ฝึกพูดภาษาอังกฤษด้วยเทคนิค Shadowing จากวิดีโอ: How I Got Over My Worst Heartbreak (And You Can Too)
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I still remember the greatest heartbreak of my life.
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And today I'm going to talk about it.
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I remember it really well.
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I remember where I was, I remember that I didn't see it coming at all.
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I remember the moments of breaking down sporadically in restaurants with my family
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because I was not coping with the new predicament I found myself in of having been broken up with.
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I remember searching for wisdom on YouTube and discovering that all of the most viral videos on Heartbreak were my own videos.
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This was a moment where talking about what I knew meant nothing.
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Practicing everything I had ever learned and spoken about
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and taught to everybody else was the way that I was going to save myself.
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So in this video, I want to talk about the five things
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that I did that proved to be essential and life-saving in one of the hardest moments of my life.
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I'm not going to be able to go through all five of these in nearly as much detail as I want, but that's okay
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because tomorrow I am starting five days to mend where I
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am going to be with every one of you who is heartbroken right now for an hour a day, taking you through in depth all of the things that can help you move forward.
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I promise you by the end of this week, you're going to feel better.
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It starts tomorrow.
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You can sign up at mendweek.com and it's free.
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So come join us.
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So the first one is I truly had to learn how to cope with the severe emotions
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that I was feeling at that time around pain and loss.
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Now, Now look, whether we are newly in the throes of heartbreak or we have been stuck there for some time, the emotions can feel unbearable.
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Fear, anxiety, grief, depression, regret, all of these things can destabilize our mental health,
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rob us of our joy and make it impossible to fully inhabit our own lives.
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But here's what I learned.
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It is not these emotions themselves that dictate the quality of our life when we're heartbroken.
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It is the relationship we develop with those emotions.
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For me, this meant understanding the difference between emotion and thought.
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The emotions, the deep sense of loss,
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the grief, the pain of this area of my life going away, That alone was awful.
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But what made it far worse was all the story that went with it.
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The story of this was my person and I lost them.
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That was a story.
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That was a thought pattern.
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The story of I'll never meet anyone like this again.
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Story.
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The thought of this makes me not good enough.
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You know, if I had been more this, more that, this person wouldn't have left.
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All of these thoughts took what were already painful emotions and compounded them into something truly unbearable and catastrophic.
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The way that I look at the difference between emotion and thought is if a bee stung you right now,
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you probably wouldn't have a lot of self-defeating thought or story around that.
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You wouldn't say, I can't believe I left the window open and that allowed the bee to fly in and sting me.
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I'm such an idiot.
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Always that person who leaves the window open and you wouldn't do that.
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A bee stung you, it would hurt.
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You'd be like, ow, that hurts.
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It's annoying.
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It's frustrating.
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I need to treat this with something, right?
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You treat the wound.
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In heartbreak, we're so busy thinking and constructing story that we don't actually treat the wound.
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We don't sit with the pain.
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And by sitting with the pain and being present with the pain, we actually give ourselves a chance to move through it.
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The thought is what keeps us in rumination about it and makes the pain turn into suffering.
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On day one of Five Days to Mend, I'm going to show you some ways to really employ this and we'll go through a bunch of examples.
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But let me move on to the second thing that was necessary for me to get through my heartbreak.
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I had to learn techniques to stop thinking about this person.
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Compulsive rumination about an ex is a hallmark of heartbreak.
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And we spend so much time in our heads that we end up fracturing ourselves.
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We wear one mask when we go to work or when we're at dinner with friends.
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Internally, we are in a private world of pain.
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It's easy for everything to remind us of that person we have lost.
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Places, pictures, people, sounds, music.
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All of these things feel like roads that lead back to thoughts of them.
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Even just seeing someone else who's happy can lead us back to thinking about what we have lost.
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It's why at a time of heartbreak, no matter how many good things there are in your life, it can feel like nothing else matters to you.
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That can switch us off to the love we do have in our lives.
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It can switch us off to the friendships that are showing up for us, the things that are happening in our career.
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It can literally shut us down to everything beautiful.
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The truth that really helped me, and I think it will help you too if you can connect to it,
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is that actually the world outside of your ex is far,
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far, far bigger than the world of your ex.
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It's massive.
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There are so many people in the world.
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There are so many experiences to be had in the world.
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We couldn't possibly experience everything and everyone there is to experience in a thousand lifetimes, let alone our short life.
