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Somebody said something interesting to me the other day.

They said, Emma, you know, you kind of feel like a grandmother stuck in a 24-year-old's body.

And when they said this, I took a pause.

And immediately, a bunch of thoughts and feelings that had been bubbling below the surface came to the surface, and I had an epiphany.

That my life is kind of boring.

Considering my age, I'm 24 years old, my life is shockingly boring.

When I think about what it means to be 24 years old based on stories from my elders, the media, et cetera, I think of chaos,

mess, fun, mistakes, irresponsibility, everything that my life is not, basically.

My life is really tame.

I don't drink alcohol.

I don't do drugs.

I don't go to very many parties.

I can't tell you the last time I went to a club, okay?

I don't have a lot of sex.

I'm like the relationship type.

I go to bed at a reasonable hour.

I eat healthy.

I exercise.

I have a routine that I stick to.

I'm incredibly disciplined.

I try to do the right thing.

I think I'm pretty good at doing the right thing.

My life is really tame.

And as much as this is sort of a wonderful thing, like in theory, isn't it wonderful to live a life like this?

I feel like a lot of young people actually are striving to live a life like this.

And by some miracle, I have found myself in this position where I'm living a really beautiful,

healthy life, but I found myself feeling really bored in it and understimulated looking at other 24 year olds and thinking,

should I be living like that?

Have I expedited my life in a way

and ended up in a stage of adulthood that's more developed than where I should be?

Am I wasting my youth being almost too responsible and living almost too healthy and too tame of a life too soon?

It causes a sense of restlessness in me.

And it bothers me because it doesn't make sense.

And so today I thought I'd investigate this feeling.

I thought we could investigate this feeling and maybe try to resolve it.

I want to either reintroduce a level of chaos into my life for the sake of youth,

because I'm only 24 once, you know what I mean?

Or I want to find some level of satisfaction in the lifestyle that I've found myself living.

Come up with some sort of plan.

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Now back to the episode.

Let's start by analyzing how I developed my lifestyle, why I live the way that I do.

Sort of grandmother-esque in the eyes of some and kind of in the eyes of me too.

Although I don't think I live like a grandmother.

Like I'm not full-on grandma.

Like I don't think grandmothers are like popping a zin because yes, I am using the zin.

I'm still addicted to nicotine.

That's like the one naughty thing that I do.

I also occasionally will, I don't know, watch too many YouTube shorts.

That feels kind of naughty in young.

You know, I don't think grandparents are watching YouTube shorts, although I wouldn't be surprised.

But anyway, let's discuss how I got here.

Starting out with my sobriety.

Okay.

I don't participate in alcohol or drugs.

Why?

Because I have a terrible physical reaction.

This is not by choice.

This is not me being like, oh, it's healthier to not participate in these things.

I didn't wake up one day and read an article and then say, you know what?

I'm done.

No. With alcohol, I had to quit because I'm pretty sure I developed an allergy.

Alcohol gives me hives and rashes on my face.

No, actually, I don't know if it's hives.

I get super red and like patchy red on my face when I drink sometimes.

I also developed a nausea from drinking that I didn't used to get towards the end of my drinking career, if you will.

Towards the end of my drinking, I'm having one glass of wine and getting so nauseous

that I either feel like I'm going to throw up or I actually do throw up.

And the combination of everything to me was a sign

that clearly alcohol doesn't work with my body and it made me miserable.

So I stopped drinking and I haven't drank alcohol since October of 2024.

Wait, yeah.

October of 2024.

It's been over a year.

And to be honest, I actually really like being sober.

I'd be super anxious after a night of drinking.

It made me feel gross physically, sluggish, just like shit.

I don't know.

I enjoy not drinking.

It's a bummer because I used to enjoy a little buzz at a party or something.

You know, I used to enjoy the experience of going to a wine bar with friends and getting to fully participate.

I do miss it to an extent, but it wasn't worth it.

And I will say it has forced me to learn to be social, sober, which I think is an incredible skill to have.

So to me, it's okay.

Drugs, marijuana, mushrooms, shit like that freaks me out.

Marijuana, every time I consume marijuana, I have a panic attack.

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I had such a bad panic attack from edibles one time that it permanently changed my brain.

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I'm not kidding.

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My brain has never been the same.

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It made me dissociate so badly for the first time, by the way, I'd never dissociated before.

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So no weed for me.

