शैडोइंग अभ्यास: storytime: i caught my ex CHEATING - वीडियो के साथ अंग्रेजी बोलना सीखें
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is in session okay we are here to discuss the long -awaited story time about me getting cheated on
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if you are a subscriber of my youtube channel then you probably do know
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that I have referenced little details here
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and there some of this might sound a bit familiar
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if you really do pay attention to detail
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when the situation first took place I definitely was not in
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a position to be able to thoroughly get my emotions out
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when it came to this topic just
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because it was a really sensitive time for me
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and I think it really bruised my ego just a little
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bit like I said I would have never expected it to happen to me
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but once I really sat back
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and kind of analyze the situation at hand i realized
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that i actually was not the problem um
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if a man wants to cheat or
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if anyone wants to cheat they are going to do
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that that's already something that they have planned to do in their mind
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and no matter how beautiful you are no matter how much
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money you have no matter what you do for them
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if someone wants to cheat on you they're going to do it by any means necessary
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so you cannot blame yourself and beat your own self up because it's not even your problem.
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channel then you guys would know I used to do story times a long time ago okay so
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if you've watched some of my previous story times y 'all
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already know how this go i am a yapper i'm someone
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who's going to give you the backstory as well as the actual story with
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that being said we're gonna go ahead and jump right on in
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because as you guys can see i went in
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and i had a lot of things
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that i had to discuss as a lot of you guys know i do not have much experience dating men
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when it comes to long term now i had a boyfriend lord knows how long ago
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when i was in like middle school but
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that wasn't anything serious i think that was more
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so of just a kiddie relationship and
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if you know you know for many years i've dated women i didn't really take the time to dibble
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and dabble into anything else
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because i just felt like i had knew myself enough to know
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that i want to spend the rest of my life with a woman
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but clearly that statement changed because if not i mean we wouldn't end up in the situation nonetheless
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my sophomore year of college i had just moved back to the states from italy
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and i decided i was going to move to manhattan during
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the time of me living in manhattan i was attending kansas
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state university maybe within like the few month mark of me
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just being in school i was getting out of something
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that was serious
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and kind of just within limbo of do i want to
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get back in a relationship do i just need to remain single for the time or
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do i just want to vibe like it was
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so many different things that were going on in my mind
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because i personally just did not know what i wanted to do at
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that given point in time i really was not looking for
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anything during this time i had came to the decision
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that it was probably just best for me to not be in anything serious just
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because i just gotten out of something that was serious
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so it just didn't really make any sense because i was not healed
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and i knew that it even got to a point where i put my own self into therapy
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because there were things that i needed to work on from within
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and i knew if i just jumped into something serious it would make things worse
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because it's like i didn't even give myself time to heal you know
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and so it's like every time you say you're not looking for something serious somebody just comes along
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and they convince you to think otherwise and that's exactly what happened here
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while i was living in manhattan i did meet a young man
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that i genuinely liked
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when we originally were in the process of us getting to
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know each other we both were kind of on the same page of we're not looking for something serious
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but if it does happen to get serious then that's just what it's gonna be but somehow some way within
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a few weeks time span it just got to a point where i was being told things
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that i feel like i wanted to hear and by being told things
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that i wanted to hear i mean this young man was
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making it seem like he wanted to be with me long
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term he was giving me flowers it even got to a
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point where i even met his mom i met his sister
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he was telling his teammates about me like it really started to get serious
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and although i was originally opposed to getting into something
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so serious so soon i genuinely thought i was in love
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and so with me experiencing all these things with him
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that you know couples do
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because i feel like meeting someone's mom going out in public especially
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when it's a small college town these are not things
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that you just do with someone that you're not trying to be serious with
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so from that alone and just the actions
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that he was showing me i'm thinking okay cool you want
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to be with me long term who am i to deny
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myself of romance i'm a lover girl i can't fight it
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if you're doing all these things for me and you really are showing
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that you want to be with me let's do it you
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know what i'm saying i already know what a lot of
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you guys are thinking girl you jumped into this way too
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soon yes I did I jumped in head over heels and
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that is because I was being manipulated along the way to believe
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that it was something
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that it wasn't I feel like you could say I was a bit naive
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and oblivious to a lot of the red flags
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that I was seeing from within the relationship for example I would notice
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that he would sleep with his phone up under his pillow every single night it was on silent
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and on top of it being on silent it was on do not disturb for two every now
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and then he would have random numbers just facetime him
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and he would never answer i'll literally glance at the number
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he'd see me glance at the number as it's literally facetiming him
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but the number's not saved
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so he just doesn't answer he'll just move on from it as
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if we just didn't see it okay so future editing later here
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and it's a few things that i'm going to be popping in
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and out just so that i can give you guys a little bit more detail
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because i feel like i did not thoroughly explain a few things
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but listen y 'all
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so i know it might sound crazy it you know he
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could have just been receiving a regular phone call it could have just been somebody random okay cool
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but listen why is somebody facetiming you
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if you don't know them ain't nobody facetiming me consistently
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if we ain't been facetiming before you know what i'm saying
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like it just don't make no sense it doesn't make any sense whatsoever and i remember
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at one point in time i had asked him
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because he was receiving a phone call like a few weeks
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later after he had already been receiving phone calls i i
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told him i was like like hey like just pick up
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the phone i want to know who calling like who's calling
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us you know what i'm saying like as a concerned person would be i'm not one of those people
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that is oblivious okay i'm not one of those people that's going to turn blind eye
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if i see something that i don't want to see no
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because you want to know why
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because somebody like me i am always ready to walk away okay one thing about it i've always heard
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if you're not ready to leave the nigga for cheating
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don't ask no questions but you see me i ask questions i do
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because i don't mind walking away because i can always go find another one
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and so the thing is i was like answer the phone
