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Optimism is the enemy of love.
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If we think that we will have a perfect love story, no, it's not gonna happen.
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We need to accept that even a really good relationship has constant moments of crisis.
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So pessimism is not an enemy of love.
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Knowing that there is no such thing as the right person actually helps you to find a good enough person.
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You know, compatibility is not a precondition of love.
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Compatibility is the fruit of love.
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My name is Alain de Botton.
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I'm a philosopher, psychotherapist, and founder of the School of Life.
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The playbook for a successful relationship.
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First of all, the idea of a playbook sounds strange.
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The idea of a playbook that you need to create to get in a relationship sounds really odd.
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You think, I don't need a playbook.
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I just need to head on in there, get a dating app, and off I go, and a nice new pair of clothes.
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But isn't it interesting and wouldn't it be lovely to have a playbook
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that would be trying to guide you to acquire the knowledge that you need for love?
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So the idea that love is a skill rather than an emotion is a strange one,
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but I think an absolutely essential one in the worldview that I'm positing.
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You know, if somebody said, I'm going to climb
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Mount Everest or K2, you would say, OK, how have you prepared for this?
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And you'd be expecting them to show up with ropes, with training programs, with oxygen, with specially prepared packs of food.
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You can get the metaphor.
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We walk into the mountain of love without sufficient preparation and equipment.
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And then we're surprised that we routinely tumble off the mountain and we blame the other person.
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We say we didn't match the right person.
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We haven't found our person.
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We go back on the dating app and we go ever further to try and find the right person.
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Don't get me wrong.
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Dating apps have their role.
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Sometimes we need to scan and see who's out there
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and find a person who halfway meets us where we want to be.
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But once you've found a more or less suitable person, that's when the work begins.
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And the work is to turn a stranger into somebody that you can understand and who can understand you without bottling it,
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without panicking, without throwing them in the bin, without saying we can't work this out if after five weeks
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and a pleasant mini break in Copenhagen we suddenly have a conflict.
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No, the point is you need to stay where you are and try and figure it out.
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But most people give up too soon, they say we can't possibly do this, and they run for the hills, go back on the dating app
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and find the next person with whom
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they will then try out an equally unfulfilling attempt to match their heart with a stranger's.
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What we need to do is to start to create right people rather than search for them.
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And what does that mean to create a right person?
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It means to work on yourself psychologically and therapeutically so
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that you understand your script from childhood and do not simply play it out onto innocent person after innocent person,
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that you take responsibility for the problems that you are bringing into a relationship.
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At the School of Life, which I founded, an institution that is dedicated to emotional growth and development,
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we tell our people that when they're on a date with somebody, among the first questions is to ask people playfully, how are you crazy?
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What does that mean, how are you crazy?
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Why is everybody crazy?
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They're not necessarily crazy.
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Well, all of us have stuff that we need to be on top of.
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And if your person at dinner says to you, yeah, I get the question.
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Yeah, I've got my crazy and my crazy is this, my crazy is that, my father, my mother.
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This is turning out to be a safe person.
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If the person goes, how do you mean?
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I can't possibly answer that question.
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That's rude.
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You think I'm not right or imperfect.
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Run for the hills.
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Drop it right there and then.
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I'm exaggerating, but this is probably not a person you should be hanging out with
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because none of us need or can have perfect partners.
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But what we can have and must search for
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and must try to become is people who know enough about
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their patterns to be able to warn their prospective partners of what's going on and take averting action.
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The beginning of therapeutic relationships is to know that two people,
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when entering a couple, are not entering without a lot of history.
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It is essential that couples learn as much as possible about
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that history so that they are ready for the challenges and perplexities of love.
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A therapeutic relationship requires that each partner get on top of their dynamics
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that date back to childhood and are able to discuss them with relative grace, patience, and insight with their partner so that when problems arise,
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and they will, they can adopt a therapeutic language.
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It is therapeutic to say, for example, when there is a conflict.
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I hear your point of view.
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It may not be mine, but I hear that it's yours.
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It is not therapeutic to say you're wrong, you're an idiot and you're just like your mother or indeed like your father.
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This is not therapeutic.
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I'm kidding, but I'm making a very serious point indeed.
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We do not tend to talk to each other in therapeutically informed language.
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We shout, we scream, we blame, we shape shift.
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We don't take responsibility.
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We do all sorts of things that doom us in relationships.
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Then we stand back and we say we're surprised.