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Mushrooms.

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I've done mushrooms a few times.

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I actually really enjoyed it, but I'm a little bit too anxious these days to take anything like that.

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I'm too anxious of having a bad trip

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and then being stuck in it to the point where it's not even worth participating.

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And then any other drugs are just dangerous and bad and bad, bad, bad, bad, bad.

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So it doesn't matter.

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I'm not, I wouldn't do those in any circumstance.

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So that's why I'm sober.

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These things just don't react well with me.

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Like, listen, if I wanted to reintroduce a little bit of chaos into my life, could I try drinking again?

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I guess.

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But I don't think, I don't think that's the root of the problem.

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I don't think being sober is the reason for my restlessness.

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Because honestly, when I look back at when I used to drink, it made me so anxious and unhappy.

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And that was at its best when I was having the best reaction to it, the least uncomfortable.

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It was like severe anxiety.

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And then at worst I was having, I would get a rash or be nauseous.

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You see what I'm saying?

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So I don't think that's the issue.

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Okay, next, I don't go out very much.

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I think there's a few reasons for this.

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Number one, my friends are older for the most part, between like five and maybe like five and nine years older than me.

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And the age difference is noticeable when it comes to going out

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because they've already gone through the going out phase of being in your 20s.

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They're now all in relationships,

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comfortable, satisfied, and they don't feel the pull to go out as much as maybe I do being single and 24.

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So if your friend group doesn't wanna go out, go to a club, doesn't wanna go to a party just for the sake of going to a party,

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doesn't want to go to a bar just for the sake

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of going to a bar you're not going to end up

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going you know you're going to do what the rest of

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the group wants to do i don't necessarily mind this

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because in reality i don't really even enjoy doing those things either

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but there are times where i'm like i'm itching to go

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out i need to go out i need to be social my friends are like emma we're tired

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we're tired no no that's not to say that i don't like

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that i never go out i do go out sometimes you You know, I'll go to a party every once in a while.

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I will go to a bar every once in a while, but less frequently than other 24 year olds that I know.

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But as I said, though, too, I don't wanna go to a club.

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It's too loud, it's not fun, unless you're under the influence of something, which I obviously am not.

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It's just not, it just doesn't work for me.

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If anything, I prefer something more social, like a party or a bar.

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But even that is sort of hit or miss.

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Like I'll find myself itching to go out, itching, itching, itching to go out.

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And then I'll go to a bar or go to a party or something.

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And I'll be like, ew, I'm bored.

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This is not that fun.

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People are, you know, being maybe less social than I expected.

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This is just less stimulating than I anticipated.

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Like, I could have skipped that.

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Moving on to my sort of boring love life.

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Okay.

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I am usually in a long-term relationship.

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When I'm not, like right now, I don't really like casual hookups and I don't love serial dating.

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If you don't know what serial dating is, serial dating is, according to the internet.

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A serial dater is someone who frequently dates many different people in succession, often moving quickly from one relationship to the next without much downtime,

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driven by a love for the thrill of new romance, avoiding commitment, fearing loneliness, or seeking validation and attention.

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They enjoy the early exciting stages of dating, but get bored easily or shy away from deep commitment.

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When I think of an exciting love life for someone in their early 20s, I think of having sex,

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making out with random people at the bar, going home with people and having sex.

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I think of going on a bunch of first dates that are like shitty and being like, God damn it.

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That one was bad.

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That one was bad too.

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Now I need to go on another date or, oh my God, I'm in love with this person just to then be like, ew, I hate them a week later.

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Like this sort of excitement drama, I've tried it a little, you know, I've tried the casual hookup thing and without fail, every single time I feel icky afterwards.

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I don't feel good.

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I feel gross.

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And I don't think that has anything to do with societal expectations or beliefs or feelings around casual sex.

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I actually don't think it has anything to do with external factors like that.

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I think it's strictly the experience of being romantic with somebody that I'm not close with.

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I don't necessarily feel 100% comfortable and safe with.

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That experience to me is icky.

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I'm attracted to safety as much as I'd love to be like having random sex and stuff.

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Because there is something satisfying about that when you're single.

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It's sort of a, I don't know, it makes you feel in control of, how do I put this?

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Having casual sex is a reminder that you're attractive, that people want to be with you, that they're attracted to you,

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which is reassuring in a moment of singlehood.

