Shadowing Practice: How To Read People Without Them Knowing - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Fans love Sherlock Holmes for his ability to notice things that most people ignore.
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I was wondering, maybe later, when you're finished.
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You weren't wearing lipstick before.
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I, uh...
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While Sherlock is a fictional character, there are ways you can learn to read people in real life to better understand what they're thinking
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and feeling without them saying a word.
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No individual read will be foolproof, but together, they can start to paint a picture for you.
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Not unlike how Sherlock deduced that John Watson had recently served overseas.
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Yesterday, I said Afghanistan or Iraq.
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The haircut, the way you hold yourself says the military, no tan above the wrists.
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If your lips are really bad when you walk, you don't ask for a chair when you stand like you've forgotten about it.
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It's an action, suntan, Afghanistan, Norway, Iraq.
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Since the goal is to help you be more charismatic, we'll focus on reading someone's interest, comfort level, and emotions.
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We'll also go over how you can use this to improve your dating life, career, or friendships.
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While you may never match Sherlock Holmes' detective skills, you can certainly beat him in that.
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I don't have friends.
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Let's start with the easiest thing, reading other people's interest.
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The first place to focus is an obvious one, the direction of their gaze.
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Most of us do this unconsciously already when we're the ones in conversation.
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You can tell when someone's interested because they maintain eye contact, and you can tell someone is losing interest as their gaze starts to wander.
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Where most people don't apply this is when they're observing other people interacting.
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For instance, let's say you're at a party or networking event, and you see someone you want to get to know.
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If you see them looking around a room while somebody talks to them, That's a good sign that they're bored or uncomfortable and would welcome it if you approach their conversation.
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For an over-the-top example from real life, watch Tom Hardy lose interest while Leo answers this interview question.
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These men actually did this and we and within the context of...
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If this were a social event, that'd be a sign that he's open to a different conversation.
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The second thing you want to get better at reading is body language.
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Specifically when it comes to interest, take note of the direction someone's feet are pointing.
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We subconsciously want to point our bodies towards people we have interest in, but most people have learned not to be obvious if they like someone, and so they resist that urge.
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Almost no one tries to consciously control the direction of their feet, which means the feet act like a compass, pointing towards people we're interested in.
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This works for people who are standing as well.
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If you're standing in a group of people, keep an eye out for where people point their feet
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and you'll get a clue as to who is more or less interested in you.
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After engaging someone in conversation, the next thing you'll want to do is read their comfort level.
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This is useful because some people are too polite to express discomfort, but if you can spot it, then you can save a conversation before it goes poorly.
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Some common signs of discomfort are crossed arms, looking down, fidgeting, or shifting your stance.
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But the sign that most often gets ignored is a rigid body.
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Here's an exaggerated example from Suits.
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I'm alive.
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While we'd all hopefully notice that one, you'd be surprised how often people ignore this sign when it's more subtle.
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So let's say you're trying to make a sale, or you've just put your arm around somebody on a first date.
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If their body language stiffens and you continue to push forward, you'll likely make a bad impression.
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But if you notice and ease off, then you still have a chance to establish trust and rapport, and potentially form a great relationship.
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The next level of reading someone is learning to read their emotions.
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Sherlock sometimes goes to unrealistic lengths to read emotions, like in this clip where he explains how he knew Irene wasn't faking her crush on him.
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Because I took your pulse.
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In real life emotions can be harder to read than interest
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or comfort level because it's the area people are most skilled at hiding
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So the question is how do you get a read on someone's emotions when they're actively trying to be unreadable?
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Three areas that give away key details are the face throat and chest
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The first thing to look for is a micro expression on the face
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That's an involuntary expression that only lasts for a moment.
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Sherlock is a master at catching these small changes Learning how to read every single micro expression would take serious training,
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but just being aware enough to look for them gives you a leg up on reading people.
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Because even if you don't catch what the emotion is, seeing a micro expression instantly tells you two things.
