Shadowing Practice: How To Read People Using Science - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Babies are way better at reading other people's emotions than adults.
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That means you had this ability once, but you lost it over time.
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Luckily for you, I've spent over 168 hours researching how to read a person using science.
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Basically, there's a thing called the Moravian Communication Formula, which explains how we communicate our emotions.
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Compared to us adults, babies don't know how to talk yet, so they pay more attention to nonverbal and paraverbal communication.
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That's exactly what you have to do in order to find out if someone likes you or not.
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Number 1.
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Nonverbal Communication Here, you have to focus on three areas.
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Legs, hands, and face.
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When it comes to the legs, you have to pay attention to...
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The distance between them.
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Usually, the bigger the distance, the more comfortable the person.
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Up to a certain limit, of course.
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The direction of their feet.
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We tend to point our feet towards someone or something we like.
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The position of the heels.
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If someone's heel is slightly lifted off the ground, it's a sign that they're feeling nervous.
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And after that, we have the hands.
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I'm not gonna bore you with the usual signs like crossed arms, cracking knuckles, or clenched fists.
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But there are a few aspects that you have to keep in mind.
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A. Check the direction of the palms.
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In evolutionary psychology, exposing the palms means that the person in front of you is comfortable and honest.
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B. Notice how their hands are in rapport with you.
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In poker, the players with the best cards tend to keep their hands on them, while the players with bad cards tend to keep their hands away.
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Why?
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Because when we like something we move our hands towards that thing, but when we don't we keep it away.
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See, notice what they do with their hands during the interaction.
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For example, if they touch their forehead It means that they feel anxious.
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On the other hand, if they touch their lips, it might mean they're attracted to you.
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There's no point in enumerating all the meanings behind some gestures now, so I'll just put them on screen.
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But the most important subject is the face.
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The chin being further out and a smooth forehead means that they like you and that they're comfortable.
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On the other hand, if they tuck their chin down and have a furrowed forehead, they feel uncomfortable or even stressed.
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These are the most obvious signs that you can spot.
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But there are also the eyes, the most important part of nonverbal communication.
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Also, they are the hardest to read.
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Before I tell you anything, I want you to look at a pair of eyes right here.
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What emotion are they giving off?
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If you said decisive, you are correct.
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What about this?
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It's desire.
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And finally this.
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It's concerned.
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If you didn't get them right, don't worry.
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I'm gonna give you some specific details that will help you read other people's eyes.
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First, look at their shape.
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If someone narrows their eyes similar to this, it can mean they are either angry, suspicious, or concerned.
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Yet in certain cases, it might just mean that a person is concentrating.
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On the other hand, if someone widens their eyes like this, it can mean that they are either surprised, alert, or even afraid.
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If the person in front of you gets these wrinkles around their eyes, it means that they're truly happy to see you around them.
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Now there's also a special eye shape called closed-set eyes.
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You've probably seen this type of eye shape in a lot of celebrities, but the best example is Marilyn Monroe.
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It happens when a girl has her eyes half-closed while still maintaining eye contact.
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It's usually a sign of desire and interest.
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Most girls do this unconsciously, yet some do it on purpose due to the seductive effect it has on men.
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But besides the shape, you can also read someone's eyes by the direction they're looking at.
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In 1970, Richard Bandlier and John Grinder called this phenomenon neuro-linguistic programming.
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This is actually more helpful when you're trying to figure out if someone is being honest with you.
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But, in 2021, a study that was highlighted in The Atlantic found out
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that people can detect lies better from audio alone than from video or text.
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What does this tell us?
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Although it represents a smaller part of our overall communication, we can't overlook.
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Number 2.
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Paraverbal Communication Here you have to pay attention to three things.
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A. Her Pitch
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A study published in Evolution and Human Behavior found
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that women tend to raise their voice pitch when they are attracted to someone, while men tend to lower their voice pitch.
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B. Elongated Words You see this especially in your interaction with girls.
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If she says something like, Really?
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Instead of really?
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Or, No way?
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Instead of, No way?
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There are a lot of chances that she's into you.
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You probably spotted this kind of behavior through text, and it's one of the biggest signs that she's into you.
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C. Micro-pauses.
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When people pause mid-sentence and suddenly change their pacing, it means that they're either thinking, lying, or emotionally conflicted.
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This usually happens when someone starts to open up about something, but then pulls back because they're afraid of being judged.
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If you spot that, encourage them to continue.
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This alone will build up a better connection.
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Once you get good at the basics of paraverbal communication, you can start analyzing every emotion behind someone's voice by searching for these cues right here.
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Yet, sometimes the key difference between really understanding someone, or completely missing the point is...
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Number 3.
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Verbal Communication What is your gender?
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My gender?
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I'm a mechanic.
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A big sign that a person likes you is that they use tag questions.
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These are questions like, isn't it, or right, at the end of a sentence.
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Why?
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If a person likes you, they'll want to make sure that you two share the same values.
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A similar sign is the fight for airtime phenomenon.
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Basically, they start finishing off your sentences or jump in with stuff like, yeah, exactly.
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But in order for them to finish off your sentences, you have to know how to avoid awkward silence first.
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Fortunately for you, I know the video that shows you how to talk to anyone, anything, Anywhere!
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Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 93 cümle ve 1070 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 6:13 sürüyor. Konuşmacı dakikada yaklaşık 172 kelimeyle, günlük konuşmaya yakın doğal bir hızda konuşuyor. Kelimelerin %86’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında; geri kalanına başlamadan önce bakmakta fayda var.
Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler
Videodan öğrenmeye değer 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| emotion isim | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | duygu, his |
| forehead isim | /ˈfɔɹ.hɛd/ | alın |
| palm isim | /pɑm/ | aya, avuç içi |
| phenomenon isim | /fəˈnɒm.ɪ.nən/ | fenomen |
| chin isim | /ˈt͡ʃɪn/ | çene |
| pause isim | /pɔːz/ | mola, teneffüs |
| heel isim | /hil/ | topuk |
| audio sıfat | /ˈɔ.di.oʊ/ | ses |
| silence isim | /ˈsaɪ̯ləns/ | sessizlik, sükût |
| compare fiil | /kəmˈpɛɚ/ | karşılaştırmak, kıyaslamak |
| encourage fiil | /ɪnˈkʌɹ.ɪd͡ʒ/ | teşvik etmek, cesaretlendirmek |
| narrow sıfat | /ˈnæɹəʊ/ | dar |
| alert sıfat | /əˈlɝt/ | uyanık |
| psychology isim | /saɪˈkɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/ | ruh bilimi |
| awkward sıfat | /ˈɔk.wɚd/ | sakar, beceriksiz |
Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| find out fiil | anlamak, ortaya çıkarmak | |
| figure out fiil | açığa çıkarmak | |
| give off fiil | /ɡɪv ɒf/ | yaymak, saçmak |
Bu videodaki dil bilgisi
Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:
| Yapı | Videoda |
|---|---|
| Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli | was highlighted · are attracted · being judged |
| Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylem | I've spent · You've probably seen |
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Konuşmacı they're, don't, I'm gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 23 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.
- “sh” ve “zh” sesleri: emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, anxious /ˈæŋkʃəs/, suspicious /səˈspɪʃ.əs/, emotionally /ɪˈməʊʃənəli/
- Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, phenomenon /fəˈnɒm.ɪ.nən/, psychology /saɪˈkɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, celebrity /səˈlɛb.ɹɪ.ɾi/, communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/
Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır
- Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
- 0,75× hızla başlayın, cümle cümle tekrar edin ve kolaylaşınca normal hıza dönün.
- Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; emotion, forehead, palm gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.
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