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Do you feel awkward around people?
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Has the pandemic exacerbated your social anxiety?
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Do you tend to overthink every little thing you said in a discussion?
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If so, you've clicked on the right video.
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Because today, I'm going to share with you how I tame my social anxiety and how you can sparkle in any conversation.
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Let's get started.
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So first up, I want to talk about the difference between self -confidence
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and self -esteem these two are always interchangeably used
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but they're actually quite different
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so self -confidence can be applied to skills like you become confident at things
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that you do over and over and over again
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and that's how you master them like like driving I remember
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when I first learned how to drive at 15 I was
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freaking terrified I was driving like five miles per hour in the slowest lane freaking out
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but after just continuously doing it over
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and over again I'm just like whizzing up the road safely
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of course the same thing can be applied with socializing it is truly a skill
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that you can just build upon by just doing it over
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and over again self -esteem on the other hand is how you view
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and perceive yourself this is like how you treat yourself
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when you're all alone
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and this really explains like how I felt socially I was completely confident being in social situations talking to people
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but because I had low self -esteem when I'd go home I would literally overthink everything I said.
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I would think, did I overshare?
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Was I too much?
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Did I sound stupid?
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I knew
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that I had to get to the root of building my self -esteem in order to just have more healthy social interactions.
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And one huge way that I built my self -esteem is therapy.
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if you are interested So let's talk about small talk I would say the majority of people don't like it I mean, there was a phase in my life where I just detested
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small talk I thought it was pointless I just immediately wanted to get deep
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But things have changed I actually see a beauty
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and a charm with small talk I've learned
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that small talk is pretty much the foreplay of conversation A
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lot of the times people need warming up We really are
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like onions I feel like Shrek said it best Like we all have layers to ourselves
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And small talk is just like peeling the first layer It's
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also a vibe check as well You can kind of suss
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out whether you are going to get along with someone If they're feeling social, if they're feeling more closed off
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But I don't love small talk for the entire conversation Small talk doesn't need to be like for an hour
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But I think like 15, 15, 10, 15 minutes of small talk Is like a nice reasonable amount I think
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when you're talking with strangers
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and acquaintances You got to treat them like ovens Like you
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got to put on the preheat before you stick the entree
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in It's not until you've earned their trust Like with a best friend
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or a friend Where you can just treat them like microwaves where you can just like open up
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and like start immediately this leads us to the next phase
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which is to ask questions i think my go -to small
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talk questions start off with just a simple how are you how is your day i see each question
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that i put out kind of as a net
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because i'm trying to catch what we have in common like the main objective for me
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when i enter a conversation is to find something
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that i have in common with that person a small talk question
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that has like the highest success rate for me is what neighborhood do you live in?
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Because if I have been to that city or town or state, I will blurt out any observation that I've made about that.
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So like a recent example is like I went to a concert
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and I met this girl and asked her what neighborhood she lived in.
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And she said Rancho Cucamonga.
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Luckily, I had been there.
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So I just said, oh, I love Rancho.
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I love how straightforward the roads are.
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It's like, it's really like a perfect grid system.
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And she just lit up and was like, oh my God, yeah.
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Like when I'm driving, it's just a street shot.
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And that was just immediately my way in on connecting with someone.
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And the thing is, it could be extremely light.
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It could be a dim sum restaurant.
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It could be a park.
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It could be an arena.
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It could be a freaking Costco.
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It could be anything.
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Another simple one is, what are you drinking?
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Because if we're drinking the same thing, we can be like, ah, oh my gosh, you know, like Sauvignon Blanc, tequila, oh my gosh.
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Like, even if it's just water, you can talk about like different brands of water or if you have a water filter.
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It's literally just blurting out anything that comes to mind or any information that you know about what they say.
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This is why I like small talk because it's really my way of gauging if I vibe with this person or not.
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And it just allows me to keep things light.
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So if like, it's not really going our way, Then I know to not drain my social battery on this person So once small talk is flowing,
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you're feeling good The next objective is to find a topic
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that sparks enthusiasm in both of y 'all
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So I actually have like a Rolodex of hot topics
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that I like to talk about So I'll naturally kind of like go through them
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And see like what sticks with that other person
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And I swear to god it's not as like robotic
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and systematic as I'm laying it out But it's just something
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that I subconsciously do So I like to talk a lot about like feelings.
