쉐도잉 연습: The Most Critical Social Skill - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기

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People can say anything they want to with words, so we don't ever really say exactly what we feel.
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But our body language does not lie.
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It's very difficult to lie with your body language.
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Even the finest actors in the world find it very difficult to lie with their voice because the voice reveals people's feelings.
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You want to be observant.
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the most important skill that you can have in in the work world in the business world and in life
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is knowing how to observe people and not be
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so wrapped up in yourself and be outer directed so
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when you're in a situation like you've entered a job for the first time
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your tendency is to be all insecure
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and think did i say the wrong thing am i doing am i dressing incorrectly am i fitting in
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and you're not observing you're thinking about yourself
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right and the whole game is to be observing it's like you're observing the world the different games
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that are going on what people are doing what they're like
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what their tastes are like what the boss is like there
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are all these levels of power going on you want to get outside of yourself
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and simply observe right and not be thinking about yourself as much
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and if you become a really good observer of people
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which is something that i developed over all of these different jobs
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that i had i wasn't necessarily the best uh person figuring out the game
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but i was very observant about people and their nature
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and their flaws and such
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if you become an astute observer of the people around you
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you will have this the game will be much easier to
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to manage right you will know this is a person who
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is insecure i cannot offend them i cannot say the right the wrong thing to them.
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This is a person who's strong and secure.
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I want to be with them.
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I want them to mentor me.
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They can, you know, you want to be able to take criticism from other people.
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In other words, be less insecure and be more kind of outer motivated and paying attention to the people around you.
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And so it sounds like sort of half the battle is sort of naming what other people are.
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So saying like, oh, this, this happened.
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Robert did this thing, which tells me he cares about how he's perceived perception
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and relevance is important to Robert so I'm going to name a person like
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that right and so often
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when you're young you're just thinking I I I mean me
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you don't even know to name another right interesting well the thing also
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that you want to understand is everything is a sign so
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when you're observing another thing is enjoy this aspect of it
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because it's actually a lot of fun it's like watching a movie and observing people and understanding them.
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But everything people do is a sign.
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So if they're showing up late at meetings or they're not returning your phone calls, it's not some innocent event.
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It means something.
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It's coming from some place within them.
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They're telling you something about themselves indirectly.
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If their desk is a mess, right, they can't organize their desk, it's a sign of something else going on inside them, right?
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If they're not returning your phone calls, on and on and on every little thing that people do.
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Sometimes when I read an email, I can sense that there's a little bit of anger as an undertone.
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You can sense people's tone, not just in what they say, but in how they write something, right?
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There's not this usual kind of polite tone.
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There's a little bit of a sharpness.
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There's a word or two that indicates that they're upset, they're angry.
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Every little thing that people do is a sign.
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You're not paranoid because it's actually a lot of fun
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and you're decoding what's going on because people wear masks they smile
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and they say i love your ideas cody you're brilliant you're wonderful
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but inside they're thinking something else
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and you have to be able to pick up all of
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these signs yeah it seems like a lot of us have lost a lot of
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that gut intuition like we don't we're told to not trust
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your first instinct yeah you know we're told to not cross the street when we feel a certain way, because that could be rude to somebody else.
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We're sort of continuously being told to mask this feeling we get in our gut.
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How do you reopen that again?
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Like if you're sitting in a room with a bunch of people in the workplace
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and you're trying to figure out how to play this game,
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what is the mental game Robert plays to sort of pick up these undercurrents that somebody might not be able to see?
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Well, I wrote a book called The Laws of Human Nature, sort of my last book, and I have a very long chapter in there about nonverbal communication.
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And it's extremely important skill to develop.
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And what that means is people can say anything they want to with words.
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In fact, They generally do.
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They never really exactly say what's on their mind.
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That's how it is in the social world.
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Because if you said what was exactly on your mind, you would be offending a lot of people.
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So we don't ever really say exactly what we feel.
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But our body language does not lie.
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It's very difficult to lie with your body language.
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Even the finest actors in the world find it very difficult to lie with their voice
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because the voice reveals people's feelings right
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so you want to be observant we're very good at picking these kind of cues up
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so you may not realize it but you sense
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that something is wrong about this person that you've just met this is something
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that in the i talk a lot about in the art
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of seduction i've dealt with with women who've written me back they had a gut feeling
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that this man
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that they met was wrong there was something bad about him they got a bad feeling from it
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but what happens is you don't trust that feeling and then
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because you're not as you say in our culture it's not something
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that we value and then we go on we have a relationship
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and then we find the hard way out
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that our original gut instinct was the correct one
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so you want to trust these feelings they're very valuable we are animals we think we're all
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so intellectual we've got our our frontal cortex that governs everything
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but inside we operate on emotions on instincts on feelings on
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sensations it's a nonverbal form of communication it comes out in people's gestures
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and how they move how they stand right they're at a party you're talking to them
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but their feet are pointing in a different direction they're not
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so interested in you their eyes reveal if they're really listening to you
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or not a real smile lights up the whole face a fake smile's all kind of tight
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that's wonderful i really like right yeah on
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and on it's insane language you can understand exactly what people are thinking
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but you have to do this to be able to reach
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this kind of level of understanding you have to shut off
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your own mind you have to shut off all your internal chatter You have to observe
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and you have to see exactly what, try to read and detect what that particular sign means.
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And you won't believe how often you are very accurate with it.
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You can detect people's resentment, people's envy.
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And as I said, I wrote a whole chapter about signs that you can look at tomorrow and learn about this language.
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It's just that you're not paying attention and you don't value this form because we're so verbal.
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We think everything has to do with words, but it doesn't.

