ฝึกพูดภาษาอังกฤษด้วยเทคนิค Shadowing จากวิดีโอ: you are creating your own suffering
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Hi guys, and welcome back to my channel.
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I'm back with another podcast episode because I have more that I want to say.
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So sorry for people who have been missing my vlogs or missing my more, I guess, like, I don't know, content where I'm not just sat and talking at you guys and I actually film with like a nicer camera.
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If you've been missing that, that will come soon.
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But recently I've just had so many thoughts and I think it's
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because I'm done with uni that like suddenly I feel like everything has been like clicking
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and ticking and I've been able to think about things that are not just my degree and my assignments.
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Basically, the reason this podcast episode has come about is
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because I used to think a lot about the concept of like radical acceptance
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and I think there were a lot of books
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and a lot of conversations with friends at a certain point in my life
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that really seemed to have this central theme of just extreme acceptance
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and I'd not thought about it in a while but I think
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because I had that time of really thinking about it
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so much it became a bit of a habit
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that has definitely weakened with time and then the other night I was led
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and I was basically just thinking about the situation of a friend
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that happened ages ago it was really weird it's not like I was upset about it
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or I don't know secretly resentful about it
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or anything I was just thinking about it I was thinking
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about a friend opening up to me about the fact
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that they were annoyed about something that I had done I kind of just explained
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that it wasn't something that i had done in
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that moment it was something that other people do but
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that i recognize that i do as well and also it wasn't something
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that is like actually bad or anything it was just like i guess like an incompatibility
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so it's not like i'd like done her dirty or something like
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that and that i had felt quite defensive
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because i didn't feel like it was really fair like i mean obviously their feelings are valid
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but i didn't really feel like i'd done anything that bad
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and i was thinking about that kind of like dichotomy of like their feelings are valid
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but why do I feel annoyed and defensive like I'm acting as
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if their feelings aren't valid and I was reflecting on my emotions
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and what was the root of that response and I think it's
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because I was reading into what my friend was saying
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and I think this is like a very common thing something
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that I used to do a lot
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and I think a lot of people do where I don't just take someone's emotions
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or what someone is saying for what it is in itself I kind of like add more to it
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and assume there's more that isn't meeting the eye and assume
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that actually they aren't just telling me they're annoyed
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but they're also through that annoyance expressing that they want something to change
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and part of that assumption is because a lot of people do do
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that I used to do that a lot where I wouldn't communicate very directly
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and when I was upset about something I would want it to change
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but I wasn't brave enough to ask for it to change
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and so when I'd express annoyance I was actually expressing a want for the situation to change
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but I also think it's not entirely necessary to take those things as
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that so I was like oh okay
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if I just accept my friends emotions for what they are
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because in this case I hadn't really done anything it really
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was one of those situations were like it's not like I'd
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done anything shitty it's not like I'd wronged them in any way they were just mildly annoyed about something
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that wasn't really my fault I was like okay
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if I just accept their annoyance as annoyance
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but I don't take it as her asking me to change anything about myself
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because she's not asking that what's the problem like there is no problem actually
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if I just accept her emotions
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and her expressing her emotion as just exactly what it is
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and I don't add anything to it and
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that made me remember like damn radical acceptance was so good back
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when I was like really on it
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so i want to re-reflect about radical acceptance
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and i want to kind of remind myself about all of
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that and i thought i would do it with you guys
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because i have had some comments in the past say
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that it has been really helpful for other people
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and personally it's been really helpful for me
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so let's get into it a quick disclaimer
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because i think whenever i do one of these think pieces on here
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or on tiktok i always get someone who has misunderstood me to a degree
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that like is quite frustrating because that is not at all what i meant
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and it's like one thing if someone gets what I'm saying
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and disagrees because they just disagree like that's completely fine
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but often I'll have comments where it's like whoa
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that is literally like not at all what I was saying
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so I want to make some things very clear
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when I'm saying to accept your situation your lot in life the cards
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that you've been dealt I obviously mean
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that to a certain degree I do think
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that it's important to recognize your wants and your needs and
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if your needs aren't being met in a situation I don't think you should just accept
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that I do think that you should expect more for example
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if you're in a situation where you're being mistreated I do
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not at all like not only am I not saying this but I actually think the opposite.
