Shadowing Practice: What Happens When You Stop Chasing People - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Hi, everyone.
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Welcome back to my channel.
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And before I start talking about our topic, which is, you know, if you clicked on this video, if you're watching this video right now, you probably know what I'm going to talk about.
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And this is a really fascinating topic, I guess so.
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And yeah, we're going to jump on this topic
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and we're going to discuss that but before i do
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that i want to say thank you guys thank you for
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uh being my family thank you for being with me staying
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with me even though i'm only a beginner yes i do have 6k subscribers
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but i'm still a beginner
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because i'm like you know i'm still in the protest right
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i'm trying to enjoy my protest as much as possible
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and i know
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that the number of subscribers will increase you know even tomorrow right i will wake up
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and uh it's gonna be more subscribers i will see like like um another number right
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but i'm really i'm like i'm so present
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and i really want to leave like in this present moment
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so thank you guys for just being here for supporting me i love you guys
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anyways um today's topic is really interesting the reason why i chose to talk about
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that today is because i have struggled with this in the past
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and i really um as far as i know as far as
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as far as i'm concerned a lot of people are going through the same thing
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or a lot of people have struggle with it in the past
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or a lot of people still struggle with this
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because they don't know how to let people go anyways um to begin with i would like to mention
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that i have been through this a lot of times right
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um it was toxic friendship you know i needed to let
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this person go then it was a person i had a crush on
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but i also had had to let it go
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because it's it was not for me right it was not for me this uh
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and there was another person right um my friend my ex -friend
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and I thought it was gonna be like friendship a good like a really long -lasting friendship
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but I also needed to let go
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and you know it took me months to let go it took me years to realize
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that sometimes there is the only way first things first i uh would like to remind you guys
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that if um you have been treated like shit or like
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so many times if you um if you have never like
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if you tolerate this behavior
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and you um allow people to treat you like shit it's your fault right
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and i'm gonna remind you guys i'm i'm gonna be i'm
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gonna be honest i don't want to be cruel um however i need to be honest with you guys
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if you um have been treated like shit like 10 times i don't know
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so many times it's your fault yes it's your fault
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because your mindset the way you act
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and the like your boundaries play a huge role in that
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because i used to allow people to treat me like that
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because that behavior would be okay for me you know
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if you're a liar if you're lying to me well i would stay with you
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or if you're not like if you're like a horrible person
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if you are using me and it's clear to me
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that you're using to me well i will stay
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because i don't want to let you go
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or for me staying was a better option
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because well yes i will suffer from your behavior i will
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suffer from what you do to me however i know i was aware of the fact
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that i would like oh my god my cat is here
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that i would be suffering um wait you guys okay anyways
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i did not want to i did not want to let people go
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because i knew that i would be suffering even more
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if I you know you know if I let them go
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if I left this friendship or you know if I left this person
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but eventually what I realized is
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that um you know letting somebody go is a freedom you know
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and sometimes people come and go and if someone is in your life yeah
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if you're dating someone if you are with someone right like yes
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if we have a friendship if we meet someone we expect this person to be someone
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that we want them to be
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so we um build those fake expectations in our head
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so we build this version of them in our head
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and then most of the time their behavior just did not leave up the just you know uh their behavior
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or their actions don't live up to our expectations
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and we're disappointed we're like disappointed or if uh
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or another like example right if we think
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that this person might be lying to me
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or this person is like no i don't want to like be like them right
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because they're like horrible person right maybe you know someone has cheated on you
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or something like that happened and you still you can't let someone go
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because you think that you would never be okay or you think
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that this is your soulmate this is the right person
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or probably the right person but the right
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but the wrong time girl what the hell you're talking about oh my god this is ridiculous
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because if that was like the right person but the wrong time
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that person would make it the right time
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that person would show up for you that person would actually show you
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and take action right because if they only promise you to be better
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or if they only promise you to you know if they swear
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that they are like you know a good person
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or they're gonna change but they don't take action
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so they don't prove their words if you're if you're still like there
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because you believe like that oh my god they're like my soulmate
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or they're gonna be you know they're gonna change i'm gonna
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try to change them no no people are not trying to
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if someone is not willing to show you um their love
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or you know attention you will not get it like Like you will not change those people and you can't control anyone.
