Shadowing-Übung: Are We Rejecting Them Because They’re Wrong—or Because We’re Unwell? - Englisch Sprechen Lernen mit Video
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On the face of it, not liking someone during the dating game is everyone's great prerogative.
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Who could possibly question our tastes if we complained on leaving a restaurant
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or museum that we found them just too loud or too stupid, too weak or too supernaturally inclined?
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If we said we didn't like their chin or that there was something a bit weird around their hips?
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It's surely for each one of us to decide according to the movements of our hearts
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and on that basis to gain appropriate sympathy for repeatedly not finding someone worthy of our time and our desire.
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However, after we've cycled through a certain number of candidates, after we've returned home from our 20th or 87th fruitless date,
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after we've yet again discovered, age 42 or 59, that the person across the table from us wasn't quite right,
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we may be encouraged to ask ourselves a few pointed questions.
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in order to judge whether the problem might truly lie with them
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or whether it might not perhaps have something to do with us.
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Though innumerable people will clearly be objectively flawed in a variety of ways, there are cases where the wrongness we detect may primarily speak
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of a psychological dynamic in us – a bias towards rejecting people not because they are unsuitable per se,
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but because, just out of reach of our day-to-day consciousness, proximity to anyone, however accomplished and viable they might be,
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is associated with danger and intrusion.
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Although we may say in extremely moving tones that we're really interested in finding love,
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it may be that the prospect of actually finding it is not in fact at all simple, that it may reignite a fear,
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probably related to disappointments or perverse loyalties formed in childhood, of what could happen if it really came along.
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Way back, our attachment to our earliest caregivers may have taught us that loving people is not, in fact, either safe or advisable.
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We may have learnt, in the vagaries of our family lives, that trusting people was likely to be followed by disappointment.
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That those who know us from up close are prone to betray us catastrophically.
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That making ourselves vulnerable will invite abuse.
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We may not be aware, as we play the dating game, that we're carrying such complex emotional legacies.
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we may sincerely believe that we crave love above all else and would embrace it open-heartedly if it ever came along.
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And yet a part of us may still somewhere in the background be working overtime to ensure
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that every single new candidate that the apps
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or our friends have put forward is ruthlessly examined and rejected before they ever come close to threatening our isolation.
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We may publicly be committed to a relationship while privately wedded to the only state we associate with safety – solitude.
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How then might we judge the difference?
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How to know whether we are rejecting people out of a pathological wish to stay alone, born out of childhood wounds,
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or else rejecting them because they suffer from a maddening conversational habit or have a weird chin?
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There is one acute question we might raise with ourselves to tell the difference.
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If this prospective partner were a bit less keen, a bit less attentive, a bit less enthusiastic about seeing us again,
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might we like them more?
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Might distance improve their prospects in our eyes?
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If the question makes little sense, if we can't remotely imagine why any of this would make a difference, if there's nothing at all about them not messaging us for days
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that would alter the unbudgeable problem with their chin or their laugh, then the problem may on balance properly lie with them.
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If, however, we recognise, pretty much as soon as the question is asked,
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that yes, strangely somehow it does appear that we would like them rather more if they texted less often, that we would make more of an effort if they were busier,
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that we'd even start to desire and long for them if we didn't pass muster in their eyes, then what we may be dealing with is not another flawed candidate,
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so much as the activation of a temperamental attachment mechanism formed by our experiences in untrustworthy,
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claustrophobic or neglectful childhoods.
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It's a major achievement when we've understood enough about our pasts to finally cease to feel revulsion
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or suspicion around those who threaten us with love.
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When we can take kindness at face value, when we don't seek to annihilate or punish those who want to be sympathetic towards us,
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it is a seismic moment when we can bear to reflect
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that the real problem may lie not
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so much with them for liking us as with our pasts for not allowing us to tolerate another's curiosity and goodness.
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Thank you.
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Wortschatz und Sprechhinweise zu dieser Lektion
Diese Sprechübung auf Niveau C1 basiert auf dem Video „Are We Rejecting Them Because They’re Wrong—or Because We’re Unwell?“. Diese Wörter kommen am häufigsten vor: rejecting, chin, childhood, ourselves, candidate. Dieses Video enthält 49 Sätze und 804 Wörter zum Nachsprechen. Der gesprochene Teil dauert 5:04. Der Sprecher spricht in natürlichem Tempo, etwa 159 Wörter pro Minute, ähnlich wie im Alltagsgespräch. 82 % der Wörter gehören zu den 3.000 häufigsten im Englischen; den Rest solltest du dir vor dem Üben ansehen.