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I don't think that you should just accept that situation for what it is.
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I think that you should be aware of your boundaries, aware of the things that you are comfortable giving and comfortable receiving.
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And I think that you should not just blindly accept things, especially if you are able to change them.
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By radical acceptance and by acceptance in general, I mean very specifically like accepting situations for what they are in a moment.
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There is quite a lot of nuance in what I mean.
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And I think it is sometimes hard to get across
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if I make a video specifically only honing in on
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that acceptance part i think people then forget the other part
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which is that like i do think
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that we are active participants in our life
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and we shouldn't just blindly accept things as they come
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and just like passively take it all in i do think as like active agents
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or whatever we should be making choices to hopefully lead us to the life
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that we want for example with my friend being annoyed obviously like
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that was like such a not deep situation i guess that's my point
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that like why do i kind of make these situations more
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hurtful than they need to be more frustrating they need to be
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when i could just accept like yeah my friend's a bit annoyed that's fine
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but let's say that my friend was annoyed with me constantly
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and was actually like suggesting that I should change something about myself
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but wasn't directly telling me but was annoyed at me and was like indirectly communicating.
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I personally know that something that I can't really handle is indirect communication.
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I really struggle with it.
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It stresses me out so much.
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I'm just unable to handle indirect communication.
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If someone is indirectly communicating with me and that is like, I don't know, our relationship is based on like me having to be super hyper vigilant
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and like figure out what it is that they're upset about.
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I am not saying to accept that and I personally
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don't think I would accept that or I'd like to think that I wouldn't accept that.
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In that situation what I would ideally do, obviously I probably won't always be perfect and I won't do this every time,
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but what I would like to hope I would do would be to address that, to say I don't like that you're indirectly communicating with me and like expecting me to guess what you're feeling and thinking,
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can you please just tell me?
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And if that continues I'd probably need to take some sort of emotional step back from the friendship.
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I don't mean that I would like cut this person off and cancel them and whatever, I just think I would need to reassess how close I'd like to be with that person.
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But as for like where the radical acceptance comes in, it's accepting all the things that have happened and the choices
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that I have made throughout that whole situation for what they are and not ruminating on it too much.
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Along the way, I think there's a lot of places in
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that situation where I could be more upset than I need to be
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and like kind of I guess like suffer more than I need to.
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For example I could be like oh
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but this person could have been my best friend if only they could communicate better with me, if only they could.
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Once I have said to them I would like you to communicate better and they don't, there's not really much more that I can do
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and I think yeah accepting that they aren't perhaps the person I wish they were.
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I could also be frustrated with myself.
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Oh well why am I such a weakling
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that I can't deal with having to be hyper vigilant
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and I can't deal with people expecting me to be a mind reader.
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Instead of really like you know bashing myself for that, just accepting well that is who I am at the moment.
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I could try to do more than that but to be honest I don't really want to.
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I quite like that boundary that I have.
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Okay well I just accept that.
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That's more where the radical acceptance comes in.
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It's accepting that things have happened.
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All I can control now is what I do moving forward
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and I accept that there are also limitations to what I'm able to do.
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Basically it's like I accept all the limitations
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and I accept the things I can't control
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but where I do have control I do like to exercise it
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and I would never ever suggest that like you should stay in situations
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that you aren't happy in because you should accept the lot you've been given.
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That is not at all what I'm saying
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so I just wanted to make that clear
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because I think sometimes people misunderstand
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that a little bit especially like in situations where like for example you are being literally mistreated and stuff, absolutely you should take the steps to leave that situation.
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So yeah, I just wanted to make that clear.
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Anyways, radical acceptance.