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We are a society that is obsessed with finding the right person without pausing to think, how do I become the right person?
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How do I work on myself?
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Understanding that cannot be done simply, and this is paradoxical, by being on your own.
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This is another unbelievable mystery.
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You can't understand yourself just by being with yourself.
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You need other people.
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Why is that?
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It's like, why do you need a mirror to see the back of your head? because we don't have eyes there.
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We need someone to help us to see the things that are really hard for us to see.
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And psychotherapy gives us a forum in which we can come, tell the therapist about what's going on in our lives, explain what happened last Monday,
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explain what happened when we took that trip to New York or Buffalo, wherever it is, what happened, and then slowly pattern recognition sets in.
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The therapist is able to go, it's funny in that last relationship you did this this new relationship you're doing
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that and you mentioned that your parent did something
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that sounds kind of similar so I wonder what's going on
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and then slowly insight comes we start to put the pieces together
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we think I'm up to something I'm doing something and
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that way is liberation we can start to break the unconscious stories
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that we're living psychotherapy works with this concept known as defenses or defense mechanisms.
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In other words, these are tools that our minds adopt to try and shield themselves from accurate knowledge of their own workings.
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This could sound really odd, like why don't we just embrace self -knowledge with open arms?
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Why do we need to run away from it?
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The answer is that knowledge of ourselves is frightening.
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It's really awful to have to learn certain things.
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It may make us very anxious.
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It may make us so sorrowful.
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It may panic us.
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And so we push away unwelcome information.
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I think that we still perhaps can't quite bear how complicated we are.
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You know, we're very squeamish creatures.
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We don't like to sit with ourselves.
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We don't like to sit with our emotions.
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Self -knowledge remains an enormously elusive goal.
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You know, I think it is the most important goal of life.
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To understand oneself is literally the meaning of life.
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The ancient Greeks knew this, you know, know thyself was the most important command in ancient
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Greek culture and philosophy.
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Know thyself, most important thing you could do.
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If you said nowadays, you know, in a conversation with friends or colleagues, you know, what's your goal?
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Where are you trying to get to next year?
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What are you trying to do?
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Say, know thyself.
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People would go, that's a strange person there.
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We don't know about this person, right?
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It's not an acceptable goal.
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We know that it's good to make money.
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We know that it's good to travel to foreign countries to learn how to fry garlic and to learn salsa.
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It's not particularly esteemed to know yourself.
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And that's why we wander around strangers to ourselves and therefore enormously confusing, and let's put it frankly, dangerous to other people.
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Because a person who doesn't understand themselves.
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You know, if confronted with their behavior, will go, it wasn't me, I didn't do it, or I can't think, or, you know, ask me tomorrow.
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They can't account for themselves.
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They don't know why they do the stuff they do.
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They will simply, in a relationship, for example, bail out of a relationship going, you know, it's getting too intense. And why?
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They don't know.
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They don't understand what they themselves are doing.
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Even though, you know, they may have spent five years learning Spanish.
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They may have taken an advanced degree in Japanese.
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They may be very active in all sorts of ways.
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They may have learned pottery.
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They may be holding down a great job in marketing, something.
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But the point is they will not have learned the really true constituents of emotional functioning
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because they've been able to get away with it.
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And part of the playbook of becoming a better lover is to dial down your defense mechanisms, to observe them.
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Typical defense mechanism is to push responsibility onto other people to say
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it's your fault for example someone tries to tell you something about yourself someone says i think
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that you you know you're a little bit this when
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that happens you know and rather than going thank you let me think about
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that you go why are you being rude uh
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or this is not a good time for me
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or i can't absorb this now in other words you push away information
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that might have helped you not because it's false but because it's difficult to absorb and that's often
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what happens to us all of us all of us are
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involved in defense mechanisms all of us can't quite bear the full truth about ourselves
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it helps us to go to psychotherapy i know
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that you know ai is you know delivers some aspects of therapy
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it can be good at points the good thing about a real human being is
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that they are not guided just by you they've got their own independent judgment
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and also you're in a relationship with them and
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that relationship is part of what heals you
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because the relationship with the therapist is a harbinger of the relationship that you can then take out into the world,
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a relationship of trust and mutual understanding.
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This is something that AI is not going to be able to replace anytime soon.
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So we need to understand ourselves.
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We need to understand the past.
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And then we need a certain spirit.
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One of the things that we need in that playbook of love is a good sense of humor.
