Практика Shadowing: Are We Rejecting Them Because They’re Wrong—or Because We’re Unwell? - Изучайте разговорный английский по видео
Выберите режим практики
Каждый режим открывает полноэкранную комнату практики.
49 предложений
Если предложения слишком короткие или длинные, нажмите Edit, чтобы их изменить.
1
On the face of it, not liking someone during the dating game is everyone's great prerogative.
2
Who could possibly question our tastes if we complained on leaving a restaurant
3
or museum that we found them just too loud or too stupid, too weak or too supernaturally inclined?
4
If we said we didn't like their chin or that there was something a bit weird around their hips?
5
It's surely for each one of us to decide according to the movements of our hearts
6
and on that basis to gain appropriate sympathy for repeatedly not finding someone worthy of our time and our desire.
7
However, after we've cycled through a certain number of candidates, after we've returned home from our 20th or 87th fruitless date,
8
after we've yet again discovered, age 42 or 59, that the person across the table from us wasn't quite right,
9
we may be encouraged to ask ourselves a few pointed questions.
10
in order to judge whether the problem might truly lie with them
11
or whether it might not perhaps have something to do with us.
12
Though innumerable people will clearly be objectively flawed in a variety of ways, there are cases where the wrongness we detect may primarily speak
13
of a psychological dynamic in us – a bias towards rejecting people not because they are unsuitable per se,
14
but because, just out of reach of our day-to-day consciousness, proximity to anyone, however accomplished and viable they might be,
15
is associated with danger and intrusion.
16
Although we may say in extremely moving tones that we're really interested in finding love,
17
it may be that the prospect of actually finding it is not in fact at all simple, that it may reignite a fear,
18
probably related to disappointments or perverse loyalties formed in childhood, of what could happen if it really came along.
19
Way back, our attachment to our earliest caregivers may have taught us that loving people is not, in fact, either safe or advisable.
20
We may have learnt, in the vagaries of our family lives, that trusting people was likely to be followed by disappointment.
21
That those who know us from up close are prone to betray us catastrophically.
22
That making ourselves vulnerable will invite abuse.
23
We may not be aware, as we play the dating game, that we're carrying such complex emotional legacies.
24
we may sincerely believe that we crave love above all else and would embrace it open-heartedly if it ever came along.
25
And yet a part of us may still somewhere in the background be working overtime to ensure
26
that every single new candidate that the apps
27
or our friends have put forward is ruthlessly examined and rejected before they ever come close to threatening our isolation.
28
We may publicly be committed to a relationship while privately wedded to the only state we associate with safety – solitude.
29
How then might we judge the difference?
30
How to know whether we are rejecting people out of a pathological wish to stay alone, born out of childhood wounds,
31
or else rejecting them because they suffer from a maddening conversational habit or have a weird chin?
32
There is one acute question we might raise with ourselves to tell the difference.
33
If this prospective partner were a bit less keen, a bit less attentive, a bit less enthusiastic about seeing us again,
34
might we like them more?
35
Might distance improve their prospects in our eyes?
36
If the question makes little sense, if we can't remotely imagine why any of this would make a difference, if there's nothing at all about them not messaging us for days
37
that would alter the unbudgeable problem with their chin or their laugh, then the problem may on balance properly lie with them.
38
If, however, we recognise, pretty much as soon as the question is asked,
39
that yes, strangely somehow it does appear that we would like them rather more if they texted less often, that we would make more of an effort if they were busier,
40
that we'd even start to desire and long for them if we didn't pass muster in their eyes, then what we may be dealing with is not another flawed candidate,
41
so much as the activation of a temperamental attachment mechanism formed by our experiences in untrustworthy,
42
claustrophobic or neglectful childhoods.
43
It's a major achievement when we've understood enough about our pasts to finally cease to feel revulsion
44
or suspicion around those who threaten us with love.
45
When we can take kindness at face value, when we don't seek to annihilate or punish those who want to be sympathetic towards us,
46
it is a seismic moment when we can bear to reflect
47
that the real problem may lie not
48
so much with them for liking us as with our pasts for not allowing us to tolerate another's curiosity and goodness.
49
Thank you.