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he acted nervous like he answered the phone why is one of his homeboys
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it apparently he ain't got it this homeboy's number saved okay cool
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and so we're talking about it after he get off the phone
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and he's gonna say he was like something something yeah i'm
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not gonna lie i was kind of nervous to pick up the phone
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if you ain't doing something you ain't got no business why you scared to answer the phone
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one thing about they are going to tell on themselves if you really just sit and let them speak
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they are going to tell on themselves every single time every
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single time y 'all three he was consistently in communication with
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his ex now listen by communication i don't mean they are texting from my knowledge one thing
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that we would always argue over was the fact that
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he did not want to unfollow his past lovers now to
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each its own everybody has a different set the rules
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and regulations in their relationships whatever y 'all do in y
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'all relationship is cool y 'all not in a relationship with me
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but if you're gonna be in a relationship with me
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that ain't flying then your ex is not gonna be commenting on your post
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and congratulating you like no that's that's just not something
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that i have personally ever been fond of
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because i've been on both ends of the stick i know
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what it's like to have an ex be in a relationship still on my line
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if your ex is always commenting on your post i am
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always going to give the woman the benefit of the doubt you as a man has to be entertaining her
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because why is she that comfortable commenting on your post what is it
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that makes her feel comfortable enough to comment on your post
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because none of my exes feel comfortable once me
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and my exes are done i make sure to set those boundaries
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and be very clear that hey we're done and that's just that so
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when i'm mentioning how these things made me feel he would always say well you know she's just crazy
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or like you know that's just how she acts like she
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always says like she's still gonna be in my life forever
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honestly y 'all i feel like knowing what i know now i definitely feel like
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he definitely was entertaining her like that girl was not crazy for no reason so
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when he would tell me these things i was split 50
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50 i definitely was torn between the idea of thinking okay maybe he's still entertaining her
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but then again maybe she could be delusional
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because some women are very delusional this man was very controlling
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now at the time of us dating i was 20 21 around
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that age group and
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so i want to wear a cute black mini dress i want to experience what it's like to be young
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so that when i am hitting 25 26 27 i'm not going out to the club every weekend
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because i've already lived
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that life he really did not ever want to give me
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the opportunity to be young it's like you knew he had a bad
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but with him knowing he had a bad he wanted to
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turn the bad into a holier than now that's just not who i am y 'all i am young fun
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and very cunty okay you're not going to take
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that away from me in my early ages of life with him being
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so controlling i felt like he was trying to change me i'm not even talking about just me going out
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and the outer appearance
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and things of the sort no i mean it's like he
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wanted me to completely erase my past of me being a
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part of the lgbtq community i remember at one point in time i really wanted to go to houston pride
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and i was talking to him about how excited i was about going
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and all these things of the sort and
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when i brought the idea up to him i kid you
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guys not this man literally gets the nastiest attitude okay he
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just starts bringing up like you're not gay no more you're
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with a man now like why are you still trying to represent that lifestyle that's not who you are anymore
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and I vividly remember telling him I was like even though
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we are dating there is a b as in bisexual a part of lgbtq community he would say things like
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that it just made me feel like he wanted me to completely turn my back on a community of people
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and I just felt like that wasn't fair because I knew deep down
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that yeah I'm dating you as a man but
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that don't mean I'm looking at a bunch of other men
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because you quite literally are probably the only man
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that I will ever like
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and I know at this given point in time you guys
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are witnessing me tell this story I'm able to laugh about these things
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but in that point in time it was actually really hurtful
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because I felt like he not only was trying to change me
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but it kind of felt like he was ashamed of you know just the lifestyle that I personally
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live and I feel like as someone who was very direct
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and upfront um with him before we even got together about my past
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and my dating history I think it's one of those things where you knew
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so you embraced it and so now it's becoming a problem
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and so it just kind of hurt I'm not gonna lie
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because I even remember at one point in time I had
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told him I was considering getting like a really small just rainbow tattoo around this area
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and um he also got really upset about that
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and he kept bringing up okay well you're not a part of
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that lifestyle anymore because you now date me you should not want to be associated with
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that lifestyle and even if I was no longer associated with
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that lifestyle i still have plenty of friends and family
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that are a part of the lgbtq community that i support
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so even if that wasn't the lifestyle
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that i was choosing for myself i still was going to be in support of the community
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because i have friends family members
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i love them down and their sexuality does not define them he was
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so adamant on trying to get me to kind of just turn my back completely on my LGBTQ peers
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because I also mentioned to him although I'm dating you I still have friends
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that are a part of the LGBTQ community so many people
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that support me are a part of the LGBTQ community
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and it's such a slap in the face for me to just
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try to completely disassociate because those are things that I believe in
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and if you don't respect the things
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that i believe in why are we gonna be together you know let me be me
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and embrace me or stay away from me it's not
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that hard you know what i'm saying with us being on the topic of
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him being controlling this leads us into what i feel like
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really caused everything to just go downhill i know what i'm about to tell you guys is going to sound
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so crazy the main reason that we even had this big argument
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that we had that led to this whole cheating scandal was all
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because I wanted to go to a Megan Thee Stallion concert
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sounds stupid right I know as a lot of you guys know Megan Thee Stallion was on a tour recently
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when she was on this tour I believe her last tour
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date within the states was going to be in some part
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of North Carolina mind you at the time I was in kansas
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and to know me is to know i love me some
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meg the stallion okay i really really wanted to attend one of the concerts before she went overseas
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because i mean a lot of artists aren't really going on tours nowadays
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so i feel like if you have the money to experience something like
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that take advantage of the opportunity while you can
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and that's exactly what i did i believe the concert was
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like on july 7th in my mind i told myself okay you know what i'm just gonna go ahead
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and kicking in North Carolina because I don't have any plans for the 4th of July now you guys
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I want you guys to know that in early January March April May June
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so in the month of June maybe early June the young
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man why have I not given him a name oh my gosh where how long is the story
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and I have not given this man a name so we're going to name him and we're gonna name him Square.
