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is in session okay we are here to discuss the long -awaited story time about me getting cheated on

if you are a subscriber of my youtube channel then you probably do know

that I have referenced little details here

and there some of this might sound a bit familiar

if you really do pay attention to detail

when the situation first took place I definitely was not in

a position to be able to thoroughly get my emotions out

when it came to this topic just

because it was a really sensitive time for me

and I think it really bruised my ego just a little

bit like I said I would have never expected it to happen to me

but once I really sat back

and kind of analyze the situation at hand i realized

that i actually was not the problem um

if a man wants to cheat or

if anyone wants to cheat they are going to do

that that's already something that they have planned to do in their mind

and no matter how beautiful you are no matter how much

money you have no matter what you do for them

if someone wants to cheat on you they're going to do it by any means necessary

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If you guys are a long -term subscriber of my YouTube

channel then you guys would know I used to do story times a long time ago okay so

if you've watched some of my previous story times y 'all

already know how this go i am a yapper i'm someone

who's going to give you the backstory as well as the actual story with

that being said we're gonna go ahead and jump right on in

because as you guys can see i went in

and i had a lot of things

that i had to discuss as a lot of you guys know i do not have much experience dating men

when it comes to long term now i had a boyfriend lord knows how long ago

when i was in like middle school but

that wasn't anything serious i think that was more

so of just a kiddie relationship and

if you know you know for many years i've dated women i didn't really take the time to dibble

and dabble into anything else

because i just felt like i had knew myself enough to know

that i want to spend the rest of my life with a woman

but clearly that statement changed because if not i mean we wouldn't end up in the situation nonetheless

my sophomore year of college i had just moved back to the states from italy

and i decided i was going to move to manhattan during

the time of me living in manhattan i was attending kansas

state university maybe within like the few month mark of me

just being in school i was getting out of something

that was serious

and kind of just within limbo of do i want to

get back in a relationship do i just need to remain single for the time or

do i just want to vibe like it was

so many different things that were going on in my mind

because i personally just did not know what i wanted to do at

that given point in time i really was not looking for

anything during this time i had came to the decision

that it was probably just best for me to not be in anything serious just

because i just gotten out of something that was serious

so it just didn't really make any sense because i was not healed

and i knew that it even got to a point where i put my own self into therapy

because there were things that i needed to work on from within

and i knew if i just jumped into something serious it would make things worse

because it's like i didn't even give myself time to heal you know

and so it's like every time you say you're not looking for something serious somebody just comes along

and they convince you to think otherwise and that's exactly what happened here

while i was living in manhattan i did meet a young man

that i genuinely liked

when we originally were in the process of us getting to

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know each other we both were kind of on the same page of we're not looking for something serious

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but if it does happen to get serious then that's just what it's gonna be but somehow some way within

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a few weeks time span it just got to a point where i was being told things

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that i feel like i wanted to hear and by being told things

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that i wanted to hear i mean this young man was

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making it seem like he wanted to be with me long

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term he was giving me flowers it even got to a

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point where i even met his mom i met his sister

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he was telling his teammates about me like it really started to get serious

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and although i was originally opposed to getting into something

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so serious so soon i genuinely thought i was in love

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and so with me experiencing all these things with him

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that you know couples do

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because i feel like meeting someone's mom going out in public especially

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when it's a small college town these are not things

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that you just do with someone that you're not trying to be serious with

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so from that alone and just the actions

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that he was showing me i'm thinking okay cool you want

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to be with me long term who am i to deny

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myself of romance i'm a lover girl i can't fight it

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if you're doing all these things for me and you really are showing

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that you want to be with me let's do it you

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know what i'm saying i already know what a lot of

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you guys are thinking girl you jumped into this way too

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soon yes I did I jumped in head over heels and

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that is because I was being manipulated along the way to believe

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that it was something

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that it wasn't I feel like you could say I was a bit naive

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and oblivious to a lot of the red flags

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that I was seeing from within the relationship for example I would notice

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that he would sleep with his phone up under his pillow every single night it was on silent

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and on top of it being on silent it was on do not disturb for two every now

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and then he would have random numbers just facetime him

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and he would never answer i'll literally glance at the number

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he'd see me glance at the number as it's literally facetiming him

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but the number's not saved

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so he just doesn't answer he'll just move on from it as

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if we just didn't see it okay so future editing later here

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and it's a few things that i'm going to be popping in

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and out just so that i can give you guys a little bit more detail

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because i feel like i did not thoroughly explain a few things

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but listen y 'all

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so i know it might sound crazy it you know he

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could have just been receiving a regular phone call it could have just been somebody random okay cool

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but listen why is somebody facetiming you

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if you don't know them ain't nobody facetiming me consistently

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if we ain't been facetiming before you know what i'm saying

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like it just don't make no sense it doesn't make any sense whatsoever and i remember

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at one point in time i had asked him

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because he was receiving a phone call like a few weeks

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later after he had already been receiving phone calls i i

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told him i was like like hey like just pick up