Скачать приложение
Всё для свободной речи
ИИ-оценка произношенияОценка каждой фразы
Практика IPAОсвойте каждый звук
СловарьСоберите свой словарный запас
Игра со словамиУчитесь играя
Тот же канал
C11
Why Love NEVER Lasts FOREVER
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C158
Why Unloved People Hate Themselves #shorts #selfcare
Daily ConversationWorking Adults
C143
Why Socrates Hated Democracy
British AccentIELTS PrepTOEFL PrepUniversity Students
C131
The Secret to a Calm Life
British AccentDaily ConversationWorking Adults
C17
Why Parents Bully Their Children
Daily ConversationUniversity Students
C13
Daddy Issues
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C17
Your Two Options in Love After a Bad Childhood
British AccentDaily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
B28
LITERATURE - Charles Darwin
British AccentIELTS PrepTOEFL PrepUniversity Students
C1621
The Point of Travel
British AccentTravel EnglishUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C11
How to Get Over Someone
British AccentUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C14
POLITICAL THEORY - Karl Marx
British AccentIELTS PrepTOEFL PrepUniversity Students
C116
When Love Isn't Easy
British AccentDaily ConversationWorking Adults
C15
What True Love Really Is
British AccentDaily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C13
How To Get Over Rejection
British AccentBusiness EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
C18
How to Parent Yourself
British AccentBusiness EnglishUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C18
Why We Should Refuse to Get Into Arguments
British AccentBusiness EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B27
How to Love without fear
British AccentBusiness EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B2How to Find Out What's Really on Your Mind
British AccentDaily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C13
PHILOSOPHY - Plato
British AccentDaily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C1112
What is Emotional Intelligence?
British AccentBusiness EnglishUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
FOR YOU
Рекомендуемое видео
C136
34 предложений
Book Club Debate: Is Technology Making Us Lonelier?
British AccentDaily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C11
229 предложений
The love You Attract Reveals Who You Are | Carl Jung
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C11
251 предложений
Things That Are Not What They Seem and the Truth About Life | Advanced Podcast for Conversations
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C13
93 предложений
Psychology Of People Who Hate Themselves (But Kind To Others)
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C11
86 предложений
Why Do We Stay in Relationships That Hurt Us?
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
B22
237 предложений
Sexuality Professor Answers Dating Questions | Tech Support | WIRED
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C17
74 предложений
The “Nietzsche Thesis”: Why we don’t really care about truth
British AccentIELTS PrepTOEFL PrepUniversity Students
B23
240 предложений
If You Feel Like You LOST The One, WATCH THIS! | Matthew Hussey
British AccentBusiness EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
C12
56 предложений
love without attachment
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C117
141 предложений
Why relationships in 2026 carry impossible expectations | Alain de Botton
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
Лексика и советы по произношению к этому уроку
Этот урок разговорной практики уровня C1 построен на видео «Are We Rejecting Them Because They’re Wrong—or Because We’re Unwell?». Чаще всего повторяются слова: rejecting, chin, childhood, ourselves, candidate. В этом видео 49 предложений и 804 слов для шедоуинга. Речь длится 5:04. Говорящий говорит в естественном темпе, около 159 слов в минуту, близком к повседневной речи. 82% слов входят в 3000 самых частых слов английского языка; остальные стоит разобрать перед занятием.