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I absolutely have moments when I'm single, experiencing it right now, where I'm like, does mama still got it or what?

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Like, does anyone like me?

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Or it would be nice if someone would be really interested in me,

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like would be interested me sexually because I'm a little nervous that people don't, that no one likes me.

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Do you know what I'm saying?

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And this is just the truth of it, the reality of it.

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If I were to do that, it would be, I think for the wrong reasons.

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And that's not the case for everybody, but the case for me.

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And so that's why I don't have casual sex.

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It sounds like it would be fun, but every time I've done it, it has not been fun.

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Could I potentially get out there and experiment and try it again.

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I could, I could, but I'm at the risk of not honoring my past experiences

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in potentially putting myself in a situation where I'm deeply uncomfortable at my own hand.

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And why would I, it's like, so yeah, I could do that.

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But then it's like, that actually seems like I'm, I'm actively making a choice to ignore what I know about myself.

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And that seems self-destructive.

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Like it just doesn't seem smart.

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In addition to not enjoying casual sex, I also don't like serial dating.

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The idea of going on a bunch of first dates

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and getting to the honeymoon phase with a bunch of different people

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and then cutting it off and then starting something new and fresh again, even though it's a bit toxic, perhaps it sounds fun, right?

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It sounds fun.

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It sounds exciting.

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But for whatever reason, I don't like the beginning stages in a relationship.

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I don't like the honeymoon phase.

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I like the part of the relationship when we're farting, we're super close.

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I don't feel like I have to read into what someone's saying.

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We can just be completely open because we've made a commitment to one another.

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And a lot of the guesswork is taken out when that commitment is made.

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I prefer the later stages in a relationship if anything.

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The beginning is quite stressful for me.

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I tend to overthink it or not even overthink it, but I tend to sort of obsess over it in a way because that's what's fun about it.

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It's a distraction.

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It's almost drug-like in the beginning when you're so excited and you have such a big crush, it's all consuming.

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And to some that's an escape and that's fun and that's exciting.

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To me, that's exhausting and stressful and frightening.

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And I would rather just skip ahead to being in a committed relationship and being extremely comfortable together, which is why I don't serial date.

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I have never even attempted serial dating.

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I have literally only ever gone on dates with guys I'm dating already, like that are my boyfriend.

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I usually know when I wanna date somebody before we've even gone on a date

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because either they're a mutual friend or we've started talking via text message.

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And by the time we're like going on a date, we're already kind of dating.

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Does that make sense?

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And I've never even gotten into that stage with somebody who I haven't ended up dating long term.

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I don't go on random dates.

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The idea of serial dating exhausts me.

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It seems like an emotional roller coaster, you know, getting into the honeymoon phase with somebody.

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And then once that starts to dwindle, leaving it and moving on to the next or whatever.

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or just going on a bunch of dates and having sort of a roster of like, these are all the guys I'm casually dating right now.

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Like that experience, though it seems more stimulating and interesting, also seems exhausting and it actually is sort of unappealing to me.

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But as much as it is unappealing to me, I look at other people my age doing that and I, again, kind of envy it.

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It seems like it would be so fun and exciting to date that way but also I think deep down, I know the reality wouldn't work for me.

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I'm not going to start having random sex and I'm not going to start building my dating roster of like 20 guys.

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20 would be a lot.

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I don't even, I don't even think there's 20 guys in this.

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I don't know that, that, yeah, that's not that, that's let's say five guys, burgers and fries.

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Okay, fine.

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Let's say six guys.

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Moving on, I live a very healthy lifestyle, okay?

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I exercise, I go on my morning walks, I go to my hot yoga,

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I eat nutritious foods, things such as lentils,

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vegetables, and fruits, and proteins.

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I tend to cook for myself.

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I don't order food delivery very often.

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I live a very healthy lifestyle, which not in a toxic way though, I don't think at this point in my life,

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it's not like I don't eat dessert ever.

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It's not like I'm out at a restaurant with my friends and I'm like, no, no, no, I'm healthy.

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So I'm not going to have a bite of the pecan pie.

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That's not accurate.

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I of course will eat the pecan pie.

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In fact, I'll probably eat more of it than anyone else because I love a dessert.

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But day to day, I'm going to my workouts, I'm going on my walks and I'm eating nutritiously and healthily.

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I don't know, in a weird way, when I think of being in your early 20s, I think of eating an entire bag of Cheez-Its for dinner, staying up too late.

