Pratica di Shadowing: Why Does Confidence Disappear Around Certain People? | B1 English Shadowing - Impara a parlare inglese con i video

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Have you ever felt confident all day and then suddenly felt small when one particular person walked into the room?
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You know what you want to say.
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You know what you believe.
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But around that person, you become quiet.
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You think too much.
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You worry about every word.
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And later, you may wonder, why am I like this around them?
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The strange part is that your confidence may not have disappeared at all.
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Sometimes, certain people simply make you forget how confident you can be.
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In this Level B 1 shadowing practice, we will look at three reasons this happens and how you can take your confidence back.
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Listen to my voice and speak just behind me.
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Copy my pronunciation, rhythm, and emotion.
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If you miss a word, do not stop.
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Let's begin.
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Imagine you are in a meeting at work.
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You usually speak clearly.
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You share your ideas.
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You ask questions when you do not understand something.
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Then one particular co-worker starts talking.
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Suddenly, everything feels different.
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You check your words before saying them.
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You wonder if your ideas sound stupid.
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You listen to your own voice and think.
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Do I sound nervous?
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Maybe you say less than you wanted to say.
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After the meeting, you think about it again.
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You remember the small mistake you made.
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You think about what you should have said.
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But here is the important question.
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Did your ability really change?
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Probably not.
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You were the same person before the meeting.
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You had the same knowledge, the same experience, the same voice.
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What changed was the way you saw yourself?
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Around certain people, we can start looking at ourselves through their eyes.
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If we think someone is smarter, more successful, or more confident, we may give their opinion too much power.
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A simple look from them can feel like judgment.
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A short answer can feel like rejection.
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Even silence can make us think, did I do something wrong?
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But we do not always know what another person is thinking.
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Maybe they are tired, maybe they are busy, maybe they are thinking about something completely different.
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Still, our minds can create a story.
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And once we believe that story, our behavior changes.
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We speak less.
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We avoid questions.
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We stop sharing ideas.
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Then something interesting happens.
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Because we act less confident, we feel less confident.
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It becomes a cycle.
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We doubt ourselves, so we become quiet.
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Then our silence makes us doubt ourselves even more.
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So the first step is not to force yourself to feel confident.
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It is to notice the pattern.
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Ask yourself, am I actually less capable or do I simply feel less confident around this person?
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That question can create space between you and your fear.
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And sometimes, that space is enough to help you see yourself clearly again.
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Sometimes, a person affects your confidence because of your history with them.
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Maybe it is a parent.
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Maybe it is an old friend.
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Maybe it is a former partner.
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Maybe it is someone who criticized you many times.
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You may be a confident adult now you may have a good job you may make your own decisions
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but when you are with that person
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something changes you suddenly feel like an older version of yourself
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you become quiet again you try to make them happy you become afraid of making a mistake why
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because old patterns can be very strong.
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Imagine someone who often told you, you are too sensitive.
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After hearing it many times, you may start questioning your own feelings.
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Or imagine someone who always corrected the way you spoke.
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After a while, you may become afraid to speak freely around them.
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The person may not even say much anymore.
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You already know what you expect from them.
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Your mind remembers the old pattern, and your body reacts before you have time to think.
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This is why one person can make you feel completely different from another.
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With one friend, you laugh easily.
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You speak without thinking too much.
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You can make mistakes and move on.
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But with another person, every sentence feels like a test.
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That does not mean your confidence is fake.
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It means the relationship has a history, and that history can still affect you.
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But here is where things can change.
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You do not have to become the old version of yourself just because you are around an old person.
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You can pause.
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You can breathe.
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You can remind yourself, I am not that person anymore.
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You have learned new things.
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You have made difficult choices.
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You have survived situations you once thought were impossible.
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Your past may explain your reaction
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But it does not have to control your next one There is one more trap here
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Sometimes we lose confidence
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because we try too hard to make someone see our value
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We explain ourselves We defend every decision We work harder We want them to finally say You are good enough
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But what if they never say it?
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Does that mean you are not good enough?
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No. And that leads to the biggest question in this video.
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Are you building your confidence or are you waiting for someone else to give it to you?
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When we feel insecure around someone, we often try to fix the feeling by proving ourselves.
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We want to look smart.
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We want to sound successful.
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We want to say the perfect thing.
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We want that person to respect us.
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So we focus on their reaction.
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Did they like my idea?
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Did they agree with me?
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Did they notice my work?
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Did they think I sounded confident?
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Now something important has happened.
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Our confidence is in their hands.
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One smile can make us feel great one cold response can make us feel terrible
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that is exhausting and the more we try to prove our value the more power we give them
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so what if we stopped what if confidence is not about looking impressive what
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if it is simply being comfortable enough to be yourself
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you do not need to be the smartest person in the room you do not need everyone to like your ideas
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You do not need to win every conversation.
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You can simply say, I see it differently.
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You can say, I need some time to think about that.
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You can say, I do not agree.
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And you can say it calmly.
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That is confidence too.
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Sometimes confidence is not speaking louder.
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Sometimes It is staying calm when someone does not agree with you.
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Think about someone who always makes you feel small.
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You may spend years trying to show them that you are successful.
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You explain your choices.
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You defend your life.
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You hope they will finally understand.
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Then one day you stop.
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You stop trying to prove everything.
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You stop asking for approval.
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You still hear their opinion, but you no longer need it to feel good about yourself.
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That is, when your confidence starts coming back, not because they changed, because you changed your relationship with their opinion.
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Of course, this does not mean you should ignore all criticism.
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Good feedback can help you grow.
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But ask yourself, is this feedback helping me grow, or is it making me afraid to be myself?
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Learn to notice the difference.
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And if someone repeatedly makes you feel worthless or afraid to speak freely, you can step back.
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You can spend less time with them.
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You can share less.
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You can protect your peace.
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You do not have to prove your worth to someone who refuses to see it.
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Maybe there is someone who makes you feel smaller than you really are.
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Around them, you may become quiet.
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You may question yourself.
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You may try too hard to be accepted.
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But remember, their opinion does not decide your value.
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You were still yourself before they entered the room.
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and you are still yourself after they leave.
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So next time you feel small around someone, pause.
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Take a breath.
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Ask yourself, why am I giving this person so much power over how I see myself?
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You do not need everyone to understand you.
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You do not need everyone to approve of you.
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And you do not need to prove your worth every time you walk into a room.
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The goal is not to feel confident around everyone.
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The goal is to know who you are even when someone else does not see it.
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Your confidence may become quiet, but it is not gone.
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You may have simply forgotten that it was yours.
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You have completed this Level B 1 English Shadowing Practice.
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If some sentences felt difficult, listen again and follow the rhythm.
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Keep practicing and let your confidence grow with every repetition.

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