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the phone i want to know who calling like who's calling

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us you know what i'm saying like as a concerned person would be i'm not one of those people

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that is oblivious okay i'm not one of those people that's going to turn blind eye

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if i see something that i don't want to see no

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because you want to know why

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because somebody like me i am always ready to walk away okay one thing about it i've always heard

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if you're not ready to leave the nigga for cheating

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don't ask no questions but you see me i ask questions i do

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because i don't mind walking away because i can always go find another one

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and so the thing is i was like answer the phone

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he acted nervous like he answered the phone why is one of his homeboys

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it apparently he ain't got it this homeboy's number saved okay cool

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and so we're talking about it after he get off the phone

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and he's gonna say he was like something something yeah i'm

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not gonna lie i was kind of nervous to pick up the phone

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if you ain't doing something you ain't got no business why you scared to answer the phone

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one thing about they are going to tell on themselves if you really just sit and let them speak

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they are going to tell on themselves every single time every

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single time y 'all three he was consistently in communication with

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his ex now listen by communication i don't mean they are texting from my knowledge one thing

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that we would always argue over was the fact that

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he did not want to unfollow his past lovers now to

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each its own everybody has a different set the rules

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and regulations in their relationships whatever y 'all do in y

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'all relationship is cool y 'all not in a relationship with me

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but if you're gonna be in a relationship with me

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that ain't flying then your ex is not gonna be commenting on your post

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and congratulating you like no that's that's just not something

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that i have personally ever been fond of

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because i've been on both ends of the stick i know

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what it's like to have an ex be in a relationship still on my line

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if your ex is always commenting on your post i am

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always going to give the woman the benefit of the doubt you as a man has to be entertaining her

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because why is she that comfortable commenting on your post what is it

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that makes her feel comfortable enough to comment on your post

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because none of my exes feel comfortable once me

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and my exes are done i make sure to set those boundaries

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and be very clear that hey we're done and that's just that so

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when i'm mentioning how these things made me feel he would always say well you know she's just crazy

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or like you know that's just how she acts like she

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always says like she's still gonna be in my life forever

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honestly y 'all i feel like knowing what i know now i definitely feel like

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he definitely was entertaining her like that girl was not crazy for no reason so

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when he would tell me these things i was split 50

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50 i definitely was torn between the idea of thinking okay maybe he's still entertaining her

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but then again maybe she could be delusional

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because some women are very delusional this man was very controlling

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now at the time of us dating i was 20 21 around

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that age group and

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so i want to wear a cute black mini dress i want to experience what it's like to be young

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so that when i am hitting 25 26 27 i'm not going out to the club every weekend

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because i've already lived

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that life he really did not ever want to give me

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the opportunity to be young it's like you knew he had a bad

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but with him knowing he had a bad he wanted to

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turn the bad into a holier than now that's just not who i am y 'all i am young fun

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and very cunty okay you're not going to take

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that away from me in my early ages of life with him being

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so controlling i felt like he was trying to change me i'm not even talking about just me going out

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and the outer appearance

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and things of the sort no i mean it's like he

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wanted me to completely erase my past of me being a

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part of the lgbtq community i remember at one point in time i really wanted to go to houston pride

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and i was talking to him about how excited i was about going

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and all these things of the sort and

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when i brought the idea up to him i kid you

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guys not this man literally gets the nastiest attitude okay he

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just starts bringing up like you're not gay no more you're

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with a man now like why are you still trying to represent that lifestyle that's not who you are anymore

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and I vividly remember telling him I was like even though

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we are dating there is a b as in bisexual a part of lgbtq community he would say things like

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that it just made me feel like he wanted me to completely turn my back on a community of people

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and I just felt like that wasn't fair because I knew deep down

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that yeah I'm dating you as a man but

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that don't mean I'm looking at a bunch of other men

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because you quite literally are probably the only man

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that I will ever like

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and I know at this given point in time you guys

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are witnessing me tell this story I'm able to laugh about these things

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but in that point in time it was actually really hurtful

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because I felt like he not only was trying to change me

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but it kind of felt like he was ashamed of you know just the lifestyle that I personally

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live and I feel like as someone who was very direct

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and upfront um with him before we even got together about my past

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and my dating history I think it's one of those things where you knew

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so you embraced it and so now it's becoming a problem

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and so it just kind of hurt I'm not gonna lie

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because I even remember at one point in time I had

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told him I was considering getting like a really small just rainbow tattoo around this area

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and um he also got really upset about that

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and he kept bringing up okay well you're not a part of

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that lifestyle anymore because you now date me you should not want to be associated with

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that lifestyle and even if I was no longer associated with

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that lifestyle i still have plenty of friends and family

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that are a part of the lgbtq community that i support

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so even if that wasn't the lifestyle

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that i was choosing for myself i still was going to be in support of the community

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because i have friends family members

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i love them down and their sexuality does not define them he was

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so adamant on trying to get me to kind of just turn my back completely on my LGBTQ peers