이 레슨의 어휘와 말하기 포인트

이 B2 수준 말하기 레슨은 영상 “The Most Critical Social Skill”을(를) 바탕으로 합니다. 가장 자주 반복되는 단어는 다음과 같습니다: feeling, sign, lie, language, exactly. 이 영상에는 섀도잉할 문장 110개와 단어 1356개가 있습니다. 말하는 구간의 길이는 7:40입니다. 화자는 분당 약 177단어로, 일상 대화에 가까운 자연스러운 속도로 말합니다. 단어의 88%가 영어에서 가장 많이 쓰이는 3,000단어에 속해 어휘가 쉬운 편입니다.

이 영상의 핵심 어휘

영상에서 가장 어려운 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.

단어발음뜻
observe 동사/əbˈzɜːv/관찰하다
instinct 명사/ˈɪn.stɪŋkt/본능
offend 동사/əˈfɛnd/기분 상하게 하다
detect 동사/dɪˈtɛkt/찾다, 탐지하다
seduction 명사/sɪˈdʌk.ʃn̩/유혹
intuition 명사/ˌɪn.tjuːˈɪʃ.ən/직관, 직감
cortex 명사/ˈkɔɹtɛks/피질
motivate 동사/ˈmoʊ.tɪ.veɪt/...에 동기를 주다
resentment 명사/ɹɪˈzɛnt.mənt/원망
govern 동사/ˈɡʌv.ən/통치하다, 다스리다
perceive 동사/pɚˈsiv/감지하다, 지각하다
envy 명사/ˈɛnvi/부러움, 질투
sensation 명사/sɛnˈseɪʃən/감각
gesture 명사/ˈd͡ʒɛs.t͡ʃɚ/제스처, 몸짓
polite 형용사/pəˈlaɪt/공손하다

영상에 나오는 구동사

단어뜻
pick up 동사줍다

따라 말해 볼 만한 문장

영상에 나오는 짧고 완결된 문장으로, 일상 대화에서 그대로 쓸 수 있습니다:

  • It's very difficult to lie with your body language.
  • They're telling you something about themselves indirectly.
  • How do you reopen that again?
  • You can detect people's resentment, people's envy.

주의할 발음

화자는 you're, they're, don't 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 50번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.

  • “sh”와 “zh” 소리: seduction /sɪˈdʌk.ʃn̩/, intuition /ˌɪn.tjuːˈɪʃ.ən/, sensation /sɛnˈseɪʃən/, perception /pɚˈsɛpʃ(ə)n/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/
  • 긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: undercurrent /ˈʌndɚˌkʌɹənt/, intuition /ˌɪn.tjuːˈɪʃ.ən/, incorrectly /ˌɪnkəˈɹɛk(t).li/, indirectly /ˌɪn.dɪˈɹɛk(t).li/, continuously /kənˈtɪnjuəsli/

한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:

  • /f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: offend /əˈfɛnd/, frontal /ˈfɹʌn.təl/, flaw /flɔ/
  • /v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: observe /əbˈzɜːv/, observant /əbˈzɝvənt/, observer /əbˈzɝvɚ/, motivate /ˈmoʊ.tɪ.veɪt/, govern /ˈɡʌv.ən/
  • /z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: observe /əbˈzɜːv/, observant /əbˈzɝvənt/, observer /əbˈzɝvɚ/, resentment /ɹɪˈzɛnt.mənt/, organize /ˈɔɹɡənaɪz/

이 영상으로 연습하는 방법

  1. 먼저 말하지 않고 영상을 끝까지 듣고 모르는 단어를 적어 둡니다.
  2. 0.75배속으로 한 문장씩 섀도잉을 시작하고, 익숙해지면 보통 속도로 돌아갑니다.
  3. 자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, observe, instinct, offend 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.

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