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Square had mentioned that him
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and his teammates were possibly going to be going on a cabin slash lake trip for the 4th of July
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and that he wanted to invite me to go with him.
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This was going to take place on the week of the 4th of July
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which means I was going to be there for the whole week.
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In my mind I'm thinking okay I'm gonna clear my schedule out
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but mind you guys he told me he would get back with me to solidify the dates.
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Weeks go on weeks go on weeks go on
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he doesn't mention anything about this cabin trip i'm out of the loop i don't know what's going on
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so in my mind i'm thinking okay well maybe they just decided not to go
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because maybe about a week price before july i'd asked him
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like yeah what are you doing for the fourth of july
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he just said nothing like i'm gonna just probably be chilling around the house
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and so in my mind i'm thinking okay they're not doing nothing i'm gonna book this flight
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and head out to north carolina and i'm gonna kick it
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and i'm gonna see mega the stallion on stage
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and i'm gonna enjoy this experience the concert was like on
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the 7th I booked my tickets maybe like five days ahead
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of time it was really last minute we're on the phone
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chopping it up it's late at night getting ready to go to bed he'd asked me what I did today
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and so I mentioned
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that I purchased the flight ticket as well as the ticket
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to go see Megan Thee Stallion okay period you know what
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I'm saying I'm thinking he gonna be happy for me
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because he know how much I love Megan Thee Stallion as
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an artist he was very upset he was making comments like
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when you're in a relationship you just can't get up
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and go um you need to let me know
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if you're gonna go x y
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and z like basically just trying to make it seem like
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i gotta check in with him before i do anything don't think
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that you're gonna come into my life and think you can hold me down
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because i'm young and having my way so it's like
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to be with someone like myself you have to be willing to accept
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that some days i'm going to get up and just want to go
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that is the luxury of having your own money you can do those things i'm explaining all this to him
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and like mentally i'm checked out
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because we just already have been in a space where we were just arguing back
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and forth and i just felt like he was starting to get real mean towards me
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and you know what they say
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when your niggas start getting mean out of nowhere my job
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me booking this trip was with no sneaky intentions like it was none whatsoever it just
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so happened to have been last minute and so for him he thought
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that it was me trying to sneak off and be sneaky. So
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during the midst of us going back
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and forth i'm solution -based we're not going to keep going back
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and forth if there's no solution involved like if you want to argue me just to argue with me
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we're not going to have this conversation so as a solution -based person i told him
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i would love for you to come with me come with
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me to the concert now yes you have to purchase your
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own flight ticket i might consider purchasing you a concert ticket though
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but as far as me want to go be sneaky no you're more than allowed to come with me
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but he didn't want to come
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so i mean it's just like i could not win for losing in this situation
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and eventually it just kept going back
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and forth we just kept arguing arguing arguing
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but not coming to a solution
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so it's like you know what let's just dead the conversation
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i have nothing more i need to say to you period ain't
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that right yeah i know bb bb got something she gotta
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say too i know we didn't talk for the whole next
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day prior to me getting on my flight i basically told
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him i'm like you know what yeah like i actually think
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we just need to take a break from each other we need to take some space because
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i don't like how you do x y
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and z he was more than understanding and the conversation just got really heated
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and you could tell that man was hurt he was definitely hurt some of the things
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that he stated were very verbally abusive and in my mind right then
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and there once he started getting out of his character calling me out my name
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and all that stuff like
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that i'm like okay cool yeah like see I'm making the
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right decision I was not going to let his pissy attitude
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ruin my experience once I got back to Kansas I figured
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since we both had some time apart tension to die down
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and it was time for us to finally have the opportunity to sit down
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and speak to each other as adults the girl literally opposed
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to a screaming battle on the phone I don't have time for
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that we're on the phone chopping it up
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and you know like he just was basically telling me what
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he did on the 4th I told him what I did for the 4th
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and around this time
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when I got back I was in the process of getting ready to move to Kansas City
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and he knew that and so
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when I finally did come back I found a place
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that I really loved and I went ahead signed the lease