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But the more we start to add new pieces of our life in, the more we start to create new firsts,
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new associations, that person starts to become a smaller and smaller part of our overall map of the world.
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And what it's given way to is this hugely expansive terrain that we now get to explore.
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This doesn't mean that the grief of losing someone goes away overnight, but what started as a grief
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that felt like it was the universe starts to become a smaller and smaller and smaller part of our universe.
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We start to realize that there is so much more to life than this person that we have lost.
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The third thing that saved me in my heartbreak was being hyper aware
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that there were things that were going to make me feel better
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and there were things that were reliably going to make me feel worse.
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My brother talks about this as the difference between the hangover recovery method and the athlete recovery method.
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The hangover recovery method is you went out drinking, you feel awful the next day, and then when you're in that mode, what do we do?
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We watch trashy TV, we eat greasy food, maybe even we start drinking again to try and feel better with the hair of the dog.
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The athlete recovery method is very different to that.
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I remember in the height of my heartbreak going into a jujitsu class
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that I'd been doing for years
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and the professor was there at the time I went up to him his name's Cobrinha
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and I said I uh I'm going through a really bad time right now I'm like massively heartbroken
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and I was like at the time you know when you're in
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that kind of heartbreak you're just searching you just want anything to feel better.
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And he said, you have suffered an injury the same way we do here on the mats.
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You got an injury.
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In this case, it's your heart.
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Your heart's been injured.
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Okay, great.
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So that's injured, but that doesn't mean we can't train every other part of our body
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because that's what you would do here.
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You train everything else so that as this heals, when it does heal, everything else is ready to go.
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So be hyper aware of the things that you know are going to make you feel worse,
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whether it's alcohol, whether it's drugs, whether it's not sleeping, whether it's hooking up,
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you know, trying to have a rebound relationship.
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You know that these things are reliably going to make you feel worse.
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You have energy right now, right?
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There's a kind of energy to heartbreak.
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There's energy there.
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It wants to go somewhere.
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Our job is to direct that energy to the things that are going to make us feel better, not worse.
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And look, one gym session, you know, drinking enough water today, getting more sleep tonight, doing a meditation,
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the right journaling prompts when you're heartbroken, which on MEND week next week I will show you, they're not going to make us feel better instantly.
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But the accumulation of these things starts to change the game bit by bit.
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It also has the added effect of making us proud of ourselves.
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And becoming proud of ourselves is a wonderful antidote to the self-loathing and the self-esteem damage that we can get during heartbreak.
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By the way, when we do MEND Week this week, it's not just going to be me going live for an hour a day, maybe longer on some days.
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You know me, we'll see.
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but I'm also going to be giving you access to Matthew AI free of charge for these days
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that we do this together because I want you to have 24 7 access even
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when we're not live together to me and my brain so
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that if at 2 a.m you're struggling with your heartbreak
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and you're having these anxious
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or ruminating thoughts you can still talk to me you can still have
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that conversation that you need that is going to reassure you and make yourself feel better.
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I'm also creating a special part of my Love Life app specifically for everyone going through heartbreak right now
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that you'll be able to access for free during five days to mend
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so that you can go through this with other people in a private safe space.
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The fourth thing I had to do in the worst heartbreak of my life was reclaim my confidence.
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Heartbreak is like the death of our ego.
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It is a catastrophic blow sometimes to our sense of worth.
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And what happens in heartbreak is we start telling ourselves stories that further damage our confidence.
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If I had been more sexy, more attractive, if I had had a better body, if I had been taller, if I had been more impressive,
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if I had been more charismatic, if I hadn't been so insecure, they would have stayed.
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Be careful of trusting your thoughts in the moments where you're already vulnerable.
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They will lead you to catastrophic places.
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They will feel like the truth, but they are a truth that is generated by your worst fears.
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What wrecks our confidence is the story that that's all we are.
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That we're not also someone who can own themselves.
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We're not also someone who can take charge.
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That we're not also someone who has really amazing qualities, who does believe in themselves in these ways.
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We're all those things.
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So the secret to confidence is not being bulletproof.
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The secret to confidence is integration.
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It's realizing that Your insecurity,
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the catastrophic thinking is telling you you are only this bad thing and that's why they didn't want you.
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Instead of saying, of course I'm not only that bad thing, I'm all these good things as well.
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When you realise you are many things, you simply get to choose which of those things you are going to lean into.