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because I also mentioned to him although I'm dating you I still have friends

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that are a part of the LGBTQ community so many people

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that support me are a part of the LGBTQ community

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and it's such a slap in the face for me to just

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try to completely disassociate because those are things that I believe in

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and if you don't respect the things

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that i believe in why are we gonna be together you know let me be me

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and embrace me or stay away from me it's not

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that hard you know what i'm saying with us being on the topic of

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him being controlling this leads us into what i feel like

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really caused everything to just go downhill i know what i'm about to tell you guys is going to sound

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so crazy the main reason that we even had this big argument

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that we had that led to this whole cheating scandal was all

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because I wanted to go to a Megan Thee Stallion concert

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sounds stupid right I know as a lot of you guys know Megan Thee Stallion was on a tour recently

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when she was on this tour I believe her last tour

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date within the states was going to be in some part

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of North Carolina mind you at the time I was in kansas

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and to know me is to know i love me some

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meg the stallion okay i really really wanted to attend one of the concerts before she went overseas

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because i mean a lot of artists aren't really going on tours nowadays

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so i feel like if you have the money to experience something like

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that take advantage of the opportunity while you can

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and that's exactly what i did i believe the concert was

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like on july 7th in my mind i told myself okay you know what i'm just gonna go ahead

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and kicking in North Carolina because I don't have any plans for the 4th of July now you guys

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I want you guys to know that in early January March April May June

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so in the month of June maybe early June the young

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man why have I not given him a name oh my gosh where how long is the story

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and I have not given this man a name so we're going to name him and we're gonna name him Square.

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Square had mentioned that him

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and his teammates were possibly going to be going on a cabin slash lake trip for the 4th of July

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and that he wanted to invite me to go with him.

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This was going to take place on the week of the 4th of July

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which means I was going to be there for the whole week.

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In my mind I'm thinking okay I'm gonna clear my schedule out

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but mind you guys he told me he would get back with me to solidify the dates.

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Weeks go on weeks go on weeks go on

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he doesn't mention anything about this cabin trip i'm out of the loop i don't know what's going on

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so in my mind i'm thinking okay well maybe they just decided not to go

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because maybe about a week price before july i'd asked him

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like yeah what are you doing for the fourth of july

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he just said nothing like i'm gonna just probably be chilling around the house

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and so in my mind i'm thinking okay they're not doing nothing i'm gonna book this flight

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and head out to north carolina and i'm gonna kick it

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and i'm gonna see mega the stallion on stage

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and i'm gonna enjoy this experience the concert was like on

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the 7th I booked my tickets maybe like five days ahead

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of time it was really last minute we're on the phone

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chopping it up it's late at night getting ready to go to bed he'd asked me what I did today

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and so I mentioned

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that I purchased the flight ticket as well as the ticket

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to go see Megan Thee Stallion okay period you know what

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I'm saying I'm thinking he gonna be happy for me

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because he know how much I love Megan Thee Stallion as

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an artist he was very upset he was making comments like

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when you're in a relationship you just can't get up

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and go um you need to let me know

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if you're gonna go x y

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and z like basically just trying to make it seem like

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i gotta check in with him before i do anything don't think

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that you're gonna come into my life and think you can hold me down

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because i'm young and having my way so it's like

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to be with someone like myself you have to be willing to accept

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that some days i'm going to get up and just want to go

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that is the luxury of having your own money you can do those things i'm explaining all this to him

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and like mentally i'm checked out

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because we just already have been in a space where we were just arguing back

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and forth and i just felt like he was starting to get real mean towards me

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and you know what they say

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when your niggas start getting mean out of nowhere my job

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me booking this trip was with no sneaky intentions like it was none whatsoever it just

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so happened to have been last minute and so for him he thought

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that it was me trying to sneak off and be sneaky. So

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during the midst of us going back

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and forth i'm solution -based we're not going to keep going back

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and forth if there's no solution involved like if you want to argue me just to argue with me

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we're not going to have this conversation so as a solution -based person i told him

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i would love for you to come with me come with

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me to the concert now yes you have to purchase your

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own flight ticket i might consider purchasing you a concert ticket though

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but as far as me want to go be sneaky no you're more than allowed to come with me

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but he didn't want to come

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so i mean it's just like i could not win for losing in this situation

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and eventually it just kept going back

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and forth we just kept arguing arguing arguing

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but not coming to a solution

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so it's like you know what let's just dead the conversation

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i have nothing more i need to say to you period ain't

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that right yeah i know bb bb got something she gotta

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say too i know we didn't talk for the whole next

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day prior to me getting on my flight i basically told

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him i'm like you know what yeah like i actually think

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we just need to take a break from each other we need to take some space because

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i don't like how you do x y

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and z he was more than understanding and the conversation just got really heated

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and you could tell that man was hurt he was definitely hurt some of the things

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that he stated were very verbally abusive and in my mind right then

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and there once he started getting out of his character calling me out my name

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and all that stuff like

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that i'm like okay cool yeah like see I'm making the

