शैडोइंग अभ्यास: What to do when someone makes you feel insecure - वीडियो के साथ अंग्रेजी बोलना सीखें

Guys, so recently I was going through my DMs on Instagram

and I received a DM from a girl that said to me, Hi Liz, my boyfriend and his parents are making me feel very insecure about myself.

She said this is the lowest my self-confidence has ever been and the reason why she can't leave him

is because her family lives very far away

so she doesn't know what to do and she's very lonely and attached to this man.

This video I will tell you what you can do

when someone is trying to make you feel insecure about yourself

this can be your parents friends relationship it does not matter hi guys my name is this

and welcome back to my channel okay let's get into it

first things first always look at what kind of insults is

someone giving you this is such a fascinating subject to me

because recently i actually got a lot of clarity on this

because i was talking to my high school friend

and my high school friend she used to be very very insecure especially about her appearance

and she said you know when I was very insecure

and I was kind of toxic in my own ways what

I would do to make me feel better about myself is I would go to Instagram models

or beautiful women and I would comment underneath their pictures like very nasty things about their appearance

because she said it would make me feel better

that they would go to bed that night seeing my comments

and also feeling bad about themselves because obviously misery loves company

and then she said to me that's why now i know

because she she obviously she healed from this and she stopped doing this

but she said now i know when someone comments something

that is their own projection but

when you just look at okay what are they actually saying

to me are they insulting your intelligence are they insulting your

looks are they insulting let's say your weight um your character

whatever everything someone is insulting you about with no reason

that is something that they're insecure about themselves

when i was deep into my ed

and my eating disorder in my head i used to judge people

that were overweight because i was struggling with my own weight

when i got out of my eating disorder i stopped doing

that understand when someone says something to you they're just revealing how they feel about themselves.

Another thing you should do is you should find yourself again.

Know who you are, honey.

Listen, when you know who you are, when you know who you are without this person, no one can shake

or rock your boat your boat has to be stable first

okay what his parents are saying what he's saying are all projections onto you

but you have to be so stable

that whatever comes whatever water comes in it cannot shake you someone cannot tell you hey you're purple

when you know you're not purple okay

so those insults will go one ear in other you're out

when you know who you are what do you like do

you love about yourself how do you treat yourself on a

day-to-day basis uh what are your hobbies never allow anyone to talk down on you see the thing is

when you from the first time allow someone to do

that it will only get worse

and worse down the line toxic people don't get nicer down

the line they just see how far they can go the

first time you show them okay i forgave you after you

did this to me that's an in for them to get worse

and worse so either you cut it from there

and you're like okay get out get out enough like no

there was no need to disrespect me i was good to you

or you make them suffer and you make them learn their lesson

so they never repeat it again

when someone insults you give them a passive aggressive comment back

if let's say his mother tells you oh you don't look good today

or you're ugly whatever you should tell her uh thank you

but you know i love to look at you

and every day you just give me inspiration to feel confident

because if you look like that and you can be confident

that i can too fourth one makes you feel ugly

and he says something you should say oh my god really you know what's

so confusing to me though every time i send a picture

of you to the group chat of my friends they just laugh at me

and i don't understand what would they mean by

that can can you explain to me why they laugh at your picture like they literally tell me always

that you're so ugly but i i don't get it why do you think they say

that either you're gonna do that your whole life be passive aggressive

and act like a bimbo that you don't understand anything

and just insult these people back

or you start thinking like you know what these people are

not worth my energy you should be lucky to breathe the

same air as me honestly you guys are beneath me walk

away honey walk away you will find much better than him

okay he is the bare minimum he's under the bare minimum

he's he's in hell this guy's in hell okay you can create heaven for yourself Why are you in hell with him?

You don't belong there.

Baby, you're too good.

If someone has to insult you to bring you down, you're already above them.

You're already above them.

Why are they trying to bring you down?

Look at the people you guys are surrounding yourself with.

Look at the people you guys are constantly spending your time with.

If these people don't grow you, if these people are not making you feel happy or good about yourself, why are you there?

Why is your confidence so low that you accept shitty behavior from people

that in one second will leave your life if you just close the door?

You can say, hey, you know what?

Get the fuck out of here.

Bye.

And close the door and never open it again.

I'm so tired of us wasting our time because I'm honestly doing the same thing.

I honestly was in the same boat as you Constantly forgiving Forgiving

because I'm thinking Oh I'm lonely I don't have anyone I also don't live with my family

So I only have this person But I'm not happy with this person

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But then I feel bad for them So I'm continuing a cycle

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that I don't like And I will end up in a cycle that I don't like Because when will Liz's life change?