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And that is the beginning of confidence.
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The fifth thing I learned was to let go.
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When we go through a breakup, we have this instinctive urge to make it work,
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to win them back, to try to control the situation somehow.
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Even try and control the outcome of it all.
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You know, I'm going to find someone really quickly.
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I'm going to find someone better than them.
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I'm going to do, like, whatever way we go, whether it's getting them back or trying to move on fast or whatever,
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it's, we're working so hard to control the situation and there's a beauty in being like yeah I got heartbroken.
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I am heartbroken and I am not going to try to control the outcome of all of this.
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I'm going to do the next right thing.
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I'm going to you know if I'm feeling like I need one more conversation with them.
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If I'm feeling like it's, you know, we've been together for a very long time
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and I want to recommend that the two of us get therapy together to see if we can work it out, even just to see if they're open to it.
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If I feel like I need to write them a letter explaining how I feel
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and explaining that I think they're making a terrible decision, you can do that.
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There's nothing stopping you doing that.
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Do the thing that you feel you need to do or can do and then make peace with whatever happens next.
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It's almost like you have to do the thing that you could do.
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I think about anxiety this way.
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Do the thing that you can do and then be really disciplined about getting on with your day.
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in this case be really disciplined about doing the thing you can do and then getting on with your life
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and having the humility to know
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that you have no idea what is coming you know we
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we don't always know what is best for us what is
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the next best thing to happen we think we do in
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in this case usually we think the best thing is
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that our ex has a turnaround and comes back for us and that we end up together.
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But nowhere is it written that that's true.
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That may not be the best thing.
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We don't necessarily know what's best.
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Sometimes we have to let life unfold. That means letting go.
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And if we've been stuck on someone for a while, we have to explore why that is.
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What is happening here that I've gone past the acute stage of heartbreak.
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And instead of just occasionally feeling the remnants of grief, which happens over time, I'm still locked in this story about this person.
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We have to explore what's going on there and why we aren't allowing ourselves to move forward with our life.
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And for those of you coming to Mend Week with me, we're going to do that on day five.
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It's going to be an incredible five days together.
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It's going to be really healing for the people involved.
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I can't wait.
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I know that this was one of the worst times in my life
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when I went through it
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and I'm really honoured to be able to be there for you who in one way
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or another are going through one of the worst times in your life too.
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I will see you tomorrow for day one of MEND Week.
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MENDweek.com is the link.
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Thank you for watching.
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Leave me a comment and I'll see you soon.
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Thank you.
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คำศัพท์และข้อสังเกตด้านการพูดสำหรับบทเรียนนี้
บทเรียนฝึกพูดระดับ B2 นี้ใช้วิดีโอ “How I Got Over My Worst Heartbreak” เป็นสื่อ วิดีโอนี้มี 198 ประโยค และ 2569 คำ สำหรับฝึกพูดตาม ช่วงที่มีเสียงพูดยาว 16:52 ผู้พูดพูดด้วยความเร็วเป็นธรรมชาติ ประมาณ 152 คำต่อนาที ใกล้เคียงกับบทสนทนาในชีวิตประจำวัน 87% ของคำอยู่ใน 3,000 คำที่ใช้บ่อยที่สุดในภาษาอังกฤษ คำศัพท์จึงตามได้ง่าย
คำศัพท์สำคัญในวิดีโอนี้
คำที่ยากที่สุด 15 คำในวิดีโอ พร้อมคำอ่านและความหมาย:
| คำศัพท์ | คำอ่าน | ความหมาย |
|---|---|---|
| emotion คำนาม | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | อารมณ์ |
| mend คำกริยา | /mɛnd/ | ซ่อม |
| heartbroken คำคุณศัพท์ | ตรอมใจ, ช้ำใจ | |
| grief คำนาม | /ɡɹiːf/ | ความเศร้า |
| sting คำกริยา | /ˈstɪŋ/ | กัด, ต่อย |
| hangover คำนาม | /ˈhæŋoʊ̯vɚ/ ~ /ˈhæŋɔʊ̯vɚ/ | อาการเมาค้าง, แฮ้ง |
| athlete คำนาม | /ˈæθ.liːt/ | นักกีฬา |
| bulletproof คำคุณศัพท์ | /ˈbʊlɪtpɹuf/ | กันกระสุน |
| humility คำนาม | /hjuːˈmɪlɪti/ | ความถ่อมตัว, ความนอบน้อม |
| fracture คำนาม | /ˈfɹæk.t͡ʃʰəː/ | กระดูกหัก |
| mat คำนาม | /mæt/ | พรม, พรมเช็ดเท้า |
| terrain คำนาม | /təˈɹeɪn/ | ภูมิประเทศ, ลักษณะภูมิประเทศ |
| employ คำกริยา | /ɪmˈplɔɪ/ | จ้าง |
| anxious คำคุณศัพท์ | /ˈæŋkʃəs/ | ไม่สบายใจ, ใจไม่ดี |
| compound คำนาม | /ˈkɑmpaʊnd/ | สารประกอบ |
กริยาวลีที่คุณจะได้ยิน
| คำศัพท์ | ความหมาย |
|---|---|
| go out คำกริยา | ออก, ออกไป |
ประโยคที่ควรฝึกพูดซ้ำ
ประโยคสั้น ๆ ที่สมบูรณ์จากวิดีโอ ซึ่งนำไปใช้ในบทสนทนาประจำวันได้:
- You'd be like, ow, that hurts.