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and I told him like yeah you know I'm gonna need
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help moving dah dah dah he's like yeah like you know
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I got you like I helped build stuff girl a bunch
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of unfulfilled promises okay girl I done been in this place for about a good how many months
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and he ain't built up in here my move -in date was not until august so
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within the span of like three weeks
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yeah in july those those last three weeks of the month
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of july we really were not talking consistently it was on
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and off we talked on the phone it would be really random
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so i guess you could consider us not together although he
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was definitely on my line making it seemed like he was a changed man
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and how you know he wants to do better he doesn't want to control me
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and how he loves me just the way that i am and just tell me what i wanted to hear so
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around this time although i was mentally checked out i was
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not a hundred percent there yet i still had a little bit of faith and hope
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when i moved to kansas city in the month of august i had a little bit of hope
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that things could you know change and that he didn't really mean the things
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that he said on the phone okay anywho so
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when I say on the phone I am not speaking right then
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and there as in August no
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when I say on the phone I mean back in July
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when we originally had this big falling out all
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because I decided I was going to take a trip to go see Megan Thee Stallion
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because i'm not gonna lie although he hit below the belt i also hit below the belt
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and by me hitting below the belt i said some things
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referencing his father since his father is absent in his life
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or was at one point and that was not nice i should not have hit
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that far below the belt
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and i can admit i was wrong you forgive me i
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forgive you let's call it truth you know what I'm saying
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with us deciding we're just gonna have this fresh start um
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we kind of start picking things up again like the ball
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is rolling we kind of just kick things back off where
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we left off at one day he had told me
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that you know he wanted to come out to the city to see me
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because he wanted to take me out on a date mind
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you we have not seen each other in lord knows how long
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because of that heated conversation that we had prior to the Megan Thee Stallion concert
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so I'm like okay cool like let's do it i'm
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so excited i'm so happy he ended up coming out to kansas city and um i'm sorry
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he asked me where i want to go i want to go to my favorite fuss
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but i most definitely am a regular at this place every
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employee knows me by name i know them by name you
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just don't take random people to your spot we end up
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going to the fuss spot we get our food he gets like these wings i get my food
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and I think the total it came up to like $30.
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mind you he invited me on this day
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so i kind of already had it in my head
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that i was going to pay for my own food
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because i just wanted to let him know
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that still is not fully sweet although we cool and
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so i went to go pull out my card
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because i was getting ready to pay for my stuff and
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when i went to pull out my card he pulls out
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his card he's like no i got it don't worry i got you
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why he give the lady his card the card declines gives the lady another card the second card declines
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so at this point i'm like so embarrassed
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because girl this is my regulars i know these people you don't see these people all the time i do
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so now i know
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that they judging me like oh my god like really in
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front of my people that's really embarrassing actually really pay for it
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and then from there i know he feels embarrassed because why after
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that he's like oh like if we were on a first date
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and my car declined would you still me he was fishing for
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that reassurance because he was embarrassed but he just didn't want to say it
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and so after all that he told me like he came up
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and he was like yeah like something something like he was just trying to make small talk
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and honestly he was just trying to have conversation with me
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and I just was just making small talk
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because at this point I'm just like please get out my house like he ended up catching a hit
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and he was like he's gonna go home but he told me like
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when I get home I'm gonna make sure to hit you
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up cool he go home I didn't hear from him I
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didn't hear from him the next day nor did I hear from him the next day
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and I already know what some of y 'all are gonna say we're not together
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so why does it bother you it didn't bother me that we weren't talking
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during those few days that we didn't speak it bothered me
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because we had been texting every day literally prior to the incident
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that happened at the fuss spot on the fourth day
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when i heard from him he sent a random photo of him after practice
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or conditioning i don't really know but either way he sent a random photo and i'm just like
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what am i supposed to respond to that we not together
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so what are you sending me random photos like this of you like what what is this for
450
