शैडोइंग अभ्यास: How to Stop Feeling Nostalgic for an Ex - वीडियो के साथ अंग्रेजी बोलना सीखें

After considerable agony, we've left a relationship.

We're on our own now, and when we can bear to be honest, it is a little bit harder than we expected.

We aren't going on so many dates.

The central heating broke down last week.

The shopping is proving a hurdle.

In idle moments, we find ourselves daydreaming, returning fondly to certain occasions in the recently concluded relationship.

There was that wintry weekend by the sea.

They looked adorable walking on the beach in their thick scarf.

We fed seagulls and drank cheap wine from paper cups on the sea front and felt connected and happy.

We're newly conscious of the charm of so many things that seemed ordinary at the time.

Coming out of the supermarket, putting everything away in the fridge and cupboards, making soup and toasted cheese and watching TV on the sofa.

With these thoughts in mind, we feel weepy and tender and at points distinctly tempted to call the ex up again.

They would, we suspect, allow us back or at least give us a hearing.

What can we make of our feelings?

It might be that we have realised a genuine mistake.

But it is even more likely

that we are in the grip of a characteristic mental habit of the newly single facing the vertigo of independence.

Nostalgia.

In the middle of the 19th century, Britain underwent industrial and scientific revolutions that transformed old, settled ways of life, ripping apart communities,

throwing people together in large and anonymous cities and dislocating the loyalties and certainties once offered by religion.

In a search for ways to soften the confusion, artists and thinkers began to imagine what a better world might look like,

and in certain circles, the search turned towards the past, and more specifically, towards the perceived wisdom,

coherence and contentment of the Middle Ages.

While railway lines were being laid down across the land and telegraph cables under the seas, members of the artistic class celebrated the simple,

innocent communities that they proposed had existed in the 12th and 13th centuries.

Artworks depicted handsome, uneducated but happy labourers,

cheerful villagers celebrating harvests and kindly lords and ladies ministering to the deserving poor.

There seemed to be no violence, alienation, fear or cruelty.

No one minded not having much heating or subsisting on a meagre diet of oats and the odd piece of lard.

It had, it was alleged, been very much easier back then in the thatched cottages and pious stone churches.

At the heart of the nostalgic attitude is a disregard for why things ever changed and might have needed to do so.

For the nostalgic, the past never required alteration or development history moved on but for no sane reason.

The complexities of the present moment are in this sense deemed wholly accidental.

They are not the tricky by-products of a legitimate search for growth and progress, away from what must have been at some level, despite the odd delightful occasion,

perhaps at harvest time or on a midsummer morning, an intolerable previous arrangement.

The nostalgic can't accept that the present, whatever its faults, came about because of inescapable difficulties with the past.

They insist that we had already once been perfectly happy, then mysteriously changed everything for the worse because we forgot we had been so.

Relationships can find us reasoning no less selectively.

Here too, it can feel as if we must once have been content and then grew ungrateful through error and inattention.

Yet, in locating profound satisfaction in the past, we are crediting our earlier selves with too little acumen.

The truth about what a relationship is like

is best ascertained not when we are feeling low six months or a few years after its conclusion,

but from what we must have known when we were in its midst,

when we were most familiar with all the facts upon which we made our slow and deliberate decision to leave.

The specific grounds for our dissatisfactions tend to evaporate.

We edit out the rows, the botched trips, the sexual frustrations, the stubborn standoffs.

The mind is a squeamish organ.

It doesn't like to entertain bad news unless there is a highly present danger to be attended to.

But knowing our amnesiac tendencies, we can be certain that profound unpleasantness must have existed,

for there would otherwise have been no explanation for our decision to rip our relationship apart.

We would never have needed to act

if things had ever remotely been as gratifying as we are now nostalgically assuming they were.

The portrait we are painting of our relationship is emerging not from knowledge but from loneliness and apprehension.

Furthermore, our sense of ourselves as people who could be satisfied

with what was on offer is as untrue to our own

nature as is the fantasy of a modern urban dweller who dreams they might find enduring happiness in a medieval-style wooden hut.

The solution to the problem of satisfying our needs is not to hallucinate that they don't exist.

It is to square up to them and use every ingenuity we are capable of to devise workable solutions for them.

We should trust not what we feel now, in our weepy, disconsolate state, but what we must have known then.

A simple rule of thumb emerges.

We must invariably trust the decisions we took when we had the maximal information to hand upon which we made them,

not when we have emotional incentives to change our minds and mould ourselves into a caricature of an easily gratified creature.