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I imagine laying in bed all day sometimes.

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I imagine all these different things because when you're young, you can get away with it and you don't feel as bad.

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You don't feel the repercussions as severely when you're young.

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You can get away with saying, fuck it, I'm not gonna exercise for two months, fuck it.

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I'm not gonna eat any vegetables for two months.

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You can do that.

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And yet I very early in my life discovered that I feel so much better when I live a very healthy life.

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That also includes, you know, even going to bed early or not even necessarily early, but at a responsible hour and waking up at a responsible hour.

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There was a time I would say when I was a teenager where I did all the things I'm describing, you know, I'd eat an entire bag of cheese.

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That's for dinner and have a terrible stomachache from it.

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I would go to bed at four in the morning.

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I wouldn't exercise for months on end.

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And you don't want to know what I felt like shit.

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I felt fucking terrible.

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I felt physically terrible, but also mentally terrible.

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I felt horrible.

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So it's very odd once again, that I'm questioning, like I'm like feeling,

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um, I'm feeling restless about a lifestyle that does actually make me feel physically good.

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If I were to drop my healthy habits for the sake of chaos, which sounds ridiculous, but again,

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we're having a bizarre sort of conversation here because I'm experiencing a feeling that's sort of bizarre and confusing

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and doesn't really make any sense.

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If I were to drop all of my healthy habits

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and regress technically and go back and start eating foods that aren't nutritious and sleeping bad hours and not exercising,

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I would hate my life.

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My quality of life would be worse.

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That's not gonna work.

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So I don't know.

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Now back to the episode.

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Next, I stick to a very consistent routine.

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Like my life for the most part is consistent and pretty mundane.

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Like it rarely deviates from routine.

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same thing every single day, which I think is pretty common for most people of all ages.

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But my particular routine feels very, it feels a bit, it does feel a little bit grandma coded.

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The spark notes of my daily routine is wake up early, make my coffee.

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Recently, I've been journaling, go on a walk, do chores, work, take a break from working, exercise, come home, get back to work, cook dinner.

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Oh, probably earlier in the day I cooked something for breakfast and lunch, do more chores, feed my cats.

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I also fed my cats earlier in the day too.

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Talk to my loved ones on the phone, go to bed, repeat.

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Now, let me ask myself, what do I think most 24-year-olds are doing on a day-to-day basis?

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Probably the same thing.

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But when I imagine the lifestyle of others in their early 20s, I think of people going out to dinners on weeknights going to parties on weeknights,

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waking up late on accident.

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I don't know.

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Like it just a little bit more, ah, je ne sais quoi, or not even je ne sais quoi, but like a little bit more chaos.

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You know what I'm saying?

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My, it's like so chill my life.

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It's so relaxed.

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It's like, it's so consistent and so simple and so healthy.

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But I think probably most people, like that's probably most people's routine.

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So I don't know why I'm sort of, it seems that what I'm doing is as I'm describing all of this it seems

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that I'm doing two things number one I'm creating a false

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version of what a normal 24 year old's life looks like a romanticized version a dramaticized version

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and I'm comparing my life to that and

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that comparison is making me feel restless what I'm comparing my life to is something

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that is ultimately not real and and is seems more fun

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and more loose and more exciting and maybe even happier because I'm romanticizing it a little bit.

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And as they say, the grass is always greener.

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It's almost like I'm looking at what I think other 24 year olds are doing.

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And I'm like, wait, that looks more fun.

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I'm all buttoned up over here.

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I'm being responsible.

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And it feels so boring.

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The grass is always greener.

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It seems that's the first thing that's going on here.

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The other thing that seems to be going on here is that I think in order to live my life this way, I have to be very disciplined.

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And I think the level of discipline

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that it takes to live my life the way that I do is sort of fatiguing for me in a way.

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Those things don't necessarily come naturally.

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And the lifestyle itself is a bit under stimulating for me.

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And so I find myself between sort of a rock and a hard place here where I'm like, okay, I can't go backwards.

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I know better, you know, after analyzing my lifestyle, I don't see any areas where I could in good faith regress.

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Like, why would I regress?

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Technically, it's like I've actually arrived at a really good place here and I to go backwards is stupid.

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It's actually stupid, but I'm feeling restless.

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So what is that restlessness?

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And it seems that the restlessness is stemming from a combination of comparison

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and also there being a lack of stimulation in my life.