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The reason I use the term radical is because I mean it more than just like, ah, I accept, I accept that that's the case.
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With radical acceptance, I mean the next level where like you are truly not reading too much into anything,
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not wasting precious mental energy trying to figure out where things are coming from, trying to be like this detective, right?
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I think this especially calls to me because I did have issues with hypervigilance growing up.
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I did have issues of like trying to read people's minds
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and constantly figure out if people were mad at me
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And I think for me like the antidote for my anxiety
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when I had really bad anxiety Was acceptance because so much of my anxiety was linked around control
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Trying to control the situation trying to figure out what people are feeling trying to figure out what everyone's doing
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and what will happen So for me where
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so much of it was like thinking and ruminating and plotting
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and scheming because I was so anxious Just switching that off and being like, okay, maybe the worst thing in the world will happen I have to accept
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that it might and in that situation I have to trust
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that I will know what is best for me in
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that moment But I accept that I can't control
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that not happening I can't control the steps leading up to it
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and what other people are doing I can only control how I behave
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if that situation were to happen that for me Saved me it saved me
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and obviously if you don't have issues with that kind of anxiety
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or if you have issues of being Perhaps like too passive in your life, maybe radical acceptance won't work for you and that's okay
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but anyways for me it has been wonderful i remember reading
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let me go find actually in the consolations of philosophy by
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elaine de elaine de botton i don't really like his philosophy
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that much to be honest i've read like other things by him
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and i've seen interviews of him i kind of feel like
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he's a bit of a pseudo philosopher pseudo psychologist kind of like me kind of like the things
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that i post online
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but i think the thing is i don't say sorry i
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don't know why like out of nowhere Alain de Petron is catching such a stray.
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I just don't want to like now read him out and suggest that that's me recommending him.
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I don't really recommend him but I like this book and I recommend this book in particular by him.
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This is a like I guess a really nice introduction to six quite popular philosophers.
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Socrates, Epicurus, Seneca, Montaigne, Schopenhauer and Nietzsche and he simplifies their like main
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or like their most famous philosophies and applies them to current day issues
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so then through that application it becomes really easy to grasp what they're on about um
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so as an intro to philosophy i really like this book however i don't recommend him as a whole
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because i'm a bit of a hater
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but some people aren't some people really like him
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so like actually don't take my recommendation
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and maybe try read him anyways i remember in here coming across this idea
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that really struck me
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and i think it was the schopenhauer part i think it's
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chapter three the consolation for frustration okay never mind i've just read through and it wasn't Schopenhauer, it was Seneca.
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Which makes sense actually because the other books that I read
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that I found really had this idea were all other Stoic books.
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I'm going to read a few little portions out of this chapter.
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This is from part two, A Senecan Dictionary of Frustration.
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Though the terrain of frustration may be vast, from a stubbed toe to an untimely death, at the heart of every frustration lies a basic structure,
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the collision of a wish with an unyielding reality a single idea recurs throughout Seneca's work
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that we best endure those frustrations which we have prepared ourselves for
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and understand and are hurt most by those we least expected and cannot fathom.
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Philosophie must reconcile us to the true dimensions of reality.
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Her task is to prepare for our wishes the softest landing possible on the adamantine wall of reality.
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The chapter then goes on to discuss like a few different, I guess like difficult emotions
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that can arise from not accepting a situation for what it is
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so for example shock a sense of injustice the one
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that really struck me when i first read this
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because i think this is what i struggled with especially as
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somebody who used to be quite like resentful was anger
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and one of the examples i genuinely think about quite a lot it's
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so simple and it's so obvious
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and yet it kind of like made clear a lot of
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behaviors i had where i was like oh okay like i'm
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frustrating myself for no reason at all It uses an example of a window
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and it's talking about how like it can be really frustrating Let's say like for example, I have this when I record these videos Sometimes there are people making
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so much noise in the street There is no need for this much noise to be made
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and I have my windows closed It's really hot in my room
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because the windows are closed and yet I can still hear them
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And I have to stop recording because it's just awful
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And I have to wait for the sound to be over
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before I can continue recording The book talks about two different ways
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that you can interpret a loud noise for example of a
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builder outside of your window Either the builder is hammering in order to annoy me, or the builder is hammering and I am annoyed.
