Pratique du Shadowing: How to Make Yourself Attractive to Anything You Want - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec la vidéo

What I would say to you is it sounds like you've worked a lot on yourself and you're ready.

Boss, there's no free lunch.

If you want to make real money, if you want to hang out with someone higher character than you and better looking than you,

quite frankly, get ready to eat shit because it involves rejection over and over and over.

Nothing wonderful will happen to you without taking an uncomfortable risk.

So let's bring in more of the men in our audience.

Let's take a look at this video that Brandon posted on Instagram.

I don't know if I'll ever say be a husband or a father

and that really really hurts me because that's all I've wanted since I was a kid

and it eats at you and you wonder if you're ever going to get what everyone else has if you're good enough,

if you deserve it if it's

something that's meant for you and I've had to come to terms with maybe it's not

and while that brings tears to my eyes and makes me as sad as someone could be

you just got to trust God's plan

but I can still dream

Brandon why do you think you feel that way what's behind it I've struggled with that alone feeling my entire life.

I got to live my dream job as a sports reporter on TV, and people would see me on NFL sidelines interviewing the biggest stars, but behind the scenes, I was struggling with that alone feeling.

I thought I met my wife, a woman I was going to have kids with, and unfortunately, it was a really toxic relationship and breakup, and it put me at a spot where I was suicidal and didn't want to live anymore,

and so I had to check into a hospital, get help, and I realized for the first time that I wasn't alone, and I took that moment, and I decided to, similar to what you're doing,

be hopefully a vulnerable man that can help others.

And so I created the mental game where I interview athletes and celebrities like Terry Crews, Nate Burleson, Kevin Gates, these men who you think might not have any problems in the world.

And they struggle with the same things as me and other men in this room.

And I also go all over the country and try to speak.

We've been to 46 states, spoken to over 250 ,000 kids, adults, men, women, just trying to show that, look, it's okay to be alone and to be vulnerable as men,

but you have to show those emotions.

You know, I watched my dad my entire life, hold it all in.

And it wasn't until the night that I called him and said, hey, I'm going to take my own life that we ever talked about mental health.

So is all that talking and speaking about it, has it helped you resolve your own?

Yeah.

I mean, I was emotional watching that video.

We locked eyes as soon as it started playing because I posted that three weeks ago on a Friday night, not thinking it would do anything.

And it had 5 million views when I woke up because I think a lot of other men felt just like me.

So it is like therapy.

I go to therapy.

I spent two weeks in the hospital.

This has become my purpose to help myself and others.

But I think what I've learned traveling the country

and working with these athletes and celebrities and just anyone that's struggling with their mental health, specifically men, there's a lot of us feel the same way as I did in that video.

And that's why it went viral.

But we're scared of what our peers, other men in the room, women will think of us.

I mean, I gave up on dating.

I want to get married.

I want to have kids one day.

But since I lost who who I thought was gonna be my wife and the mother to my children, I kind of put all that energy in me.

And so I'm not on dating apps, I don't, the rejection thing, that's the biggest thing I'm scared of.

I would never go up to someone at a bar and say, hey, you're beautiful, let me buy you a cup of coffee.

I don't drink anymore, I'm sober, I struggle with addiction.

In my younger days in college, I'm cool, all right, you get no, great, go to the next one.

Now as being someone that's 32.

So what Scott said here earlier about rejection, how did that land with you?

I mean, it hit hard because like, it's funny, my professional life, I took all of the risk I could possibly do, leaving a job as an NFL reporter and starting my own thing.

Personal life, I have no interest in that, just because of that fear.

And so rather than risk that, I'd rather pour that energy into myself, going to the gym, working on my business, working on my mental health.

I think loving yourself, I didn't love myself until like a year and a half ago.

And it took me a long time to get to that point.

Okay.

What's your question for Scott?

I think for me, it bounces off that of how can you balance loving yourself, but also trying to find that person to love.

I feel like for the first time, like I said, I do love myself and I'm ready to date.

I want to get married one day and be a father and have kids.

But it's like, how do you balance the two?

Can you do both at the same time?

So I just feel like I need to disclose I have no domain expertise or training in psychiatry.

And so when you talk about mental health issues, I can talk to you about my own mental health issues,

but I don't ever want to supplant the notion that you should talk to professionals and get real advice.

I'm speaking to you as someone who's been through a lot of what you've been through, but my advice is anecdotal.

So just that asterisk.

I coach a lot of young men, and I have enough respect for you not to PG -13 or whitewash my content.

When men usually say, young men, the young men I work with, usually want to move out of their parents' house.