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So I can sometimes I'll just throw out like, hey, like how's your soul been recently?
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Or what season are you in life right now?
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Have you picked up any hobbies during lockdown?
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Have you had any revelations about lockdown?
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Because, you know, COVID is something that we all experienced globally.
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So that's just just one objective thing that we all have in common.
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And from there, it just really branches out to anything like, you know, some people get into fitness, health, science, walking, meditation spirituality you know so i feel like when i ask
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that question it opens just a box of potential ways
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that we can connect a lot of people think
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that in order to be interesting they need to be super smart
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or funny or whatever narrative they have in their head
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but the best way to be interesting is to be interested generally people enjoy talking even like the biggest introverts
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But the key is to make them feel comfortable
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And I think the best way to do
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that is by actively listening I try my best to really engage with what they're saying Like
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if someone is talking to me
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and sharing something to me I will just focus on what
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they're saying I'm not like playing in my head of like Okay, I'm gonna say this and I'm gonna think of
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that response Like I've noticed that the best responses come from me just genuinely listening
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And not putting
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that pressure on myself to be a certain type of way
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I think learning how to be an active listener is a tool that extroverts and introverts should absolutely do.
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It's just like a life skill.
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If you haven't read the book How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, that's just like a good blueprint of how to do that.
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Like when I read that book in 2016, it just transformed the way I move in social situations.
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And personally when I found out this tip, it was just like a huge relief for me
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because it put the pressure off of like me having to like quote unquote perform
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because i truly am like an ambivert like i would say i'm 55 introverted
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and 45 extroverted so i have no problem
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when an extrovert wants to take up space
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and you know you know do their thing
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when someone is sharing something with me i like to ask a question
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that prides a little deeper about what they just said
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so for example let's say we're talking about revelations you had
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during lockdown let's say this person said yeah the pandemic was crazy i use
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that time to really be more introspective
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and then i would be like oh wow that's
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so interesting like what activities did you do to be more reflective even
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if it's just a super basic question it signals to the other person
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that you're actively interested and curious about their life let's say you're blanking
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and you just have no questions to ask a trick
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that i do is i will just kind of summarize what they said in a sentence
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so going back to the most recent example
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if someone you know opened up about their you know introspective
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pandemic period i would literally just respond oh wow it sounds like
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that was an extremely reflective time for you period
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and maybe i would share revelations that i had during lockdown you know
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so it's really like a two -way street i think every introvert's nightmare is like the dreaded pause
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or like the awkward silence and i just want to point out to you
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that these pauses feel longer in your head than what's actually happening in reality i don't trip out
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when there's like you know a little beat in the conversation and
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if anything it's i kind of see it as a sign
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of like okay like let's let's switch things up a quick
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way to break it is just pointing out something that's in front of you
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because that again is a shared experience it's something
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that you have in common so it could be as simple as I was like, oh my gosh, do you see that chair?
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That's so nice.
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Terrible example, but you know the then you guys could talk about interior design.
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There's always something to talk about But let's say you're having a really wobbly day and you you're just frozen
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I think just being honest and sincere about how you're feeling I've been in
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that situation so many times where I just say oh man I feel
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so socially awkward like I haven't talked to people in a long time So forgive me, you know, just kind of like playing it off like
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that can be really helpful Even
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if you just say like I'm about to have a panic attack that that also disarms that other person.
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And if that other person is feeling the same way, it completely makes them feel more comfortable knowing that you guys are both feeling nervous.
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I think this is a good thing to say on a first date.
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Like if you guys are just both feeling really nervous, just saying, ah, I'm nervous.
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That kinda helps, it really does.
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Because it shows like the humanness.
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It's you being vulnerable.
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And so I think being sincere about how you are
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and how you feel is the best policy in any conversation
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that you're in this leads us to our final tip
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which is no one remembers everything you say they just remember
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how they feel this is the perfect advice for all those over thinkers
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and perfectionists out there like just genuinely no one cares
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if you stuttered or if there was a pause or
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if you asked a stupid question the only thing that's going to be remembered is the energy
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and the vibe and the tone and that's something that
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that is just included in the whole experience of that interaction that you had.
