a little better than normal, right?

554

if you're trying to make a good impression.

555

Anyways, I'm new to dating.

556

I went on a first few dates with guys around my age, early 30s, and all of them were dressed super casually.

557

Like literally hoodies, sweatpants, and tennis shoes.

558

Is this normal?

559

Am I expecting too much?

560

Is it a gender difference?

561

I make sure to wash up and brush my hair and teeth, get dressed up cute, and then I show up and the guy is always dressed like this, with hoodies, sweatpants,

562

and tennis I went on a couple walking dates with an older man in his 40s

563

and he made sure to dress comfortably yet stylish

564

each time I Was impressed because everyone else dressed like a like a bum Are my expectations unrealistic?

565

Is this how people dress when going on dates?

566

My thought process is I'm meeting this person for the first time.

567

I want to make a good first impression at it

568

I'm just clarifying clarifying that I'm not asking for a suit and tie

569

I'm just saying like regular nice clothes like jeans a t-shirt long sleeve I don't know just more than sweats

570

and less than a suit

571

Okay

572

Before I answer let's look at the comments to be honest

573

You're not asking for too much at all even for a

574

casual date wearing sweatpants is a bit much It's nice when someone puts in at least a little effort.

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What do you what do you think?

576

Let me ask.

577

Would you be upset if a guy showed up in sweatpants and a hoodie?

578

For a first date, yeah.

579

Okay.

580

It's a little not recommended, right?

581

Like a hoodie and sweatpants.

582

I wouldn't mind.

583

You wouldn't mind?

584

For a first date.

585

No. What are you wearing?

586

If it's like a fancy place, I would mind.

587

If you're going for pizza.

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But what if you dressed up a little nicely, but he comes in a hoodie and sweatpants? pants and flip-flops

589

or just like or just just normal like sneakers

590

but like a hoodie but like a hoodie it's tidy and if he doesn't smell bad I told you guys

591

it's not about the hoodie or sweatpants that's not why this is not happening You smell bad!

592

Go to the store!

593

Go to Olive Young!

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Just trust me!

595

I had a friend who had a first date and he just came back from the gym.

596

He went straight to the date?

597

From the gym?

598

That's fucked up.

599

That's just weird.

600

He was like, I'm really busy.

601

Can we do a 7am coffee?

602

What?

603

And it turned out the place was literally at the building that he was working in. Was he?

604

Was it like a job interview?

605

Like what the hell?

606

This guy is fucking crazy?

607

What kind of?

608

That's so disrespectful.

609

So he's probably one of those hustle bros, right?

610

He said, I came, I just, you know, say what you gotta say.

611

I gotta go in 15 minutes.

612

That's just the terrible human.

613

Like a terrible human.

614

Go to the gym some other time.

615

Like, what are you doing?

616

That is absolutely batshit crazy.

617

You should post that on dating advice.

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Because that's absolutely going to be like number one.

619

There are some crazy ass people out there.

620

Seriously.

621

And some of them might actually think that that's a flex.

622

I just came back from the gym.

623

I'm healthy.

624

I'm like, you know, like I'm in shape, right?

625

Or even like this hoodie situation, it's not that they're, they might be lazy, but it's also possible that they're like,

626

they're trying to be cool.

627

Like, I'm not putting too much, yeah, yeah, like I don't want to, I'm not putting in too much effort here, you know?

628

You like me, you either like me or not, even if I have a hoodie on and sweatpants, right?

629

And let me just tell you, it's not that cool.

630

It's seriously not the flex that these guys seem to think it is.

631

I know it's a little typical to dress up a little bit,

632

groom yourself a little, and then like you know go to a nice place

633

and be on time and just yes go on a walk it's it's very typical right

634

and you might you might find that boring you might find

635

that like you know you're not in line with your edgy

636

self it's just you know there's a there's a reason why

637

that's the typical thing to do like it's just yeah just

638

uh just you know you don't need to put on a tie but Like, just put on a nice shirt.

639

And don't do anything at 7 a.m.

640

Like, just don't wake up.

641

Like, don't wake up at 7 a.m.

642

Like, what are you?

643

You're a fucking sociopath.

644

Just go.

645

Get real, okay?

646

Go to Olive Young.

647

Get clean.

648

All right.

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And that wraps up Hey Tableau hygiene episode.

650

Olive Young, contact us.

651

So finally, I've become a beauty, beauty podcast, beauty YouTuber.

652

Just opens up a lot of doors.

653

There's so many possibilities.

654

I've just, seriously, we're, oh my God.

655

We are expanding into a new area now.

656

Thanks to, thanks to Reddit dating advice.

657

Thank you so much.

658

I wish you all luck when you're dating.

659

Stay safe out there.

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Double check, triple check. And get clean.