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Two facts that don't have to be linked in this awful, very personal way, right?
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To calm us down in noisy streets, we should trust that those making a noise know nothing of us.
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We should place a fire guard between the noise outside and an internal sense of deserving punishment.
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We should not import into scenarios where they don't belong, pessimistic interpretations of others' motives.
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Thereafter, noise will never be pleasant, but it will not have to make us furious.
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all outdoors may be bedlam provided that there is no disturbance within i like
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when i first read that i was like oh wait
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that is such a nice way of looking at it and that is such an obvious way to look at it.
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And even now like even if I feel slight annoyance
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and noise outside I can just accept there is noise outside right now and I am annoyed.
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And I don't have to come up with this whole like I don't have to add more to it than there is.
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I don't have to make myself suffer even more unnecessarily
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because something for me is that I often will think I wish that there wasn't noise.
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I wish that there wasn't noise.
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And something that I find I do a lot, which I try really hard to like be aware of, is I often wish that I was in a different universe.
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That's just what kind of, I obviously didn't think of it that way before, that's just what I labelled these kinds of thoughts as.
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I would be frustrated because I wish that there was no noise outside because I want to keep recording.
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But right now, I'm in a universe in which there is noise outside and I've had to stop recording.
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And rather than just accepting that right now there is noise outside, I can take a break, I can maybe have a breather, I can go grab some water, I can just like I don't know just chill out for a moment
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or I can be a bit annoyed But I can just sit
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and be annoyed instead I wish that I was in a universe in
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which there was no noise outside But that universe does not exist.
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I am in the universe in which there is noise outside
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and this sounds really silly But it starts to be a lot stronger
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when you apply it to much more Frustrating big situations like for example someone letting you down really badly
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or like the example I gave earlier Like I find interpersonal conflict quite difficult
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and I was talking about like let's say I'm friends of someone who is doing something
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that I just kind of can't like stand for like I really can't stay in a relationship whilst that's happening
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if someone is expecting me to be a mind reader
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and is being really weird and like passive aggressive with me
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and I'm having to try to figure out why
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if let's say other than that trait I love that person
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so much I like them
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so much they are literally like the perfect bestest friend other than this trait
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but I know
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that this trait is like a deal breaker for me I could easily be really frustrated
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and be like why can't this person just communicate with me better i wish i was in a universe in
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which this person communicated better but they don't
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and i feel like once i started accepting situations for what they were
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and accepting the reality that i live in i either a chilled out
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and just accepted the situation for what it was without being
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as frustrated for example oh my goodness it's hammering outside
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and i can't do anything about it i can't go
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and tell the builders to stop
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that would be kind of horrible they're just trying to do their jobs they're also probably tired
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and just want to finish their jobs the same way i want to finish my job
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because i want to finish recording i just need to let it be for now
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and then i chill out and just like feel way better
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and fine or b i would have a clearer head
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and i'd be able to assess what it is that i want
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and what it is
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that i now feel like i'm able to do with the situation at hand for example i can't stand
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that this person is requiring me to be really hyper vigilant
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and really like guess their emotions i can't do that
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and even though i wish
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that it could be otherwise this is the the situation at hand
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and I know that that is a deal breaker for me
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so I'm going to approach them about it and
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if it doesn't get any better I'm just going to have
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to mentally take a bit of a step back in certain areas in the friendship
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and I'm able to do that with a lot more clarity
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and with less resistance because my wish is not clashing with this reality as much
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because I realize that this wish can't be fulfilled
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because I'm not in this alternate universe
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and I accept reality for what it is
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and therefore I am able to move in a way
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that it is kind of being pushed less against by reality because I'm moving in accordance with it if that makes sense.