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right decision I was not going to let his pissy attitude

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ruin my experience once I got back to Kansas I figured

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since we both had some time apart tension to die down

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and it was time for us to finally have the opportunity to sit down

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and speak to each other as adults the girl literally opposed

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to a screaming battle on the phone I don't have time for

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that we're on the phone chopping it up

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and you know like he just was basically telling me what

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he did on the 4th I told him what I did for the 4th

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and around this time

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when I got back I was in the process of getting ready to move to Kansas City

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and he knew that and so

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when I finally did come back I found a place

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that I really loved and I went ahead signed the lease

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and I told him like yeah you know I'm gonna need

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help moving dah dah dah he's like yeah like you know

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I got you like I helped build stuff girl a bunch

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of unfulfilled promises okay girl I done been in this place for about a good how many months

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and he ain't built up in here my move -in date was not until august so

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within the span of like three weeks

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yeah in july those those last three weeks of the month

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of july we really were not talking consistently it was on

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and off we talked on the phone it would be really random

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so i guess you could consider us not together although he

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was definitely on my line making it seemed like he was a changed man

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and how you know he wants to do better he doesn't want to control me

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and how he loves me just the way that i am and just tell me what i wanted to hear so

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around this time although i was mentally checked out i was

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not a hundred percent there yet i still had a little bit of faith and hope

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when i moved to kansas city in the month of august i had a little bit of hope

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that things could you know change and that he didn't really mean the things

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that he said on the phone okay anywho so

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when I say on the phone I am not speaking right then

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and there as in August no

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when I say on the phone I mean back in July

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when we originally had this big falling out all

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because I decided I was going to take a trip to go see Megan Thee Stallion

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because i'm not gonna lie although he hit below the belt i also hit below the belt

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and by me hitting below the belt i said some things

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referencing his father since his father is absent in his life

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or was at one point and that was not nice i should not have hit

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that far below the belt

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and i can admit i was wrong you forgive me i

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forgive you let's call it truth you know what I'm saying

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with us deciding we're just gonna have this fresh start um

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we kind of start picking things up again like the ball

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is rolling we kind of just kick things back off where

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we left off at one day he had told me

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that you know he wanted to come out to the city to see me

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because he wanted to take me out on a date mind

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you we have not seen each other in lord knows how long

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because of that heated conversation that we had prior to the Megan Thee Stallion concert

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so I'm like okay cool like let's do it i'm

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so excited i'm so happy he ended up coming out to kansas city and um i'm sorry

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he asked me where i want to go i want to go to my favorite fuss

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but i most definitely am a regular at this place every

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employee knows me by name i know them by name you

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just don't take random people to your spot we end up

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going to the fuss spot we get our food he gets like these wings i get my food

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and I think the total it came up to like $30.

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mind you he invited me on this day

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so i kind of already had it in my head

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that i was going to pay for my own food

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because i just wanted to let him know

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that still is not fully sweet although we cool and

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so i went to go pull out my card

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because i was getting ready to pay for my stuff and

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when i went to pull out my card he pulls out

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his card he's like no i got it don't worry i got you

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why he give the lady his card the card declines gives the lady another card the second card declines

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so at this point i'm like so embarrassed

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because girl this is my regulars i know these people you don't see these people all the time i do

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so now i know

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that they judging me like oh my god like really in

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front of my people that's really embarrassing actually really pay for it

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and then from there i know he feels embarrassed because why after

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that he's like oh like if we were on a first date

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and my car declined would you still me he was fishing for

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that reassurance because he was embarrassed but he just didn't want to say it

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and so after all that he told me like he came up

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and he was like yeah like something something like he was just trying to make small talk

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and honestly he was just trying to have conversation with me

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and I just was just making small talk

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because at this point I'm just like please get out my house like he ended up catching a hit

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and he was like he's gonna go home but he told me like

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when I get home I'm gonna make sure to hit you

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up cool he go home I didn't hear from him I

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didn't hear from him the next day nor did I hear from him the next day

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and I already know what some of y 'all are gonna say we're not together

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so why does it bother you it didn't bother me that we weren't talking

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during those few days that we didn't speak it bothered me

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because we had been texting every day literally prior to the incident

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that happened at the fuss spot on the fourth day

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when i heard from him he sent a random photo of him after practice

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or conditioning i don't really know but either way he sent a random photo and i'm just like

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what am i supposed to respond to that we not together

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so what are you sending me random photos like this of you like what what is this for

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so at this point my mind i'm like yeah he's embarrassed he is definitely embarrassed

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that is exactly why he is not hitting me up

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because he wants me to reach out to him to try

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to validate his ego i'm not i decided i was gonna tell my vlog about it briefly

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because i feel like almost every girl has had an experience where they have been on a day

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and somebody's car declined or like they've experienced someone who claimed they got it

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but they don't really got it like they said like girl

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we're girls i get it girl this was my first experience

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and i hope i never experienced it ever again i'm telling the girls my situation

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and so y 'all i uploaded that video while within like two hours i get a call from him