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When Liz changes

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And nothing else

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And the same with you Your life will not change honey Nothing will happen I saw this quote

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that said we accept the love that we think we deserve.

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And it's again the same thing.

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Why do you think this is the best you can do?

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Why do you think that a person that disrespects you is the best you can do?

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Do you really think that low of yourself?

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I'm telling you, there's people that just believe they deserve the best and they get that.

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But you are doubting yourself.

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You're thinking I'm not good enough.

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And that's why you are left with crumbs of a person.

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I'm also saying it shouldn't be about him.

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It should be about you.

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What do you want?

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Is this what you want for yourself?

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Is this where your precious energy is going?

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Because honey, right now it's all fun and games.

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You're young.

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You're in your 20s.

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Oh, funny.

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But down the line, you'll be 60 stuck with this person if you don't leave now.

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And time goes very fast.

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People have spent years, years thinking, oh, I will be done one day and they won't.

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And some people don't make it out alive.

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It's all like, oh, till death do is a part.

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And then you don't come out of it alive.

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They should be blessed to sit in the same room as you.

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They should feel blessed to breathe the same air as you.

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And you're letting people sit there and talk down on you?

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Hello?

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Hello?

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Value yourself.

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Protect yourself.

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No one is going to do that for you.

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When you have a partner, when you have a friend, when even your parents, they should make you feel like you're the king and queen on earth.

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They should like hype you up.

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They should be like, you're amazing.

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You're beautiful.

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That's how people should talk to each other

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if they don't there's no benefit honey you will always keep either in the same position

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or he will drag you down sometimes you have to look at some people

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and you have to be like you know what i'm too

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pretty to accept your behavior i'm too pretty for this you

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have to stop telling people oh i will leave i will do this oh

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that no just leave shut up create your exit plan and leave

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okay don't tell anything

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because these people they don't believe you first of all they'll never take you serious

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because you've always always threatened that before and you never do it

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so this time just keep your mouth shut okay

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and start creating an exit plan think okay how can i

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make money how can i save up money to live on my own how can i make friends

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so i feel less lonely

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so i have at least a community around me can i find other women

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that also have been in an abusive relationship

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that i can find a community in that start thinking these things

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and slowly slowly you're just moving out and then one day he comes home

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and all of your stuff is gone me a toxic person

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will not miss you they will just find another victim that's it

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because that's what you are to them a victim honey you

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have to understand not everyone you lose is a loss a lot of times it's a gain

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if i look at the people that i had in my life i'm very happy that all of them are gone

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because that's what that was not meant for me anymore

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and at that time it was it was what I needed it was

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when I needed to grow and I needed to learn

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but right now I'm in a state where I just grown

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so much I don't resonate with those people anymore

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and that's okay it wasn't a loss it was a lesson

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and I'm grateful for those lessons and I'm grateful for the time

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that I had with them even if it was bad it I learned something

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and I moved on with my life and you should do the same thing

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don't look at it as how could i have stayed i feel

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so dumb blah blah no honey there was a lesson there we learned through relationships we learned through these things and

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when you've learned your lesson you're also supposed to move on

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you shouldn't linger there you shouldn't linger where there's no respect just know

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that you're the queen on earth and you can get anything you want

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if you set your mind to it

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and you know this you literally know this okay don't waste your time on people

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that are not worth to be around you they're not worthy of you okay

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if you have pure intentions and

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if you have a good heart you deserve people with the same intentions

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and with the same heart anyways i love you guys

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so much and yeah i hope you guys learned something i hope this helped

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and yeah i love you guys so much and i see you next video bye

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इस पाठ की शब्दावली और बोलने के सुझाव

यह B1 स्तर का स्पीकिंग पाठ वीडियो “What to do when someone makes you feel insecure” पर आधारित है। इस वीडियो में शैडोइंग के लिए 185 वाक्य और 2030 शब्द हैं। बोला गया हिस्सा 10:08 लंबा है। वक्ता तेज़ बोलता है, लगभग 200 शब्द प्रति मिनट, इसलिए जुड़ी हुई और कमज़ोर ध्वनियाँ ज़्यादा मिलेंगी। 89% शब्द अंग्रेज़ी के 3,000 सबसे आम शब्दों में से हैं, इसलिए शब्दावली आसान है।

इस वीडियो की मुख्य शब्दावली

वीडियो के 15 सबसे कठिन शब्द, उच्चारण और अर्थ के साथ:

शब्द	उच्चारण	अर्थ
insult संज्ञा	/ɪnˈsʌlt/	अपमान, अनादर
insecure विशेषण	/ɪnsəˈkjʊɹ/	असुरक्षित
toxic विशेषण	/ˈtɒk.sɪk/	विषाक्त
lonely विशेषण	/ˈloʊnli/	अकेला
forgive क्रिया	/fɚˈɡɪv/	माफ़ करना, क्षमा करना
disrespect संज्ञा	/dɪsɹɪˈspɛkt/	अनादर, अपमान
projection संज्ञा	/pɹəˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/	प्रक्षेपण
passive विशेषण	/ˈpæs.ɪv/	निष्क्रिय
breathe क्रिया	/bɹiːð/	सांस लेना
disorder संज्ञा	/dɪsˈɔɹdɚ/	अव्यवस्था, अस्त-व्यस्त
purple संज्ञा	/ˈpɝ.pl̩/	जामुनी
aggressive विशेषण	/əˈɡɹɛs.ɪv/	आक्रमणकारक, जंगी
shake क्रिया	/ˈʃeɪk/	हिलाना
surround क्रिया	/səˈɹaʊnd/	घेरना
misery संज्ञा	/ˈmɪz(ə)ɹi/	दुःख, दुर्दशा

वीडियो में आने वाली फ़्रेज़ल वर्ब

शब्द	उच्चारण	अर्थ
shut up	/ʃʌt ʌp/	चुप रहो!, चुप रह!

दोहराने लायक वाक्य

वीडियो के छोटे, पूरे वाक्य जिन्हें आप रोज़ की बातचीत में इस्तेमाल कर सकते हैं:

Why are they trying to bring you down?
You can say, hey, you know what?
Do you really think that low of yourself?
Is this what you want for yourself?
Is this where your precious energy is going?

इस वीडियो का व्याकरण

वक्ता जिन संरचनाओं का सबसे अधिक प्रयोग करता है, वीडियो के असली शब्दों के साथ:

संरचना	वीडियो में
“used to” used to + क्रिया — बीती आदत या स्थिति जो अब नहीं है	used to be · used to judge
Present perfect have/has + past participle — बीता हुआ काम जिसका असर अभी भी है	has ever been · have spent · you've always always threatened
Passive voice be + past participle — ज़ोर इस पर कि क्या होता है, न कि कौन करता है	are left · will be done · should be blessed
“should” से सलाह should + क्रिया — बताना कि क्या करना अच्छा है	should do · should tell · should say

ध्यान देने योग्य उच्चारण

वक्ता 70 बार संक्षिप्त रूपों का प्रयोग करता है, जैसे don't, you're, I'm। इन्हें वैसे ही छोटा बोलें जैसा आप सुनते हैं।

“th” की ध्वनियाँ: breathe /bɹiːð/, threaten /ˈθɹɛt.n̩/, underneath /ˌʌndɚˈniθ/, beneath /bɪˈniːθ/, worthy /ˈwɝ.ði/
“sh” और “zh” की ध्वनियाँ: projection /pɹəˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, intentions /ɪnˈtɛnʃənz/, shake /ˈʃeɪk/

हिंदी भाषियों के लिए मुश्किल ध्वनियाँ:

/v/ और /w/ का फ़र्क़ — /v/ में ऊपर के दाँत निचले होंठ को छूते हैं, /w/ में होंठ गोल होते हैं: forgive /fɚˈɡɪv/, passive /ˈpæs.ɪv/, aggressive /əˈɡɹɛs.ɪv/, overweight /ˌoʊvɚˈweɪt/, abusive /əˈbju.sɪv/
/z/ — इसे “ज” (/dʒ/) न बनाएँ: intentions /ɪnˈtɛnʃənz/, resonate /ˈɹɛz.əˌneɪt/, confuse /kənˈfjuːz/, misery /ˈmɪz(ə)ɹi/, anyways /ˈɛn.iˌweɪz/
/æ/ — “ऐ” से ज़्यादा खुला: passive /ˈpæs.ɪv/, fascinate /ˈfæsɪneɪt/, attach /əˈtæt͡ʃ/, clarity /ˈklæɹ.ɪ.ti/, nasty /ˈnæs.ti/

इस वीडियो से अभ्यास कैसे करें

पहले बिना बोले पूरा वीडियो एक बार सुनें और जो शब्द नहीं आते उन्हें लिख लें।
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अपनी आवाज़ रिकॉर्ड करें और मूल से तुलना करें, ख़ासकर insult, insecure, toxic जैसे शब्दों पर ध्यान दें।

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