There were persuasive reasons, even if, in our sadness, we now can't remember a single one.

Returning to the past wouldn't make us content.

It would merely, at great cost to all involved, remind us of why change was, in the end, so necessary.

We need to accept that good things did exist, but that they were no proper solution to certain of our well-founded needs.

It means accepting that we are as complicated

and as difficult to satisfy as we are and

that the way forward is to accept our characters rather than assume a simplicity we could never live up to.

We should have the courage of, and be ready to pay the full price for, our true complex natures.

Love is a skill that we can learn.

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इस वीडियो में शैडोइंग के लिए 74 वाक्य और 1099 शब्द हैं। बोला गया हिस्सा 7:21 लंबा है। वक्ता लगभग 149 शब्द प्रति मिनट की स्थिर गति से बोलता है, जो शैडोइंग के लिए आरामदायक है। केवल 79% शब्द अंग्रेज़ी के 3,000 सबसे आम शब्दों में से हैं, इसलिए शब्दावली कठिन है।

इस वीडियो की मुख्य शब्दावली

वीडियो के 15 सीखने लायक शब्द, उच्चारण और अर्थ के साथ:

शब्द	उच्चारण	अर्थ
charm संज्ञा	/t͡ʃɑɹm/	टोना, जादू
harvest संज्ञा	/ˈhɑɹ.vəst/	फ़सल, उपज
profound विशेषण	/pɹəˈfaʊnd/	गहन
complicated विशेषण	/ˈkɑm.plɪˌkeɪ.tɪd/	जटिल, पेचीदा
railway संज्ञा	/ˈɹeɪlˌweɪ/	रेलवे
thick विशेषण	/θɪk/	मोटा
innocent विशेषण	/ˈɪnəsənt/	निर्दोष
explanation संज्ञा	/ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/	स्पष्टीकरण, समझाना
happiness संज्ञा	/ˈhæpinɪs/	Hindi: हर्ष, आनंद
ordinary विशेषण	/ˈɔɹdɪnɛɹi/	साधारण, मामूली
skill संज्ञा	/skɪl/	कुशलता, कौशल
conclusion संज्ञा	/kənˈkluːʒən/	अंतिम
genuine विशेषण	/ˈd͡ʒɛn.juˌɪn/	सच, वास्तविक
remind क्रिया	/ɹəˈmaɪnd/	याद दिलाना
difficulty संज्ञा	/ˈdɪfɪkəlti/	कठिनाई, मुसीबत

ध्यान देने योग्य उच्चारण

वक्ता 9 बार संक्षिप्त रूपों का प्रयोग करता है, जैसे can't, we're, aren't। इन्हें वैसे ही छोटा बोलें जैसा आप सुनते हैं।

“th” की ध्वनियाँ: thick /θɪk/, furthermore /ˈfɜː(ɹ).ðə(ɹ)ˌmɔː(ɹ)/, thumb /ˈθʌm/, thatch /θæt͡ʃ/, thinker /ˈθɪŋ.kɚ/
“sh” और “zh” की ध्वनियाँ: occasion /əˈkeɪ̯ʒən/, explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, conclusion /kənˈkluːʒən/, confusion /kənˈfjuːʒən/, conscious /ˈkɑn.ʃəs/
लंबे शब्द — बलाघात सही रखें: complicated /ˈkɑm.plɪˌkeɪ.tɪd/, explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, ordinary /ˈɔɹdɪnɛɹi/, difficulty /ˈdɪfɪkəlti/, considerable /kənˈsɪdəɹəbl̩/

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पहले बिना बोले पूरा वीडियो एक बार सुनें और जो शब्द नहीं आते उन्हें लिख लें।
सामान्य गति पर एक-एक वाक्य की शैडोइंग करें और हर वाक्य तब तक दोहराएँ जब तक आपकी लय वक्ता से न मिल जाए।
अपनी आवाज़ रिकॉर्ड करें और मूल से तुलना करें, ख़ासकर charm, harvest, profound जैसे शब्दों पर ध्यान दें।

इस वीडियो का व्याकरण

वक्ता जिन संरचनाओं का सबसे अधिक प्रयोग करता है, वीडियो के असली शब्दों के साथ:

संरचना	वीडियो में
Present perfect have/has + past participle — बीता हुआ काम जिसका असर अभी भी है	we've left · have realised · have been
Passive voice be + past participle — ज़ोर इस पर कि क्या होता है, न कि कौन करता है	being laid · was alleged · be attended

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