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So please realize that sometimes people are supposed to come and go and this is OK.
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This is freaking OK.
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And I really like I'm too emotional right now because I wish that I, you know, I had I wish I had realized it earlier.
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You know, this is the fact that every person needs to acknowledge, you know, and I know that it's,
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you know, it's like easier said than done because when it's actually
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when it's actually your turn when you are in toxic relationship
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or friendship and you have to let somebody go
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or someone left you and you have to let them go
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because you know you're no like you're no longer holding back onto
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that person you are no longer in contact with
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that person like you don't keep in touch you don't text anyone anymore like you know like you're just you're
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so different because you guys you couldn't stay together
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so perhaps there's a reason behind that you know perhaps there is something
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that was meant to happen okay or perhaps you know why are we like
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so disappointed or why are we like um so against it right when you
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when it's time to let someone go we yes it's it's
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okay to be hurt i was hurt i was um you
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know i was not doing well i missed i i really i did miss
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that person i used to like want to you know contact with
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that person again or text them again um
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but my mind was like oh my god like what the
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hell what the hell you know this is not the right decision because they It happened for a reason.
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And why are we being so disappointed?
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Or why are we being so upset?
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If we can, like, just think in another way, if we can change our perspective, right?
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Right.
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So probably if that friendship did not work out or that relationship did not work out,
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God or universe has something better for me, because if that person, girl, if that person was for you,
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that person would show you that person would take an action.
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Right.
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That person would let you know that they care about you.
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But obviously, they don't give a shit.
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They don't give a shit.
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You cannot change anyone so stop chasing people
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and the minute you stop chasing other people who are not for you right people will come to you
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because you will attract this energy you will attract this energy again you will attract this energy you know what
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and um this is so easy to say for me
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but i've been through this so i'm like speaking from my own experience i'm not telling you some weird
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and like ridiculous things because i just you know i came out with some ideas
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and now i'm telling them
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and now i'm telling you this no no i have experienced it
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and then i yes i've been hurt yes i've been you
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know i've been um i've lost myself in the past
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and i uh you know i lost my spark then i brought my spark back
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and as as a person who uh who could create another
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life who could let someone go i i can tell you guys
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that yes this is a better um option and you shouldn't be like
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so so so so so disappointed if someone did not um stay
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if someone left you because you will meet better people
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and now i realize that those people
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that uh left me you know it's it's their loss girl
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it's never your loss please believe me it's never your loss
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like i know i'm not gonna explain you i'm not gonna justify why they uh why it was their loss
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but i know like the person
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that i am like who the who the fuck i am i know who the hell i am
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so nobody can actually tell me like you know nobody can convince me
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that otherwise nobody can tell me otherwise because i know
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that i am worth so much more and
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that people you know those people who left me they don't deserve me
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and only it's only now that i realized it
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and you know not now
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but recently you know i realized it i completely like i'm not the same anymore i have changed
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and my mindset has completely changed right
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and oh my god i'm like i adopted a brand new mindset
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and now it helps me with everything i know
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that those people do not do not deserve me they did
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not deserve me in the past they don't deserve to you know to talk to me
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because actually talking to me is already a privilege
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and you should think about yourself like this too
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and you shouldn't be so so
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so like um selfish selfishness is good you can be selfish
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when it benefits you and doesn't ruin your relationship doesn't ruin your you know connections