They want to start making some money, and then ultimately what they end up is, like, when they start trusting me, I'd really like a girlfriend.

And I go through a series of exercises, and the first thing I ask them is, like, would you have sex with you?

What do you look like?

Do you take your appearance seriously?

Do you have a plan?

Do you have a kindness practice?

How do you demonstrate excellence?

Right?

The basis of evolution.

I love the way you talk about, you emphasize kindness so much in notes on being a man.

There are three reasons women are attracted to men sexually.

And there's a ton of research here.

Number one, and we don't like to talk about this, is the man's ability to signal resources.

All right?

We don't like to admit that.

It's important.

Number two is intellect.

Because instinctively, people who make good decisions for the tribe, the tribe lives longer

so women are drawn to intellect the fastest way to communicate an intellect is humor

and just so i can offend everybody it's a joke

but we can be funny about this this is my impersonation of a woman i'm laughing i'm laughing i'm naked

if you can make a woman laugh the only dates i ever got with people i can make laugh

if you can make a woman laugh she will likely have a coffee with you

and then the third thing

and this is the most under leveraged secret weapon in mating kindness

because women instinctively know there might be periods in their life through gestation

or because they are smaller physically that they need someone who baseline is kind right

so a kindness practice i i'm not proud of you say

you were not always kind i'm not proud of this i was not born with the kindness gene

and when i had kids i realized that they were gonna model me, so I believe, like anything, you can develop a practice.

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And every day, I tried to do something that demonstrated some sort of generosity towards someone with no reciprocal expectation.

101

When did you realize you were not a kind person?

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Professionally, when I realized that I could have been so much nicer, I could have.

103

Were you unkind?

104

Were you an asshole?

105

Never mean, never unkind, but what you realize is that you have, everyone has capital.

106

When you're young, you have more time than money.

107

When you're older, you have some money.

108

I got some early success.

109

I would have been so easy for me to lift young people up.

110

I was never mean, but it would have been so easy for me to say, you were just outstanding in that meeting.

111

Or I've been watching you.

112

I think you're going to do great.

113

This is where I think you could improve.

114

It's so easy.

115

And you don't have to be a baller.

116

I now stop.

117

I saw an old couple.

118

I'm virtue signaling right now, but it's true.

119

I saw an old couple on the street.

120

They looked amazing.

121

It was one of those New York couples.

122

And I stopped them and I said, you guys just look amazing.

123

And I could tell it made them feel good and it made me feel better about myself.

124

And now after doing this for 20 years, it's common practice.

125

But these are basic reasons why women are drawn to men.

126

What I would say to you is it sounds like you've worked a lot on yourself and you're ready.

127

Boss, there's no free lunch.

128

If you wanna make real money, if you wanna hang out with someone higher character than you and better looking than you,

129

quite frankly, get ready to eat shit because it involves rejection over and over and over.

130

Nothing wonderful will happen to you without taking an uncomfortable risk.

131

And a lot of it is just practice.

132

Get used to know.

133

And when I tell these men I mentor, church group, sports league, whatever it might be, and then you got to express friendship or romantic interest.

134

And this is what's going to happen.

135

You're probably going to get to know and then you're going to call me the next day.

136

I'm going to say, are you all right?

137

And that person's going to say, yes.

138

I'm going to say, okay, and now the next time it's two approaches.

139

You just gotta build some calluses.

140

There's no easy way around it.

141

No is the path to wonderful yeses.

142

Got that, Brandon?

143

I got it.

144

I'm gonna try my best.

145

Thank you, Brandon.

146

The humor part helps.

147

Thank you.

148

I applaud you, Brandon, too, for allowing yourself to be so vulnerable on that tape.

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That's why you got 5 million responses, because people respond to your heart.

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Vocabulaire et conseils d’expression pour cette leçon

Cette leçon d’expression orale de niveau B2 s’appuie sur la vidéo « How to Make Yourself Attractive to Anything You Want ». Cette vidéo contient 149 phrases et 1889 mots à répéter en shadowing. La partie parlée dure 9:22. Le locuteur parle vite, environ 202 mots par minute : attendez-vous à des liaisons et à des sons réduits. 85 % des mots font partie des 3 000 mots les plus courants en anglais ; le reste mérite d’être vu avant de commencer.

