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On the face of it, not liking someone during the dating game is everyone's great prerogative.

Who could possibly question our tastes if we complained on leaving a restaurant

or museum that we found them just too loud or too stupid, too weak or too supernaturally inclined?

If we said we didn't like their chin or that there was something a bit weird around their hips?

It's surely for each one of us to decide according to the movements of our hearts

and on that basis to gain appropriate sympathy for repeatedly not finding someone worthy of our time and our desire.

However, after we've cycled through a certain number of candidates, after we've returned home from our 20th or 87th fruitless date,

after we've yet again discovered, age 42 or 59, that the person across the table from us wasn't quite right,

we may be encouraged to ask ourselves a few pointed questions.

in order to judge whether the problem might truly lie with them

or whether it might not perhaps have something to do with us.

Though innumerable people will clearly be objectively flawed in a variety of ways, there are cases where the wrongness we detect may primarily speak

of a psychological dynamic in us – a bias towards rejecting people not because they are unsuitable per se,

but because, just out of reach of our day-to-day consciousness, proximity to anyone, however accomplished and viable they might be,

is associated with danger and intrusion.

Although we may say in extremely moving tones that we're really interested in finding love,

it may be that the prospect of actually finding it is not in fact at all simple, that it may reignite a fear,

probably related to disappointments or perverse loyalties formed in childhood, of what could happen if it really came along.

Way back, our attachment to our earliest caregivers may have taught us that loving people is not, in fact, either safe or advisable.

We may have learnt, in the vagaries of our family lives, that trusting people was likely to be followed by disappointment.

That those who know us from up close are prone to betray us catastrophically.

That making ourselves vulnerable will invite abuse.

We may not be aware, as we play the dating game, that we're carrying such complex emotional legacies.

we may sincerely believe that we crave love above all else and would embrace it open-heartedly if it ever came along.

And yet a part of us may still somewhere in the background be working overtime to ensure

that every single new candidate that the apps

or our friends have put forward is ruthlessly examined and rejected before they ever come close to threatening our isolation.

We may publicly be committed to a relationship while privately wedded to the only state we associate with safety – solitude.

How then might we judge the difference?

How to know whether we are rejecting people out of a pathological wish to stay alone, born out of childhood wounds,

or else rejecting them because they suffer from a maddening conversational habit or have a weird chin?

There is one acute question we might raise with ourselves to tell the difference.

If this prospective partner were a bit less keen, a bit less attentive, a bit less enthusiastic about seeing us again,

might we like them more?

Might distance improve their prospects in our eyes?

If the question makes little sense, if we can't remotely imagine why any of this would make a difference, if there's nothing at all about them not messaging us for days

that would alter the unbudgeable problem with their chin or their laugh, then the problem may on balance properly lie with them.

If, however, we recognise, pretty much as soon as the question is asked,

that yes, strangely somehow it does appear that we would like them rather more if they texted less often, that we would make more of an effort if they were busier,

that we'd even start to desire and long for them if we didn't pass muster in their eyes, then what we may be dealing with is not another flawed candidate,

so much as the activation of a temperamental attachment mechanism formed by our experiences in untrustworthy,

claustrophobic or neglectful childhoods.

It's a major achievement when we've understood enough about our pasts to finally cease to feel revulsion

or suspicion around those who threaten us with love.

When we can take kindness at face value, when we don't seek to annihilate or punish those who want to be sympathetic towards us,

it is a seismic moment when we can bear to reflect

that the real problem may lie not

so much with them for liking us as with our pasts for not allowing us to tolerate another's curiosity and goodness.

Thank you.

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このC1レベルのスピーキングレッスンは、動画「Are We Rejecting Them Because They’re Wrong—or Because We’re Unwell?」を教材にしています。繰り返し出てくる語は次のとおりです：rejecting, chin, childhood, ourselves, candidate。この動画には、シャドーイング用の文が49文、単語が804語あります。音声の長さは5:04です。話す速さは1分あたり約159語で、日常会話に近い自然なペースです。単語の82%は英語の頻出3,000語に含まれます。残りは練習の前に確認しておきましょう。