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My disciplined, routine, healthy life is not stimulating enough for me.

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So how do I address these issues?

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Let's brainstorm together.

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What should I do?

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What should I do?

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To start, I think I need to work on being mindful about this.

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I think I need to integrate a bit of mindfulness

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when I find myself comparing my life to other fictional 24 year olds, I need a reality check, a self-inflicted reality check.

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I think number one, I need to stop romanticizing things I know don't work for me.

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Just because the fictional 24 year old in my head

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that I'm comparing myself to has a bunch of fun with a roster of six people that they're dating at once.

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And they went to bed at five in the morning because they were clubbing all night.

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I need to remind myself why I don't do those things.

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I could if I wanted to.

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Why don't I do them?

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Because I know better, because I know that it doesn't work for me, because I know it actually makes me miserable.

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So I need to remind myself

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that I'm comparing myself to a fictional 24-year-old for one and also remind myself why I don't do those things.

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Remind myself of the times when I have done those things

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and how I felt instead of just subconsciously sort of gnawing on this fictional 24-year-old character in my head.

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I need to bring that to the forefront of my head

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and address it head on and remember the truth of the situation.

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Next, I need to stay in my own lane.

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It doesn't matter what anyone else is doing.

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I need to stay in my own lane and focus on my own life.

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I need to put my energy towards my life

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and ignore what other people are doing or what other people are saying about what I'm doing.

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It doesn't matter.

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I need to put my head down and stay in my lane.

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When I catch myself comparing my life to a fictional 24-year-old or even a real 24-year-old, because that actually does happen sometimes too.

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I would say most of the time I'm comparing myself to

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sort of this idea of what I think I should be doing at my age, but sometimes it is an actual real person.

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I need to focus on me.

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Everybody's on their own journey.

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I know that.

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I need to remind myself of that when I find myself struggling with this.

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And lastly, I think I need to focus on gratitude

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for how good my lifestyle makes me feel

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because I haven't always felt this good and I rarely take time to be grateful for how good I feel.

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I put a lot of effort into feeling good.

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I should take him in every once in a

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while to acknowledge how good I feel compared to how bad I used to feel

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when I was younger and I hadn't implemented the habits that I've implemented.

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Attempting to turn my restlessness into gratitude might be the move.

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Moving on from mindfulness, I've also tried to think about some activities

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that I could integrate into my life that maybe would help with this feeling of restlessness.

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Number one, cooking meals from scratch.

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I actually already started doing this.

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It was one of my New Year's resolutions.

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I want to cook things really from scratch, like not just like, oh, you know, I got like a loaf of bread from the store

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and then now I'm I wanna make avocado toast on that bread that I bought from the store.

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I wanna start making my own bread.

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Or like, you know, instead of going and getting a can of soup from the grocery store, I wanna make my own soup.

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I've really gotten into it and I've really loved it.

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Do I think that it's solved my feelings of restlessness?

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No, but it's not completely, but it has helped.

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So I wanna continue doing that and continue cooking things from scratch because it's so immersive.

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You're so immersed in the experience and there's such a wonderful reward, yummy food.

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I think the distraction and the excitement of that, at least for me, has been helpful.

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So I'm going to continue doing that and continue to make more

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and more challenging recipes because I think the challenge is what makes it riveting.

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Another thing I want to start doing, hosting social gatherings, either at my house or out somewhere.

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I think it is really important for me to be social.

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And I've found that the more social that I'm being, the less restless I feel.

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But I will say that, you know, the traditional methods of socializing seemingly don't work for me, right?

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Like, I don't love going out to the club.

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I don't love going out even to a bar or a party.

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So perhaps I could put together some sort of social gathering

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that appeals to me and will probably appeal to others whether that's like, you know, a weekend trip with a group of friends

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or a dinner party at my house or a dinner party at a restaurant or a game night.

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I need to host more gatherings that are interesting to me.

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I can't rely on other people to create these experiences for me.

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If I want these experiences more frequently in my life, I need to put the effort in

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and I need to actually create these experiences instead of waiting for these things to pop up a few times a year?

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Why don't I create them?

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And last but not least, try to become friends with more boys to help with my dating craving.

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Obviously, I feel like my love life is very boring and under stimulating.

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Well, why don't I become friends with more boys and develop crushes on them?

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That seems like the perfect happy medium.