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because when you're like selfish
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and you only think about yourself you don't like give a
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shit about anyone around you like you're just oh yeah i'm better than anyone
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and you guys are piss of shit no i'm not talking about
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that i'm talking about when you i'm talking about those uh like normal things
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when you are obsessed with yourself when you believe
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that you are you feel entitled to a better life
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because you believe you deserve it and that's exactly what what needs to happen
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so you better let go this person they did not they
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didn't did not oh my god they did not deserve you you will meet someone better
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and i know a lot of people have told you
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that i know i know i know i know a lot of people have told you
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that oh you will find a better person but what
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if you don't even need to find anyone like you don't
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need to search for anyone stop care take care about yourself first
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and when you are regulated
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when your nervous system is regulated you are emotionally available you will attract people
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that really deserve you that on the same like stage
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because i don't want to say level i don't divide people into like levels right
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because we are on the same level
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if you're a human right i'm not talking about
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that those like bad people about people who commit crimes
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or things like
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that i talk about like normal people we are on the
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same level right you are not like better than me you're
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not like worse than me we are like here right
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but we can be on like different stages in our lives
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because someone cares about you know bad habits about being about going out every night
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and someone cares about their future so we can be different
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but it doesn't necessarily mean that someone is worse
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and someone is better we are just we're we're supposed to
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be equal right on on you know on equal level anyways guys that's all i wanted to say today
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and i'm so grateful for this community i'm
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so grateful for you guys thank you for watching my videos i love you
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so much be confident in yourself
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and i will see you in my next videos also take take care of yourself love yourself
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and promise me promise me that if you're not trying like
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if you can't let this person go if you don't want to you will
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because promise yourself promise yourself that you will
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and you will keep promises to yourself be consistent
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and I love you guys I will see you in my next videos bye bye
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This video has 207 sentences and 2398 words to shadow. The speech runs for 15:00. The speaker talks at a natural 160 words per minute, close to everyday conversation. 87% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is easy to follow.
Key vocabulary in this video
15 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| friendship noun | /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/ | The condition of being friends. |
| disappointed adjective | /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/ | Defeated of expectations or hope; experiencing disappointment; let down. |
| topic noun | /ˈtɑpɪk/ | A subject; a theme; a category or general area of interest. |
| suffer verb | /ˈsʌfɚ/ | To undergo hardship. |
| attract verb | /əˈtɹækt/ | To pull toward without touching. |
| anyways adverb | /ˈɛn.iˌweɪz/ | Anyway, anyhow, in any case. |
| selfish adjective | /ˈsɛlf.ɪʃ/ | Holding one's own self-interest as the standard for decision making. |
| mindset noun | /ˈmaɪn(d)ˌsɛt/ | A way of thinking; an attitude or opinion, especially a habitual one. |
| subscriber noun | /səbˈskɹaɪbɚ/ | A person who subscribes to a publication or a service. |
| ridiculous adjective | /ɹɪˈdɪk.jə.ləs/ | Deserving of ridicule; foolish, absurd. |
| protest noun | /ˈpɹoʊ.tɛst/ | A formal objection, especially one by a group. |
| chase verb | /t͡ʃeɪs/ | To follow at speed. |
| horrible adjective | /ˈhɔɹ.ɪ.bəl/ | Causing horror; terrible; shocking. |
| remind verb | /ɹəˈmaɪnd/ | To cause one to experience a memory (of someone or something); to bring to the notice or consideration (of a person). |
| grateful adjective | /ˈɡɹeɪtf(ə)l/ | Of a person or their actions, feelings, etc.: expressing gratitude or appreciation; appreciative, thankful. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| work out verb | /ˌwɝk ˈaʊt/ | To calculate. |
| come out with verb | To say (something) unexpectedly. | |
| go out verb | To leave, especially a building. | |
| go through verb | To travel from one end of something to the other. | |
| stay together verb | To remain loyal in times of stress or difficulty; to avoid separation despite pressure to do so. | |
| wake up verb | /ˌweɪk ˈʌp/ | To stop sleeping; to awake. |
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| Conditional sentences if + clause, will/would + verb — a condition and its result | if you don't want to you will |
| “Used to” used to + verb — a past habit or state that is no longer true | used to allow · used to like |
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now | have struggled · have been · have been treated |
| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | have been treated · was meant · be hurt |
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 107 contractions and reduced forms, such as I'm, don't, you're. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, selfish /ˈsɛlf.ɪʃ/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, crush /kɹʌʃ/, emotionally /ɪˈməʊʃənəli/
- Long words — get the stress right: disappointed /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/, ridiculous /ɹɪˈdɪk.jə.ləs/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, emotionally /ɪˈməʊʃənəli/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like friendship, disappointed, topic.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.