so at this point my mind i'm like yeah he's embarrassed he is definitely embarrassed
451
that is exactly why he is not hitting me up
452
because he wants me to reach out to him to try
453
to validate his ego i'm not i decided i was gonna tell my vlog about it briefly
454
because i feel like almost every girl has had an experience where they have been on a day
455
and somebody's car declined or like they've experienced someone who claimed they got it
456
but they don't really got it like they said like girl
457
we're girls i get it girl this was my first experience
458
and i hope i never experienced it ever again i'm telling the girls my situation
459
and so y 'all i uploaded that video while within like two hours i get a call from him
460
he called me like three times the first two times i know he's seen me decline his call
461
so that's why he continuously called back so i answered on the third ring
462
and he was like why are you talking about me on
463
youtube i look at the phone i'm like my platform is not small
464
so i'm not saying that he just couldn't have watched the video
465
because once you put something out on the internet it's out there i get
466
that but he is not known to watch my videos
467
so it was really peculiar that all of a sudden you know
468
and you know
469
that quick the video ain't even been uploaded for a full
470
four hours like we joking about it on the phone i'm like who told you
471
that he was like somebody told me i was like who
472
told you like just know somebody sent me a screen recording of
473
that you were talking about me i was like who is
474
tattling on me i want you guys to remember this conversation about someone tattling on me
475
because it's going to play a huge factor later on in the story
476
so we on the phone we just giggling we just having
477
a good time like we really chopping it up he had mentioned
478
that like he just moved into his new spot and i remember
479
that before he moved into this spot like he was
480
so happy about this spot and one thing about me i'm very attentive
481
and so I had mentioned like yeah like
482
when you move like I really do want to gift you
483
a housewarming gift at this time he had finally moved
484
and he wanted to formally invite me over to his house
485
and so I was like period I was like that's cool I'm gonna bring you a housewarming gift
486
but I was very intentional with the time
487
that I went to his house
488
because I was very strict on not wanting to be intimate with him
489
and I say this because every time I would have a conversation about
490
if he did anything with anyone or
491
if he had relations with anyone during our break he would literally go completely over the question
492
and say something along the lines of like i'm just locked
493
in with ball right now girl you know the fact
494
that he couldn't give me a direct answer it kind of told me what i needed to know
495
but i was kind of also in delusion you know i want to mention
496
when we had the conversation of deal breakers he knew
497
that my number one deal breaker is if you go
498
and sleep with someone else the moment
499
that you put your hands on someone the moment that you put your mouth on someone
500
we're done like and there is no coming back from
501
that jumping back to me wanting to go visit him
502
and give him a housewarming gift i decided i was gonna
503
take a drive down there mind you he does not live
504
in the same city i went down there we were having
505
such a great time just chopping it up you know it was kind of like the good old days
506
and of course time went by so fast
507
and next thing you know it was nighttime
508
and he was really trying to get me to stay the night
509
and he did a really good job of convincing me he almost had me after i showered
510
and stuff i got in bed and he was trying to be intimate with me
511
but i just was very standoffish and i don't know what it was
512
but i just had a bunch of discernment in
513
that point in time
514
that was telling me elia do do not have sex with him i do not have sex with this man
515
because something just did not feel right by the grace of god i'm
516
so glad i listened to that voice that was in my head
517
because keep note of that after i declined his offer I just felt like it was best
518
that I got up and go home so I decided
519
that I was going to get up and take
520
that drive all the way back home that night
521
because I just didn't feel comfortable at
522
that point in time I just felt like I had voices
523
in my head telling me Aaliyah just don't go through with it don't fall for the temporary temptation
524
because something just does not feel right here I went home
525
and um that week the vibes were definitely off between us
526
and i remember asking god for clear guidance as to what
527
it is like whatever i need to know please place it in front of me
528
because right now i need a bunch of clarity you know
529
as time's going on girl this man still telling me lies feeding me dreams okay
530
and i'm eating it up okay i'm i'm i'm eating it up you know i'm really thinking
531
that he's a changed man because he's telling me
532
that he wants to do better he wants to do right by me
533
and he's ready to step up to the plate
534
and be a man this go around and
535
so part of me is believing him
536
but another part of me just like I said something is off
537
and there's something
538
that I do not know I remember I would always ask
539
questions like have you been intimate with anybody else have you literally try to breeze right past the question
540
and be like oh I don't have time for women like I'm
541
so busy with conditioning to the point I don't have time
542
to be in women's faces like I'm only focused on you
543
but he would never answer the question with a solid yes
544
or no and that was a huge red flag for me
545
because I feel like
546
if you didn't do something you would just say it directly
547
at this point I figured I was gonna have to do my own little bit of investigation
548
because something just did not seem right I know I'm not crazy I know
549
when someone is trying to get over on me at this
550
point I decided I'm gonna start going through his following counts
551
I'm gonna start going through his likes I'm gonna start going
552
through all these things to kind of try to pinpoint
553
if he's been with someone or if he's been acting strange
554
or anything of the sort because one thing about kansas it's really small
555
so when it comes to these small college towns like manhattan and lawrence
556
it's not many black people okay like it's only a handful of us
557
and i guarantee you almost all of us have crossed paths with each other at least one point in time
558
so i kind of start trying to put two
559
and two together like i know what his ex looks like
560
and what his standard type is and i'm trying to see
561
if i can find that within his following and luckily enough i did
562
if you looked at his ex
563
and you looked at me side by side two beautiful women
564
but we are two completely different women i found a young woman who was consistently in his life
565
when i looked on her page i noticed
566
that she was going to a lot of the events
567
that this team was having as in like either games things of the sort
568
and i'm like i'm gonna clock your tea like i'm gonna keep you on the sideburns
569
because i really think that you could be a potential suspect
570
but i'm not gonna pinpoint want you just yet you know what i'm saying he would always mention
571
that during our break he was talking to somebody
572
but it was nothing serious however he never mentioned to me
573
that he slept with this young lady he never mentioned anything about that
574
so eventually one day like it just comes up in conversation
575
i'm like how do you know this girl he's like oh she cool like i don't really know her like
576
that like i know she go to my school though we've dm'd each other a couple times
577
but that's really it right then
578
and there just by the way he was explaining it i
579
knew he was lying from then on out i was i was clowning him i was i don't care
580
so one day her page came up recommended to me
581
and i'm like god why are you putting this girl on
582
my for you page what what what is it about this
583
girl what do i need to see her for i end up seeing
584
that she is mutuals with a few of my mutuals from
585
my hometown the main person she was a mutual with was
586
my little cousin i asked him like who is this girl
587
did she grow up in the same hometown as us like
588
because i ain't never seen this girl a day in my
589
life i was like oh well she went to xyz just basically give me the rundown
590
and spill her
591
so i'm like you got her number like do you have her number he didn't personally have her number
592
but he got her number through somebody else who knew of her
593
so at this point i get her number i don't let her know
594
that i have her number though i decided i was going to two phones them both
595
if you're not familiar with what two phones is yeah i'm telling y 'all some of my secrets
596
but you put in two phone numbers they call each other
597
and you have the opportunity of listening on the line they don't know that you're there so basically basically.