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That could sound superfluous, like what on earth, you know, why do we need a sense of humor?
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Well, a sense of humor is a modesty about our capacity to understand anything.
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And if we can signal to our partners that, you know, we're a little stupid, we don't get it, we don't have all the answers,
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that is a wonderful emollient, it's a wonderful lubricant to love because it just dials down the temperature.
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If your partner is able to say, ah, I may not have understood this, I may not be getting it, that's brilliant.
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And if they can make a little joke too, that's great.
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You know, if two people can learn to see each other as idiots, but lovable idiots.
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That's a beautiful moment in love.
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It could sound negative.
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It's not, it's not.
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It's the most generous thing you can do.
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We are two blind people helping each other to find a way forward.
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If that's the spirit in which we can enter love, that is a spirit of generosity, a spirit of mutual forgiveness.
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Too often we get on our high horses.
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This is the way it is.
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I know the answer.
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This is what I think.
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That is not a friend of love.
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So we need, if you like a modesty, a humorous modesty.
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Let me give you another idea.
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Another thing that we need in order to make love work is a certain degree of pessimism.
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You know, optimism is the enemy of love.
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If we think that we will have a perfect love story, a love story with no ruffles in it, with no kinks in it,
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no, it's not going to happen.
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We need to accept that even a really good relationship has constant moments of crisis.
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And that's okay.
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The problem is not crisis.
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The problem is how do we repair crises?
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Can we repair them with forgiveness, with understanding, and most of all, with curiosity?
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Can we get curious about why we had a bus stop?
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Can we be searching for why our attachment patterns are not compatible?
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Can we get interested in why we're difficult to love?
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And that way, will become easier to love.
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So pessimism is not an enemy of love.
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Knowing that there is no such thing as the right person actually helps you to find a good enough person.
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You know, a few years ago, I read an essay that went viral.
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I read it for the New York Times.
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It was called, Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person.
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Why did that essay go viral?
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I think it went viral because people all feel, sorry, let me correct that not all people,
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but many, many people feel that they have married the wrong person.
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And they panic about this and they feel so ashamed.
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So here's an essay in the New York Times that says, yeah, we're all going to marry the wrong person.
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And you know what?
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It's okay.
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You don't need to marry the right person.
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You need to marry a good enough person.
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You know, compatibility is not a precondition of love.
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Compatibility is the fruit of love if we get together with someone and we find that there are differences, right?
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They have one kind of attachment style, we have another.
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They like golf, we like tennis.
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They like the curtains to be green, we like the curtains to be yellow, whatever it is.
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Too often in modern romantic dating culture, the answer is get out, just get out.
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Find someone else, find someone better.
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And that's why all the technological tools are all about putting new people in front of you.
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Of course, sometimes you need to find new people, But as much as finding new people,
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what you need to do is to learn to live with the people who are in front of you, with the people that you found.
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Many of us have already found a good enough partner, and yet we throw them in the bin
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because we are taught by romantic culture that we can always find a perfect person with whom it will click immediately.
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And this is such a destructive idea.
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If you think, you know what, the work starts here, the work starts when you have a problem,
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Then you roll up your sleeves and you think, OK, well, I know that I broadly think this person is a nice person.
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Now we're going to work at making sure that it can work.
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And so we're going to talk and we're going to take this problem apart.
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We're going to become like engineers who've got a malfunctioning machine.
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We're going to sort it out.
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This sounds unromantic, doesn't it?
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Imagine saying, in order to make my relationship work, every evening I've talked for an hour in really patient ways.
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You think, oh my god, go to Vegas, find someone easier.
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Well, good luck to you.
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Maybe you'll find that person.
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But for some of us, especially some of us who've come through difficult relationships, difficult relationships in our past,
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we may need to go and do that kind of excavation.
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Maybe that's fine.
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I think that a good enough person is someone who will engage with the business of working towards compatibility,
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that they won't assume that you are wrong just because there are problems.
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They will know how to repair crises they will know how to be curious, they will know how to listen,
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they will know how to be patient.
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That is compatible with all sorts of problems, sexual problems, relational problems, administrative problems, doesn't matter.
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You can work through them.