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And that's something I've wanted to do anyway, but it's just hard.

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But perhaps I could become friends with more boys through hosting social gatherings.

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I can say, bring whoever you want to my social gathering.

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And who knows, some cute boys might come and then I could become friends with them.

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And then I could have crushes on them.

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And then, you know, I'm not going to serial date them.

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I'm just going to be friends.

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And then when I really like one of them, eventually I'll confess my love or I will wait until they confess their love to me

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because I am too scared usually to make the first move.

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Okay.

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So those are some ideas of activities that could help with my restlessness.

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Last but not least, I think I could benefit from a bit more spontaneity.

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I think there's a way to be spontaneous without regressing in reintroducing bad habits, right?

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Spontaneity, I think could help bring some excitement into my life.

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It's excitement without chaos.

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A few, ways I could be spontaneous.

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Number one, saying yes to every opportunity to travel or maybe not every opportunity to travel, but there are times when I'm so in the minutia of my routine.

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I'm like, I don't want to travel right now.

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So an opportunity to travel might come up

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and I might pass on it because I am

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so in the flow of my routine that I don't want to do it.

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I think travel is a great opportunity to be spontaneous to sort of shake up your reality a little bit.

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So if like all my friends are like, hey, we're doing a little weekend trip to here.

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You know what?

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Fuck it.

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I'll cancel some responsibilities that I had that weekend to go

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and do that because I think that that's really important to me.

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That's that's what I'm talking about.

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Now, is that going to come up on a monthly basis even?

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Probably not.

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But as often as these types of things come up, I should try to take those opportunities.

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Also, a less extreme version and probably a more frequent opportunity, saying yes to spontaneous plans with friends.

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Again, as I said with the travel, I will sometimes be like, ah, you know, like I had plans to work this weekend

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because I didn't get as much done this week as I wanted to and nobody made any plans with me this weekend, so I'm going to work this weekend.

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And then if spontaneous plans were to come up that weekend, I'd be like, oh no, I can't.

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so I'd skip out on the fun activity less of

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that more saying yes

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because ultimately those memories are more important you know you listen there are times

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when you got to get done what you got to get done

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but clearly I'm experiencing an extreme where it's like I don't

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have enough spontaneity in my life you know I could use a little bit more than I have

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so I'm gonna attempt to say yes to more spontaneous plans with friends

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and maybe even create more spontaneous plans with friends you know, if I'm bored on a Saturday afternoon, instead of laying around or whatever,

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or filling that time with responsibilities, why not call my friends up and say, should we just go to Disneyland tonight randomly?

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Like shit like that.

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I don't know.

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Another idea would be to make an effort to break routine by trying a new grocery store, a new coffee shop, a new workout class, etc. I've talked about this before,

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because occasionally I will do this.

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And without fail, every single time.

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It is such a grounding experience that forces me to be present.

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I'm such a creature of habit that anytime I change one little thing in my routine,

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it really like shocks my brain out of autopilot and I'm forced to be present in such a beautiful way.

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Every once in a while, it's really nice to sort of shake up the minute details in routine.

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I think I could do that a little bit more often.

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And I think when I find myself feeling restless, that might be a time to try something new

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or even potentially like changing up my work week maybe instead of taking saturday

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and sunday off one week i take monday

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and tuesday off minute little tweaks in routine can really kind

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of energize you in a weird way i don't know

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so i need to i need to integrate a little bit more of

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that into my life perhaps here's the thing i don't really

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know what's going on the reason why i wanted to talk about it is

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because I feel like people might look at my life and my lifestyle and think, wow, you know, she has her shit together.

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She lives such a healthy, responsible lifestyle.

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You know, I don't feel like my life is like that.

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I feel like I need more discipline

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or I feel like I need to be more responsible

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or I feel like I need to focus more on my health and well-being.

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I feel like people might look at my life and be like

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and compare and feel bad and I wanted to discuss this

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because I wanted to show you

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that the grass is always greener you can really have your shit together

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and still and there and just because of how the world works

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because of how human brains work we'll still find something to

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to whine about do you know what I'm saying I don't know.

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And I think it's just proof that there's always more work to do.

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You like, there's no such thing as arriving.

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You're never going to exist in a perfect version of your life.

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There's always going to be work to do.

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And it's shocking to me that I'm probably living the healthiest,

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most fulfilling version of my life I ever have in my life.