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he called me like three times the first two times i know he's seen me decline his call

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so that's why he continuously called back so i answered on the third ring

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and he was like why are you talking about me on

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youtube i look at the phone i'm like my platform is not small

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so i'm not saying that he just couldn't have watched the video

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because once you put something out on the internet it's out there i get

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that but he is not known to watch my videos

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so it was really peculiar that all of a sudden you know

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and you know

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that quick the video ain't even been uploaded for a full

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four hours like we joking about it on the phone i'm like who told you

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that he was like somebody told me i was like who

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told you like just know somebody sent me a screen recording of

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that you were talking about me i was like who is

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tattling on me i want you guys to remember this conversation about someone tattling on me

475

because it's going to play a huge factor later on in the story

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so we on the phone we just giggling we just having

477

a good time like we really chopping it up he had mentioned

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that like he just moved into his new spot and i remember

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that before he moved into this spot like he was

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so happy about this spot and one thing about me i'm very attentive

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and so I had mentioned like yeah like

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when you move like I really do want to gift you

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a housewarming gift at this time he had finally moved

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and he wanted to formally invite me over to his house

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and so I was like period I was like that's cool I'm gonna bring you a housewarming gift

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but I was very intentional with the time

487

that I went to his house

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because I was very strict on not wanting to be intimate with him

489

and I say this because every time I would have a conversation about

490

if he did anything with anyone or

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if he had relations with anyone during our break he would literally go completely over the question

492

and say something along the lines of like i'm just locked

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in with ball right now girl you know the fact

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that he couldn't give me a direct answer it kind of told me what i needed to know

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but i was kind of also in delusion you know i want to mention

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when we had the conversation of deal breakers he knew

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that my number one deal breaker is if you go

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and sleep with someone else the moment

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that you put your hands on someone the moment that you put your mouth on someone

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we're done like and there is no coming back from

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that jumping back to me wanting to go visit him

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and give him a housewarming gift i decided i was gonna

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take a drive down there mind you he does not live

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in the same city i went down there we were having

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such a great time just chopping it up you know it was kind of like the good old days

506

and of course time went by so fast

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and next thing you know it was nighttime

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and he was really trying to get me to stay the night

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and he did a really good job of convincing me he almost had me after i showered

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and stuff i got in bed and he was trying to be intimate with me

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but i just was very standoffish and i don't know what it was

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but i just had a bunch of discernment in

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that point in time

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that was telling me elia do do not have sex with him i do not have sex with this man

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because something just did not feel right by the grace of god i'm

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so glad i listened to that voice that was in my head

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because keep note of that after i declined his offer I just felt like it was best

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that I got up and go home so I decided

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that I was going to get up and take

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that drive all the way back home that night

521

because I just didn't feel comfortable at

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that point in time I just felt like I had voices

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in my head telling me Aaliyah just don't go through with it don't fall for the temporary temptation

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because something just does not feel right here I went home

525

and um that week the vibes were definitely off between us

526

and i remember asking god for clear guidance as to what

527

it is like whatever i need to know please place it in front of me

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because right now i need a bunch of clarity you know

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as time's going on girl this man still telling me lies feeding me dreams okay

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and i'm eating it up okay i'm i'm i'm eating it up you know i'm really thinking

531

that he's a changed man because he's telling me

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that he wants to do better he wants to do right by me

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and he's ready to step up to the plate

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and be a man this go around and

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so part of me is believing him

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but another part of me just like I said something is off

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and there's something

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that I do not know I remember I would always ask

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questions like have you been intimate with anybody else have you literally try to breeze right past the question

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and be like oh I don't have time for women like I'm

541

so busy with conditioning to the point I don't have time

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to be in women's faces like I'm only focused on you

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but he would never answer the question with a solid yes

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or no and that was a huge red flag for me

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because I feel like

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if you didn't do something you would just say it directly

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at this point I figured I was gonna have to do my own little bit of investigation

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because something just did not seem right I know I'm not crazy I know

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when someone is trying to get over on me at this

550

point I decided I'm gonna start going through his following counts

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I'm gonna start going through his likes I'm gonna start going

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through all these things to kind of try to pinpoint

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if he's been with someone or if he's been acting strange

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or anything of the sort because one thing about kansas it's really small

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so when it comes to these small college towns like manhattan and lawrence

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it's not many black people okay like it's only a handful of us

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and i guarantee you almost all of us have crossed paths with each other at least one point in time

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so i kind of start trying to put two

559

and two together like i know what his ex looks like

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and what his standard type is and i'm trying to see

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if i can find that within his following and luckily enough i did

562

if you looked at his ex

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and you looked at me side by side two beautiful women

564

but we are two completely different women i found a young woman who was consistently in his life

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when i looked on her page i noticed

566

that she was going to a lot of the events

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that this team was having as in like either games things of the sort

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and i'm like i'm gonna clock your tea like i'm gonna keep you on the sideburns