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So if you make them feel comfortable, that's all that really matters.
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Like think about it, after a social event, like how often is it that you feel just so fixated on what someone did, if someone stuttered, or if someone, you know, maybe if they said something mean,
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like maybe they'll stick with you, but then again, like that's not on you, that's on that person.
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It's so true that everyone is the main character in their own movie.
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Even if you spent like all night with that person, you're still just a side character and
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if you just have a small interaction then you're a freaking extra they're probably not gonna remember
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but they'll remember like how they felt you know
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and the thing is even if you make a bad impression
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or they felt weird around you
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if you see them again it's a totally it's like a totally new opportunity to try again there have been
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so many moments where I was just not feeling my best
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but I went out anyway
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and I probably didn't make a great impression I actually look forward to
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when I see those people again because I can redeem myself you know so
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so there's always like a silver lining in these types of
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things all right folks that's all the time i have for
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today i feel like we just touched the surface about conversation
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and socializing and connection uh you know it's
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so true where like even the most introverted person needs connection
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and even the most extroverted person can find ways to connect deeper
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so this is truly an evergreen video for anyone
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and it's also a topic
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that just completely fascinates me also i think what would be what would be really fun is
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if people wrote their favorite like question to ask people.
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Leave that in the comments down below as well.
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I wanna thank you guys so much for watching and go out there and socialize.
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You can do it.
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All right, talk to you later.
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Bye.
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אוצר מילים והערות הגייה לשיעור הזה
שיעור הדיבור הזה ברמה B2 מבוסס על הסרטון “How To Talk To Anyone”. בסרטון הזה יש 215 משפטים ו-2619 מילים לתרגול Shadowing. הדיבור נמשך 12:53. הדובר מדבר מהר, כ-203 מילים בדקה, אז צפו לצלילים מחוברים ומקוצרים. 84% מהמילים נמצאות בין 3,000 המילים הנפוצות ביותר באנגלית; כדאי ללמוד את השאר לפני שמתחילים.
אוצר מילים מרכזי בסרטון הזה
15 המילים המתקדמות ביותר בסרטון, עם ההגייה והמשמעות שלהן:
| מילה | הגייה | משמעות |
|---|---|---|
| lockdown שם עצם | /ˈlɑkˌdaʊn/ | סֶגֶר |
| revelation שם עצם | /ˌɹɛv.əˈleɪ.ʃən/ | הִתְגַּלּוּת |
| pause שם עצם | /pɔːz/ | אתנח |
| stutter שם עצם | /ˈstʌtɚ/ | גמגום |
| sincere שם תואר | /sɪnˈsɪɹ/ | כֵּן, כֵּנֶה |
| evergreen שם תואר | /ˈɛvəɡɹiːn/ | יְרֹק־עַד, ירוק עד |
| summarize פועל | /ˈsʌməˌɹaɪz/ | סיכם |
| tequila שם עצם | /ˌtəˈkiː.lə/ | טֶקִילָה |
| thinker שם עצם | /ˈθɪŋ.kɚ/ | אָדָם חוֹשֵׁב |
| unquote | סוף ציטוט | |
| listener שם עצם | /ˈlɪs(ə)nɚ/ | מַאֲזִין |
| devote פועל | /dɪˈvəʊt/ | הקדיש |
| dread שם עצם | /dɹɛd/ | חרדה, פחד |
| vent שם עצם | /vɛnt/ | אַוְרָר |
| microwave שם עצם | /ˈmaɪkɹoʊˌweɪv/ | מִיקְרוֹגַל |
Phrasal verbs שתשמעו
| מילה | הגייה | משמעות |
|---|---|---|
| go out פועל | יָצָא | |
| fill out פועל | /fɪl ˈaʊt/ | הִשְׁלִים |
| pick up פועל | הרים, אסף |
משפטים שכדאי לחזור עליהם
משפטים קצרים ושלמים מהסרטון שאפשר להשתמש בהם בשיחה יומיומית:
- Do you feel awkward around people?