598
If I have Square and I have the girl, we're going to name her Circle.
599
If I have Square and Circle's number, I can program both of their phone numbers into that website and they will call each other.
600
But to Square, it's going to look like Circle called him.
601
But to Circle, it's going to look like Square called her.
602
If y 'all don't know each other, why would you guys get on the phone together?
603
So let's put it to the test.
604
What did I do?
605
I put both of their numbers into two phones
606
and I made them dial each other girl they are literally chopping it up you do know this girl
607
and you've been kicking it with this girl at this point
608
I already know who it is I got the girl busted
609
but now I need to know if he slept with her because
610
if all it took you was three weeks for you to go lay up with another woman
611
I want nothing to do with you like ever again you are very lustful there are
612
so many red flags with that
613
and people can spend it no matter how many times they
614
want into the whole y 'all weren't together i don't even want to hear
615
that if i tell you the beginning of our relationship
616
if we go on a break and you go sleep with somebody else
617
that we're done
618
and you put yourself in the position to where you decide you're going to take advantage of the opportunity
619
and not care about what i said
620
that means you didn't care about me you knew how
621
that was gonna make me feel and you still went
622
and did that and i don't want to be with anyone
623
that does not care about my feelings he's still talking within weeks mind he doesn't even know
624
that i have been pranking his phone literally i've been playing
625
on this man's phone he don't even know at this point he still has not openly admitted nor denied
626
if he has slept with someone
627
so in my mind i'm like okay you know what i'm gonna go on to tellyourpartner .org
628
and for those of you guys who don't know what tell
629
my partner is tell my partner is a website where you can go online
630
and basically um you put in someone's phone number
631
and an anonymous text will be sent to them letting them
632
know like hey yeah one of your sexual partners has tested
633
positive for this std i think you should go get tested so
634
i thought if i had sent him an anonymous text mind you i ain't test positive for
635
i thought if i sent him a fake text message like
636
that that would scare him into just admitting
637
that he had sex with someone
638
because out of common courtesy you would think since me and him did kiss you would think that
639
he would just think yeah let me make sure to let you know like hey yeah my sexual partner
640
um tested positive for this i think you should go get tested you think
641
that told me no he didn't tell me nothing i mean it was fake
642
but still like he just was not trying to get caught slipping
643
so in my mind i'm thinking okay if i send this to him
644
and he's been sleeping with someone else out of respect for me he would come back
645
and tell me
646
because he would want me to get tested i sent the text message out like three
647
or four times actually days go by he's at this like
648
conditioning thing all the way in chicago i felt like
649
that was a perfect opportunity for me to just ask him the truth
650
because he's clearly not going to come to me as a man
651
and just be open about the fact that he slept with someone else
652
so what did i do i asked him i'm like
653
so did you sleep with anyone
654
while we were on a break mind you we were texting
655
y 'all i kid you not this man did not respond for like two hours okay
656
and when he finally responded he sent the driest yes and
657
when he said
658
that i literally I didn't even send him no long paragraphs crying I didn't say none of
659
that shit like although I was crying I was hurt I
660
basically told him I was like you know what like I told you what my deal breaker was
661
and for you to go do what I told you I would never forgive
662
that means you didn't care about me
663
so no I don't want to be with you anymore and that's just that but in that point in time
664
I crashed out now of course I'm not going to tell you guys everything
665
because it is still kind of fresh
666
so i don't want to self -incriminate myself um
667
but let's just allegedly say that while he was in chicago i used
668
that opportunity to pull up to his house break into his house um
669
and i'm not gonna tell you guys what i did from there but this is all a legend okay
670
either way i knew with whatever damage i left he was gonna see it
671
when he got back home like it was gonna make him even more mad
672
so that night when he got back he had called me once
673
but i didn't answer i missed the phone call
674
so i called him back maybe a few hours later he
675
didn't answer i'm calling his phone calling from girl i called him like maybe five
676
or six times and it was declining every single time
677
so i was like i know you got your phone on
678
you maybe about an hour later he finally calls me back
679
he's whispering y 'all i'm confusing like why are you whispering
680
on the phone in your own house i basically just tell him everything
681
that i know but on the phone he's telling me that oh it was only one time she was just a
682
The man was dogging her out y 'all.
683
The man was literally dogging her out on the phone.
684
I just told him like I'm gonna pull up and he's like insinuating don't pull up don't pull up don't pull up.
685
Girl I hung up the phone and I pulled up.
686
I'm trying to get into the building.
687
Mind you it's really late so there's not a lot of foot traffic in
688
and out for me to just be able to slip into the complex.
689
I was like okay cool no worries like you know I'm gonna just take this L maybe this is God protecting me.