569

because i really think that you could be a potential suspect

570

but i'm not gonna pinpoint want you just yet you know what i'm saying he would always mention

571

that during our break he was talking to somebody

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but it was nothing serious however he never mentioned to me

573

that he slept with this young lady he never mentioned anything about that

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so eventually one day like it just comes up in conversation

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i'm like how do you know this girl he's like oh she cool like i don't really know her like

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that like i know she go to my school though we've dm'd each other a couple times

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but that's really it right then

578

and there just by the way he was explaining it i

579

knew he was lying from then on out i was i was clowning him i was i don't care

580

so one day her page came up recommended to me

581

and i'm like god why are you putting this girl on

582

my for you page what what what is it about this

583

girl what do i need to see her for i end up seeing

584

that she is mutuals with a few of my mutuals from

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my hometown the main person she was a mutual with was

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my little cousin i asked him like who is this girl

587

did she grow up in the same hometown as us like

588

because i ain't never seen this girl a day in my

589

life i was like oh well she went to xyz just basically give me the rundown

590

and spill her

591

so i'm like you got her number like do you have her number he didn't personally have her number

592

but he got her number through somebody else who knew of her

593

so at this point i get her number i don't let her know

594

that i have her number though i decided i was going to two phones them both

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if you're not familiar with what two phones is yeah i'm telling y 'all some of my secrets

596

but you put in two phone numbers they call each other

597

and you have the opportunity of listening on the line they don't know that you're there so basically basically.

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If I have Square and I have the girl, we're going to name her Circle.

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If I have Square and Circle's number, I can program both of their phone numbers into that website and they will call each other.

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But to Square, it's going to look like Circle called him.

601

But to Circle, it's going to look like Square called her.

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If y 'all don't know each other, why would you guys get on the phone together?

603

So let's put it to the test.

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What did I do?

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I put both of their numbers into two phones

606

and I made them dial each other girl they are literally chopping it up you do know this girl

607

and you've been kicking it with this girl at this point

608

I already know who it is I got the girl busted

609

but now I need to know if he slept with her because

610

if all it took you was three weeks for you to go lay up with another woman

611

I want nothing to do with you like ever again you are very lustful there are

612

so many red flags with that

613

and people can spend it no matter how many times they

614

want into the whole y 'all weren't together i don't even want to hear

615

that if i tell you the beginning of our relationship

616

if we go on a break and you go sleep with somebody else

617

that we're done

618

and you put yourself in the position to where you decide you're going to take advantage of the opportunity

619

and not care about what i said

620

that means you didn't care about me you knew how

621

that was gonna make me feel and you still went

622

and did that and i don't want to be with anyone

623

that does not care about my feelings he's still talking within weeks mind he doesn't even know

624

that i have been pranking his phone literally i've been playing

625

on this man's phone he don't even know at this point he still has not openly admitted nor denied

626

if he has slept with someone

627

so in my mind i'm like okay you know what i'm gonna go on to tellyourpartner .org

628

and for those of you guys who don't know what tell

629

my partner is tell my partner is a website where you can go online

630

and basically um you put in someone's phone number

631

and an anonymous text will be sent to them letting them

632

know like hey yeah one of your sexual partners has tested

633

positive for this std i think you should go get tested so

634

i thought if i had sent him an anonymous text mind you i ain't test positive for

635

i thought if i sent him a fake text message like

636

that that would scare him into just admitting

637

that he had sex with someone

638

because out of common courtesy you would think since me and him did kiss you would think that

639

he would just think yeah let me make sure to let you know like hey yeah my sexual partner

640

um tested positive for this i think you should go get tested you think

641

that told me no he didn't tell me nothing i mean it was fake

642

but still like he just was not trying to get caught slipping

643

so in my mind i'm thinking okay if i send this to him

644

and he's been sleeping with someone else out of respect for me he would come back

645

and tell me

646

because he would want me to get tested i sent the text message out like three

647

or four times actually days go by he's at this like

648

conditioning thing all the way in chicago i felt like

649

that was a perfect opportunity for me to just ask him the truth

650

because he's clearly not going to come to me as a man

651

and just be open about the fact that he slept with someone else

652

so what did i do i asked him i'm like

653

so did you sleep with anyone

654

while we were on a break mind you we were texting

655

y 'all i kid you not this man did not respond for like two hours okay

656

and when he finally responded he sent the driest yes and

657

when he said

658

that i literally I didn't even send him no long paragraphs crying I didn't say none of

659

that shit like although I was crying I was hurt I

660

basically told him I was like you know what like I told you what my deal breaker was

661

and for you to go do what I told you I would never forgive

662

that means you didn't care about me

663

so no I don't want to be with you anymore and that's just that but in that point in time

664

I crashed out now of course I'm not going to tell you guys everything

665

because it is still kind of fresh

666

so i don't want to self -incriminate myself um

667

but let's just allegedly say that while he was in chicago i used

668

that opportunity to pull up to his house break into his house um

669

and i'm not gonna tell you guys what i did from there but this is all a legend okay

670

either way i knew with whatever damage i left he was gonna see it

671

when he got back home like it was gonna make him even more mad

672

so that night when he got back he had called me once

673

but i didn't answer i missed the phone call

674

so i called him back maybe a few hours later he

675

didn't answer i'm calling his phone calling from girl i called him like maybe five

676

or six times and it was declining every single time

677

so i was like i know you got your phone on

678

you maybe about an hour later he finally calls me back

679

he's whispering y 'all i'm confusing like why are you whispering

680

on the phone in your own house i basically just tell him everything

681

that i know but on the phone he's telling me that oh it was only one time she was just a

682

The man was dogging her out y 'all.