- We don't sit with the pain.
- In this case, it's your heart.
- You know me, we'll see.
- That we're not also someone who can own themselves.
ไวยากรณ์ในวิดีโอนี้
โครงสร้างที่ผู้พูดใช้บ่อยที่สุด พร้อมคำพูดจริงจากวิดีโอ:
| โครงสร้าง | ในวิดีโอ |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + กริยาช่อง 3 — เหตุการณ์ในอดีตที่ยังเกี่ยวข้องกับปัจจุบัน | have been stuck · have lost · have suffered |
| Passive voice be + กริยาช่อง 3 — เน้นสิ่งที่เกิดขึ้น ไม่ใช่ผู้กระทำ | been broken · have been stuck · been injured |
| Relative clauses who / which + อนุประโยค — ข้อมูลเพิ่มเติมเกี่ยวกับคนหรือสิ่งของ | person who leaves · someone who can · someone who has |
การออกเสียงที่ควรระวัง
ผู้พูดใช้รูปย่อและรูปลดเสียง 68 ครั้ง เช่น I'm, we're, you're ให้พูดแบบสั้นตามที่ได้ยิน
- เสียง “th”: athlete /ˈæθ.liːt/, loathe /ˈloʊð/
- เสียง “sh” และ “zh”: emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, rumination /ˌɹuːmɪˈneɪʃən/, reassure /ˌɹi.əˈʃʊɹ/, trashy /ˈtɹæʃi/, accumulation /əˌkjuːm.jəˈleɪ.ʃən/
- คำยาว — ลงเสียงหนักให้ถูกพยางค์: catastrophic /ˌkætəˈstɹɑfɪk/, rumination /ˌɹuːmɪˈneɪʃən/, hangover /ˈhæŋoʊ̯vɚ/ ~ /ˈhæŋɔʊ̯vɚ/, charismatic /ˌkɛɹəzˈmætək/, destabilize /diːˈsteɪbɪlaɪz/
วิธีฝึกกับวิดีโอนี้
- ฟังวิดีโอให้จบหนึ่งรอบโดยยังไม่ต้องพูด แล้วจดคำที่ยังไม่รู้จัก
- เริ่มที่ความเร็ว 0.75× พูดตามทีละประโยค แล้วกลับไปใช้ความเร็วปกติเมื่อเริ่มคล่อง
- อัดเสียงตัวเองแล้วเทียบกับต้นฉบับ โดยสังเกตคำอย่าง emotion, mend, heartbroken เป็นพิเศษ
เทคนิค Shadowing คืออะไร?
Shadowing เป็นเทคนิคการเรียนรู้ภาษาที่ได้รับการรับรองทางวิทยาศาสตร์ พัฒนาขึ้นสำหรับการฝึกนักแปลมืออาชีพ วิธีการนี้เรียบง่ายแต่ทรงพลัง: คุณฟังเสียงภาษาอังกฤษจากเจ้าของภาษาและพูดตามทันที — เหมือนเงาที่ตามผู้พูดด้วยช่วงเวลาห่าง 1-2 วินาที การวิจัยแสดงว่าเทคนิคนี้ปรับปรุงความแม่นยำในการออกเสียง ทำนองเสียง จังหวะ การเชื่อมเสียง การฟังเข้าใจ และความคล่องแคล่วในการพูดได้อย่างมีนัยสำคัญ