Vocabulaire clé de cette vidéo

Les 15 mots les plus avancés de la vidéo, avec leur prononciation et leur sens :

Mot	Prononciation	Sens
kindness nom	/ˈkaɪnd.nəs/	bonté
rejection nom	/ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/	refus, rejet
intellect nom	/ˈɪntəlɛkt/	intellect
instinctively adverbe	/ɪnˈstɪŋktɪvli/	instinctivement
humour nom	/ˈhjuːmɚ/	humour
frankly adverbe	/fɹæŋkli/	franchement
scare verbe	/skɛɚ/	effrayer
athlete nom	/ˈæθ.liːt/	athlète
uncomfortable adjectif	/ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/	inconfortable
demonstrate verbe	/ˈdɛm.ənˌstɹeɪt/	démontrer
anecdotal adjectif	[ˌænɪkˈdəʊ̯tɫ̩]	anecdotique
applaud verbe	/əˈplɔd/	applaudir, ovationner
callus nom	/ˈkæləs/	cal, durillon
gestation nom	/d͡ʒɛsˈteɪʃən/	gestation
reciprocal adjectif	/ɹɪˈsɪpɹək(ə)l/	réciproque

Les verbes à particule que vous entendrez

Mot	Prononciation	Sens
end up verbe		se terminer, se finir
go through verbe		traverser
wake up verbe	/ˌweɪk ˈʌp/	se réveiller

Des phrases à répéter

Des phrases courtes et complètes de la vidéo, à réutiliser dans la conversation de tous les jours :

Can you do both at the same time?
What do you look like?
Do you take your appearance seriously?
Do you have a plan?
I'm going to say, are you all right?

La grammaire de cette vidéo

Les structures que le locuteur utilise le plus, avec les mots exacts de la vidéo :

Structure	Dans la vidéo
Present perfect have/has + participe passé — une action passée qui compte encore maintenant	you've worked · I've wanted · I've struggled
Voix passive be + participe passé — l’accent est mis sur ce qui arrive, pas sur qui le fait	are attracted · are drawn · was not born
Propositions relatives who / which + proposition — une précision sur une personne ou une chose	men who you · people who make · someone who baseline

Prononciation à surveiller

Le locuteur utilise 57 contractions et formes réduites, comme I'm, you're, don't. Prononcez-les sous leur forme courte, telles que vous les entendez.

Les sons « sh » et « zh »: rejection /ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, gestation /d͡ʒɛsˈteɪʃən/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, addiction /əˈdɪkˌʃən/, notion /ˈnoʊʃən/
Mots longs — placez bien l’accent: instinctively /ɪnˈstɪŋktɪvli/, uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/, reciprocal /ɹɪˈsɪpɹək(ə)l/, psychiatry /saɪˈkaɪ.əˌtɹi/, suicidal /ˌsu.əˈsaɪ.dəl/

Les sons difficiles pour les francophones :

/tʃ/ et /dʒ/ — à ne pas adoucir en « ch » et « j »: rejection /ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, gestation /d͡ʒɛsˈteɪʃən/, generosity /ˌd͡ʒɛn.əˈɹɑ.sə.ti/, leverage /ˈlɛv.(ə.)ɹɪd͡ʒ/, virtue /ˈvɝt͡ʃu/
/r/ anglais — langue recourbée, sans frotter la gorge: rejection /ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, frankly /fɹæŋkli/, demonstrate /ˈdɛm.ənˌstɹeɪt/, asterisk /ˈæstəɹɪsk/, reciprocal /ɹɪˈsɪpɹək(ə)l/

Comment s’entraîner avec cette vidéo

Écoutez la vidéo en entier une fois sans parler et notez les mots que vous ne connaissez pas.
Commencez à la vitesse 0,75×, répétez phrase par phrase, puis revenez à la vitesse normale quand cela devient facile.
Enregistrez-vous et comparez avec l’original, en faisant attention à des mots comme kindness, rejection, intellect.

Qu'est-ce que la technique du Shadowing ?

Le Shadowing est une technique d'apprentissage des langues fondée sur la science, développée à l'origine pour la formation des interprètes professionnels. Le principe est simple mais puissant : vous écoutez de l'anglais natif et le répétez immédiatement à voix haute — comme une ombre suivant le locuteur avec un décalage de 1 à 2 secondes. Les recherches montrent une amélioration significative de la précision de la prononciation, de l'intonation, du rythme, des liaisons, de la compréhension orale et de la fluidité.

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Vocabulaire et conseils d’expression pour cette leçon

Vocabulaire clé de cette vidéo

Les verbes à particule que vous entendrez

Des phrases à répéter

La grammaire de cette vidéo

Prononciation à surveiller

Comment s’entraîner avec cette vidéo

Qu'est-ce que la technique du Shadowing ?