683

The man was literally dogging her out on the phone.

684

I just told him like I'm gonna pull up and he's like insinuating don't pull up don't pull up don't pull up.

685

Girl I hung up the phone and I pulled up.

686

I'm trying to get into the building.

687

Mind you it's really late so there's not a lot of foot traffic in

688

and out for me to just be able to slip into the complex.

689

I was like okay cool no worries like you know I'm gonna just take this L maybe this is God protecting me.

690

If I would have walked up in that crib

691

and seen what I know was going on in

692

that apartment now lord knows i probably would have ended up

693

in jail as i'm on my way back to kansas city

694

like i'm calling him i'm telling him like yeah like i know who it is

695

and i'm gonna hit her up i'm gonna hit her up in the morning like

696

because i know what you're doing you trying to pull a

697

fast one on me he's like we'll talk about it in

698

the morning we'll talk about it in the morning please don't

699

dm her like this man is pleading i don't dm this girl

700

and i'm like i knew it i knew it was her

701

i don't care i dm'd her i dm'd her on every single platform

702

that she followed me on and to let her know

703

that i see her and i most importantly i want her to wake up

704

and see the message

705

and i know what some of y 'all are thinking y 'all are like well why do you even think

706

that it was her like you're going

707

so hard you don't even know it was her yes i did know it was her

708

because literally when i found her instagram account she was following me it said follow back

709

when i went to her tiktok account it said follow back

710

this girl literally followed me almost every social media platform

711

that i had so at this point i'm starting to put two

712

and two together i'm like you must be the one who snitched

713

because you really are the only mutual that me

714

and this man have like there's no way i dm her i was like hey

715

when you get a chance can you send me your number

716

because we need to talk mind you already had her number

717

but i didn't want to let the girl know i had her number

718

because then she probably thought i was crazy

719

which i am a slight bit but

720

that don't matter i woke up at like seven o 'clock

721

i'm ready i'm waiting on her to call me back

722

because i have a lot i gotta get off my chest

723

finally dm me back she sent me her number we get on the phone literally the opening sentence i said

724

when we get on the phone i told her i'm like yeah

725

so are we messing with the same person y 'all won't

726

believe what this girl said this girl gonna tell me yeah i actually know

727

that we are that's why on the phone i'm not tripping with her like my issue is not with her

728

because ultimately she did not owe me no loyalty i don't with her

729

but i can't be mad at you i forgot to mention this

730

but it's really important that you guys know that during

731

that whole three -week process of Square

732

and Circle getting to know each other she had openly admitted to me

733

that he was consistently venting to her about our relationship

734

and I just feel like

735

that should have been a red flag in itself I can't

736

feel bad I'm not here to preach to you I'm just here to get the clarity

737

that I need to make sure

738

that I wasn't tripping this girl gonna tell me they have

739

been having sex for the past three weeks they've been doing it raw

740

he is not taking her on any dates all they do is lay up

741

but she like him

742

so much i just had to break it down to her i basically i told her any

743

and everything he told me about her maybe at the time

744

i did tell her all these things to hurt her feelings

745

but i just feel like she needed to know she needed to hear

746

that he was talking about her behind her back

747

that is exactly why he is not taking you out on any dates babe she literally slipped up

748

and told me on the phone the only reason

749

that the conversation of dates came up was

750

because she seen my video about how he took me out on a date

751

and she asked him if he took me on a date

752

because you know in my video i stated he took me out on a date i didn't say who

753

but if you put two and two together then you wouldn't know she said

754

that he told her

755

that he was in the city hanging out with his homies

756

basically after us having a long conversation of us just chopping it up

757

and just basically going over our experiences it ended in a moment of sisterhood i thought basically telling her

758

that she deserves so much more i am mature enough to be able to say

759

that she is a sweet young woman and he did not deserve her

760

because she genuinely on the phone she sounded very heartbroken hearing all of these things

761

that i told her and i had to tell her

762

because i knew he was manipulating her i knew

763

that he was telling her one thing

764

and lying to her in order to get into her drawers

765

and i feel like you're not a player

766

if you gotta lie to get what you want

767

and i can't respect that and that is why my heart went out to her

768

and i told her babe you deserve so much more

769

and he is not

770

so much more you're not who his heart wants to be with he has said this on multiple occasions