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Another thing that I realized when I was kind of flicking through looking for
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that window example was this random little thing
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which actually is quite nice to read
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because I say this a lot in regards to anxiety and this is a little bit off topic.
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People often say like oh if you're anxious that like this awful situation
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that there's a small chance of happening it might not happen like it probably won't.
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I never found that to be helpful because then I would be like okay
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but I'm not anxious about the fact that it probably 100% is going to happen.
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I'm anxious because there is a chance that that situation will happen.
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And like, yeah, you're telling me like, oh, but it probably won't happen.
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I know it probably won't.
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That's not what I'm anxious about.
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And so that's why for me, just acceptance, that situation might happen.
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And I'm going to have to be okay.
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I trust that I will probably be able to figure out a way to be okay if it does.
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That for me works so much better.
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And in this book, it does say in the same chapter, but under the anxiety subcategory, but reassurance can be the cruelest antidote to anxiety.
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Our rosy predictions both leave the anxious unprepared for the worst
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and unwittingly imply that it would be disastrous if the worst came to pass.
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Seneca more wisely asks to consider that bad things probably will occur
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but adds they are unlikely ever to be as bad as we fear.
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Frustrating that if I was born before Seneca, right, you guys would be here quoting me but no, Seneca got to it first, Seneca lived first.
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I love the tweet or like the meme
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or whatever that's like okay like plato and aristotle
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if i was one of the first 10 people to have
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ever lived i probably would have come up with all
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that too that's how i feel reading that
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because that's what i have been saying i think i have a whole podcast about
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that but taking it further than that though i don't even think the argument
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that like oh
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but it probably won't be as bad as you expect it would be really works for me either
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because it's like but what
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if it is for me it's always like my anxieties always are like
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but what if but what if but what if everyone hates me what
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if this tragedy happens but what if all of this goes bad
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but all of that and i'm always catastrophizing
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so just accepting the bad thing might happen
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and Seneca it might happen just as badly as I predict it might happen even worse
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and what am I going to do with
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that I'm just going to have to be okay
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and just accepting like that might happen it might be really bad I might really suffer
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but I don't have to make my suffering worse by wishing
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it didn't happen by plotting how I'm going to prevent it from happening by being really controlling to my friends
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and being really controlling to the people around me
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and keeping an eye on everyone and making sure that nothing happens
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and being this like this like detective
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and this like weird like I don't know I was really like controlling
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and intense and I think that then
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that made it worse I was annoying to be friends with
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because I was so controlling and weird I also was suffering
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so much more than I needed to be
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because I was constantly like hunting for signs
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that everything was going to go wrong and everyone was going to leave me
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and nobody was going to love me I mean I think
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for me I've spoken about this in another podcast episode
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but like another thing that really helped around the time
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that I was getting into all these books and like reading about stoicism
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and acceptance and stuff is
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that guys i really like learned the hard way okay that's also why i'm like
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so passionately like please guys radically accept radically accept i learned the hard way
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because one of my biggest fears did happen one of my biggest biggest fears
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which i don't even want to talk about
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because it was such a rough time in my life i was
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so scared of something happening and then it all happened
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and not just
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that it happened worse than i could have ever imagined that's
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why seneca being like oh it probably won't be as bad as you think it will be.
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No, no, no, for me, it was so much worse.
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It was awful.
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And then it was fine.
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It was awful.
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Like, I don't want to understand how bad it was, but it then was okay.
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And it's like, okay, why did I also have to make myself feel
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so much worse by being stressed about that happening for so long and being constantly concerned that was going to happen?
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And also guys, this doesn't matter.
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Obviously this is irrelevant to the whole philosophy, but aside from that, I do think I brought it upon myself.