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And I'm, and I'm feeling restless within minute how hilarious is

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that but hopefully in like six months from now I can come back to you

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and tell you how I resolved the feeling of restlessness I

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mean I think analyzing it to this extent has helped me a lot

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and I have somewhat of a plan moving forward some things to try

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but I'll keep you updated the intent of this episode was

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not to answer questions it was more to just explore

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so we'll see give me a few months and maybe I'll get back to you that's it for this

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I hope you enjoyed it.

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If you did this 24 year old grandma posts new episodes of anything goes every Thursday

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If you want to watch video that's on YouTube

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and Spotify Listen anywhere else you get podcasts on social media

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at anything goes I'm on the internet at Emma Chamberlain

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and my coffee company is Chamberlain coffee That's all for today and i'll talk to you in a week from now.

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I love you all I appreciate you all and i'm gonna go do some grandma shit like bird watching and like

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crocheting and making cookies for my grandkids.

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That's what I'm going to go do.

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So I'll talk to you later.

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I actually don't do any of that stuff except for making, well, I do love birds and I do love watching them, but I don't have binoculars and I don't have grandkids, but I do like cooking and baking.

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So I have been doing that lately.

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So I guess I have been doing that too.

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And I don't crochet.

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That is a step too far.

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I'm not ready to crochet yet.

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I have the second half of my life to crochet.

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So we're waiting on that for as long as possible.

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Okay.

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Anyway, I love you all.

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I appreciate you all.

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Thank you for listening.

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Talk to you soon.

534

Talk to you next week.

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Love you and bye.

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I just said all of that, I think twice.

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So anyway, okay.

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Love you.

539

Bye.

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Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler

Videodan öğrenmeye değer 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:

Kelime	Telaffuz	Anlam
lifestyle isim	/ˈlaɪfˌstaɪl/	yaşantı, hayat tarzı
bore fiil	/boɹ/	burgulamak
compare fiil	/kəmˈpɛɚ/	karşılaştırmak, kıyaslamak
spontaneous sıfat	/spɑnˈteɪ.ni.əs/	kendiliğinden, spontan
chaos isim	/ˈkeɪˌɑs/	teşevvüş
casual sıfat	/ˈkæʒ(u)əl/	tesadüfen, şans eseri
remind fiil	/ɹəˈmaɪnd/	hatırlatmak, anımsatmak
habit isim	/ˈhæb.ɪt/	alışkanlık, adet
discipline isim	/ˈdɪsəplɪn/	disiplin
stash isim	/stæʃ/	gizli depo
participate fiil	/pɑːˈtɪs.ɪ.peɪt/	katılmak, iştirak etmek
sake isim	/ˈseɪ̯k/	gaye, kast
excitement isim	/ɪkˈsaɪtmənt/	heyecan, teheyyüç
grandma isim	/ˈɡɹænmɑː/	nine
anxious sıfat	/ˈæŋkʃəs/	endişeli, kaygılı

Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller

Kelime	Telaffuz	Anlam
go out fiil		çıkmak
wake up fiil	/ˌweɪk ˈʌp/	uyanmak
put together fiil		birleştirmek, bir araya getirmek
take out fiil		çıkarmak

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Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:

Yapı	Videoda
“Used to” used to + fiil — artık geçerli olmayan eski bir alışkanlık ya da durum	used to get · used to enjoy · used to drink
Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — önceden başlayıp hâlâ süren bir eylem	I've been journaling · have been doing
Koşul cümleleri if + cümle, will/would + fiil — bir koşul ve sonucu	if you don't have yours yet, you'll find
Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylem	have found · Have I expedited · I've found

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“th” sesleri: gathering /ˈɡæð.ɚ.ɪŋ/, grandmother /ˈɡɹæn(d)ˌmʌðɚ/, gather /ˈɡæðɚ/, leather /ˈlɛðɚ/
“sh” ve “zh” sesleri: casual /ˈkæʒ(u)əl/, fictional /ˈfɪkʃənəl/, stash /stæʃ/, anxious /ˈæŋkʃəs/, potentially /pəˈtɛnʃ(ə)li/
Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: spontaneous /spɑnˈteɪ.ni.əs/, necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, participate /pɑːˈtɪs.ɪ.peɪt/, potentially /pəˈtɛnʃ(ə)li/, marijuana /ˌmɛɹɪˈwɑ.nə/

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