771

that you are just someone that he wants to do

772

when there is nothing to do by the time we ended

773

the conversation i thought we was cool i'm thinking okay me

774

and a girl the next day i get up for church

775

somebody's blowing my phone down why is it him i blocked

776

his number he texted me from some of his teammates phones called me out my name just being

777

so disrespectful eventually once he stopped getting a response out of me he came around slowly

778

but surely and he was really trying to

779

make up for what he did but I felt like the trust was already broken

780

and I could not look at him without knowing

781

and thinking about the fact

782

that he had the audacity to go lay with another woman lie to me

783

and then had the nerve to try to be intimate with me I don't respect

784

that after I decided to leave him alone

785

that was pretty much it just was what it was i

786

don't know what could have possibly happened along the lines of the young woman

787

but y 'all circle unfollow me on everything take it from me please please do not be like circle

788

if you're gonna take anything from this story take

789

that nonetheless i hope

790

that you guys enjoyed this story i love telling it oh my god i haven't told a story time in

791

so long this was

792

so fun we definitely have to do this again make sure you guys leave a comment

793

or even message me

794

because i believe soon I want to start incorporating my subscriber story times onto this platform

795

so that should be fun yes in the meantime I hope you guys all have an amazing day

796

and or night please be safe and I will see all of you guys in my next video

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson

This video has 798 sentences and 9663 words to shadow. The speech runs for 46:07. The speaker talks fast, about 210 words per minute, so expect linked and reduced sounds. 86% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English; the rest is worth studying before you start.

Key vocabulary in this video

15 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:

Word	Pronunciation	Meaning
argue verb	/ˈɑɹ.ɡju/	To show grounds for concluding (that); to indicate, imply.
decline verb	/dɪˈklaɪn/	To move downwards, to fall, to drop.
lifestyle noun	/ˈlaɪfˌstaɪl/	A style of living that reflects the attitudes and values of a person or group.
cheat verb	/ˈt͡ʃiːt/	To violate rules in order to gain, or attempt to gain, advantage from a situation.
consistently adverb	/kənˈsɪstəntli/	In a consistent manner.
intimate adjective	/ˈɪn.tɪ.mət/	Closely acquainted; familiar.
embarrassed adjective	/ɪmˈbæɹ.əst/	Having a feeling of shameful discomfort.
formula noun	/ˈfɔː.mjʊ.lə/	Any mathematical rule expressed symbolically.
belt noun	/ˈbɛlt/	A band worn around the waist to hold clothing to one's body (usually pants), hold weapons (such as a gun or sword), or serve as a decorative piece of clothing.
subscriber noun	/səbˈskɹaɪbɚ/	A person who subscribes to a publication or a service.
custom noun	/ˈkʌstəm/	Frequent repetition of the same behavior; way of behavior common to many; ordinary manner; habitual practice; method of doing, living or behaving.
bother verb	/ˈbɑðɚ/	To annoy, to disturb, to irritate; to be troublesome to, to make trouble for.
forgive verb	/fɚˈɡɪv/	To pardon (someone); to waive any negative feeling towards or desire for punishment or retribution against.
genuinely adverb	/ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/	In a genuine manner; truthfully, truly.
provider noun	/pɹəˈvaɪ.də(ɹ)/	One who, or that which, provides a service, commodity, or the means for subsistence.

Phrasal verbs you will hear

Word	Pronunciation	Meaning
end up verb		To bring to a conclusion.
pull up verb	/ˌpʊl ˈʌp/	To lift upwards or vertically.
come up verb		To emerge or become known, especially unexpectedly.
get back verb		Return to where one came from.
get up verb		To move in an upward direction; to ascend or climb.
go back verb		To return to a place or state after having been there at a previous time.
bring up verb		To mention.
check out verb		To record the departure or withdrawal of someone or something (such as guests, employees, books, etc.).

Pronunciation to watch

The speaker uses 332 contractions and reduced forms, such as I'm, gonna, don't. Say them the short way, as you hear them.

The “th” sounds: bother /ˈbɑðɚ/, thoroughly /ˈθʌɹ.ə.li/, nonetheless /ˌnʌnðəˈlɛs/
The “sh” and “zh” sounds: delusional /dɪˈluːʒənəl/, occasion /əˈkeɪ̯ʒən/, luxury /ˈlʌk.ʃə.ɹi/, tension /ˈtɛnʃən/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/
Long words — get the stress right: consistently /kənˈsɪstəntli/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, anonymous /əˈnɒn.ə.məs/, whatsoever /ˌ(h)wʌtsoʊˈɛvɚ/, delusional /dɪˈluːʒənəl/

How to practise with this video

Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like argue, decline, lifestyle.

Grammar in this video

The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:

Structure	In the video
Conditional sentences if + clause, will/would + verb — a condition and its result	if not i mean we wouldn't end · if you didn't do something you would just
Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — an action that started earlier and is still going on	have just been receiving · you've been kicking · have been pranking
Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now	have referenced · have planned · you've watched
Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it	being said · was not healed · being told

What is the Shadowing Technique?

Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.

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