Ключевая лексика этого видео
Самые сложные слова из видео (15), с произношением и значением:
| Слово | Произношение | Значение |
|---|---|---|
| chin существительное | /ˈt͡ʃɪn/ | подборо́док, борода́ |
| attachment существительное | /əˈtæt͡ʃmənt/ | привя́занность, ве́рность |
| threaten глагол | /ˈθɹɛt.n̩/ | грози́ть, угрожа́ть |
| disappointment существительное | /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪntmənt/ | разочарова́ние |
| annihilate глагол | /əˈnaɪ.ə.leɪt/ | уничтожа́ть, уничто́жить |
| attentive прилагательное | /əˈtɛntɪv/ | внима́тельный |
| betray глагол | /bɪˈtɹeɪ/ | предава́ть, преда́ть |
| catastrophically наречие | катастрофи́чески | |
| claustrophobic прилагательное | клаустрофо́бный | |
| conversational прилагательное | /ˌkɒnvə(ɹ)ˈseɪʃənəl/ | разгово́рный |
| fruitless прилагательное | /ˈfɹuːtləs/ | беспло́дный |
| muster существительное | /ˈmʌstɚ/ | сбор |
| objectively наречие | /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪvli/ | объекти́вно |
| pathological прилагательное | /ˌpæθ.əˈlɑd͡ʒ.ɪ.kəl/ | патологи́ческий |
| perverse прилагательное | /pɚˈvɝs/ | извращённый |
Фразовые глаголы, которые вы услышите
| Слово | Значение |
|---|---|
| come along глагол | сопровожда́ть, составля́ть компа́нию |
| put forward глагол | предлага́ть, предложи́ть |
Грамматика в этом видео
Конструкции, которые говорящий использует чаще всего, с точными словами из видео:
| Конструкция | В видео |
|---|---|
| Пассивный залог be + причастие прошедшего времени — важно, что происходит, а не кто это делает | may be encouraged · is associated · be followed |
| Present Perfect have/has + причастие прошедшего времени — прошлое действие, важное сейчас | we've cycled · have put · we've understood |
| Придаточные определительные who / which + предложение — уточнение о человеке или предмете | those who know · those who threaten · those who want |
Произношение, на которое стоит обратить внимание
Говорящий использует 12 сокращённых и редуцированных форм, например we've, didn't, we're. Произносите их коротко, так, как слышите.
- Звуки «th»: threaten /ˈθɹɛt.n̩/, pathological /ˌpæθ.əˈlɑd͡ʒ.ɪ.kəl/, ruthlessly /ˈɹuːθ.ləs.li/, untrustworthy /ˌʌnˈtɹʌstˌwɜː(ɹ)ði/, sympathetic /ˌsɪm.pəˈθɛt.ɪk/
- Звуки «sh» и «zh»: conversational /ˌkɒnvə(ɹ)ˈseɪʃənəl/, intrusion /ɪnˈtɹuːʒən/, revulsion /ɹɪˈvʌlʃən/, activation /ˌæktəˈveɪʃən/, punish /ˈpʌnɪʃ/
- Длинные слова — следите за ударением: disappointment /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪntmənt/, annihilate /əˈnaɪ.ə.leɪt/, conversational /ˌkɒnvə(ɹ)ˈseɪʃənəl/, innumerable /ɪˈnuːməɹ.əbəl/, objectively /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪvli/
Звуки, трудные для русскоязычных:
- /w/ — губы округлены, это не /v/: untrustworthy /ˌʌnˈtɹʌstˌwɜː(ɹ)ði/, wed /ˈwɛd/
- Звонкие согласные в конце слова — не оглушайте их: flawed /flɔːd/, attentive /əˈtɛntɪv/, prerogative /pɹəˈɹɑɡ.ə.tɪv/, solitude /ˈsɑlɪˌtud/, wed /ˈwɛd/
Как заниматься с этим видео
- Прослушайте всё видео один раз молча и выпишите незнакомые слова.
- Начните со скорости 0,75×, повторяйте предложение за предложением и вернитесь к обычной скорости, когда станет легко.
- Запишите себя и сравните с оригиналом, обращая внимание на такие слова, как chin, attachment, threaten.
Что такое техника Shadowing?
Shadowing — это научно обоснованная техника изучения языка, изначально разработанная для подготовки профессиональных переводчиков и популяризированная полиглотом доктором Александром Аргуэльесом. Метод прост, но эффективен: вы слушаете аудио на английском от носителей языка и немедленно повторяете вслух — как тень, следующая за говорящим с задержкой в 1–2 секунды. В отличие от пассивного прослушивания или грамматических упражнений, Shadowing заставляет мозг и мышцы рта одновременно обрабатывать и воспроизводить реальные речевые паттерны. Исследования показывают, что это значительно улучшает точность произношения, интонацию, ритм, связную речь, понимание на слух и беглость речи — что делает его одним из самых эффективных методов для подготовки к IELTS Speaking и реального общения на английском.