- Has the pandemic exacerbated your social anxiety?
- I would think, did I overshare?
- Another simple one is, what are you drinking?
- Have you picked up any hobbies during lockdown?
דקדוק בסרטון הזה
המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:
| מבנה | בסרטון |
|---|---|
| הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו | you've clicked · have changed · I've learned |
| סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה | are always interchangeably used · can be applied · will be matched |
הגייה ששווה לשים לב אליה
הדובר משתמש ב-55 קיצורים וצורות מקוצרות, כמו you're, I'm, they're. אמרו אותם בצורה הקצרה, כפי שאתם שומעים אותם.
- הצלילים של “th”: therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/, thinker /ˈθɪŋ.kɚ/, unearth /ʌnˈɜː(ɹ)θ/, enthusiasm /ɪnˈθuziæzəm/
- הצלילים של “sh” ו-“zh”: socialize /ˈsoʊʃəlaɪz/, gosh /ɡɑːʃ/, revelation /ˌɹɛv.əˈleɪ.ʃən/, socially /ˈsoʊʃəli/, perfectionist /pɚˈfɛk.ʃənɪst/
- מילים ארוכות — שימו לב להטעמה: extroverted /ˈɛkstɹəˌvəɹtɪd/, revelation /ˌɹɛv.əˈleɪ.ʃən/, introspective /ˌɪntɹəˈspɛktɪv/, introverted /ˈɪn.tɹəˌvɜːɹ.təd/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/
צלילים שדוברי עברית מתקשים בהם:
- /w/ — שפתיים מעוגלות, לא /v/: questionnaire /ˌk(w)ɛstʃəˈnɛə/, wobbly /ˈwɑb(ə)li/, acquaintance /ʌˈkweɪn.təns/, microwave /ˈmaɪkɹoʊˌweɪv/, straightforward /ˌstɹeɪtˈfɔː(ɹ)wə(ɹ)d/
- /æ/ — פתוח יותר מה-“אֶ” העברית, לא כמו “a” ב-“cup”: ambivert /ˈæmbəˌvɚt/, exacerbate /ɪɡˈzæsɚˌbeɪt/, expansive /ɪkˈspænsɪv/, fascinate /ˈfæsɪneɪt/, spirituality /ˌspɪɹ.ə.t͡ʃuˈæl.ə.tɪ/
- /r/ — הלשון לא נוגעת בשום מקום, לא ה-“ר” הגרונית: therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/, extroverted /ˈɛkstɹəˌvəɹtɪd/, revelation /ˌɹɛv.əˈleɪ.ʃən/, introspective /ˌɪntɹəˈspɛktɪv/, introvert /ˈɪn.tɹə.vɝt/
איך לתרגל עם הסרטון הזה
- הקשיבו לכל הסרטון פעם אחת בלי לדבר, ורשמו את המילים שאתם לא מכירים.
- התחילו במהירות 0.75×, תרגלו Shadowing משפט אחר משפט, וחזרו למהירות רגילה כשזה מרגיש קל.
- הקליטו את עצמכם והשוו למקור, תוך תשומת לב למילים כמו lockdown, revelation, pause.
מהי טכניקת השאדואינג?
שאדואינג היא טכניקת למידת שפה מבוססת מדע שפותחה במקור להכשרת מתורגמנים מקצועיים ופופולרית על ידי הפוליגלוט ד"ר אלכסנדר ארגואלס. השיטה פשוטה אך עוצמתית: אתה מקשיב לאודיו באנגלית ילידית וחוזר עליו בקול רם מיד — כמו צל העוקב אחרי הדובר עם עיכוב של 1–2 שניות בלבד. בניגוד להאזנה פסיבית או תרגילי דקדוק, שאדואינג מכריח את המוח והשרירים בפה לעבד ולשחזר דפוסי דיבור אמיתיים בו זמנית. מחקרים מראים שזה משפר משמעותית את דיוק ההגייה, האינטונציה, הקצב, הדיבור המחובר, הבנת השמיעה ושטף הדיבור — מה שהופך אותו לאחת השיטות היעילות ביותר להכנה לIELTS Speaking ולתקשורת באנגלית בעולם האמיתי.