690
If I would have walked up in that crib
691
and seen what I know was going on in
692
that apartment now lord knows i probably would have ended up
693
in jail as i'm on my way back to kansas city
694
like i'm calling him i'm telling him like yeah like i know who it is
695
and i'm gonna hit her up i'm gonna hit her up in the morning like
696
because i know what you're doing you trying to pull a
697
fast one on me he's like we'll talk about it in
698
the morning we'll talk about it in the morning please don't
699
dm her like this man is pleading i don't dm this girl
700
and i'm like i knew it i knew it was her
701
i don't care i dm'd her i dm'd her on every single platform
702
that she followed me on and to let her know
703
that i see her and i most importantly i want her to wake up
704
and see the message
705
and i know what some of y 'all are thinking y 'all are like well why do you even think
706
that it was her like you're going
707
so hard you don't even know it was her yes i did know it was her
708
because literally when i found her instagram account she was following me it said follow back
709
when i went to her tiktok account it said follow back
710
this girl literally followed me almost every social media platform
711
that i had so at this point i'm starting to put two
712
and two together i'm like you must be the one who snitched
713
because you really are the only mutual that me
714
and this man have like there's no way i dm her i was like hey
715
when you get a chance can you send me your number
716
because we need to talk mind you already had her number
717
but i didn't want to let the girl know i had her number
718
because then she probably thought i was crazy
719
which i am a slight bit but
720
that don't matter i woke up at like seven o 'clock
721
i'm ready i'm waiting on her to call me back
722
because i have a lot i gotta get off my chest
723
finally dm me back she sent me her number we get on the phone literally the opening sentence i said
724
when we get on the phone i told her i'm like yeah
725
so are we messing with the same person y 'all won't
726
believe what this girl said this girl gonna tell me yeah i actually know
727
that we are that's why on the phone i'm not tripping with her like my issue is not with her
728
because ultimately she did not owe me no loyalty i don't with her
729
but i can't be mad at you i forgot to mention this
730
but it's really important that you guys know that during
731
that whole three -week process of Square
732
and Circle getting to know each other she had openly admitted to me
733
that he was consistently venting to her about our relationship
734
and I just feel like
735
that should have been a red flag in itself I can't
736
feel bad I'm not here to preach to you I'm just here to get the clarity
737
that I need to make sure
738
that I wasn't tripping this girl gonna tell me they have
739
been having sex for the past three weeks they've been doing it raw
740
he is not taking her on any dates all they do is lay up
741
but she like him
742
so much i just had to break it down to her i basically i told her any
743
and everything he told me about her maybe at the time
744
i did tell her all these things to hurt her feelings
745
but i just feel like she needed to know she needed to hear
746
that he was talking about her behind her back
747
that is exactly why he is not taking you out on any dates babe she literally slipped up
748
and told me on the phone the only reason
749
that the conversation of dates came up was
750
because she seen my video about how he took me out on a date
751
and she asked him if he took me on a date
752
because you know in my video i stated he took me out on a date i didn't say who
753
but if you put two and two together then you wouldn't know she said
754
that he told her
755
that he was in the city hanging out with his homies
756
basically after us having a long conversation of us just chopping it up
757
and just basically going over our experiences it ended in a moment of sisterhood i thought basically telling her
758
that she deserves so much more i am mature enough to be able to say
759
that she is a sweet young woman and he did not deserve her
760
because she genuinely on the phone she sounded very heartbroken hearing all of these things
761
that i told her and i had to tell her
762
because i knew he was manipulating her i knew
763
that he was telling her one thing
764
and lying to her in order to get into her drawers
765
and i feel like you're not a player
766
if you gotta lie to get what you want
767
and i can't respect that and that is why my heart went out to her
768
and i told her babe you deserve so much more
769
and he is not
770
so much more you're not who his heart wants to be with he has said this on multiple occasions
771
that you are just someone that he wants to do
772
when there is nothing to do by the time we ended
773
the conversation i thought we was cool i'm thinking okay me
774
and a girl the next day i get up for church
775
somebody's blowing my phone down why is it him i blocked
776
his number he texted me from some of his teammates phones called me out my name just being
777
so disrespectful eventually once he stopped getting a response out of me he came around slowly
778
but surely and he was really trying to
779
make up for what he did but I felt like the trust was already broken
780
and I could not look at him without knowing
781
and thinking about the fact
782
that he had the audacity to go lay with another woman lie to me
783
and then had the nerve to try to be intimate with me I don't respect
784
that after I decided to leave him alone
785
that was pretty much it just was what it was i
786
don't know what could have possibly happened along the lines of the young woman
787
but y 'all circle unfollow me on everything take it from me please please do not be like circle
788
if you're gonna take anything from this story take
789
that nonetheless i hope
790
that you guys enjoyed this story i love telling it oh my god i haven't told a story time in
791
so long this was
792
so fun we definitely have to do this again make sure you guys leave a comment
793
or even message me
794
because i believe soon I want to start incorporating my subscriber story times onto this platform
795
so that should be fun yes in the meantime I hope you guys all have an amazing day
796
and or night please be safe and I will see all of you guys in my next video
797
Thank you.
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Thank you.