661

Like clean, be clean.

662

I don't get it.

663

I don't get dirty anymore.

664

Bye.

665

See you next week.

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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson

This B2 speaking lesson is built on the video “Ultimate DATING ADVICE: You must FIX this one thing!”. This video has 665 sentences and 6935 words to shadow. The speech runs for 47:53. The speaker talks at a steady 145 words per minute, a comfortable pace for shadowing. 84% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English; the rest is worth studying before you start.

Key vocabulary in this video

The 15 most advanced words in the video, with pronunciation and meaning:

Word	Pronunciation	Meaning
untidy adjective	/ʌnˈtaɪdi/	Sloppy.
sweatpants noun	/ˈswɛtˌpænts/	Informal cotton trousers, with an elasticated or drawstring waist, used for exercise etc.
tidy adjective	/ˈtaɪ.di/	Arranged neatly and in order.
lotion noun	/ˈloʊʃən/	A low- to medium-viscosity topical preparation intended for application to unbroken skin.
anyways adverb	/ˈɛn.iˌweɪz/	Anyway, anyhow, in any case.
toner noun	/ˈtoʊnɚ/	Powder used in laser printers and photocopiers to form the text and images on the printed paper.
rehabilitate verb	/ɹiː(h)əˈbɪlɪteɪt/	To restore (someone) to their former state, reputation, possessions, status etc.
sophomore noun	/ˈsɑf.mɔɹ/	A second-year undergraduate student in a college or university, or a second-year student in a four-year secondary school or high school.
serum noun	/ˈsɪɹəm/	Blood serum used as a blood product, in the practice of medicine: blood serum from the tissues of immunized animals (human or nonhuman), containing antibodies…
humour noun	/ˈhjuːmɚ/	The quality of being amusing, comical, funny.
yell verb	/jɛl/	To shout; holler; make a loud sound with the voice, especially to express intense emotions such as anger or excitement.
moisturizer noun		Something that causes moisture or a condition of wetness; something that makes things moist.
napkin noun	/ˈnæpˌkɪn/	A serviette; a (usually rectangular) piece of cloth or paper used at the table for wiping the mouth and hands for cleanliness while eating.
shampoo noun	/ʃæmˈpuː/	A traditional Indian and Persian body massage given after pouring warm water over the body and rubbing it with extracts from herbs.
scissors noun	/ˈsɪzəz/	A tool used for cutting thin material, consisting of two crossing blades attached at a pivot point in such a way that the blades slide across each other when…

Phrasal verbs you will hear

Word	Pronunciation	Meaning
come back from verb		To become successful, confident or effective again after an injury, setback, failure, embarrassment, etc.
dress up verb		To put on special or fancy clothes.
wake up verb	/ˌweɪk ˈʌp/	To stop sleeping; to awake.
clean up verb		To make an area or a thing clean; to pick up a mess; to tidy.
come out verb	/ˌkʌm ˈaʊt/	To be discovered; to be revealed.
end up verb		To bring to a conclusion.
throw out verb	/ˈθɹəʊ ˌaʊt/	To discard; to dispense with something; to throw away.
walk through verb		To explain (something) to (someone), step by step.

Sentences worth repeating

Short, complete lines from the video that you can reuse in everyday conversation:

Let's start with this one.
I'm like, why is this bothering me?
Didn't she hear us?
Am I expecting too much?
What do you what do you think?

Grammar in this video

The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:

Structure	In the video
Conditional sentences if + clause, will/would + verb — a condition and its result	if you were serious you wouldn't be · if there's a bed i will only · if it's really long the men will not
“Used to” used to + verb — a past habit or state that is no longer true	used to be · used to live
Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now	It's been · have i gotten · haven't left
Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it	being put · being kept · were hung

Pronunciation to watch

The speaker uses 267 contractions and reduced forms, such as don't, I'm, you're. Say them the short way, as you hear them.

The “sh” and “zh” sounds: lotion /ˈloʊʃən/, shampoo /ʃæmˈpuː/, pollution /pəˈluʃən/, rejection /ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, freshman /ˈfɹɛʃ.mən/
Long words — get the stress right: rehabilitate /ɹiː(h)əˈbɪlɪteɪt/, technically /ˈtɛk.nɪˌkəl.i/, mortality /mɔɹˈtælɪti/, supposedly /səˈpoʊ̯.zɪd.li/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/

How to practise with this video

Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
Shadow it sentence by sentence at normal speed, repeating each one until your rhythm matches the speaker.
Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like untidy, sweatpants, tidy.

What is the Shadowing Technique?

Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.

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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson

Key vocabulary in this video

Phrasal verbs you will hear

Sentences worth repeating

Grammar in this video

Pronunciation to watch

How to practise with this video

What is the Shadowing Technique?