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I think that thing partly happened because I was such a weird controlling person who like constantly had to have, like, I don't know, had to make sure
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that nothing was going out of plan to my plan
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and only my feelings mattered and like I don't know
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because of that all of these awful things happened
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and I was like oh okay like
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so there was no need for me to first of all bring this upon myself by being really intense
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and really really anxious there was also no need for me to have like extremely extremely intense anxiety for years
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and have to spend so much time in therapy
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and like all of this like there was no need there was no need
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and I know obviously it's
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so much easier said than done I feel like I threw a lot of therapy
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and like inner work
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and I don't know just like really becoming a very healthy
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person I feel like I have quite a large amount of not control over my emotions
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because obviously like
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if anything I used to over-intellectualize my emotions like I allow my emotions to kind of be what they are
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but I do think I'm quite good at understanding how to
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kind of like my emotions are quite malleable I feel
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and I think when I'm kind of getting into a bad place
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or I'm getting anxious I know the things to tell myself
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and the things to do to bring me out
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that quite quickly I think it's easy for me nowadays to be like oh well just don't be anxious
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because I know how to not be anxious anymore and I know that it's a lot easier said than done.
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I think if anyone had told me this when I was really anxious, I'd be like, that sounds great that you're able to do that.
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But I don't think I am.
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With practice, I really feel like I would have been able to if I had been told about this earlier.
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It just would have taken a lot of internal work and a lot of practice.
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But guys, please, like, I promise you, the radical acceptance stuff is so helpful.
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I keep bringing up interpersonal examples because I think that is the root of a lot that I was anxious about.
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It was a lot about, like, everyone's gonna leave me and everybody secretly hates me
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and it's funny
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because now like sometimes i do have flashes sometimes i really
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do have flashes of like oh nobody loves me in this world
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and all my friends actually secretly hate me
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but then i'm able to just like laugh it off
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because it's like okay a again aside from the philosophy whatever
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that is like so like i don't think my friends are thinking of me
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that much like i'm really like not that loved and
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that everybody is plotting against me secretly and like secretly hates me
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and it's like all planning to leave me i am really not like the main character of everybody's lives in that way.
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I don't think my friends think about me enough.
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Even people who don't like me, I don't think anyone's like plotting against me and like is like taking me down because they hate me.
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I don't think people who don't like me really think about me ever
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and if they do it's probably like for a moment and then they move on to thinking about their own lives.
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But also even if that were the case I would have to be fine and it's also so frustrating.
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It's like I've been through so much worse.
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I've been through really hard things in life and I've been okay
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and I'm literally so happy and also everything ended up all right
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and I learned more about myself along the way
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and I like you know lots of other positives came from it this was all inspired by the fact
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that I was thinking about
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that interaction with the friend where she was like oh that's really annoying
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that people do this
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and I was like I do this is this secretly actually a like weird suggestion
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that I shouldn't be doing that anymore
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but like again just make it clear it's not like anything
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that was actually wrong it's just like a specific trait
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that she finds annoying but that isn't actually a bad trait or anything
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and then I was like wait that's literally not what she
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said though like that's literally not what she said I'm imagining
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that she's like got this whole secret other story that didn't happen.
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All she said was that she finds it annoying and
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if I just accept oh she's annoyed right now and I don't have to do anything about that I can just listen.
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I don't have to change.
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She's not asking me to change.
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There's no problem.
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She can be annoyed and I can be the person
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that I am and if she wants me to change then we can talk about it.
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She's never brought it up again.
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I don't think she really cared that much.
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She was just talking about something.