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So the wrong person is someone who stonewalls, who always blames you, who blanks out, who says, it's not my responsibility,
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or, you know, it was easier with my ex, and, you know, why are you so difficult,
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etc these people are trouble because they are refusing the work of love
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so it doesn't matter
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if you have many many difficulties that's okay the problem is your attitude to the difficulties
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and the solution is an attitude of indulgence of curiosity
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and of calm consideration of the flaws
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that unite us all we are all mad monkeys and
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so long as we've been kind towards the mad monkey in
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all of us we'll be okay one of the real problems and you know there's there's simply no solution,
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but we need to accept that there's a real problem, is how long it takes to work out who we are as lovers,
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as people interested in relationships, who we are.
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It takes so long, and it takes especially long to try and change our patterns.
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You know, if we are somebody who sabotages relationships every time that love comes along, how long is that going to take to unwind this?
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Well, it takes insight, but then it takes, as it were, work, true work.
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And sometimes people go to therapy for six sessions or 12 sessions and they go, I haven't changed.
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Therapy doesn't work.
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And let's come back to my earlier example about language.
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Imagine that you decided middle age as an English speaker to pick up Korean
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or Finnish and you went to six lessons and you tried to learn
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Finnish and Korean.
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And by the end of six lessons, you could barely ask for, you know, barely say your own name or say hello.
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And then you blamed it on the whole process and you said, I'm not learning this language.
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It's rubbish.
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People would say you're being too impatient.
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And I think that some of the same holds true for rewiring our emotional language.
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We can't pick this up in six sessions of 50 minutes.
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It takes a long time.
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A pattern that was laid down over decades is going to take many, many years to figure it out.
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It's, I mean, believe me, it's bad news.
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I wish it weren't so.
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Can we do anything in the meantime?
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Yes, of course we can.
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We can, you know, we can be learning and walking.
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We don't have to pause and just sit by the roadside.
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We can be starting on the path of relationships.
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We can be starting from a relatively young age, but we need to be doing the work alongside,
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and we need to be able to at least do the first thing, which is to say, I'm learning.
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I'm a learner.
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There's a real difference between someone who goes, I know it all, and someone who knows that they are still learning.
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When Socrates, the ancient
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Greek philosopher was asked why he was the wisest person in antiquity, he said, because I know what I don't know.
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In other words, that the birth of true wisdom is associated with a knowledge of your ignorance.
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I think that's the best way we can proceed also in relation to our love lives.
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There are lots of questions that we could learn to ask ourselves
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and our partners in order to try
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and find a better relationship one of them is this
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when i get close to you how does
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that feel right to open up a window onto some of the complexities
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that occur when somebody gets close
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if i love you what part of you might worry right
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that's a good question does any part of you worry another really useful question is how do I respond
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when someone is trying to communicate something to me?
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Do I stonewall or do I accept?
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Am I able to pause and think the issue might be with me?
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Or do I always have to go, I can't answer that.
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It's the other person.
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You're being unfair.
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You're putting me under pressure.
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What is your level of emotional dexterity?
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So that's a good question to be asking yourself as well
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also one of the really good questions in any relationship is to say how have i annoyed
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you how have i frustrated you you know a lot of what happens between couples is there are things
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that are bubbling away beneath the surface that people can't find the courage
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to say and
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because they can't say them the problem doesn't improve the problem
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gets worse people can't have sex anymore a lot of the reason why people can't have sex
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it's got nothing to do with sex is to do with the fact they feel disconnected and angry and misunderstood.
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You can't have sex with someone who you feel misunderstood by or you feel furious with.
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what helps desire is trust and the way to build up trust is to communicate
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and particularly communicate ruptures of trust so
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if you want to have good sex don't get a candle
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don't go to a hotel start to ask each other have i annoyed you is there something i've done
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that you'd like to tell me
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and you say this patiently not in the middle of the night
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when you're stressed or maybe you've drunk too much but
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when you're calm when there's a sense of you know lightness and forgiveness.
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Use the right moment to ask the right question.
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We're living in a world where therapeutic language and insights have spread for the first time far outside the consulting room.
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There is mass adoption at a superficial level of therapeutic language.
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And the area where we find this most obviously is social media, and in particular, Instagram, which is enormous.
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It's an enormous force in the world.
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And it has brought up a generation, I'd say, to speak in pseudo or vaguely therapeutic terms.
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I don't mean that as an insult.
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Some of these insights have been fantastic.
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People are now able to talk about, let's say, attachment theory.
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The mention of an avoidant attachment theory
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or an anxious attachment theory in many circles now doesn't create the puzzlement that it was generating 15 years ago.
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15 years ago, this was not common knowledge.