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One, something just triggered an emotion so strongly that it wasn't possible to repress it completely.
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Two, because the person didn't allow the emotion to be expressed, you know it's a reaction that the person wants to hide.
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For a real life example, watch Robert Downey Jr. go through a range of micro-expressions in his infamous Channel 4 interview.
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Notice how because he's promoting a movie, he keeps trying to return to a positive face, but he can't hide the other emotions from briefly appearing.
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I'd really like to ask you about a quote you gave to the New York Times.
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And I don't want to pry, so if you don't want to talk about it, that's fine.
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But what you said to the New York Times once was...
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This was a clue to the interviewer that he's entering sensitive territory.
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Unfortunately for him, he was not good at reading Robert that day, so he plowed on and started to ask about his time in prison.
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That question did not go over well and led to the following tense exchange.
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Watch for two things.
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First, Robert makes a good read about the interviewer's nervousness based on his leg.
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And second, Robert's mouth drops when the guy starts to speak again at the end of the clip.
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No, I'm not agreeing.
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Your foot's starting to jump a little bit.
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You better get to your next question.
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You, um...
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We'll come back to this interview again in a minute when we talk about the chest.
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But first, the second area that gives you information about what someone is feeling is their throat.
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Specifically, watch for a hard swallow.
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If you see someone start to swallow their spit more frequently or more noticeably, that is almost always a sign of nerve.
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This is a very reliable sign of nervousness
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and it can also be helpful when you're trying to figure out if someone is lying.
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Although not every hard swallow is a sign of dishonesty.
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The third area that can cue you into someone's feelings is their chest.
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If you see someone's breathing shift from their belly to their chest, that is a sign that they're trying to hold in a negative emotion.
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For example, watch Robert Downey Jr. at the end of this interview as he tries to hold in his anger.
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You've talked in other interviews again about your relationship with your father
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and the role of all of that in the dark periods you entered, and taking drugs and drinking and all of that.
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You can see his chest starts to rise and fall more noticeably as he gets heated.
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Unfortunately, the interviewer is so wrapped up in what he's saying
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that he doesn't read the signs until it's too late and Robert walks out mid-interview.
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So those are six things specifically you can watch for if you want to get better at reading someone's interest, comfort, and emotions.
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But there's one last thing that surprises most people.
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If your goal is to improve your charisma, then the most important person to get good at reading is yourself.
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Look at me, I'm afraid, John.
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Afraid.
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Specifically in areas like social situations or work meetings, pay attention to any time you form a strong positive or negative opinion about someone.
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For example, let's say you're in conversation and catch yourself thinking, wow, I really like this person.
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That's your cue to think back to what they just did or said in the few seconds prior, and consider if it's something you can do yourself going forward in conversation.
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That said, if you want a list of charisma best practices so you don't have to rely solely on reading yourself, I highly, highly recommend How to Win Friends and Influence People.
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Despite this super cheesy title, this is one of the best resources for anyone who wants to improve their people skills.
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The nice thing about Audible is you can listen to it while you're doing things like run errands or doing chores.
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So no matter how busy your day is, you're always able to find time to learn and grow.
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Again, if you wanna try that Audible trial and get How to Win Friends and Influence People for free, you can go to audible.com slash charisma or text charisma to 500-500.
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Either way, I hope that you enjoyed this video and I look forward to seeing you in the next one.
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Bu dersin kelimeleri ve konuşma notları
Bu B2 seviyesindeki konuşma dersi “How To Read People Without Them Knowing” videosuna dayanıyor. En çok tekrarlanan kelimeler: emotion, sign, reading, interest, audible. Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 105 cümle ve 1670 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 8:22 sürüyor. Konuşmacı hızlı konuşuyor, dakikada yaklaşık 200 kelime; bu yüzden birbirine bağlanan ve zayıflayan sesler duyacaksınız. Kelimelerin %85’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında; geri kalanına başlamadan önce bakmakta fayda var.
Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler
Videodaki en ileri düzey 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| emotion isim | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | duygu, his |
| audible sıfat | /ˈɔ.dɪ.bəl/ | işitilir, işitilebilir |
| charisma isim | /kəˈɹɪzmə/ | karizma, çekicilik |
| microwave isim | /ˈmaɪkɹoʊˌweɪv/ | mikrodalga |
| swallow fiil | /ˈswɑ.loʊ/ | yutmak |
| nervousness isim | gerginlik, heyecan | |
| interviewer isim | /ˈɪntɚvjuɚ/ | röportajcı |
| clue isim | /kluː/ | ipucu |
| audiobook isim | /ˈɔdi.oʊbʊk/ | sesli kitap |
| charismatic sıfat | /ˌkɛɹəzˈmætək/ | karizmatik |
| errand isim | /ˈɛɹənd/ | edinme, tedarik |
| exaggerate fiil | /ɛɡˈzæd͡ʒ.ə.ɹeɪt/ | abartmak, mübalağa etmek |
| suntan isim | /ˈsʌnˌtæn/ | bronzlaşma |
| wander fiil | /ˈwɑndɚ/ | gezinmek |
| lipstick isim | /ˈlɪpˌstɪk/ | ruj |
Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller
| Kelime | Anlam |
|---|---|
| figure out fiil | açığa çıkarmak |
| look forward to fiil | iple çekmek, dört gözle beklemek |
Tekrar etmeye değer cümleler
Videodan, günlük konuşmada yeniden kullanabileceğiniz kısa ve tam cümleler:
- I was wondering, maybe later, when you're finished.
- You weren't wearing lipstick before.
- Your foot's starting to jump a little bit.
Bu videodaki dil bilgisi
Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:
| Yapı | Videoda |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylem | you've forgotten · have learned · you've just put |
| Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli | is read · are crossed · be expressed |
| İlgi cümlecikleri who / which + cümle — bir kişi ya da şey hakkında ek bilgi | feet, which means · people who are · anyone who wants |
Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar
Konuşmacı you're, don't, they're gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 46 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.
- “sh” ve “zh” sesleri: emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, unconsciously /ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəsli/, fictional /ˈfɪkʃənəl/, crush /kɹʌʃ/
- Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: audiobook /ˈɔdi.oʊbʊk/, charismatic /ˌkɛɹəzˈmætək/, dishonesty /dɪsˈɒnɪ.sti/, exaggerate /ɛɡˈzæd͡ʒ.ə.ɹeɪt/, involuntary /ɪnˈvɑ.lənˌtɛɹ.i/
Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır
- Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
- 0,75× hızla başlayın, cümle cümle tekrar edin ve kolaylaşınca normal hıza dönün.
- Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; emotion, audible, charisma gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.
Gölgeleme Tekniği Nedir?
Gölgeleme, başlangıçta profesyonel tercüman eğitimi için geliştirilen ve çok dilli Dr. Alexander Arguelles tarafından popüler hale getirilen, bilim destekli bir dil öğrenme tekniğidir. Yöntem basit ama güçlüdür: ana dili İngilizce olan bir sesi dinler ve hemen yüksek sesle tekrar edersiniz — konuşmacıyı 1-2 saniye gecikmeyle takip eden bir gölge gibi. Pasif dinleme veya dilbilgisi alıştırmalarının aksine, gölgeleme beyninizi ve ağız kaslarınızı gerçek konuşma kalıplarını eşzamanlı olarak işlemeye ve yeniden üretmeye zorlar. Araştırmalar, telaffuz doğruluğu, tonlama, ritim, bağlı konuşma, dinleme anlama ve konuşma akıcılığını önemli ölçüde geliştirdiğini göstermektedir — bu da onu IELTS Konuşma hazırlığı ve gerçek dünya İngilizce iletişimi için en etkili yöntemlerden biri yapar.