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I feel like again this is one of those things
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that like I think
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because the examples our user quite light it doesn't sound it sounds very silly
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but i promise like i have applied this in my life
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to much bigger more horrible more like really really just like awful things
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and it's really helped it's helped a lot and again also like
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that doesn't mean that you shouldn't strive to have a better life
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if you feel that you are able to do things to bring
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that about but it helps to have a clearer mind to be able to bring
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that about in a way that isn't clashing with reality as much
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and also sometimes you can't sometimes you can't change things for
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example i can't go tell the builders to stop hammering
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because it's their job and i also can't change certain things
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that have happened in my life already
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that have been horrible i can't change i mean again my secret health issues
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that i said i don't want to talk about
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but i mentioned in every episode for a long time i was like this isn't fair it's not fair
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that other people don't have this yeah it is unfair anyways i just have to accept
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that it is unfair and it is annoying
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and i am going to have to just learn to be okay with it
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because there is nothing else
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that can be done about it i need to stop wishing to be in an alternate universe in
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which i don't have health issues because that universe doesn't exist
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and if it does i don't know about parallel universes even
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if it does exist i'm not there right now i'm in
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the one where i do have health issues i'm in the one where there's loads of loud noises outside
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when i'm trying to record youtube videos i'm in the one where potentially maybe my friends hate me
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and i can't change universes so i just have to accept them
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and if i keep wishing to change universes and
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if i keep wishing
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that i was in the other universe instead of just dealing with the lot
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that i've been given then i'm going to be much more frustrated
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and i'm also probably going to struggle bringing about change in a way that is realistic anyways thank you guys for watching.
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I feel like that was a little bit all over the place because I didn't plan this episode.
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I just like had that thought in the night and then I was like, I have to record, I have to record, I have to speak to them.
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So I hope that this has been somewhat helpful and I also hope that that made sense.
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As usual, thank you so much for watching.
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Please like this video if you like this video.
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Please subscribe if you haven't already.
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I love doing podcasts and videos where I talk like this.
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I also do vlogs.
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I also talk about books.
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I talk about journaling
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and I also have a monthly favorites video series where i talk about all the things
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that i loved in the month i try not to fix at all on like products i bought