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That That was still in the university, in textbooks, and in the consulting room.
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Now it's out in the world.
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And the medium that has changed this, as I say, is social media.
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What's the problem?
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I'll tell you one of the problems.
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One of the problems is whose fault it is.
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The tone of a lot of social media posting blames the problem for the struggles in relationships fairly
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and squarely on the partner, not on yourself.
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There is an obsession with finding borderline people, narcissistic people, avoidance, anxious people out in the world.
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And of course they exist, but the tone is the problem.
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The tone says, get out.
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These are red flags and everybody that you're meeting, the reason why you haven't made a relationship work is because these people are unbalanced psychologically.
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My answer is this.
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If you are looking to find a person with no problems at all, with no psychological disturbances, good luck to you.
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If you're looking to find somebody with no red flags, good luck to you.
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Everybody has red flags.
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That's part of what it means to be human.
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That's the story of Genesis.
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The story of Genesis is Adam and Eve had some red flags.
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That's what it is to be human being, is somebody with a red flag.
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So the problem is not the red flag, it's how you deal with it.
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And this is what I worry that therapeutic culture on social media doesn't train us to do.
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It doesn't train us for patience.
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It doesn't train us to think we might be the problem.
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It doesn't ask us to think what we've brought to the situation.
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It doesn't create an atmosphere of forgiveness.
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The reason is very simple.
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Outrage sells.
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It's more fun.
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It feels more spirited.
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It's punchier to say, that ex of yours, they're the avoidant, they're crazy, they're narcissistic.
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It sounds better and it leaves everybody happier.
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But long term, it's not the solution.
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Wortschatz und Sprechhinweise zu dieser Lektion
Diese Sprechübung basiert auf dem Video „The uncomfortable question you should ask on every first date“. Dieses Video enthält 371 Sätze und 4309 Wörter zum Nachsprechen. Der gesprochene Teil dauert 23:33. Der Sprecher spricht schnell, etwa 183 Wörter pro Minute – rechne mit verbundenen und verkürzten Lauten. 87 % der Wörter gehören zu den 3.000 häufigsten im Englischen, der Wortschatz ist also leicht zu verfolgen.
Wichtiger Wortschatz in diesem Video
15 lernenswerte Wörter aus dem Video, mit Aussprache und Bedeutung:
| Wort | Aussprache | Bedeutung |
|---|---|---|
| therapeutic Adjektiv | /ˌθɛɹ.əˈpjuː.tɪk/ | therapeutisch |
| insight Substantiv | /ˈɪnsaɪ̯t/ | Einblick |
| compatibility Substantiv | /kəmˌpætəˈbɪlɪti/ | Vereinbarkeit, Kompatibilität |
| marry Verb | /ˈmæɹi/ | heiraten |
| mechanism Substantiv | /ˈmɛk.ə.nɪ.zəm/ | Mechanismus |
| forgiveness Substantiv | /fɚˈɡɪvnəs/ | Verzeihung, Vergebung |
| tone Substantiv | /ˈtəʊn/ | Ton |
| repair Verb | /ˈɹiːpɛɚ/ | reparieren |
| essay Substantiv | /ˈɛs.eɪ/ | Aufsatz, Essay |
| communicate Verb | /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/ | mitteilen, übermitteln |
| anxious Adjektiv | /ˈæŋkʃəs/ | ängstlich, besorgt |
| viral Adjektiv | /ˈvaɪɹəl/ | Virus-, viral |
| therapist Substantiv | /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/ | Therapeut, Therapeutin |
| humour Substantiv | /ˈhjuːmɚ/ | Humor |
| lesson Substantiv | /ˈlɛs.ən/ | Lehrstunde, Stunde |
Phrasal Verbs, die du hören wirst
| Wort | Bedeutung |
|---|---|
| get out Verb | aussteigen |
| go back on Verb | hintergehen, betrügen |
| bring up Verb | erwähnen, mit etwas kommen / ankommen |
| build up Verb | sich ansammeln, sich türmen |
| come along Verb | mitgehen |
| get away with Verb | mit etwas davonkommen, mit etwas durchkommen |
| give up Verb | aufgeben, sich ergeben |
| hold down Verb | niederhalten, unterdrucken |
Sätze zum Wiederholen
Kurze, vollständige Sätze aus dem Video, die du im Alltag wiederverwenden kannst:
- What does that mean, how are you crazy?
- If the person goes, how do you mean?