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इस पाठ की शब्दावली और बोलने के सुझाव
इस वीडियो में शैडोइंग के लिए 798 वाक्य और 9663 शब्द हैं। बोला गया हिस्सा 46:07 लंबा है। वक्ता तेज़ बोलता है, लगभग 210 शब्द प्रति मिनट, इसलिए जुड़ी हुई और कमज़ोर ध्वनियाँ ज़्यादा मिलेंगी। 86% शब्द अंग्रेज़ी के 3,000 सबसे आम शब्दों में से हैं; बाकी शब्द अभ्यास से पहले देख लेना अच्छा रहेगा।
इस वीडियो की मुख्य शब्दावली
वीडियो के 15 सीखने लायक शब्द, उच्चारण और अर्थ के साथ:
| शब्द | उच्चारण | अर्थ |
|---|---|---|
| decline क्रिया | /dɪˈklaɪn/ | गिरना |
| lifestyle संज्ञा | /ˈlaɪfˌstaɪl/ | जीवनशैली, जीवनचर्या |
| cheat क्रिया | /ˈt͡ʃiːt/ | छलना |
| formula संज्ञा | /ˈfɔː.mjʊ.lə/ | सूत्र, फ़ॉरमूला |
| belt संज्ञा | /ˈbɛlt/ | पेटी, बेल्ट |
| custom संज्ञा | /ˈkʌstəm/ | प्रथा, रीति |
| forgive क्रिया | /fɚˈɡɪv/ | माफ़ करना, क्षमा करना |
| provider संज्ञा | /pɹəˈvaɪ.də(ɹ)/ | प्रदाता, दाता |
| entertain क्रिया | /ˌɛntəˈteɪn/ | बहलाना |
| topic संज्ञा | /ˈtɑpɪk/ | प्रसंग, विषय |
| silent विशेषण | /ˈsaɪ̯lənt/ | चुप, ख़ामोश |
| routine संज्ञा | /ɹuˈtin/ | दिनचर्या |
| invite क्रिया | /ɪnˈvaɪt/ | आमंत्रित करना |
| slip क्रिया | /ˈslɪp/ | फिसलना |
| lover संज्ञा | /ˈlʌvɚ/ | प्रेमी, प्रेमिका |
वीडियो में आने वाली फ़्रेज़ल वर्ब
| शब्द | उच्चारण | अर्थ |
|---|---|---|
| get up क्रिया | उठना | |
| come back क्रिया | वापस आना | |
| go ahead क्रिया | /ˌɡoʊ əˈhɛd/ | आगे बढ़ना |
| pick up क्रिया | उठाना | |
| come along क्रिया | साथ चलना, साथ आना |
ध्यान देने योग्य उच्चारण
वक्ता 332 बार संक्षिप्त रूपों का प्रयोग करता है, जैसे I'm, gonna, don't। इन्हें वैसे ही छोटा बोलें जैसा आप सुनते हैं।
- “th” की ध्वनियाँ: bother /ˈbɑðɚ/, thoroughly /ˈθʌɹ.ə.li/, nonetheless /ˌnʌnðəˈlɛs/
- “sh” और “zh” की ध्वनियाँ: delusional /dɪˈluːʒənəl/, occasion /əˈkeɪ̯ʒən/, luxury /ˈlʌk.ʃə.ɹi/, tension /ˈtɛnʃən/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/
- लंबे शब्द — बलाघात सही रखें: consistently /kənˈsɪstəntli/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, anonymous /əˈnɒn.ə.məs/, whatsoever /ˌ(h)wʌtsoʊˈɛvɚ/, delusional /dɪˈluːʒənəl/
इस वीडियो से अभ्यास कैसे करें
- पहले बिना बोले पूरा वीडियो एक बार सुनें और जो शब्द नहीं आते उन्हें लिख लें।
- 0.75× गति से शुरू करें, एक-एक वाक्य की शैडोइंग करें, और सहज लगने पर सामान्य गति पर लौटें।
- अपनी आवाज़ रिकॉर्ड करें और मूल से तुलना करें, ख़ासकर decline, lifestyle, cheat जैसे शब्दों पर ध्यान दें।
इस वीडियो का व्याकरण
वक्ता जिन संरचनाओं का सबसे अधिक प्रयोग करता है, वीडियो के असली शब्दों के साथ:
| संरचना | वीडियो में |
|---|---|
| शर्त वाले वाक्य if + उपवाक्य, will/would + क्रिया — शर्त और उसका नतीजा | if not i mean we wouldn't end · if you didn't do something you would just |
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — पहले शुरू हुआ काम जो अब भी जारी है | have just been receiving · you've been kicking · have been pranking |
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — बीता हुआ काम जिसका असर अभी भी है | have referenced · have planned · you've watched |
| Passive voice be + past participle — ज़ोर इस पर कि क्या होता है, न कि कौन करता है | being said · was not healed · being told |
शैडोइंग तकनीक क्या है?
शैडोइंग (Shadowing) एक विज्ञान-समर्थित भाषा सीखने की तकनीक है जो मूल रूप से पेशेवर दुभाषिया प्रशिक्षण के लिए विकसित की गई थी। विधि सरल लेकिन शक्तिशाली है: आप मूल अंग्रेज़ी ऑडियो सुनते हैं और तुरंत इसे ज़ोर से दोहराते हैं — जैसे वक्ता की छाया 1-2 सेकंड की देरी से। शोध से पता चलता है कि यह उच्चारण सटीकता, स्वर, लय, जुड़ी हुई ध्वनियाँ, सुनने की समझ और बोलने की प्रवाहशीलता में काफ़ी सुधार करता है।