この動画の重要語彙

動画の中で特に難しい単語15語を、発音と意味つきで紹介します。

単語	発音	意味
chin 名詞	/ˈt͡ʃɪn/	頤, 顎
threaten 動詞	/ˈθɹɛt.n̩/	脅す, 脅迫する
disappointment 名詞	/ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪntmənt/	失望
annihilate 動詞	/əˈnaɪ.ə.leɪt/	撲滅する, 殲滅する
attentive 形容詞	/əˈtɛntɪv/	注意深い
betray 動詞	/bɪˈtɹeɪ/	裏切る, 反逆する
fruitless 形容詞	/ˈfɹuːtləs/	不毛
perverse 形容詞	/pɚˈvɝs/	天邪鬼, 意地悪
solitude 名詞	/ˈsɑlɪˌtud/	孤独
unsuitable 形容詞	/ʌnˈsuːtəbəl/	そぐわない, 不適当な
madden 動詞	/ˈmædən/	怒らせる
wed 動詞	/ˈwɛd/	結婚する
altar 名詞	/ˈɔl.tɚ/	祭壇
tolerate 動詞	/ˈtɑ.lə.ɹeɪt/	黙認する
enthusiastic 形容詞	/ɪnˌθjuːzɪˈæstɪk/	熱心

この動画の文法

話し手がよく使っている文型を、動画の実際の表現とともに紹介します。

文型	動画での表現
受動態 be + 過去分詞 — 誰がするかより、何が起きるかに焦点を当てる	may be encouraged · is associated · be followed
現在完了形 have/has + 過去分詞 — 過去の出来事が今も関係している	we've cycled · have put · we've understood
関係詞節 who / which + 節 — 人や物について情報を加える	those who know · those who threaten · those who want

注意したい発音

話し手はwe've, didn't, we'reなど、短縮形や弱形を12回使っています。聞こえたとおりの短い形で発音しましょう。

「th」の音: threaten /ˈθɹɛt.n̩/, pathological /ˌpæθ.əˈlɑd͡ʒ.ɪ.kəl/, ruthlessly /ˈɹuːθ.ləs.li/, untrustworthy /ˌʌnˈtɹʌstˌwɜː(ɹ)ði/, sympathetic /ˌsɪm.pəˈθɛt.ɪk/
「sh」と「zh」の音: conversational /ˌkɒnvə(ɹ)ˈseɪʃənəl/, intrusion /ɪnˈtɹuːʒən/, revulsion /ɹɪˈvʌlʃən/, activation /ˌæktəˈveɪʃən/, punish /ˈpʌnɪʃ/
長い単語（アクセントの位置に注意）: disappointment /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪntmənt/, annihilate /əˈnaɪ.ə.leɪt/, conversational /ˌkɒnvə(ɹ)ˈseɪʃənəl/, innumerable /ɪˈnuːməɹ.əbəl/, objectively /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪvli/

日本語話者が苦手な音：

/r/ と /l/ の区別 — /l/ は舌先を歯茎につけ、/r/ はどこにもつけない: conversational /ˌkɒnvə(ɹ)ˈseɪʃənəl/, fruitless /ˈfɹuːtləs/, heartedly /ˈhɑːɹ.təd.li/, innumerable /ɪˈnuːməɹ.əbəl/, revulsion /ɹɪˈvʌlʃən/
/v/ — /b/ にならないように、上の歯を下唇に当てる: attentive /əˈtɛntɪv/, caregiver /ˈkɛɹɡɪvɚ/, conversational /ˌkɒnvə(ɹ)ˈseɪʃənəl/, objectively /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪvli/, perverse /pɚˈvɝs/
/f/ — 「フ」ではなく、上の歯と下唇で出す: flawed /flɔːd/, fruitless /ˈfɹuːtləs/

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まず声を出さずに動画を最後まで聞き、知らない単語をメモします。
まず0.75倍速で一文ずつシャドーイングし、慣れてきたら通常の速度に戻します。
自分の声を録音して元の音声と比べます。chin, threaten, disappointmentなどの単語に特に注意しましょう。

シャドーイングとは？英語上達に効果的な理由

シャドーイング（Shadowing）は、もともとプロの通訳者養成プログラムで開発された言語学習法で、多言語習得者として知られるDr. Alexander Arguelles によって広く普及されました。方法はシンプルですが非常に効果的：ネイティブスピーカーの英語を聞きながら、1〜2秒の遅延で声に出してすぐに繰り返す——まるで「影（shadow）」のように話者を追いかけます。文法ドリルや受動的なリスニングと異なり、シャドーイングは脳と口の筋肉が同時にリアルタイムで英語を処理・再現することを強制します。研究により、発音精度、抑揚、リズム、連音、リスニング力、そして会話の流暢さが大幅に向上することが確認されています。IELTSスピーキング対策や自然な英語コミュニケーションを目指す方に特におすすめです。

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