- How do I work on myself?
- Why do we need to run away from it?
- Where are you trying to get to next year?
Grammatik in diesem Video
Die Strukturen, die der Sprecher am häufigsten verwendet, mit den genauen Worten aus dem Video:
| Struktur | Im Video |
|---|---|
| Bedingungssätze if + Satz, will/would + Verb – eine Bedingung und ihre Folge | If we think that we will have · if confronted with their behavior, will go |
| Present Perfect have/has + Partizip Perfekt – eine vergangene Handlung, die jetzt noch wichtig ist | have you prepared · haven't found · you've found |
| Relativsätze who / which + Satz – eine Zusatzinformation über eine Person oder Sache | person who halfway · people who know · person who doesn |
| Passiv be + Partizip Perfekt – wichtig ist, was geschieht, nicht wer es tut | cannot be done · are not guided · was called |
Aussprache, auf die du achten solltest
Der Sprecher verwendet 118 Kurzformen und abgeschwächte Formen, zum Beispiel don't, can't, we're. Sprich sie in der kurzen Form, so wie du sie hörst.
- Die „th“-Laute: therapeutic /ˌθɛɹ.əˈpjuː.tɪk/, therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/, beneath /bɪˈniːθ/, psychotherapy /ˌsaɪkoʊˈθɛɹəpi/, therapeutically /ˌθɛɹ.əˈpju.tɪk.li/
- Die Laute „sh“ und „zh“: anxious /ˈæŋkʃəs/, patience /ˈpeɪ̯.ʃəns/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, recognition /ˌɹɛkəɡˈnɪʃ(ə)n/, institution /ˌɪn.stɪˈtʃuː.ʃən/
- Lange Wörter – auf die Betonung achten: therapeutic /ˌθɛɹ.əˈpjuː.tɪk/, compatibility /kəmˌpætəˈbɪlɪti/, mechanism /ˈmɛk.ə.nɪ.zəm/, communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, difficulty /ˈdɪfɪkəlti/
Laute, die Deutschsprachigen schwerfallen:
- /w/ — mit runden Lippen, nicht wie das deutsche „w“ (/v/): equally /ˈiːkwəli/, wisdom /ˈwɪzdəm/, wherever /(h)wɛɹˈɛvɚ/, acquire /əˈkwaɪɚ/, halfway /ˌhæfˈweɪ/
- Stimmhafter Auslaut — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ am Wortende nicht verhärten: rude /ɹuːd/, pause /pɔːz/, absorb /æbˈsɔɹb/, relative /ˈɹɛl.ə.tɪv/, complicated /ˈkɑm.plɪˌkeɪ.tɪd/
- /æ/ — offener als „ä“: attachment /əˈtæt͡ʃmənt/, compatibility /kəmˌpætəˈbɪlɪti/, marry /ˈmæɹi/, anxious /ˈæŋkʃəs/, romantic /ɹoʊˈmæn(t)ɪk/
So übst du mit diesem Video
- Höre dir das ganze Video einmal an, ohne zu sprechen, und notiere die Wörter, die du nicht kennst.
- Beginne mit 0,75-facher Geschwindigkeit, sprich Satz für Satz nach und wechsle zur normalen Geschwindigkeit, sobald es leichtfällt.
- Nimm dich auf und vergleiche mit dem Original; achte dabei auf Wörter wie therapeutic, insight, compatibility.
Was ist die Shadowing-Technik?
Shadowing ist eine wissenschaftlich fundierte Sprachlerntechnik, die ursprünglich für die professionelle Dolmetscherausbildung entwickelt und durch den Polyglotten Dr. Alexander Arguelles populär gemacht wurde. Die Methode ist einfach aber wirkungsvoll: Du hörst englisches Audio von Muttersprachlern und wiederholst es sofort laut — wie ein Schatten, der dem Sprecher mit nur 1–2 Sekunden Verzögerung folgt. Anders als passives Hören oder Grammatikübungen zwingt Shadowing dein Gehirn und deine Mundmuskulatur, gleichzeitig echte Sprachmuster zu verarbeiten und zu reproduzieren. Studien zeigen, dass es Aussprachegenauigkeit, Intonation, Rhythmus, verbundene Sprache, Hörverständnis und Sprechflüssigkeit signifikant verbessert — was es zu einer der effektivsten Methoden für die IELTS Speaking-Vorbereitung und reale englische Kommunikation macht.