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or things like that i just try to focus on the lovely experiences
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that i had being alive in the previous month so please subscribe
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if you feel like that could be helpful or interesting
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or of any benefit to you whatsoever please comment
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and let me know if you have any thoughts at all i'm really curious
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if this is something that like you've heard of before
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or something that you do or if this is something
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that you don't do and you don't think would be helpful
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if you disagree then please let me know as well
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because again this is just help my particular anxiety
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but like with other people this might not help at all
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and also once again sorry for the people who have been
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asking for a silky rose 3 vlog i there it is
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coming it is coming i was gonna record one this weekend
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but there's another heat wave coming
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so like there's nothing to record to be honest i'm just
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gonna be led with like the fan directly on my body for days
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so maybe the vlog will be the week after anyways thank you
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so much for watching and i'll see you guys soon bye bye
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คำศัพท์และข้อสังเกตด้านการพูดสำหรับบทเรียนนี้
วิดีโอนี้มี 502 ประโยค และ 6289 คำ สำหรับฝึกพูดตาม ช่วงที่มีเสียงพูดยาว 25:31 ผู้พูดพูดเร็ว ประมาณ 246 คำต่อนาที จึงมีการเชื่อมเสียงและลดเสียงค่อนข้างมาก 83% ของคำอยู่ใน 3,000 คำที่ใช้บ่อยที่สุดในภาษาอังกฤษ ส่วนที่เหลือควรดูไว้ก่อนเริ่มฝึก
คำศัพท์สำคัญในวิดีโอนี้
คำที่ควรเรียนรู้ 15 คำจากวิดีโอ พร้อมคำอ่านและความหมาย:
| คำศัพท์ | คำอ่าน | ความหมาย |
|---|---|---|
| anxious คำคุณศัพท์ | /ˈæŋkʃəs/ | ไม่สบายใจ, ใจไม่ดี |
| emotion คำนาม | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | อารมณ์ |
| anxiety คำนาม | /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/ | ความวิตกกังวล |
| builder คำนาม | /ˈbɪl.dəɹ/ | ผู้สร้าง, ผู้ก่อสร้าง |
| trait คำนาม | /tɹeɪt/ | นิสัย |
| hammer คำนาม | /ˈhæmɚ/ | ค้อน, พะเนิน |
| podcast คำนาม | /ˈpɑdˌkæst/ | พอดแคสต์, พอดคาสต์ |
| suffer คำกริยา | /ˈsʌfɚ/ | ตรำ |
| friendship คำนาม | /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/ | มิตรภาพ |
| reflect คำกริยา | /ɹɪˈflɛkt/ | สะท้อน |
| silly คำคุณศัพท์ | /ˈsɪl.i/ | โง่ |
| reader คำนาม | /ˈɹi.dɚ/ | ผู้อ่าน |
| detective คำนาม | /dɪˈtɛktɪv/ | นักสืบ |
| philosopher คำนาม | /fəˈlɑsəfɚ/ | นักปราชญ์, นักปรัชญา |
| topic คำนาม | /ˈtɑpɪk/ | หัวข้อ, กระทู้ |
กริยาวลีที่คุณจะได้ยิน
| คำศัพท์ | ความหมาย |
|---|---|
| bring up คำกริยา | เลี้ยงดู, ฟูมฟัก |
การออกเสียงที่ควรระวัง
ผู้พูดใช้รูปย่อและรูปลดเสียง 206 ครั้ง เช่น don't, I'm, can't ให้พูดแบบสั้นตามที่ได้ยิน
- เสียง “sh” และ “zh”: anxious /ˈæŋkʃəs/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, frustration /fɹʌsˈtɹeɪ.ʃən/, flash /flæʃ/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/
- คำยาว — ลงเสียงหนักให้ถูกพยางค์: anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, indirectly /ˌɪn.dɪˈɹɛk(t).li/, philosopher /fəˈlɑsəfɚ/, limitation /lɪmɪˈteɪʃən/
วิธีฝึกกับวิดีโอนี้
- ฟังวิดีโอให้จบหนึ่งรอบโดยยังไม่ต้องพูด แล้วจดคำที่ยังไม่รู้จัก
- เริ่มที่ความเร็ว 0.75× พูดตามทีละประโยค แล้วกลับไปใช้ความเร็วปกติเมื่อเริ่มคล่อง
- อัดเสียงตัวเองแล้วเทียบกับต้นฉบับ โดยสังเกตคำอย่าง anxious, emotion, anxiety เป็นพิเศษ
ไวยากรณ์ในวิดีโอนี้
โครงสร้างที่ผู้พูดใช้บ่อยที่สุด พร้อมคำพูดจริงจากวิดีโอ:
| โครงสร้าง | ในวิดีโอ |
|---|---|
| “used to” used to + กริยา — นิสัยหรือสภาพในอดีตที่ตอนนี้ไม่เป็นแล้ว | used to think · used to do · used to be |
| ประโยคเงื่อนไข if + อนุประโยค, will/would + กริยา — เงื่อนไขและผลลัพธ์ | If you've been missing that, that will come · if that continues I'd probably · if that were the case I would have |
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — การกระทำที่เริ่มก่อนหน้านี้และยังดำเนินอยู่ | have been missing · you've been missing · have been saying |
| Present perfect have/has + กริยาช่อง 3 — เหตุการณ์ในอดีตที่ยังเกี่ยวข้องกับปัจจุบัน | has been · I've been · has come |
เทคนิค Shadowing คืออะไร?
Shadowing เป็นเทคนิคการเรียนรู้ภาษาที่ได้รับการรับรองทางวิทยาศาสตร์ พัฒนาขึ้นสำหรับการฝึกนักแปลมืออาชีพ วิธีการนี้เรียบง่ายแต่ทรงพลัง: คุณฟังเสียงภาษาอังกฤษจากเจ้าของภาษาและพูดตามทันที — เหมือนเงาที่ตามผู้พูดด้วยช่วงเวลาห่าง 1-2 วินาที การวิจัยแสดงว่าเทคนิคนี้ปรับปรุงความแม่นยำในการออกเสียง ทำนองเสียง จังหวะ การเชื่อมเสียง การฟังเข้าใจ และความคล่องแคล่วในการพูดได้อย่างมีนัยสำคัญ