Wichtiger Wortschatz in diesem Video
Die 15 anspruchsvollsten Wörter aus dem Video, mit Aussprache und Bedeutung:
| Wort | Aussprache | Bedeutung |
|---|---|---|
| chin Substantiv | /ˈt͡ʃɪn/ | Kinn, Koi |
| flawed Adjektiv | /flɔːd/ | fehlerhaft, brüchig |
| threaten Verb | /ˈθɹɛt.n̩/ | drohen, bedrohen |
| disappointment Substantiv | /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪntmənt/ | Enttäuschung, Verdruss |
| advisable Adjektiv | ratsam, empfehlenswert | |
| annihilate Verb | /əˈnaɪ.ə.leɪt/ | vernichten |
| attentive Adjektiv | /əˈtɛntɪv/ | aufmerksam |
| betray Verb | /bɪˈtɹeɪ/ | verraten |
| catastrophically Adverb | katastrophal | |
| claustrophobic Adjektiv | klaustrophobisch | |
| fruitless Adjektiv | /ˈfɹuːtləs/ | erntelos |
| muster Substantiv | /ˈmʌstɚ/ | Versammlung, Ansammlung |
| neglectful Adjektiv | nachlässig | |
| objectively Adverb | /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪvli/ | objektiv |
| pathological Adjektiv | /ˌpæθ.əˈlɑd͡ʒ.ɪ.kəl/ | pathologisch, krankhaft |
Phrasal Verbs, die du hören wirst
| Wort | Bedeutung |
|---|---|
| come along Verb | mitgehen |
| put forward Verb | vorbringen |
Grammatik in diesem Video
Die Strukturen, die der Sprecher am häufigsten verwendet, mit den genauen Worten aus dem Video:
| Struktur | Im Video |
|---|---|
| Passiv be + Partizip Perfekt – wichtig ist, was geschieht, nicht wer es tut | may be encouraged · is associated · be followed |
| Present Perfect have/has + Partizip Perfekt – eine vergangene Handlung, die jetzt noch wichtig ist | we've cycled · have put · we've understood |
| Relativsätze who / which + Satz – eine Zusatzinformation über eine Person oder Sache | those who know · those who threaten · those who want |
Aussprache, auf die du achten solltest
Der Sprecher verwendet 12 Kurzformen und abgeschwächte Formen, zum Beispiel we've, didn't, we're. Sprich sie in der kurzen Form, so wie du sie hörst.
- Die „th“-Laute: threaten /ˈθɹɛt.n̩/, pathological /ˌpæθ.əˈlɑd͡ʒ.ɪ.kəl/, ruthlessly /ˈɹuːθ.ləs.li/, untrustworthy /ˌʌnˈtɹʌstˌwɜː(ɹ)ði/, sympathetic /ˌsɪm.pəˈθɛt.ɪk/
- Die Laute „sh“ und „zh“: conversational /ˌkɒnvə(ɹ)ˈseɪʃənəl/, intrusion /ɪnˈtɹuːʒən/, revulsion /ɹɪˈvʌlʃən/, activation /ˌæktəˈveɪʃən/, punish /ˈpʌnɪʃ/
- Lange Wörter – auf die Betonung achten: disappointment /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪntmənt/, annihilate /əˈnaɪ.ə.leɪt/, conversational /ˌkɒnvə(ɹ)ˈseɪʃənəl/, innumerable /ɪˈnuːməɹ.əbəl/, objectively /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪvli/
Laute, die Deutschsprachigen schwerfallen:
- /w/ — mit runden Lippen, nicht wie das deutsche „w“ (/v/): untrustworthy /ˌʌnˈtɹʌstˌwɜː(ɹ)ði/, wed /ˈwɛd/
- Stimmhafter Auslaut — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ am Wortende nicht verhärten: flawed /flɔːd/, attentive /əˈtɛntɪv/, prerogative /pɹəˈɹɑɡ.ə.tɪv/, solitude /ˈsɑlɪˌtud/, wed /ˈwɛd/
- /æ/ — offener als „ä“: attachment /əˈtæt͡ʃmənt/, pathological /ˌpæθ.əˈlɑd͡ʒ.ɪ.kəl/, madden /ˈmædən/, activation /ˌæktəˈveɪʃən/, enthusiastic /ɪnˌθjuːzɪˈæstɪk/
So übst du mit diesem Video
- Höre dir das ganze Video einmal an, ohne zu sprechen, und notiere die Wörter, die du nicht kennst.
- Beginne mit 0,75-facher Geschwindigkeit, sprich Satz für Satz nach und wechsle zur normalen Geschwindigkeit, sobald es leichtfällt.
- Nimm dich auf und vergleiche mit dem Original; achte dabei auf Wörter wie chin, flawed, threaten.
Was ist die Shadowing-Technik?
Shadowing ist eine wissenschaftlich fundierte Sprachlerntechnik, die ursprünglich für die professionelle Dolmetscherausbildung entwickelt und durch den Polyglotten Dr. Alexander Arguelles populär gemacht wurde. Die Methode ist einfach aber wirkungsvoll: Du hörst englisches Audio von Muttersprachlern und wiederholst es sofort laut — wie ein Schatten, der dem Sprecher mit nur 1–2 Sekunden Verzögerung folgt. Anders als passives Hören oder Grammatikübungen zwingt Shadowing dein Gehirn und deine Mundmuskulatur, gleichzeitig echte Sprachmuster zu verarbeiten und zu reproduzieren. Studien zeigen, dass es Aussprachegenauigkeit, Intonation, Rhythmus, verbundene Sprache, Hörverständnis und Sprechflüssigkeit signifikant verbessert — was es zu einer der effektivsten Methoden für die IELTS Speaking-Vorbereitung und reale englische Kommunikation macht.